Los Americanos Stole The Day of the Dead

Los Americans stole my holiday... but I'm not angry, I'm thrilled. I'm talking about "Day of the Dead," of course. ...more

I Hate the Things You Love. Can We Still Be Friends?

I cannot tell a lie. Maybe it's because I've never been good at lying. Or maybe I'm still traumatized from that time in 1986 when I told my mom that I was going to a late movie with friends but went to a party instead and awoke the next morning to a ...more

How to Keep Poor Kids From Ruining Halloween (If You're a Terrible Person)

Have you heard about the wicked wealthy witch who wrote a letter to Slate's Dear Prudence advice column complaining about her 1%-er neighborhood being overrun by mini vans full of less fortunate 99%-ers? ...more

4 Sources for Fabulous Plus-Size Jeans

After spending some four hours in a department store with my mom today, I realized that there are some great plus-sized (size 12+) jean choices out there ... if you can afford them, that is. What about us girls who want great fit, but can't ...more

Why I Blog Under a Pseudonym

My friend Karen announced her move from her semi-anonymous blog to her real-name space. I wish her all the strength and healing she can find in combining her separate pieces into one whole. I've always written under a pseudonym, and I have no ...more

Fabulously Crafty Day of the Dead Necklace

I have seriously crafty friends. My pals Cathie and Steve just came out with a jewelry line called Jewel Pop Shop. Cathie is one of our very own BlogHer bloggers! My other friend (and past BlogHer DIY Editor) Kathy Cano-Murillo recently launched a new product line through her brand The Crafty Chica. Kathy specializes in Day of the Dead imagery, so a Dia de Los Muertos-themed Jewel Pop Shop necklace seemed perfect! ...more

What I Wish Renee Zellweger Would Have Said

One of the weekly rituals I look forward to most is reading the Sunday Styles section of The New York Times. No need to sugar coat it, it’s the upscale gossip column of the paper. Why then was I feeling so irritated this week as I finished the last story about another sweet newly married couple? Then I remembered, the article teased on page one with the headline, “Renee Zellweger Defends her New Look.” ...more

The Death of a Dream: I Spent the Weekend With An Old Boyfriend

So began the weekend I'd anticipated for decades, or more recently, the seven months it took to lose a lot of weight and learn to talk in an inside voice again. The weekend I'd see Tony, my boyfriend from 40 years ago who I'd never forgotten and in whose memory I'd woven a strangled web of nostalgia, sexual fantasy and just the eensiest smidgen of middle-aged desperation. And in which he was entangled, at best from affection and desire, at worst from the fear he'd wake up one morning to find me in his driveway with a suitcase and a cat....more
A fantasy marred or concluded. Still, though the memories will live on. It's a sweet story.more

Aren't You Too Old to Say "My Bad?"

Why does the X & Y generation get to have all the new, fun slanguage? They get to say "totes" and "probs" and "adorbs." But how original is that? Because of their lazy tongues, they shorten or abbreviate a word and then it hits it big time and catches on with the masses....more
Roomrecall - yes!more

10 Kinds of People Nobody Likes

As a general rule, I don't like to write about negative things.But sometimes rules were made to be broken. Everyone knows at least one of these people, yet no one likes any of them....more

Expand Your Understanding of Down Syndrome

The month of October is a month to highlight Down syndrome. In this month, perhaps you became familiar with a child, a teenager, an adult with Down syndrome. Before my son was born, I knew nothing about it. I couldn't even recall ever meeting a person with Down syndrome. Then, everything changed. You don't have limit your time of learning to this month of awareness, yet it is a time to make an effort to understand, even a little bit, about Down syndrome and the families it touches. ...more
WomenTricks It is so simple and beautiful to understand others. It is where we break down walls ...more

Just Another Day of Fighting the Fat

At the tender age of 13, I twisted my body around in front of the full length mirror I'd purchased from the nearest K-Mart for $6.99. I used the business end of my inaugural pair of platform shoes and to my mom's chagrin, proceeded to hammer the mirror to the back of my bedroom door. Seventeen magazine and the stick-thin models contained within its glossy pages began a residency on my nightstand years before the walking hungry began gracing the pages of trash magazines like Us and In Touch. ...more
Wow! I too can relate.I have lot over a 100lbs and everyday it feels like the "battle" will ...more

25 Life Lessons I Want My Daughter to Know

A while back, one of my now dear friends, Kari Kampakis, wrote an article titled, "If I Die Young." The article, in a nutshell, is a list of life lessons addressed to her daughters in the event something ever happens to her. I love Kari and her writing, and that post really resonated with me. She also encouraged others to do the same. ...more
It All Matters Mom Thanks for reading, Erin! It's one of my favorite posts to date. I'm sure ...more

How to Make Your Own Maternity Jeans

Almost two years ago, I broke the zipper on a pair of my jeans (I've never done this before or since, happily), and I thought, "WHAT could you possibly do with a pair of jeans with a broken zipper?" And then I remembered that I'd made myself a pair of maternity jeans once upon a time, and this pair might be a chance for me to do it again, now that I knew a little better what I was doing. So I stashed them away for many many months until I was pregnant again....more
This is a very great idea! I will definitely keep this in mind in the future!! Great tutorial, ...more

Help! My Friend Wants Me to Lie as a Job Reference

Dear Mouthy Housewives,I run a small internet-based business and over the years have had several employees. Recently, a good friend of mine asked me if she could use me as a professional reference. She has been a stay-at-home mom for about twelve years and is having a hard time finding a job. I want to help her, but I feel uncomfortable about lying. Is there any way this can be considered a "white lie"?Signed,I'm Not Her Boss...more
No way. No no no. No!  For heaven's sake, I'm a convicted felon and would never lie about it. I ...more

How Do You Help Your Kids Hold On To Their Cultural Identity?

My husband is a Gujarati of Indian descent born and raised in Africa. Like me, he grew up in a household where his family’s cultural traditions, food, clothing and language were a source of pride and engrained in his childhood years. ...more

When Publishing a Powerful Memoir Means Your Mother Won't Speak to You

After Michelle Theall's book came out in February, her mother stopped talking to her. The story, which chronicles Michelle's childhood growing up in Texas, her struggle to come to terms with her sexuality and her tense relationship with her mother, a devoted Catholic, a hypochondriac and a constant critic, would be too painful to read, according to her mother. Instead, the book, which is now available in paperback would become a wall between them. ...more
Yes, yes, yes. We're not alone. There's that.more

I Support Brittany Maynard and Death With Dignity

[Editor's Note: As of 10/302014, Brittany Maynard has delayed her plans to end her life.]It's not uncommon for Mr. T to look over and see tears running down my face when I'm watching TV or videos. Usually, I'm sniffling over silly fictional storylines, but last night I got close to a full-on cry fest while watching Brittany Maynard talk about her brain cancer. Maynard is currently famous (or infamous, depending on your side of this issue) for planning her death on the first of November....more
It doesn't matter whether I support her or not. It's none of my business. However, I do support ...more

What's the Biggest Lie You Tell Your Kids?

Lying is bad. I know this. But all parents sometimes lie to our kids. Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy are prime examples of lies we tell our kids. We dress up the lie in cute stories and fun experiences, but in the end, it's a lie. The biggest lie I tell my children isn't dressed up in fairy tales or glitter, though. It's simple, plain, and three words. I'm almost done. ...more

Let's All Stop Worrying About Happiness

There’s a perfume called Happy and it smells terrible on me. If they made a perfume called Curmudgeonly, it’d be my signature scent. Image: A.M. Kuchling...more
I love this. I'm someone who often comes off as curmudgeonly, too.  But it's not necessarily ...more

Sexual Healing: My Journey to Fat Acceptance

I finally see myself.            When I was about 14, I was slim and fit, but curvy—except I wasn’t. Like being light-skinned, I just imagined I was. At the time, I was 5’7” and hovered somewhere around 220 lbs. I was used to it; I’ve been fat most of my 27 years of life. However, I have been disconnected from that fat—a part of my body—for most of my life as well....more
It is a complicated issue. We do statistically tend to have higher positive body image, but 1) ...more

He's Army Strong, Mom's Still in Training

As a child, I remember reading about the Declaration of Independence in history class and quietly smiling to myself, thinking...THIS!...this is why my family is here. "Mom, I want to enlist into the military." But I cannot think of too many words, other than those my 15-year-old son has been saying, since he was 4 years old, that can simultaneously fill my heart with joy AND feel as if someone or something is trying to dig its way out of my chest, one spoonful at at a time. ...more
As a military spouse, but who doesn't have kids, I can still try to imagine the dual feelings.  ...more

Malcolm and Jillian Bedell Are Starting a Food Truck + More!

Malcolm and Jillian Bedell of From Away recently launched a Kickstarter project to fund their newest venture -- a sandwich truck in Rockland, Maine. But not just any sandwich truck, as Malcom explains, "Not just sandwiches. Incredible sandwiches, baked on fresh, crusty bread and filled with braised meats and locally-produced cheeses. Highbrow sandwiches made with garlic-roasted asparagus and quick-pickled onions in the summer. Lowbrow sandwiches packed with homemade lamb chili and cheese in the winter." Visit Kickstarter to see more and to support 'Wich, Please. ...more

6 Things to Say (or Not Say) to Your Infertile Friends

Generally speaking, I am a driven, overachieving, type-A person, probably like most of the women on BlogHer. And like most women, I get things done! Not so with conception. I recently navigated the toughest, most heart-wrenching experience of my life: infertility. My journey brought me to my knees and nearly broke me. I recently gave a Tedx talk on the experience, a journey filled with twists and turns, extreme hope and shattering heartbreak. It's not for the faint of heart. And I know I'm not alone. ...more

Pumpkin Curry Soup With Coconut Milk

Curry Pumpkin Soup from Life's Ambrosia ...more
@scrummylane BlogHerFood Love the idea of making it in a crock pot!more

Jian Ghomeshi Is Fired Because He Says A Woman Lied About Him: An Example of Rape Culture?

Canadian radio generally isn’t a big thing in other parts of the world, but here in Toronto, former CBC radio host Jian Ghomeshi is kind of a big deal. He’s well known and well liked, for his views, for his interviews, and for his personality. Today, a decision came down from CBC firing Ghomeshi after he had tweeted that he was going to take some personal time off. The decision appeared to come out of nowhere, and I for one was a bit shocked....more
Anyway, those are some of my thoughts.more

Confessions of An Imperfect Mom

Y'all know I like to keep it real around here, and lately I have been finding myself wrapped up in guilt for a lot of the parenting choices I make. Deep down I know I am a good mom. My child is loved, she is never hungry and has a roof over her head with a warm and cozy bed to sleep in every night, so why do I let the mom guilt come over me? For me, mom guilt is the hardest part of parenting, I often journal about this topic, and I have come to realize that there is a common denominator in all of the guilt—that being social media. Comparisons. Measuring up. ...more
I rewashed a set of sheets THREE times after they were left in the washer for at least a day. ...more

The Case of the Missing iPad

Earlier this week, I spent an entire day trying to find my daughter’s missing Mini iPad. If you have ever lost an iPhone or other mobile device, you know it has an internal GPS function that you can track online. So in theory, how hard could this recovery be? Now, these days I’m a stay-at-home mom. Fifteen years prior, however, I was a producer at CNN. I’m also a smart ass. Thus, out of sheer boredom and a natural inclination, I reported my search for “iPad” to my friends on FaceBook. Naturally, it included quasi-witty commentary. ...more

Loving Someone Who Deploys Isn't Easy, But Definitely Worth It

My boyfriend’s job requires that he leaves me, much like a deployment within the military would. He is former military and has been hardwired for the excitement that this lifestyle and type of work brings to the table. The work he does now is very similar to the work he did in the military and includes all of the same risks. People who work within his field are in danger. The job requires years of experience and specialized training—only a small niche of men meet these requirements....more
I'm really in ur shoes. Even i love my husband's passion towards his job and even I do believe I ...more

We're Making History! A New Political Party for Women

Yesterday in New York City Hillary Clinton, Governor Andrew Cuomo, Kathy Hochul, and Christine Quinn gathered to support equal pay for equal work for every New York woman. They were there to support a new political party called Women's Equality Party that's already received support from the likes of Lena Dunham, Anna Wintour, Christie Brinkley, and film producer Jane Rosenthal, amongst others. Check out the list here: http://womensequalityparty.org/supporters....more

I'd Rather Be Home Alone, Listening to My Radio

I’m dating my radio. OK, don’t get judgy. And before you picture me in my New York City apartment, sitting endlessly in my jammies, singing “All By Myself” into a hairbrush-cum-microphone, surrounded by ten cats, let me first say that I’m still kind of a babe and, frankly, men dig me. Done. But in a city such as this, where people are strange when you’re a stranger, you long for a connection. However, there’s a genuine difference between being alone and feeling lonely. ...more

Will This Election Put More Moms in Office?

There it was, on the Time.com website, in great big black bold letters:Midterm Elections See Surge in Tough-to-Lure Candidates: Young Moms...more

I'm Your Girlfriend, Not Your 'Bro'

I've been reading a book called Gone Girl for the past week and just finished it yesterday. One of the things I see repeatedly in the chapters is the phrase, "the cool girl" (e.g. "He wanted me to be the cool girl" or "She's the cool girl type")....more
I watch porn with my boyfriend. I enjoy it. I know he watches it in his spare time, and ...more

The Real Reasons Parents Love Internet Lists

When I say I love a list, I'm definitely not talking Grocery or To-Do. (Those are illegibly scrawled on scrap paper you inevitably throw out so you feel less guilty about forgetting everything on them.) I'm talking the new wave of Internet information provided in beautiful bite-sized segments that all parents can jump in and out of lickety-split. Because we all know the days of being curled up in a window seat under a fresh stack of fragrant new books, as sunbeams dance across pages of essays and 1400+ wild word musings arelong gone. ...more


Stephanie Mann discusses the bloody siege on that dark day in Irish history. According to the conventions of 17th century warfare, a besieged city that refused a summons to surrender and was then taken by storm could expect no mercy. Cromwell regarded the massacre at Drogheda as a righteous judgment on the Catholics who had slaughtered Protestant settlers in the Irish Uprising of 1641, a view that was probably shared by most Protestants at the time ....more

Giving Counselling Another Go

Source This week I tried counselling again. I am a big advocate of therapy - not just giving it a go but, if it doesn't feel right, trying another psychologist and another until you’ve found the right fit....more

Shaking off the cobwebs

I don’t count the amount of times I swipe a rag across our kitchen’s island, but I do it often enough that I finally felt guilted into using reusable rags instead of paper towels. We eat meals and snacks there, drink glasses of ice water that drip condensation in forgotten rings, color and glue and gather our thoughts after playing outside. Last weekend I brushed leaves out of hair next to the island, specks of brown leaves falling like snow around their heads ....more

They're Another Year Older

I'm late with the birthday posts this year.Dear Riley,I'm so happy (and relieved) to see you thriving in high school! Your priorities are still very much in line, you have lots of good friends, and yet you still love to hang out with me. Yes, we have more "moments" than we used to, but they are still far outweighed by the good times we have together.You are strong, smart, friendly, funny, and your smile still lights up a room ....more

Everyday Makeup Look With Catrice

I never really like doing a full face makeup for taking photos, which is why you don't see many FOTDs from me. First of all, my eyes are so hooded they make it impossible to see any shadow on them and second, I end up not liking any of the photos, and more often then not, these photoshoots end in tears. But today I managed to scrape up a post for you where I actually show my face (shock! ...more

procedurer ved rengøring af Parajumpers Long Bear Jakke

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Happy Halloween!

Twenty minutes to midnight so I'm popping in quick to say Happy Halloween! ...more

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