I Broke Up With My Best Friend

Three years ago, I broke up with my best friend. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done—we've known each other for thirty-five years. I know it was the right decision, but there are many days when I still miss her. ...more

I Broke Up With My Best Friend

Three years ago, I broke up with my best friend. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done—we've known each other for thirty-five years. I know it was the right decision, but there are many days when I still miss her. ...more

Midlife Is Adolescence for the Almost-Old

You think about things. You think about how your grandmother was younger than you when you were born. How your mother was younger than you when you had your first baby. How much of your life is behind you, at 52. Most of the big events — the ...more

9 Easy Swaps to Help with Frugal Budgeting

[Editor's Note: This great list of suggestions spans clothes to food to utilities.]Budgeting and saving doesn't have to mean sacrificing. It might just mean making small changes or tweaks in what you've been accustomed to. Swapping should be easy and ...more

(VIDEO) See the 2014 Voices & Photos of the Year Videos!

The Voices and Photos of the Year Community Keynote is always a highlight of the BlogHer conference. This year was no different, as 12 readers took to the stage to share their written words with their voices. Sometimes they trembled due to the weight ...more

4 Easy Things You Can Do Today for Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

Ovarian cancer kills more women than any other reproductive cancer, but you probably didn't know that since it doesn't have an Internet meme attached to its fundraising efforts like the ice bucket challenge nor does it have a tween-boy-inspired bumper sticker campaign like "save the tatas" for breast cancer.  But we need to pay more attention to ovarian cancer: according to the Presidental Proclamation on ovarian cancer, 22,000 women will be diagnosed with it this year, and 14,000 will die from the disease. September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month, and there are plenty of proactive things you can do. ...more

5 Important Lessons Learned in My First Year of Blogging

I've read many blog posts where people share lessons that they've learned and mistakes that they've made. (That they vow never to make again.) Well, I would like to add a few of the things that I learned in my first year. ...more
Karen Ballum Thank you so much, Karen! I really appreciate it!!!more

6 Blogs to Follow for Fall Fashion Trends

No matter if the weather is in the triple digits this Labor Day; the three-day weekend's end means that fall fashion is officially here. Read on for blogs that preview the trends, and show you how to wear them with your own personal style. ...more

Why "You Look Like Your Mom" Is the Worst Thing to Say to a Teen Girl

It happens often. When I'm out with my daughter, someone invariably exclaims, “Well, aren't you just the spitting image of your mother?” Outwardly, my daughter smiles. To the stranger, she seems thrilled to be given the comparison. To this mother's eye, I notice a faint twitch beginning to form behind her grin. Or maybe it’s just a bit of nausea coming on. Either way, she's clearly not pleased....more
@DOWNSINTERIORS BlogHer  12 seems like a million years ago so I can't remember if she was happy ...more

Don’t Read His Post If You Hate Fatphobia, Says Wil Wheaton

I support health at every size. I support doing what you personally have to do to feel good in your skin, and in your body. And if that means weight loss, then it means weight loss—in a healthy way that works for you, not by super-restrictive diets and starvation. So, Wil Wheaton, who recently mentioned that he was working on getting healthier and wanted to share that with his fans, has my full support. I totally think it's great he wants to be healthier. ...more
So sad. There's so much in here. I'm sad he's struggling with some level of self-loathing that ...more

I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I say with heart. October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, but to me, a previous victim, I feel its awareness should be felt around the world on a daily basis....more
It is so sad and shocking to hear stories like this. But you are very brave and sounds like you ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Help Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?"...more

Pregnancy: Signs You're Ready To Have Your Baby

The last days of your pregnancy are, how do I say it, AWFUL! They drag on in slow motion while you uncomfortably, well, drag on. You simply cannot wait another day to meet that little bundle of joy that you’ve been dreaming about for nine months. You also can’t sleep, you can’t eat, and you can’t do simple things like put on pants or get into bed without an ass kicking from your sciatica nerve. Nope, you can’t wait to shoot that tiny human out of your baby maker. Here are 12 ways you know that you are really ready to have that baby. ...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

5 Ways to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary

How to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary What if you're met with an eye roll when you mention to the server that you have celiac disease? That doesn't exactly instill a level of confidence, does it? That's exactly what happened to me recently. It was a reality check about dining out gluten-free....more
Thanks for this resource. It is so, so hard. I've written about it, too. People just don't ...more

Before You Judge: Here's What You Don't See

See that smiling woman cuddling her kids? You don't see her anxiety and her battle every day with post-partum depression....more
Excellent points. My anxiety tends to try to convince me that everyone hates me. I've tried to ...more

The Importance of Sucking At Life

Failure, by its very existence, is as important to life as success, for without one, the other means nothing....more
I so wish I would've known all this stuff so many years before I learned it. Yes, you can do ...more

Why I Didn't Do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

My news feed has been taken over by friends and family participating in the ALS ice bucket challenge.  I'm impressed by the sheer number of individuals who have stepped up and learned something about ALS, donated, or dumped a bucket of ice water on their heads in solidarity. It's really cool to see so many people rally for one cause. But I have not participated. ...more
@DoctorPragati I did not take the ice bucket challenge as I was not led to do so. I have the ...more

Amazon Fire TV: Farewell Cable Bill, Hello Great Viewing

For years, I've obediently paid my cable TV bill. And then moved, paid for a new installation, and paid some more. And paid as the bill went up. And then moved, paid for a new installation and... well, you get the picture.  Of course, my cable frequently went down due to what the computerized robot that always answered the phone at the cable company called "an unavoidable widespread outage." So when I read about options that would allow me to say farewell to my cable bill and hello to expanded show coverage as well as movies, I was intrigued. I only have basic cable, which means I get five channels and pay a ridiculous $35 a month for that privilege.  I decided to try Amazon Fire TV. ...more
Is there a way to watch live sports with it. The only thing that has held us back is out love of ...more

Protect the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act

As kids across the country are going back to school, Congress is also returning to work after a long summer break....more
Hunger is such a deterrent to learning. We're starting a food pantry at my kids' school this ...more

Hello Kitty is a Cat: My Open Letter to Sanrio

In case you haven’t heard, Hello Kitty is not a cat. Well, that’s what author Christine R. Yano was told by Sanrio (the company that owns Hello Kitty and her friends) when she was preparing her script for a Hello Kitty exhibit at the Japanese American National Museum. ...more
If it looks like a kitty and it's name is Kitty than it's a kitty.more

Why I Wore My Swimsuit this Summer for the Sake of My Family

Recently I came across a blog post on Facebook were a mom wrote about putting on her swimsuit, pushing aside her insecurities, coming out from under the sun umbrella, and taking off the coverup to… get this… ENJOY playing with her children in the water! So simple, yet something many of us, myself included don't do. ...more
I don't see hips, thights, and cellulite - I see a beautiful mom with her kids making memories ...more

15 Grilling Recipes for Your Labor Day Cookout

Labor Day marks the end of summer—and the weekend many of us host a blowout cookout for all our friends. Here are a ton of great recipe ideas to send off grilling season with a bang. BURGERS Image: Tracey’s Culinary Adventures ...more
Great collection of recipes, can't wait to try those stuffed mushrooms!more

Midlife: Between Youth and Old Age

You think about things. You think about how your grandmother was younger than you when you were born. How your mother was younger than you when you had your first baby. How much of your life is behind you, at 52. Most of the big events — the wedding, the births of your children, their college graduations — those things are done. ...more
A beautiful read. Thank you for this.more

DIY // How to Make Back-Tab Bedroom Curtains

Today, I’m sharing how I made my own bedroom curtains with blackout lining. I went with a 84″x54″ length, and three blocks (pattern on the top and bottom). It’s SO gorgeous in person. I am in love!...more

What I Know About Marriage Helped Me Buy A Home

Our family just hit our third year anniversary in this home we live in. Three years ago, my husband and I went through the grueling process of house hunting, and the process was even further complicated by the fact that it was going to be an interstate move for us. Staying put was not an option because of my husband’s new job....more
Pecked2DeathByChckns Thanks Susan!  :-)more

New Season Breathes Life Back into Doctor Who

"Deep Breath," the title of Doctor Who’s season premiere, is more than just a reference to its featured villains (although, because said villains are cyborgs hell-bent on organ-harvesting their way to the status of "living," it’s a shame we won’t be spending more time with them). Based on the evidence, "Deep Breath" is actually a message to the fans, a warning that after several seasons of glossy explosions, love triangles, and soapy melodrama, their beloved show is about to head in a very different direction. ...more
Katy Anders  Thanks for your comment, Katy! I agree with you; based on the way they handled the ...more

18-Year-Old Cited for Waving Penis Out Car Window: Justified or Not?

If your kid was charged with waving a rubber penis out of a car window, how would you feel? First, I am not saying what he did was right at all. Small children could have seen this, and I'm sure it offended people. Personally, I would have laughed if it were just me and Chris in the car or even my older kids. Obviously they already know what a penis is. ...more
ShaunDakin You actually can't wave a gun anywhere you wish.  That is considered "brandishing" ...more

Featuring Our Voices and Photos of the Year Videos: Grab Some Tissues and Watch Them Now

The Voices and Photos of the Year Community Keynote is always a highlight of the BlogHer conference. This year was no different, as 12 readers took to the stage to share their written words with their voices. Sometimes they trembled due to the weight and emotion of the piece, but these strong, well-written, and well-spoken women stood at that podium and spoke their truth. Additionally, we honored all of our winners for our first ever Photos of the Year with three amazing photographers present on stage. ...more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such discussion was considered "indecent", and certain behaviors were punishable by arrest and imprisonment. This current level of openness in discourse also allows for candid, often difficult discussions of sexual harassment and assault, though we cannot exactly say that has lead to more arrests and imprisonment for offenders....more
Great post! I wish I could be that articulate when people start victim blaming and bashing ...more

Intentional Parenting Can Wait

I stood at the white picket gate in the backyard and felt it rising in me, from even deeper than the pit of my stomach. That unwanted feeling that I have become more familiar with than I ever wanted to be. Shame. I had snapped, again. I barked at the little face in front of me about being told to close the gate so the dog doesn't get out. I issued ultimatums that this was the last time I was getting up to help him fetch the ball from the neighbor's yard. Next time he was out of luck. I sighed that I just wanted to relax for a few minutes, and he was making that impossible. ...more
I had not heard about the "intentional parenting" thing. Perhaps because my youngest of 3 just ...more

How to Use Instagram and Make it Your Blog's Best Friend

If you read the blogging better series, you know that I am a H-U-G-E advocate of using social media to market your blog. I talk a lot about Facebook and Twitter, but it kind of begs the question: what about Instagram? The truth about Instagram is that it is one of the fastest growing forms of social media, especially where blogging is concerned. It might seem counter-intuitive because you’re using photos instead of direct links, but Instagram is really a great space to grow your audience. If you can take a photo with a phone, you can use Instagram. To help you get started – or to take your account to the next level -- here are a few best practices to follow. At least, follow these if you are looking to grow your audience. ...more
I found this very helpful.  I am a new "instagrammer" and I am having fun with it, but I haven't ...more

All the Things Wrong With a 9-Year-Old Accidentally Killing Her Shooting Instructor

On Monday, a nine-year-old girl accidentally shot her gun instructor as he was teaching her how to handle an Uzi at anArizona gun range and popular tourist attraction called Burgers and Bullets. Image Credit: CNN...more
It wasn't "gun training." It was a tourist trap. Your argument is ridiculous.more

Comedian Tig Notaro Takes the Stage at BlogHer '14

Tig Notaro took the stage with BlogHer Co-Founder Elisa Camahort Page to talk life, personal setbacks, and what happens when you go viral—when you don't really know what going viral means. That's right. This not-on-Twitter comedian didn't realize people were tweeting and blogging a set of hers at Largo in Los Angeles, and woke up to an overflowing inbox, book deals, and you name it. She was baffled. ...more

Happy Labor Day!

I know that a lot of people – including moms! – still have to work, I hope everyone here in the USA is having a good Labor Day. For my peeps overseas, I hope you are having a nice regular day!However, being the progressive liberal that I am, I cannot help but offer up a reminder that, like Memorial Day, this holiday marks something for which people died....more

Hideaways

Hideaways     I wrote this post three years ago while caring for my mother.  She has since passed away but going through my older posts I thought it might be a nice one for caregivers to read to help you through the difficult days.  I know how hard it was at times.  We all need hideaways sometimes. Most mornings I wake at 4:30 and enjoy my ...more

The Day I Stopped Writing

My entire life I wanted to write.As a child I would spend hours in my room rewriting pieces of literature just to get the feel of the words in motion.  Just to feel the energy that comes from the art of creation.  I thought at the time, that surely every nine year old spends their afternoons doing this!As I grew older, I became a Poet.  Words filled my heart.  Moved me.  Motivated me.  Words loved me and I loved them back. ...more

Happy Labor Day! Teriyaki Hamburgers--perfect for your BBQ's

Happy Labor Day! Hope you all are having a wonderful day and enjoying a day off of work (hopefully) and a chance to be with your friends and family. Make sure and login to our website today to find all of the best Labor Day sales in your area ....more

Jennifer Lopez and Gwyneth Paltrow redefine feminine role models, says their trainer

Who's on your list of role models? Celebrity trainer Tracy Anderson, author of "Tracy Anderson's 30-Day Method: The Weight-Loss Kick-Start that Makes Perfection Possible," feels that Gwyneth Paltrow and Jennifer Lopez deserve top listings. ...more

That was a brilliant move! Well, at least you got ...

That was a brilliant move! Well, at least you got the car that you wanted without paying extra charges. And I think it also helped that you were well-informed with regard to the calculation, which is really important when you're shopping for a car ....more

Fitbit, Jawbone UP bangle and pedometers motivate exercisers to move more

In a race to finish first in the gadget world, wearable tech is posed to win. Shipments of high tech bands that monitor fitness have grown 700 percent in just one year, according to Entrepreneur. So what should weight loss and fitness enthusiasts look for when it comes to the perfect device to monitor their marathons, race-walking events or spin class sessions? The high tech world is buzzing about:...more

Are you overdue for new kitchen appliances?

I am notoriously frugal. I pinch pennies so hard Lincoln screams like a 13 year old girl at a One Direction concert (translation for non-Americans: I really don’t like to spend money). And here I am about to tell you to spend thousands of dollars replacing perfectly good kitchen appliances.Sort of....more

I'm glad my heart got broken

I was sixteen when I fell in love for the first time - or at least, I thought I had. We were childhood sweethearts; spent our first date and the many after in Mr Tucker's detention room at lunch break, drawing on pen tattoos and painting each other's nails with tippex. I was sure we were going places; I just didn't know where. Unfortunately, my teenage romance couldn't prevail past the school gates and it ended as quickly as it had started....more

Labor Day

School starting, Labor Day...the real start of the new year for many of us. The start of my favorite season...Fall. The crowds disappear, lines are gone, Publix is pleasant again on Saturday afternoon...Labor Day until Thanksgiving is my very favorite time of year..I hope everyone had a nice long weekend and we all have a wonderful Fall! ...more