How to Make Back-Tab Bedroom Curtains

Today, I’m sharing how I made my own bedroom curtains with blackout lining. I went with a 84″x54″ length, and three blocks (pattern on the top and bottom). It’s SO gorgeous in person. I am in love! ...more

Before You Judge: Here's What You Don't See

See that smiling woman cuddling her kids? You don't see her anxiety and her battle every day with post-partum depression. ...more

10 Reasons Moms Can Be Happy About Back to School

As the blogosphere overflows with back to school posts, frankly I'm tired of reading about it. I'm tired of reading about moms crying into their whiskey laced coffee mugs because Johnny started Pre-K. My kids haven't gone back yet. In fact, ...more

Jennifer Lawrence's Private, Nude Photos Were Stolen, Not Leaked

Why is everyone saying that the nude photos published this weekend were "leaked?" Does mis-naming horrible things make us feel better about them? ...more

I Broke Up With My Best Friend

Three years ago, I broke up with my best friend. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done—we've known each other for thirty-five years. I know it was the right decision, but there are many days when I still miss her. ...more

Glue-Tinted Glass Jars

Corral your desk chaos in crafty style with these adorable tinted jars. All you need is glue, food coloring, and letter stickers. The message you write is completely up to you. Consider customizing with someone's name for a fun and unique gift. SUPPLIES ...more

Things I'm Willing to Do to Save Money

Tuesday was one of my babysitting days. My mom came over, and we were discussing my husband’s and my frugal ways. She mentioned that she didn’t think a lot of other woman would be willing to do the things I do. This really made me laugh, because I think deep down the majority of people think that my penny-pinching husband is behind most of what I do . Well, that just is not true....more
Leighbra savingsinseconds sounds like we have alot in common.  It is amazing when you see the ...more

Healthy Snack Idea: Cucumber Boats With Everything Bagel Seasoning

Ask anyone who knows me well, and they’ll tell you that I loooove me some snacks! If I have one dietary downfall, it’s snacking. By a long shot. When done right, snacking is a great way to fuel up in between meals. But the kind of snacking I’m talking about (and which I’m guilty of) usually involves processed, nutrient-poor foods eaten mindlessly for reasons other than hunger....more

Why Doc McStuffins Is Not Enough

Doc McStuffins, Disney's black doctor character, is a"crossover hit." Sales of Doc McStuffins character products are evenly distributed by race and even gender, prompting a popular refrain about the virtues of colorblindness, as reported by the ...more

#IfMyPhoneGotHacked and Jennifer Lawrence: Let's Admit We Care about Privacy

Despite Biz Stone's optimism about the good things Twitter can accomplish in his new book Things a Little Bird Told Me, the reality of the site is that if you start a hashtag, you have a 50/50 chance of it being misused and abused, as is the case with #IfMyPhoneGotHacked.  Let me take that back... it's more like 20/80.  For a small number of people, that hashtag is a statement about their desire for privacy.  For many many others, it's a chance to share the dick pics they've been dying for someone to find on their phone, missing the point completely. ...more

The Unlikely Friendship of My Mom and Mother

Statistically, foster situations happen when one or both parents are completely incompetent for one reason or another. My mother wasn't incompetent, just overwhelmed. My father was an alcoholic who beat my mother. He was always in and out, sometimes gone for days (jail, most likely) and even months. Then one day, he didn't come back. He was just gone. I was five-years-old the last time I saw him. He said he would meet me on Friday at the bus stop. He wasn't there, and I felt devastated. ...more
Oh my goodness, what a beautiful and truly unique story. This definitely touched my heart. I am ...more

Jenee Darden Speaks about Robin Williams' Suicide and Living with Depression

Jenee Darden, who blogs at Cocoa Fly, was interviewed on camera by her local TV news station about her thoughts about Robin Williams' death and her own experience living with depression. ...more

When It Comes to Dating Liars, The Writing Is Usually on the Wall

I recently heard from a client I hadn’t talked to in several months.  She was almost in tears when she said, “Lisa, I just want to know one thing.  I want to know how to spot a lie.”...more
I was married to a man who lied constantly.  When you love someone, you believe the best in ...more

4 Easy Things You Can Do Today for Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

Ovarian cancer kills more women than any other reproductive cancer, but you probably didn't know that since it doesn't have an Internet meme attached to its fundraising efforts like the ice bucket challenge nor does it have a tween-boy-inspired bumper sticker campaign like "save the tatas" for breast cancer.  But we need to pay more attention to ovarian cancer: according to the Presidental Proclamation on ovarian cancer, 22,000 women will be diagnosed with it this year, and 14,000 will die from the disease. September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month, and there are plenty of proactive things you can do. ...more
Kim Court I agree! Thank you for sharing!more

5 Important Lessons Learned in My First Year of Blogging

I've read many blog posts where people share lessons that they've learned and mistakes that they've made. (That they vow never to make again.) Well, I would like to add a few of the things that I learned in my first year. ...more
One year is wonderful and sticking with something is so very important. I believe that most of ...more

Why "You Look Like Your Mom" Is the Worst Thing to Say to a Teen Girl

It happens often. When I'm out with my daughter, someone invariably exclaims, “Well, aren't you just the spitting image of your mother?” Outwardly, my daughter smiles. To the stranger, she seems thrilled to be given the comparison. To this mother's eye, I notice a faint twitch beginning to form behind her grin. Or maybe it’s just a bit of nausea coming on. Either way, she's clearly not pleased....more
@DOWNSINTERIORS BlogHer  12 seems like a million years ago so I can't remember if she was happy ...more

Don’t Read His Post If You Hate Fatphobia, Says Wil Wheaton

I support health at every size. I support doing what you personally have to do to feel good in your skin, and in your body. And if that means weight loss, then it means weight loss—in a healthy way that works for you, not by super-restrictive diets and starvation. So, Wil Wheaton, who recently mentioned that he was working on getting healthier and wanted to share that with his fans, has my full support. I totally think it's great he wants to be healthier. ...more
I tend to imagine he meant it as hyperbole. And my thoughts are exactly as he said "if you don't ...more

I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I say with heart. October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, but to me, a previous victim, I feel its awareness should be felt around the world on a daily basis....more
Tracy805 you said it yourself, "... going through" , you're not stuck, you can leave it when ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Help Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?"...more
This cracked me up. These are the last thing my husband would want me to wear. And wearing heels ...more

Pregnancy: Signs You're Ready To Have Your Baby

The last days of your pregnancy are, how do I say it, AWFUL! They drag on in slow motion while you uncomfortably, well, drag on. You simply cannot wait another day to meet that little bundle of joy that you’ve been dreaming about for nine months. You also can’t sleep, you can’t eat, and you can’t do simple things like put on pants or get into bed without an ass kicking from your sciatica nerve. Nope, you can’t wait to shoot that tiny human out of your baby maker. Here are 12 ways you know that you are really ready to have that baby. ...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

5 Ways to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary

How to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary What if you're met with an eye roll when you mention to the server that you have celiac disease? That doesn't exactly instill a level of confidence, does it? That's exactly what happened to me recently. It was a reality check about dining out gluten-free....more
stephbernaba It is my pleasure to share. I think it helps, even when we don't have all the ...more

The Importance of Sucking At Life

Failure, by its very existence, is as important to life as success, for without one, the other means nothing....more
As a fellow Type-A, I can relate to this. It's really good advice.more

Why I Didn't Do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

My news feed has been taken over by friends and family participating in the ALS ice bucket challenge.  I'm impressed by the sheer number of individuals who have stepped up and learned something about ALS, donated, or dumped a bucket of ice water on their heads in solidarity. It's really cool to see so many people rally for one cause. But I have not participated. ...more
I participated in the challenge because it is BRILLIANT. The ALS person / team who started this ...more

Amazon Fire TV: Farewell Cable Bill, Hello Great Viewing

For years, I've obediently paid my cable TV bill. And then moved, paid for a new installation, and paid some more. And paid as the bill went up. And then moved, paid for a new installation and... well, you get the picture.  Of course, my cable frequently went down due to what the computerized robot that always answered the phone at the cable company called "an unavoidable widespread outage." So when I read about options that would allow me to say farewell to my cable bill and hello to expanded show coverage as well as movies, I was intrigued. I only have basic cable, which means I get five channels and pay a ridiculous $35 a month for that privilege.  I decided to try Amazon Fire TV. ...more
Irish Duchess Yup, it's got ESPN: http://espn.go.com/watchespn/more

Hello Kitty is a Cat: My Open Letter to Sanrio

In case you haven’t heard, Hello Kitty is not a cat. Well, that’s what author Christine R. Yano was told by Sanrio (the company that owns Hello Kitty and her friends) when she was preparing her script for a Hello Kitty exhibit at the Japanese American National Museum. ...more
If it looks like a kitty and it's name is Kitty than it's a kitty.more

Why I Wore My Swimsuit this Summer for the Sake of My Family

Recently I came across a blog post on Facebook were a mom wrote about putting on her swimsuit, pushing aside her insecurities, coming out from under the sun umbrella, and taking off the coverup to… get this… ENJOY playing with her children in the water! So simple, yet something many of us, myself included don't do. ...more
prleebee Thank you! We all know what areas we don't like, but your comment is proof that how we ...more

Midlife: Between Youth and Old Age

You think about things. You think about how your grandmother was younger than you when you were born. How your mother was younger than you when you had your first baby. How much of your life is behind you, at 52. Most of the big events — the wedding, the births of your children, their college graduations — those things are done. ...more
I catch myself starting to say "when I was your age" all the time.  I know it sounds hokey (yes, ...more

What I Know About Marriage Helped Me Buy A Home

Our family just hit our third year anniversary in this home we live in. Three years ago, my husband and I went through the grueling process of house hunting, and the process was even further complicated by the fact that it was going to be an interstate move for us. Staying put was not an option because of my husband’s new job....more
Pecked2DeathByChckns Thanks Susan!  :-)more

New Season Breathes Life Back into Doctor Who

"Deep Breath," the title of Doctor Who’s season premiere, is more than just a reference to its featured villains (although, because said villains are cyborgs hell-bent on organ-harvesting their way to the status of "living," it’s a shame we won’t be spending more time with them). Based on the evidence, "Deep Breath" is actually a message to the fans, a warning that after several seasons of glossy explosions, love triangles, and soapy melodrama, their beloved show is about to head in a very different direction. ...more
Katy Anders  Thanks for your comment, Katy! I agree with you; based on the way they handled the ...more

18-Year-Old Cited for Waving Penis Out Car Window: Justified or Not?

If your kid was charged with waving a rubber penis out of a car window, how would you feel? First, I am not saying what he did was right at all. Small children could have seen this, and I'm sure it offended people. Personally, I would have laughed if it were just me and Chris in the car or even my older kids. Obviously they already know what a penis is. ...more
ShaunDakin You actually can't wave a gun anywhere you wish.  That is considered "brandishing" ...more

Featuring Our Voices and Photos of the Year Videos: Grab Some Tissues and Watch Them Now

The Voices and Photos of the Year Community Keynote is always a highlight of the BlogHer conference. This year was no different, as 12 readers took to the stage to share their written words with their voices. Sometimes they trembled due to the weight and emotion of the piece, but these strong, well-written, and well-spoken women stood at that podium and spoke their truth. Additionally, we honored all of our winners for our first ever Photos of the Year with three amazing photographers present on stage. ...more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such discussion was considered "indecent", and certain behaviors were punishable by arrest and imprisonment. This current level of openness in discourse also allows for candid, often difficult discussions of sexual harassment and assault, though we cannot exactly say that has lead to more arrests and imprisonment for offenders....more
Great post! I wish I could be that articulate when people start victim blaming and bashing ...more

Intentional Parenting Can Wait

I stood at the white picket gate in the backyard and felt it rising in me, from even deeper than the pit of my stomach. That unwanted feeling that I have become more familiar with than I ever wanted to be. Shame. I had snapped, again. I barked at the little face in front of me about being told to close the gate so the dog doesn't get out. I issued ultimatums that this was the last time I was getting up to help him fetch the ball from the neighbor's yard. Next time he was out of luck. I sighed that I just wanted to relax for a few minutes, and he was making that impossible. ...more
I had not heard about the "intentional parenting" thing. Perhaps because my youngest of 3 just ...more

Pregnancy After Child Loss: So…This is Getting Real

As you probably already guessed (based on the title of this post) – we’re pregnant!Thrilled, ecstatic, amazed, thankful, blessed…words can’t even describe.And also: terrified.I’m freaking myself out while feeling like I’m walking on air. It’s very weird, my friends....more

10 Tips for Packing Healthy School Lunches

I have several friends who have kids going into kindergarten. Many of them have asked me for ideas about how to pack healthy lunches for their kiddos without going insane from the time and effort it takes to make lunches every school day. I have been packing lunches now for six years, since my youngest was in preschool. My kids are now in fourth and first grade, so I've developed a pretty good system for getting their lunches made quickly, and relatively painlessly....more

My Wedding: A Story of Trials and Tribulations

I always pride myself on being the most organized and keeping a list of things to do for everything. I am a strong type A character and everything I do is built on structure and planning. However my wedding was one project that I couldn’t have anticipated or prepared for enough. The fact of the matter, it was a quite stressful process having friends, family, fiance and me, have all hands on deck in this massive two day event....more

Under Pressure: How to Raise Resilient Kids Who Handle Pressure Like Pros

So, that’s it. Pretty much anywhere you are in the northern hemisphere, kids are back in school. It’s always a shock to the system when you return to the chores of lunches to pack, homework to oversee and the myriad of activities that begin anew.While we get caught up in the pressure of our day-to-day doldrums, we forget that our kids are often under pressure as well.The adults in their lives expect them do as they’re told and do well in school....more

Invest in Yourself....Yes, You Can Afford It

"Invest in yourself and people will invest in you." -Andrea C. ImafidonHow many times have you denied yourself of something you need such as a financial coach, mentor, or investment in your business? How many times you said you cannot afford something but your splurge your money and time on mindless shopping, going out to eat, switching hairdos weekly and other things that don't serve your purpose? I am all for looking beautiful but don't you think it is time for you invest in your inner beauty and essence to match the outside? ...more

Weekly Book Giveaway: <i>Carry On, Jeeves</i>, by P.G. Wodehouse

In honor of back-to-school week, I've chosen something soothing for this week's Book Giveaway: Carry On, Jeeves, by P.G. Wodehouse. It isn't my favorite Jeeves-and-Wooster collection, but it's pretty much ideal reading for anyone feeling overwhelmed by constant demands for calculators, kleenex, and signed permission slips. As always, this contest runs Monday through Friday ....more

Introductions Are Always The Hardest

If you run, you are a runner. It doesn't matter how fast or how far. It doesnt matter if today is your first day or if you've been running for twenty years. There is no test to pass, no license to earn, no membership card to get. You just run. ...more

A Sweet Lunch Giveaway!

Yesterday I posted all about school lunches, and I hope I provided some good inspiration for those of you with school-age kids. ...more

in print. fall 2015.

I am so excited to finally tell you guys – I’M WRITING A COOKBOOK! AND. It’s all using one of my very, very, very favorite things: COFFEE ....more

Farewell Dear Stella

Mere hours before daybreak and an appointment that would have decided things for her, Stella shut off her own light. She did it with grace and dignity, on her terms, at the Bossy family house with her people lying on the floor around her. Ironically it was a woman named Kitty who was responsible for Bossy’s Great Dane ....more