This Is What Happened When I Didn't Wear Underwear

I had to take my 12-year-old to get X-rays today on his knee. As we were waiting, I asked him if he had on clean underwear. He looked at me like I was a freak. Obviously he has never heard this before. I explained it is something moms or grandmas ...more

How to Get More Readers for Your Blog Using Twitter

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Twitter is one of the BEST ways to interact with your readers and grow relationships in the blogging world. While there are no rules (minus Twitter’s TOS) to tweeting, there are a few things we ...more

Remembering the 1963 Birmingham Bombing: Where Are We Now?

On September 15, 1963, the 16th Street Baptist Church was destroyed by a horrific act of racial terrorism.  ...more

If You Don't Make $75,000 ... I Won't Date You

I ain't saying I'm a gold digger, but yes, you have to have a little gold. Let me give you a little context to explain my decision. When I was 19, I started my own very successful freelance writing business and by the age of 22, I dissolved it not ...more

How I Survived the Job Search

They say that doors close so new ones can open, and now that I have found a new job I hope for that to be as true as it has proven to be in the past. ...more

Fall Fashion Trends for 2014

Now that summer is coming to a close, the tank tops and shorts will soon be packed away in order to make room for the coats, scarves, boots, and jeans. This fall season is full of new and old trends working together to create amazing fashion. Here are the top trends ready to be debuted for fall: 1. Oversized Everything ...more

Should Parents Get Sued for Their Kids' Crimes?

Last weekend, I caught my daughter and a friend in a tree house in someone else's yard when the tree house-owning family was not home. "You're trespassing!" I yelled at my girl. She told me the neighbor's second-grade son had given them permission to be in the tree house when he wasn't home, and her friend had persuaded her it would be okay. I don't approve of her playing the follower when it comes to screwing up. Just because she didn't think of it doesn't mean she didn't do it. My anger launched a longer talk about taking personal responsibility even when a fallback excuse exists. ...more

5 Ways Working Moms Can Get Involved at their Kids' School

It is back-to-school time! My sweet little man is going into first grade, and I learned a lot about school involvement during his first year in kindergarten. As a working mom, it is tough to always know what is going on at his school, but I have found ways to stay in the loop. ...more

Being in Love is Like Doing a Load of Laundry

It's been said: Love is all we need.I think a hamper full of soiled clothes and a fabric softener sheet work just as well. Yes, indeed, a pile of panties and inside-out tube socks can teach us about love. I'm not a relationship expert, professionally anyway, but I 1) am divorced and 2) do the laundry. Turns out, there are parallels between love and laundry that can teach us um, a load, about relationships. ...more

Actress Daniele Watts Was Handcuffed For… Kissing Her White Boyfriend?

Django Unchained actress Daniele Watts was detained by Los Angles police last week. The crime? ...more
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6 Blogs With Pie Recipes That Will Inspire You to Bake

Whether you're looking for new ideas for the last of the summer fruit or looking forward to fall flavors like pumpkin and apple, follow these blogs for creative new ideas, no-fail techniques, and well-tested recipes for ...more
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Hey, U2, Get Off Of My Cloud

Me in 1991: I spend the night camped out on a sidewalk in the tiny town of Palatka, Florida. The small downtown record store was one of those hidden treasures with an efficient staff where you had a chance to score a spot in the front of the line and therefore a chance to get tickets through their Ticketmaster system. I was fifth in line and I held my power position. Tickets went in a few nerve-wracking minutes.  I scored! I am filled with ecstatic joy from my badassery.  ...more
I agree. Something smacks of force feeding and Apple trying to be cool.  I've never been a huge ...more

Enterovirus Outbreak: Watch for These Signs in Your Children

There have been quite a few news stories out there about the “mysterious” respiratory virus that has been found in multiple states and has spread quickly to infect hundreds of children. An enterovirus has caused these children to get very sick very quickly, and many have required hospitalization for treatment. This virus has come out of nowhere and is spreading rapidly, especially considering the time of year. (During the winter this kind of outbreak would be more expected due to staying indoors, sharing items in school, etc.) What is the scoop on this virus and how concerned should you be for your children? ...more

Lemony Vegan Farro Salad with Basil and Tomatoes

Lemony Vegan Farro Salad with Basil and Tomatoes Recently I warned the MeatlessMonday fans there was going to be a few weeks of garden-loving recipes coming up here while we hang on to the last days of summer, so if you don't have a garden or a nearby farmers market, my apologies. But for everyone with fresh tomatoes, corn, and basil, I think this Lemony Farro Salad with Basil and Tomatoes from Sarah's Cucina Bella really does sound perfect for right now. ...more

Social Media Makes Me More Creative and Less Productive

I'll admit it; the more I use social media the less productive I seem to get.  At the same time, the more I use social media, the deeper I think, the more creative I get, and the more connected I feel.  So... sort of a catch-22.  Social media both detracts and enhances my life. I work from home, on a computer, so it is too easy to keep checking email, glancing at Facebook, and peeking at my Twitter stream.  I used to spend those moments when I was trying to figure out a plot line in a book lying quietly on the sofa, thinking.  Now I am much more likely to skim some status updates while I try to work out the literary situation in my mind. ...more
Rita Arens I don't know if I have the patience to write long hand :-)  But I am thinking of ...more

On Motherhood and Losing Myself

I remember the first time it happened: It was shortly after Theo’s birth and I was still in the hospital. My mother and husband were in the room with me when the nurse came in to do something—maybe weigh him or help bathe him or check his vital signs. After she finished, she said, “All right, now I’ll give him back to mom,” and I felt momentarily confused. Why was she handing my son off to my mother? Shouldn't she give him to me or my husband? ...more
I love this post! I'm a first time mother too and I still struggle with my identity.  The change ...more

8 Qualities Every Woman Should Look For in Her Dream Man

A lot of girls grow up dreaming about Mr. Right. He goes by many names – Mr. Perfect, Prince Charming, The One – but in essence, he’s a compilation of the ideal job, physique, and personality, as perceived by each individual girl. The problem is that our notions of the perfect prototype often hold us back from finding a true connection, since no real man can live up to those impossible standards. As we grow up, we realize that the qualities we previously overlooked are the ones that really matter....more

How to Be a Great Sports Parent

I'm a firm believer that youth sports provide a platform for learning many life lessons. Sports programs, for the most part, help young minds grow, expand, and develop kids' confidence and talents. ...more
Thank you, AmyBovaird! Appreciate your thoughts. I figured if it resonated with me, then it ...more

I'm Not Fighting Cancer, I'm Surrendering

I’m not fighting cancer. Even though there’s a grade 3 tumor in my breast, vaguely star-shaped and roughly the size of a quarter. Even though some of my lymph nodes are potentially conspiring against me. Even though I’m about to have a mastectomy, and eventually chemo. I’m not fighting — I’m surrendering. To the complete unknown. To the random. To my body. To people. To science. To holy shit there is nothing I can do. To God. ...more
Can't read this blog because it keeps reverting to Aveeno advertisement. Would love to, as this ...more

How You Can Freak Out Over Growing Pains: Osgood-Schlatter Disease

My ten-year-old started complaining about her knee about a month ago. Sometimes it was fine, and sometimes she dragged her leg around like it was someone else's, calling it her "bum knee" and ready to swap stories in gold course pro shops. I wrote it off to drama, because: tween....more
Rita Arens EmiliePeck Yeah, I was pretty freaked out the first couple of times it happened. My ...more

He Loves Me Despite Myself

We lie side by side in the dark, and he whispers the same thing he whispers every night: "I love you, Celeste."I don't want to ask, but I do. Every night, the same question: "Why's that?"...more
Tinseltine Thank you so much. And he really is a gift.more

Why the Violence Against Women Act Matters

This week marks the twentieth anniversary of the passage of the Violence Against Women Act. This historic law dramatically changed the way domestic violence, sexual assault, and crimes against women are handled and prosecuted across our country....more
Why do you stretch the truth Gwen Graham ??  Just like your whole Administration except for ...more

"Transparent" on Amazon Is Your Next New Fall TV Binge

After suffering through the last season of The Fosters, ABC Family’s Little House on the Prairie treatment of parenting while gay, I was desperate to watch a queer series about queers and families made for grown ups. In other words, I wanted to see some boobs! No, that’s not really what I meant …. to say out loud. In other words, I wanted believable characters and nuanced plot lines and funny dialogue that was not taken out of my father’s shoebox full of cliché one-liners. ...more
Sounds interesting, but I didn't like Amazon Prime when I had it, so it's not worth the extra ...more

New Motherhood Is Hard Enough: Say No to Visitors

Until I had my son, it had never occurred to me that the first days, weeks, and months of being new parents would be sheer hell. I mean it. I don't envy any of you who are currently trying make it through the first two months of parenthood. It's difficult. Don't believe anyone who says otherwise. They're lying. It's beyond difficult. For us, it all started when we took our son to his first doctor's appointment. ...more
Good point... I actually had someone tell me to "just let her cry" when my daughter was still ...more

It's True: I Am a Horrible Friend

I am a horrible friend. No, really, I am a horrible friend. It's not that I am antisocial. It's not that I really don't like people. I use my husband as the excuse. Oh, I can't go to lunch with you because, well, Chris gets frustrated when I am gone. He does, but that is not the real reason....more
I stay close to those I feel safe with. They have proven their worth a million times over.more

Mothers Are So Embarrassing

It was my Meat Loaf moment. A few weeks ago, I took my two daughters to see a Broadway show starring Sutton Foster (who may not be a household name across the country, but for my two theater-obsessed kids is pretty much the coolest thing ever), a two-time Tony-winning singer/actress/dancer, and star of the late, lamented ABC Family series "Bunheads." After the show ended, we lined up with all the other theater geeks by the stage door to get her autograph. ...more
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Top Ten Brad Takei Moments in the New George Takei Documentary

Note: Includes spoilers for the documentary To Be Takei. My partner Ledcat and I met the Takeis several years ago at a function at ToonSeumcelebrating a Batman event. It was a very heady moment when George Takei stopped at the registration table and said "George and Brad Takei are here" then thrust out his wrist for his paper bracelet. One of the perks of volunteering is you occasionally get these moments. They are awesome. ...more

7 Tips to Help Parents Get the Most Out of Parent-Teacher Conferences

Even though school has just started for some, Parent-Teacher conferences are just around the corner. Here are some tips that you can use as a parent to have a more effective parent-teacher conference. As a teacher, I loved this time of the year. All my conversations with parents always gave a lot more insight into the child's life outside of school, as well as how I could help them better in the classroom. I enjoyed meeting all the families. There is something about the in-person interaction that makes it so much easier to communicate between the school and the home. ...more

How I Became Politically and Socially Aware

I had to do it. First, I asked a rhetorical question of the two women with the two boys, hawking some kind of snack food in front of Trader Joe’s: “Are you really affiliated with the Boy Scouts?” “Yes,” one said hesitantly. Later, she walked by my car as I put in groceries. “You know the Boy Scouts are homophobic,” I said. “Our troop isn’t,” she said. “The organization is; the Boy Scout guidelines are,” I said. “Well, I want to give my son the experience of scouting,” she answered. ...more
You know, Lisa Belkin just today wrote a long, excellent article about whether parents should be ...more

Coping with Divorce: Five Ways to Soften the Blow

I’m still mad as hell at my ex, who shall remain unnamed, but I’m working through it. If you’re newly divorced, the odds are good that you feel a lot like I do. You stood by him through the bad times, celebrated with him during those times that were great, and maybe you still share custody of your children with him today. Whatever your personal case may be, it’s likely that we share at least a few similarities. Here are 5 ways to make going through a divorce easier.Connect with friends ...more
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#WhyILeft: I Have My Voice Back

I didn't understand that I was in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship until I received the following texts last night. And then it all clicked. ...more

Giving Up the Mommy Guilt

It has not escaped my notice that women with children often express regret about their performance as mothers. I remember coming back from my own (partially paid) maternity leave, and for two months, driving to drop off and pick up at two different day care centers, doing my work, running the household, rocking the baby, mothering the four-year-old, and feeling like a total failure at everything I did. (Yes, I had a husband at home, but he left early for his office, and came home late, getting in his hours and pushing for professional advancement.)...more
Thank you for putting words to how I feel right now...! I am the mother of four little boys - ...more

Where Are the Brown Girls in Teen/YA Books?

I went to the 2014 National Book Festival with two of my daughters.  Elle, a high schooler, is the voracious reader of the family.  Often times, before any of the rest of us can finish reading – or even begin to read – a book that we’ve checked out of the library or bought at the bookstore, she has “borrowed” and finished the book, then handed it back with a quick review.  No book is safe in her arm’s reach (and she has long arms.)  Nat came along, too; still in elementary school, she reads when and if she feels like it. ...more
yes and yes.  #WeNeedDiverseBooks! in most Ya novels I've read the black kid is usually the ...more

My Life Ended When I Became A Mother

Last week was quiet. Like freaky quiet. The house was calm. There were no slamming doors or elephant-like stampedes down the stairs or shouts of "Get out of my room NOW!" No one complained about someone else breathing their air or farting in their general proximity or licking their toothbrush just to be a smart ass. ...more
Yes, she is writing about her own life, but when you write your own personal story and post it ...more

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I basically trying to say is this when you livers caught up with junk it will be difficult to lose weight no matter how much dieting and exercise you there ever wonder why whenever you would diet and then stop you gain the weight right back but clean out your liver properly and turn it right back into theft-burning metabolism boosting work in that it can be imagine starting a good weight loss program what the hell delivered its regularly bring back for you  hours away seven days a week even while you sleep the key here is to get your body is healthy as possible before beginning ...more

Shocking Reasons Why Women Squirted From Clitoral Stimulation

It is estimated that only five or six percent of all women experience squirting or female ejaculation during intercourse. Since only a few women ever experience this phenomenon, there are frequently questions concerning it. One of the most common comes from women wondering if they are the only ones who have ever experienced female ejaculation while stimulating their clitoris....more

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Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Suspends Pastor For Discussing His Divorce, Calls It Blasphemy?

Blasphemy is supposed to mean speaking out against God, now Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, founder of Christ Embassy, has given it a new meaning.The pastor who is embroiled in a divorce drama with his estranged wife suspended one of the church pastors in Lagos, Michelle Okojie, for her “subversive activities” - read, discussing the divorce with church members and not being supportive of the sainted pastor Chris.Citing Bible passages from Romans 16:17-20 and Titus 3:10 wherein Christians were told to “watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles,” the church warned every member of the congregation to stay away from Ms. Okojie.So from being beloved, a Pastor has been cast into outer darkness from the church. Na wa o.. ....more

Vanilla Cake with Vanilla Bean Browned Butter Glaze

This is my new favorite vanilla cake and I was in vanilla heaven. I didn’t miss chocolate one bit as I was going to town on this vanilla number. Some...more

Tortie Tuesday

I'm sad to say this Tortie Tuesday that my pepper box is in the recycle bin on our curb today. ...more

Apple Cider Glazed Donuts – Baked & Fried Versions

Deliciously Fall themed apple cider glazed doughnuts with two ways to do the recipe – baked or fried! These doughnuts are...more

Skillet Baked Chicken Parmesan Meatballs

These skillet baked chicken parmesan meatballs are clearly one of these easiest and most satisfying meals you’ll make all year....more

Galaxy-Gram! Redeye from Seattle!

There was a kerfuffle this afternoon on whether I would make my redeye flight from Seattle to Atlanta, my flight was late leaving Ketchikan! I'm happy to report that I made it barely with only minutes to spare. See this tired face?...more

A historical bread – Robert May’s French Bread from 1660.

This month I had the pleasure to decide what the Bread Baking Babes was going to bake, something that isn’t always easy unless you have a specific bread in mind. Which I hadn’t but I decided to go for a... The post A historical bread – Robert May’s French Bread from 1660 ....more