Thoughts From My Thirties

Society keeps telling us that time is running out and that if we are ever going to pursue motherhood, we should get on it sooner rather than later. I understand the science that supports this belief but I still can’t help but feel like it’s a scare ...more

"I Have Stage IV Cancer and I'm Getting Married. Help!"

Most women have suffered great angst over planning their wedding day, and some even suffer from something called "post-wedding blues," but can you imagine what it would be like to be diagnosed with cancer in the midst of planning this special day? ...more

12 Tips for Getting the Best Out of the Farmers' Market

My fear of the farmers' market isn't the market itself, but rather the fact that I have no idea how to navigate it. There is a skill to purchasing those fruits and veggies just like there is a skill to shopping a flea market or a consignment shop. So ...more

Helping Women in India Come into Their Own

Disclosure: I spent last week in India as a guest of Coca-Cola India, who brought me and seven other internet influencers there to learn about their work supporting women and girls, as well as sustainable practices around water. The trip was paid for ...more

The Danger of "Comfortable"

I like being comfortable. Two-sizes-too-big sweatpants, no makeup, an inviting couch, a cozy cabin in the winter and a chick-flick on the screen. That’s the good stuff, the magic ticket to cloud nine in my mind. But ... wait for it ... being ...more

Alessandra Stanley Is Wrought In Pushing The Image Of The Angry Black Woman Stereotype

[Editor's Note 9/22/2014: The New York Times public editor issued a response to Stanley's article about Shonda Rhimes, but the newspaper management has yet to offer an official statement. --Grace]...more
Rita Arens As I referenced in my post, Shonda Rhimes' lead characters...ALL of them...have been ...more

Hurricane Hugo: I Lost Everything 25 Years Ago

On Sept. 21-22, 1989, Hurricane Hugo—a Category 4 storm with 135 mph sustained winds—devastated Charleston, S.C., and my family lost everything....more
Thank you. We were so horrified by everything that happened that it took years to get over it; ...more

Make the Most of Your First Date Conversations

Soooo…what do you talk about on a first date?Well, wouldn’t it be a perfect world if they all had conversation that flowed like a chocolate fountain over cream puffs and strawberries? Hello! But we all know that, unless you hit the first date jackpot, you’re going to have to put some thought and effort into getting that verbal rapport started. I’m not saying you should sweat it like an Oompa Loompa at the chocolate factory; if it’s THAT hard, remember to breathe! However, while playing it by ear, a few bon mots/ clever questions up your sleeve are always a “do”....more

Must-Follow Monday: Blogs for Hispanic Heritage Month

It’s Hispanic Heritage Month! Started on September 15, this monthlong event continues through October 15 to celebrate and honor the contributions of Americans whose ancestors come from Spain, Mexico, and Central and South America. Here are a few Latina bloggers to watch. Of course, this list is not complete... so please feel free to let us know which Latina blogs you'd like to recommend in the comments. ...more
BlogHerNews ergeekgoddess Latinaish THANK YOU! What an honor. *puffs up chest proudly* #HHM ...more

Am I Still Cool If I Don't Live in a Cool City?

Ready for the dumbest, most unimportant worry you'll hear all day?I've recently began worrying that soon I'm going to lose my cool and won't be interesting anymore. Hear me out—...more
Don't worry. You'll turn forty some day and you won't care what others think. Talk about the ...more

Rainbow Veggie Bowls with Jalapeño Ranch

It's officially the first day of fall, but you still have those amazing tomatoes and cucumbers you've been getting from your garden or the farmers market all summer, right? So what to make that's filling enough for fall weather, but still uses those late-summer flavors that most people never get tired of? I'd like to nominate these uh-may-zing sounding Rainbow Veggie Bowls with Jalapeño Ranch from Pinch of Yum as being the perfect Meatless Monday dinner for the first day of fall. ...more

Can a Mom Survive Bottled Up Energy and Giggles at Dinner Time?

Do you ever just FLIP OUT on your kids for no reason other than they're being TOO happy?! Cause I have. Yep. I'm not proud of it. I just simply don't understand it. They will be absolutely content with each other at the dinner table, cracking each other up, not hitting or not not-hitting-but-kinda-hitting, not tattling, not asking me for anything, just genuinely enjoying each other's company while I quietly eat my own slice of Papa Murphy's Take 'n Bake white pizza. ...more

Banned Books Week: Reading Alison Bechdel, a Genius to Look Out For

It's Banned Books Week, so break out your copy of 50 Shades of Grey and give it a kiss or a sassy slap on the tush, whatever you prefer. Then, stop for a moment and appreciate that the First Amendment protects your right to read that book, whether you loved it or loathed it. ...more
BlogHerPop Just added that book to my library holds! Good one!more

Social Media Sites Off the Beaten Path: 9 Sites You Should Know

Everyone and their mother has a Facebook or Twitter account.  But what about all those other social media networks; the ones that don't get the love and attention they deserve?  There really is a site for every interest; you need to go find it.  Whether it's in a social media site you've heard of but didn't originally think was for you, or in one you never even knew existed, there's plenty out there beyond Facebook and Twitter!  Here are 9 sites you may have overlooked. ...more
Thanks for this list Kiersten! I am checking out Storify now!!more

My Mother Was Diagnosed With Cancer, and It Changed My Life Forever

It's still so surreal. It feels like just yesterday that my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was so quick, so aggressive, so painful, so hard to watch. I have never experienced anything like it, and I hope to never have to again. ...more

It's Hard to Be the New Mom at School

It's September. The flip flops have been unceremoniously discarded in the corner, the bathing suits and beach towels safely stowed until next year, and the air is crackling with the excitement of this new school year. For us, it’s been extra special, as the kids are in their first year of public school after being cyber schooled for the last five years....more

10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear About on Dates

The dating world can be terrifying. First dates are tricky. Even the best of them have their fair share of awkward moments. There are just so many unknowns on a first date: the anticipation of how it will go; the potential to begin again; and the excitement of getting to know someone who could possibly become important in your life.Unless, of course, your date blabs too much about stuff he shouldn’t....more
I dunno about #9. I like compliments. He doesn't have to overreach with them but if a man said ...more

On the Hunt for...Plaid Shirts

Love them all! Thanks for linking the sites :) I love the one from Zara!more

It's Over: I Had Sex with My Ex and Felt Nothing

After a breakup that almost destroyed me, I took to my bed for not just days but weeks. I wasn't just broken, but whatever is the next step worse than that, horrifically devastated, might be the most accurate explanation of the state of my mind and heart. As with anyone who's just experienced heartbreak, I was quite sure I wouldn't recover. ...more
Yes, but I married him :)more

Do I Need Fireworks In Order To Have Fireworks?

If there’s ever been a sentence that gets on my nerves, it’s: “Today, I’m marrying my best friend.” Oh, shut up. But really, my ex-husband and I were as good of friends as you could ever imagine. For example, we had really similar weird senses of humor. You know how people start to look alike when they’ve been married awhile? Well, we’d react alike—usually in the most cynical, horrific way possible. ...more

My First Pregnancy Journal: I Was a Little Bit Nuts

Not too long ago, I found one of my pregnancy journals. Never heard of a pregnancy journal? It's a book in which expecting moms document the food cravings, nightly wacky dreams and monthly torturous weigh-ins of pregnancy. In other words, it's a journal full of writing, photo prompts and milestone documentation with which pregnant ladies torment themselves for the nine months before they get to start stressing about keeping up-to-date on writing, photo prompts and milestone documentation in the baby book. ...more
I've never been pregnant, but this is hilarious. Super cute post.more

10 Things You Need to Stop Saying to Gay Parents

So I have read a few funny posts lately about "if Latinos said the things white people say" and if "Asians said the things white people say." Also, things you shouldn't say to a lesbian or a gay dad, and I decided to add my own list of things you shouldn't say to people. Specifically gay people. Even more specifically gay parents....more
#2 doesn't bother me but #4 does!!!!!!!more

Two Women Made the MasterChef Finale, So Why Were Their Shoes The Focus?

This week, the two finalists from Season 5 of MasterChef competed for the title of America’s Best Home Chef. After first being chosen from a pool of thousands, these extremely talented, self-taught women withstood three months of grueling challenges to become the last ones standing. And, incidentally, they joined other women from the international MasterChef shows when they became part of the first women’s-only finale on MasterChef U.S. ...more
@tepes1291 Rusty626 those boots are great looking for TV, but impractical for kitchen use, and ...more

Your Bag Won't Always Be This Heavy, Mom

My sister Nancy tells the story about a time when her boys were under two years old and, as mothers of young children often do to keep from going insane, she visited a friend. Besides her two sons, Nancy brought along with her a backpack she carried in lieu of a diaper bag. It featured many convenient compartments and was not covered in ducklings or whales as were most diaper bags in the late nineties. ...more
ealguire What a great addition to the metaphor. Wish I would have thought of that! Thanks for ...more

Yo Ho Ho: 7 Ways to Celebrate Talk Like a Pirate Day

Greetin's, ye buxom wenches. In honor o' Jack Sparrow, the Dread Pirate Roberts, and other scurvy dogs o' that ilk, we at BlogHer brin' ye a handful o' ways t' celebrate Talk Like a Pirate Day. ...more
Kim Court Me, too! Sounds so naughty. Mate.more

Family Demographics Are Changing ... and So Are Our Children's Economic Opportunities

We’ve all heard about the growing numbers of breadwinner moms (40 percent of all U.S. households, in case you were wondering), but American families are diversifying in more than one way, and recent studies show that those changes aren’t just affecting our culture: Family structure may have a huge impact on the next generation’s economic opportunities. ...more

Halloween on a Budget: Make Your Own Adorable Costumes (and Save a Ton!)

I'm a crafty girl, so of course, I always make my kids' Halloween costumes. But even if you don't have a crafty bone in your body, I know you can make a costume this year (or at least vow not to spend an ungodly amount of money on a crummy costume at the store, okay?). I'll show you how—keep reading! ...more

My Daughter Wants Everything I Never Wanted and I'm OK With That

My 11-year-old daughter’s new favorite TV show is “Cake Boss,” a reality show about a bakery in Hoboken, New Jersey, that makes the most extraordinary custom cakes for all occasions — especially wedding cakes, which are among their staples. Day after day, my daughter devours episode after episode, spellbound as the bakers decorate these wedding cakes: layers of vanilla and chocolate, roses and tulips, and two figures on top who uncannily resemble the real couple. Nevertheless, I’m not prepared (although I should be) for her question: “What kind of wedding cake did you and Daddy have?” ...more
My 10 yr old is obsessed with cake boss too!!more

Rich Rum Chocolate Mousse Served in Shot Glasses

This came about as a result of having a bowl of egg yolks lying in the fridge from all the egg whites I used for the my Brandied Strawberry Pavlova (recipe coming soon). It turned out as a luxuriously rich mousse, that I confess I have eaten, regularly and unashamedly, in bed—no sharing, of course! ...more

There's No Such Thing As a 'Typical American Family'

The perfect American family is an idealized image. Mom, dad, boy, girl and probably a beloved and loyal family pet in there too. Father is the breadwinner. Mother is the loving nurturer who probably stays at home. This mold is reinforced by movies, TV shows and books. This family model is the nucleus of our nation. And much of our laws and policies and moral values are formed around preserving family. Welfare was first introduced as a way to encourage couples to marry. Health care benefits, tax incentives, they are all formed around incentivizing a static idea of family. ...more

Can iOS 8 Help Save Your Life? With Medical ID, Yes It Can!

Every time Apple releases a new iOS, I find something to geek out on a little bit. One time I fawned over the DND function. This time I am surprising even myself and not marking the new and native camera timer as my #1 feature for iOS 8. Nope. That title belongs to the Medical ID functionality found within Apple's new Health App dashboard. If you run, walk, bike, travel, drive, sit on the couch all day playing Frozen Free Fall, or walk to your mailbox with your phone, this could help save your life in an accident. ...more
Love this, thanks for sharing. Now to see if it's on my Ipod that I run with... since I don't ...more

35 Days With My Baby: The Greatest Gift I've Ever Had

I thought yesterday was the worst day of my life. I was wrong, and apparently I may be wrong again. There is absolutely no way to prepare oneself for the news that your 35-day-old baby may not survive. I have loved this little baby so deeply for 35 days, and I simply cannot fathom how I will go on in the fateful case that my baby does not survive. Credit: ljshoup. ...more
I'm at 42 days of the greatest gift, being a mother to my daughter, Aves. What is the greatest ...more

How to Chop an Onion Resentfully

1. Stare at onion. Realize how much you hate cutting onions. They make you cry, but not the reason normal people cry....more
TheKitchenSnob I wish I  had a "normal" explanation like the smell! Ha! Thank you so much for ...more

5 Ways to Use Comments to Build Blog Traffic

I talk a lot about how important community is on my blog.  When I come there to write each day, it's with something that I hope is going to make you think because I want to start a conversation.  I don't know what this whole blogging thing would even be like without your commentary. There are plenty of ways to help build your blogging community, but one of the most important options is by commenting on posts you enjoy and responding to comments on your own posts.  As important as this is though, there are some misconceptions out there about how you should go about commenting. ...more
hbksloss It definitely takes time, so don't get discouraged! Just building up an audience takes ...more

Smooth Feta Dip with Fresh Herbs

If you’re like me, you always have feta in your fridge. It is such crumbly, salty joy of a cheese. I’m always looking for new ways to use it. This dip takes no time at all, and it uses yogurt instead of mayo or sour cream. So, dare say its healthy?As far as dips go… for sure!Fresh dill, parsley and green onions make this a fresh spread for pitas, veggies, or even on a sandwich.Oh yeah, and there’s a good kick of garlic in there which makes it even better.Have a great weekend! ...more

Autumn Wild Rice with Roasted Sweet Potatoes, Pecans and Goat Cheese

This time of year I get a little homesick for Fall in New England.And then I remember that I’m still surfing in a bikini, and I won’t have to shovel any snow this winter.And then I’m not homesick anymore....more


Three picture frames were piled at the edge of the dining room table. Linus picked up on of the frames and gazed at the sepia print of a small baby. Unsure, he showed me the picture and asked, "Who is that?"My heart stopped.As much as I want to climb to the rooftop and scream their names to the heavens, I cannot even say their names aloud without my voice catching in my throat....more

Summer forever.

Happy first day of fall. ...more

You're Gonna Love It.. Take two!

Phew! What a week. ...more

California Bimbimbap with Avocado and Kale

This week in my Asian cooking class we learned how to make the Korean dish Bimbimbap.We obviously made it in the traditional style with carrots, cabbage, marinated beef, homemade kimchi etc…This is my take on a vegetarian Bimbimbap with brown rice, kale and zucchini sautéed in sesame oil, and avocado of course....more

Honey & Herb Vinaigrette

Let’s be honest with one another. Salad dressing it the best part of the salad....more

You had me at Hello.

“You had me at hello.”...more

Beautiful Backroads, Bikes, Beer…

Big training week just happened, and I appear to be somewhat on a recovery week, since I only have 6 hours of training on my schedule. With the Expert traveling to Canada this week for work, I am grateful to Coach Brett for the recovery. A little midday half marathon on Thursday ....more

5 Things Moms of Toddlers Know

We know exhaustion. Some days it seems as though there are too many minds and mouths to feed, too much toothpaste on the bathroom counter, too much laundry in the hamper, too many broken appliances, too many car troubles, and too many years on my body. We know...more