What Not to Say at the Thanksgiving Table (& What to Say Instead)

Two topics seem to dominate the morning shows during Thanksgiving week: what is the most fattening thing on the table, and how to create the most decadent holiday menu. ...more

The Plight of My Youngest Child

Some days I feel like I've got things pretty under control. On those days that the children mostly got along with one another, and the laundry is mostly washed and mostly folded (if not mostly put away) and I've prepared a dinner that is mostly ...more

20 Fun Facts About Being 39

I am 39 years old. The big 40 is coming in April and I feel excited, nervous, proud, grateful, and again, nervous. I’ve already started thinking about what I want to do to celebrate the big day. Should I go to Vegas, Key West, Pentwater, Atlantic ...more

Connecting With the BlogHer Community About #Ferguson

BlogHer is a diverse community and never was that more evident than in our recent Twitter chat about #Ferguson. ...more

How to Practice the Art of Online Shopping

When I tell my friends that I do the majority of my clothes shopping online, they look at me like I am crazy. Little do they know that I am the queen of online shopping! ...more

How to Make Ugly Holiday Sweater Hama Bead Coasters

Perler beads, hama beads, melty beads: These wee little tubes of plastic go by many names. Traditionally thought of as a children’s toy, one quick look at Pinterest will clue you in that plenty of crafty adults have caught melty bead fever....more

Finding Love "Beyond The Lights": A Conversation with Writer-Director Gina Prince-Bythewood

Love is a comfort. Knowing someone loves you gives you courage and confidence in yourself. I want to share what I have with others so they know that it is possible. – Gina Prince-Bythewood...more

Teaching Young Children To Be Thankful

By Gena Kittner, Mommy Sanest contributor Getting a child to say “please” and “thank you” isn't terribly hard. We demand it. Want some fruit snacks? Say “please.” The Target lady just gave you a sticker, what do you say? But what I've been pondering, as the season of thankfulness is upon us, is how we teach our kids to mean it. In other words, how do we teach thankfulness? ...more
MommySanest genakittner BlogHer BlogHerFamily handwritten thank yous are lost art.more

Respect Our Police

Everyone in the country has an opinion today about the events that unfolded in Ferguson, Missouri. According to Twitter, it's assumed that because I am a cop wife, I automatically side with Darren Wilson....more
If I'm to respect the police, the police must also respect me. When I look back over 30 years of ...more

'What to Expect When You're Expecting' Left Out Some Stuff

Like most new moms, I bought the "What to Expect When You're Expecting" book. It introduced me to an entirely new vocabulary with words I'd only heard clicking through shows on TLC — episiotomy, amniocentesis, Pitocin. Image: velmegunar...more

Facebook Is Destroying Christmas for Me

Dear Mouthy Housewives, I am so sick of reading posts on Facebook like, "I've already finished my Christmas shopping! Gifts are all wrapped, too!" It's not even DECEMBER yet. What's with all the bragging about getting the holiday crap done before Thanksgiving is even over? I know Facebook is all about self-promotion, but this feels like too much. I would leave FB once and for all, but I like to stay in touch with friends and family. Any advice on not letting the eager beavers get me down? Signed,Shove It, Showoffs ...more

I Don't Have Kids but I'm a Happy Woman

Just as I passed the woman and her child, an entire gaggle of cats started singing "Happy Birthday." “Meow meow meow meow, MEOW MEOW.” The child was clearly delighted, so his mom opened the greeting card again: “Meow meow meow meow, MEOW MEOW!” “How revolting,” I thought, as I left the store to go to my quiet home. I’m not used to jarring noises like tinny, electronic singing cats. I’m not used to cartoons playing in the background. I don’t know any songs from "Frozen." I don’t even know the plot of "Frozen."...more
I was so happy to read your post because everything you said describes me also and I seem to be ...more

How to Follow the 80/20 Rule for Being Healthy

As a fitness professional, it's expected that I follow the rules. I work out almost every day, I rarely take a day off. I hardly ever eat out. I eat clean and commit to my daily Shakeology. Sounds good right? Where are those abs? Come on baby belly, when will you leave me? I still cheat almost daily. I allow myself to have one cookie. Sometimes I eat an extra carb. ...more
Enjoy them. By themselves they're not a big deal. Happy Thanksgiving.more

What Will You Get Your Trendsetter Friend This Holiday?

We all know that girl who is on top of the trends. She knows what's coming, going, and sticking around for a few seasons. (She's also pretty hard to shop for.) Try this list on for size.1. Kristin Cavallari Layla Sandal ($149)...more

10 Turkey Soup Recipes Your Family Will Love

What to do with that leftover turkey? Make turkey stock and turn it into mouthwatering and nutritious turkey soup, of course. I've scoured the interwebs looking at turkey soup options, and here are my top 10 picks. Of course, this is a subjective list, and no one person can ever find all the good recipes for turkey soup, so if I missed your favorite turkey soup, please tell us about it or share the link in the comments. ...more
Delicious! Great turkey soup recipes to share! The Tortilla Soup sounds especially good!more

10 Fun Snowflake Crafts You Can Make

The thought that there are no two snowflakes that are exactly like has always amazed me. You know what that means for crafts? When yours don't turn out perfectly it means you are doing it right. Your snowflakes are just behaving the way snowflakes are supposed to behave. But we don't think you'll have problems with these 10 snowflake crafts. ...more

The Day My Blog Ruined My Life

Okay, maybe it didn't ruin my life, but my misuse of social media threw me into a terrible controversy at my kids' school. Today's post is about irony. Well, irony and how I messed up my life and the lives of a few others. And how I'm sorry. So very, very sorry. I sit here thinking, analyzing and obsessing about the events that transpired a week ago and set in motion an unbelievable shit storm. As some of you know, I'm a health and development educator for adolescent girls. In fact, I have a whole presentation on cyber-safety and how girls should always be very careful about what they post online. But right now, I'm sitting here, stewing in my own shame. I imagine I'm feeling much like the 15-year-old girl who insisted she knew what she was doing when she texted her boyfriend a boob-shot that went viral. She intended it to be only for his eyes. ...more
Oh man, so hard. I feel for you too. It will blow over  but I do know that feeling of your gut ...more

The Most Effective Writing Question: What's Your Angle?

They say that there are no new stories. In fact, author Christopher Booker suggests that every story ever told is a variation on seven basic plots. So, how do you differentiate your story from every other comedy, tragedy, memoir, quest, or rebirth? The answer is in the specific angle you use to tell your tale. Consider Eric and Charlotte Kaufman's story. ...more

Remembering Director Mike Nichols Through His Movies

Meryl Streep's recent reception of a The Presidential Medal of Freedom got me thinking about my favorite films of hers, including one directed by Mike Nichols (1931-2014) — a filmmaker far beyond my generation but still beloved by many of us nonetheless. Image: 20th Century Fox ...more

What Story Are You Reading To Your Child?

Stories surround us every single day. Humans have been telling them since we first put smashed berry juice to cave walls. The stories we tell aren't confined to firesides or a lone writer with pen and paper in hand. They never have been. They swirl around us, so many times too fast properly hear. One swirls within us, narrating our thoughts and emotions, telling the passage of our life. “After nourishment, shelter, and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” ―Philip Pullman ...more
Wow, excellent article!  Thank you so much!  I've often thought the same things but have never ...more

Black Friday 2014: Your Essential Guide to Savings

The posts I’ve linked to here will help you discover when and where to shop for the best Black Friday deals, as well as which toys are worth your hard-earned cash. ...more

We Must Speak Up Because #BlackLivesMatter

Heart heavy, I forced myself to go to bed last night.Part of me wanted to throw the covers over my head and cuddle with my husband. To lose myself in some mindless television. But I couldn’t stop scrolling through my Facebook feed as my friends shared the same hurt, anger, and frustration that welled inside of me. More reason to hold my black husband tighter. More reason to check just one more time on my biracial children sleeping peacefully in their beds....more
What a wonderful post. I agree that everyone who believes that this decision is wrong needs to ...more

The Ferguson Case Goes Way Beyond What Happened at the Police Car

Yes. I have given Officer Darren Wilson the benefit of the doubt, considered that his version of events may be true. And yes, I did read Darren Wilson's Grand Jury testimony about the killing of unarmed teenager Mike Brown. I read it because I like to read documents first-hand and not have network talking heads or biased prosecutor Bob McCulloch tell me what to think. ...more
Nordette Adams Kristi Walker  Unless you edit it, you have no mention of Wilson's height or ...more

Top 10+ Gifts for Artists

I love writing the artist gift guide every year. It's like window shopping for all of the things I'd love to find under my tree. So many cool things to make. So many pretty things to look at. So much awesome art. Scroll through some of my favorites this year. I hope my favorites help you find the perfect gift for the artist or art lover in your life. ...more
yep -- no such thing as too many sketchbooks.more

Announcing a BlogHer PRO '14 Fireside Chat with Entrepreneurial Icon and Tech Founder Caterina Fake

This is an anouncement of a BlogHer PRO '14 keynote speaker, but bear with me while I reminisce. Eight years ago, BlogHer '06, our second conference, took place. One of my clearest memories of that year is the pride I felt in featuring a triumvirate of blogging pioneers who were early bloggers, were amazing and entrepreneurial women in tech, and most thrillingly had each co-founded one of the fundamental tools in use at that time for bloggers like us. ...more

How I Went from Breast Reduction Surgery to a Mastectomy

My first breasts were cartoonishly big, and maybe the only two things about me even slightly aligned with the current female beauty standard where we’re all supposed to look like a video game animation....more

What's Behind My Tears Over Ferguson

No indictment against the man who caused the death of Michael Brown. No need to investigate further, it just happened.A crying lump in my throat threatened to push its way into tears. I swallowed it back and sat glued to the coverage.I'm still ferreting out from where the threatening tears were coming....more
ace1028 I'm just glad you read them. Thanks. xomore

After Ferguson: We Are All Here

Better writers than me will discuss the events in Ferguson. They will be able to articulate things that I cannot. I only know a handful of things: Image Credit: Wikimedia Commons...more
Thank you for sharing this. I hope it makes at least a small difference.more

Why I Hate The Elf On The Shelf

I'm not happy about this post. I love mocking ridiculous things, but I feel most comfortable poking fun at stuff I like. Things like my college football team, my kids' quirks, my brother's ability to get free stuff from anyone he meets, and how my mom identifies herself by name when she leaves me a message. "Oh, hi Amy. This is your mom. Susan." My favorite target is myself. But today I turn my disdain outward, to a society that complains about consumerism and too many commitments, but spends $30 dollars for the privilege of managing the "magic" of a cheaply made stuffed elf during the busiest month of the year....more
EricElf  My grandkids love to find him and they get so happy. The Christmas spirit is all over ...more

How to Say Thanksgiving Grace

Editor's note: Mata, BlogHer's longtime and much-loved contributing editor on religion and spirituality, passed away in May of 2013. I can think of no better tribute than re-running this post she wrote in 2009, on giving thanks. -- Julie ...more
On Thanksgiving and before every meal.more

Make December a Little More Joyous With NaBloPoMo

So what is the NaBloPoMo theme of the month? ...more

10 Delicious Homemade Spice Blends to Spice Up Your Christmas Gift Giving

Christmas is a time when budgets are stretched, people are busier than usual, and we're all looking for some type of unique gift idea that will be a hit. In my cooking adventures, I often mix up spice blends to use for certain recipes. A few years ago I hit on the idea of making large quantities of one of my favorite spice blends from that year and giving it as Christmas gifts for neighbors, co-workers and friends. ...more
These look like great ideas! i love giving homemade spice mixes as gifts.more

Don’t Let Thanksgiving Dinner Be Your Last Meal

Don't Wash Your Turkey. It Could Kill You! You know what's even a worse Thanksgiving fail than politics at the dinner table, salt in the pie instead of sugar, or being stuck in #Snovember? Salmonella. According to the Centers for Disease Control, 1 in 6 Americans get food poisoning each year. That's 48 million people. 128,000 hospital visits. 3,000 deaths. Whoa. ...more
Good advice! And, yes, I'm definitely guilty of leaving things out because I want people to feel ...more

Juliana Loh Talks Macau, Food, and Travel

Juliana Loh of Chicken Scrawlings was recently featured on a talk show on Macau's national TV channel, discussing food, Macau, travel, and blogging. ...more

2 weddings... one month- What my dog teaches me

2 weddings... one month- What my dog teaches me Proverbs 12:10The righteous care for the needs of their animals, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel.Dogs, you have to love them. They want to play, chew, walk, love, chase squirrels... oh my goodness. At times it can be quite annoying, but then, as with everything in life, we have to know that we can always learn a lot from our dogs....more

Openness & Vulnerability

The other day, I briefly mentioned in passing that I struggle with openness and vulnerability. It's true. I do ....more

Keeping it Real

 It is mating season here in southern Alberta, and this morning I watched a large buck chase a doe down a boulevard in my neighbourhood. The doe stopped suddenly and turned to face her suitor, hopping side to side flirtatiously before dodging towards an elementary schoolyard. It was thrilling to watch from within the safety of my car, and thankfully a chilly snowfall has kept the both the schoolchildren and neighbourhood dog-walkers inside and out of harm’s way....more

Samuel Eto Marries Fiancee After 10 Years And 4 Children Together

International and Cameroonian soccer star Samuel Eto’o has got married to the mother of his four children, Ivorian Tra Lou Georgette in a private ceremony on Monday 24th November in Capiago Intimiano, in the Lake Como area, Italy.Eto'o reportedly proposed to Georgette back in July although the pair has been traditionally married since 2007. They have now been together for about 10 years.See more photos of the exclusive wedding below.Continue reading » ...more

Am I Pushing Myself Too Hard? – Still Trying to Figure Out This Whole “Routine” Thing…

Routine is a funny thing. My life is becoming quite disciplined and I’m still trying to decide whether or not this is a good thing. Up Early – Get Inspired – Workout – Stretch Up nearly every weekday by 5:30am, I’m out of the house between 5:40 and 5:50 to go to YYoga for either their 6:15am or 6:30am class ....more

Happy Thanksgiving and Instagram Holiday Contest!

I’m sitting here in my parents’ kitchen in Portland, OR. ...more

Police Release Video Of Officer Shooting and Killing 12-Year-Old Playing With Toy BB Gun

12-Year-Old Tamir Rice was playing with a toy BB gun a few days ago when someone called 911. Officer Timothy Loehman was new to the police force, and was one of the two policemen who came to check on the call.New preports released by the police and a CCTV video show that the officer shot the boy within seconds of arriving at the scene. The officer believed Tamir Rice had a gun, police say, and he thought the boy was 20 years old.Continue reading » ...more

Seoul Korea: Sweet Monster

Ice-cream seems to be so big in Seoul lately. In an earlier visit (March?) Softree had just opened up and the queues were insane but now that i went back again, there has been new ice cream stores everywhere! Sweet … Continue reading → ...more

Crispy Sweet Potato Roast with Parsley Salsa Verde

Oh man, ever since I saw this sweet potato recipe from Smitten Kitchen, I just couldn’t stop thinking about making this dish. I just loved that it is a savory sweet potato dish, and there is a delicious fresh sauce that goes on top and adds a burst of flavor and color. And the fact that you get nice soft baked potatoes AND the crispy edges on top is just perfection....more