11 Next Steps for Published Writers

While getting your writing accepted by a website you’ve aspired to be published on is a great accomplishment, your work isn’t over as soon as you get a "Yes!"  Once you get that coveted letter from an editor saying your work is going to be ...more

Falling in Love With My October Stitch Fix

It's STITCH FIX TIME! Am I a little excited? YES I AM! Am I making super corny puns in the post title? Heck, YEAH! That's right: There's shouting. And arms waving. And even a bit of booty shaking. Because I LOVE doing these posts, and ...more

How to Make a Halloween Spider Wreath

Today, I was able to finish up the Halloween spider wreath I'd been working on in between coats of paint in my office. It ended up quite a bit different than how I pictured it when I began (does that ever happen to you?), but I'm pretty happy with ...more

I'm Black. I Prefer Dating White Men. So What?

My girls and I were having an all-out disagreement about why I liked white guys. I said it was a preference. The girls were of the opinion that I had been conditioned by society to hate black men. I pointed out that I loved my two black brothers and ...more

5 Adorably Spooky Halloween Treat Ideas

Sweet treats can get downright scary as Halloween approaches, and BlogHer food bloggers do not disappoint, with their gorgeous and ghoulish creations. Here are five of our favorites. Image: Courtesy of Cookies and Cups ...more

Watch the Treats in Washington and Colorado: Tricky THC-Laced Candy Could Be In Your Treat Bag

This is the first Halloween since legal recreational marijuana sales began, and one thing offered by pot dispensaries are cannabis-infused edibles such as candies containing doses of THC, the chemical that gives the “high” in marijuana. Some are worried that the candies might be mistakenly (or intentionally) given to children during trick-or-treating....more
(I live in WA, where medical cannabis has been legal seemingly forever and recreational is more ...more

Homemade Fruit Leather

The first time I heard the words "fruit leather," the images that appeared in my mind weren't all that appetizing. When I found out that fruit leather is essentially the non-trademarked term for Fruit Roll-Ups, the bad images were replaced with good images, and I was happy because I love dried, sweet fruit that is rolled onto plastic. Especially when it's strawberry or raspberry-flavored. ...more

A Letter to My Son's Future Girlfriend

To the girl who will one day date my son: You are interested in someone very precious to me. My world turned right side up the day he came into my life and has never been the same since. When I look at him, all I see is a flashback reel full of baby rolls, big hugs, sweet smiles, and superheroes. Although I want nothing but happiness for him, I know he will need to make mistakes in order to grow and learn. Still... it would crush me to see him intentionally hurt or used....more

Do You Love Your Local Gay Bar, Too?

It had been one of those days where I was completely drained of all life and hope and any cheery molecules. It was one of those days that show up in my hair—the worse things get, the more my hair stands straight out, like I’m touching one of those electricity balls at the science center. What I’m saying to you is: I was having a bad day. Image: derekgavey...more

15 Seriously Cute Jackets To Wear Now!

What I love about fall is that you can toss on a jacket and voila! A tee-and-jeans combo instantly gets chic-er. There are lots of great jacket options out right now; everything from romantic fringed kimonos to edgy moto jackets—and each one adds a little somethin' somethin' to what you're wearing. Check out this roundup and happy window shopping! ...more

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: The Impact of Emotional Abuse

There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you.” Maya AngelouOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I’ve wanted to address the subject of emotional abuse for some time on my blog. I recently made a couple of new friends and heard their stories, and it’s prompted me to share some difficult things with you....more
I am currently going through something similar.  I have found that I needed to blog about it for ...more

Best New Books to Read This Fall

So Pumpkin Spice Latte has become the contemporary North American symbol for autumn, has it? Well, that's all fine and good: I love a good PSL as much as the next person, and fall is the best season of all. But why does the story stop there? After you buy or brew a PSL, fall doesn't stop there. What do you do next, when you have your beloved PSL in hand?  You have three options: rake leaves, find your way out of a corn maze, or read. The first two sound hard and boring after you Instagram one good shot. ...more
hi babe are you at the bookstore? I want every one of these books. thank youuuuuuuuumore

5 Reasons I Want to Quit Motherhood (Sometimes)

Some days I wish motherhood came equipped with a big red EJECT button for when things get really hairy. On those days I’d just mash that sucker and watch the flaming wreckage of my crappy day plummet back to Earth while I drift ever so gently down to—well, probably down to the general vicinity of the crash site, to fix everyone snacks and collect their charred laundry. Because I'm a mom. ...more
It would be awesome if there was a pause button on parenting.  Remember that show Out of This ...more

The Reflex of Deference: What Keeps Male Privilege Going

Deference is the wee tiny rock that women carry in their pockets, the signal to tell them to get out of the way, sit down and be quiet, but who put that rock there?...more
Beautiful (yet painful) post, Jan! I completely agree with you that females keep this 'little ...more

How Do You Say Goodbye When He Doesn't Believe He's Dying?

How do you say goodbye to someone who doesn't believe he's dying?...more
You didn't need to say goodbye. He will live forever in your hearts and in the stories you and ...more

I Was the "Black Working Mom" Example

When it came time to tell my manager about my pregnancy, I worried. I knew my explanations that I wasn't pregnant during interviews or I had found out after accepting their offer wouldn't matter. She'd just think of me as a risk....more

Don't Make This Horrible Parenting Mistake

When I was eight years old, I wanted to be a singer. When I was nine years old, I wanted to be an actress. And when I was ten years old, I wanted to be a writer. As I entered my teen years, my ideas of what I wanted to be varied each year, but wanting to be a singer, actress, and writer never left my mind. ...more
Good for you!! I think it's great advice.more

Lisa Steele on the Hampton Roads Show + More!

Lisa Steele, from Fresh Eggs Daily, was recently featured on her local NBC affiliate daytime lifestyle show, The Hampton Roads Show. ...more

In Honor of Rest: Don't Just Do Something, Sit There!

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is a nobler art of leaving things undone.” – Lin Yutang...more
DrCurly Meditation is a great way to 'don't do something, just sit there' - literally!  Even if ...more

How to Make a Haunted Halloween Playhouse for Kids

I love taking Halloween to the next level, and I love taking my kids along for the ride. I'm not saying I came up with the original idea of spray-painting an old playhouse to transform it into a spooky house—but I am saying that I added a few new funky spins on this Halloween classic I am pretty smitten with. Oh yeah, and the mini Halloween lovers in my house love it, too. ...more
Love this idea! Wish I had one when I was a kid! :Dmore

Can a Toddler Learn Anything from Yoga Class?

My daughter Emma and I attended her first toddler yoga class last week. The class was pretty much what you would expect for a course designed for 1-3 year olds. We barked as we did our downward dogs and alternated between mooing and meowing during cat-cow. The moms sang a cute song with “OM” in the chorus. Emma pushed me off the mat and tried to imitate the poses. The toddlers stole water bottles from each other. I laid quietly during savasana while Emma ran around the room, screaming at the top of her lungs. ...more
DoTryThisAtHome thank you!  i think its great too and am optimistic that at least some of it is ...more

5 iPhone Apps That Will Help You Blog Better

From underused-but-definitely-there apps such as Notepad to ones you may not have heard of, such as Buffer, here are 5 apps that every blogger should have on their iPhone. (And most come for Android too!) ...more

Toxic Mold in My House Almost Killed Me

A post detailing how black mold in my house destroyed my health is a piece that I have been wanting to write for quite some time. It’s very long, but I've broken it down for you into digestible bites. There is also a quick rundown of symptoms and diagnoses for you on the last page, so feel free to skip to that page if you're in a hurry. So let's start at the beginning. I have spent numerous hours on Google trying to find answers to my questions about mold symptoms. If you came across this post from a Google search, you are probably experiencing some of the suffering that I have gone through. ...more
alamodest,     thank you so very much for sharing, your story of your personal experence took ...more

11 Important Tips for Parents When Your Child Comes Out

Step 1: Take a deep breath. OMG, right? Big news. Or maybe it wasn't. Maybe you suspected this was coming. But you should still breathe anyway because you need do that to keep being alive. So this step applies no matter what. Get some oxygen into you. ...more
Thank you, Mary :) It's was a labor of love - much like parenting.more

Leaning In Didn't Help So I Tried Twisting and Turning, Instead

"Lean In." I read the book. I was enamored with Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg’s words. They spoke to me. It was like she had taken up residence in my brain and everything she said was meant for me and only me. I was inspired and the whole message made me want to lean even further in than I already had been leaning. After a few months of leaning I started to look like this: ...more

Would You Wear a Vibrator While Running Errands and Let Your Partner Control It?

The We-Vibe 4 Plus, if you haven't heard of it, is definitely a breakthrough in the world of sex toys. Not only does its shape make for an ideal snug fit (it's shaped like a U, and sort of clips into place), it has a remote control for fun within the home, but also, and the best part of all, it can be synced to your phone, too. What does that mean? Your partner can be anywhere in the world and control the speed and intensity of the We-Vibe 4 Plus as you wear or play with it. I know! I was just as confused, skeptical, and all OMG, too. So, my husband and I decided to put it to the test. ...more
Looks good :)more

You Can Be Anything You Want -- Except a Homemaker

Have you ever watched the show Wife Swap?The premise of the show is that two families switch wives for a week or two in order to see how the other family runs their household. The people that run the show obviously try to match up families that are polar opposites of each other, all in the interest of ratings and explosive confrontations. The country wife goes to the city and vice versa; the rich wife goes to the family who isn't making ends meet, atheist wife to Christian family, etc....more
The rest of the picture is not that husbands get to have free reign over their families - it's ...more

When School Asks You to Donate a Kidney, I Mean, Volunteer for the PTA

I have just returned home from our school’s first “PTA” meeting. I am feeling a bit mortified, really, at the way I behaved. I may have offended some people, and this was my first time meeting all the “middle school” parents. It's just that, having been told when someone asked me to become the “sixth grade class coordinator” that it was a “really easy, low key job,” I actually found myself gasping (audibly) for extra air so I wouldn't pass out in my kid's cafeteria when we got to item small “j,” under Roman Numeral X (ten), capital letter “Y,” regular number “8,” of the outline. ...more
Ahahahaha. We just want the LEFT kidney, geez what's the big deal??more

I Can't Trust John Grisham After Hearing Him Defend Pedophiles, Can You?

John Grisham : former attorney, best-selling author, apologist for sex offenders who watch child porn. Grisham recently gave an interview to The Telegraph discussing the U.S. legal system, including what he sees as harsh punishments against men who "got online one night and started surfing around, probably had too much to drink or whatever, and pushed the wrong buttons, went too far and got into child porn." ...more
Ms. Wanda and South Asian men.more

FetLife and The Single Gal: Submissive Does Not Equal Doormat

So, I've been on FetLife for a little over two years now and some of the messages I get still surprise me. Even when the messages seem sensible, I check out their profile and am caught off-guard by how different it is from the message. I guess things shouldn't surprise me since new members are always joining (and there are douches everywhere), but they do....more
Great read. Interesting how even FetLife brings the worst out of people.more

Why Does Gay Porn Turn Women On?

People watch pornography to feel sexual desire and arousal. The sensation of sexual desire (being turned on) is more highly rated and sought after in studies than the actual physical experiences during sex, for both men and women. We love to feel horny! But what makes men and women feel turned on differs....more

5 Best Walking Dead Premiere Moments

Wow is The Walking Dead back! The show racked in 17.3 million viewers on Sunday night. It beat out Sunday Night Football for ratings. Does that register? Walkers totally beat out sports. That is just crazy, plus The Walking Dead is an AMC show and is not even on network TV. TWD just keeps getting bigger and bigger each and every year. Image: AMC ...more
You were so right Erin!!!!!more

DIY Budget-Friendly Star Wars Halloween Costumes for the Family

Our costumes have always been homemade. The problem with homemade costumes when you're me is this: I have absolutely no sewing skills. Sure, I can re-affix a button to a shirt, but there have been several times my sweet, talented sister Jenny has attempted to teach me how to use a sewing machine and I've almost killed both of us. Multiple times. ...more
Lol thanks! Sadly only Noah will be wearing a Halloween costume this yearmore

Do Colleges Support the Satya Nadella Effect?

As my kids prepare for college, I wonder about the role of universities play in gender disparities in the workplace....more

2 weddings, one month... Coping with Thanksgiving

2 weddings, one month... May 2015- coping with Thanksgiving.Psalm 100:4Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to God and praise his name. Well Hi!Thanksgiving... What does that word conjure up in your mind?...more

Mom Guilt

I was reading a favorite blog this morning called Home Yoga. The author, Chrissy Staley, was talking about mom guilt and should we, as women, feel it (of course not)....more

Stranger Danger! The Walking Dead Shocking Moments S5E2

Dissecting The Walking Dead “Strangers” Episode. No Comic Book SpoilersEpisode two of the Walking Dead continues the plot of uncertainty. Though we have our Grimes group together with a few new additions, Rosita, Abraham, Eugene, Tara and Bob, it definitely feels like our television family is back again....more

Strawberry and Vanilla Cream Cheese Stuffed French Toast

My little princess had a specific request for today’s breakfast… french toast with strawberries inside! This was a very specific request… and a serious one! So I did a quick search to gather a few ideas to figure out how to make this happen! and did a careful search my fridge to see what we actually have (this was a 8 am request…).I found bread, eggs, cream cheese and strawberries… so it was time to roll up the sleeves and get started!...more
Darn. I just finished dinner and if I'd seen this before I made myself some grilled cheese...  ;-)more

Heart Watch: Day 5

iPhones and heart monitor transmitters have 2 things in common.  They both fall in the toilet if you keep them in your back pocket, and neither or them is waterproof!  I had the giant cell-phone/transmitter to my heart monitor tucked in my back pocket while I was working in the yard.  I had to go the bathroom.  Most of you know what happened next.  I went to the bathroom, got set to drop my pants, when-SPLASH!  In goes the transmitter.  I wish I could say I quickly retrieved it, but I have a severe phobia of toilet water germs....more

Heart Watch: Day 4

No word yet on what my heart is or isn’t doing.  The condition I’m being evaluated for is called atrial fibrillation.  It’s really common.   It’s when the top chambers of the heart flutter a little, or have an abnormal rhythm.  Most people have an occasional atrial fibrillation and there is nothing noteworthy about it.  For some people it is more frequent and can feel like your heart is racing or skipping a beat.  They usually don’t even treat it.  My cardiologist explained that it looks like my atrial fibrillation may be a type of rhythm that...more

Scary How Fast They Grow

Last night I took the girls to Wheeler Farm for the Pumpkin Days event.  All three of the girls loved it!  Wheeler Farm is a beautiful, historic, working farm that Salt Lake County Parks and Recreation runs in Murray, Utah.  It consists of an original farmhouse, barn and restored outbuildings.  It is right in the middle of the county and is stroller friendly and wheelchair accessible.  F...more

Watch the Treats in Washington and Colorado: Tricky THC-Laced Candy Could Be In Your Treat Bag

This is the first Halloween since legal recreational marijuana sales began, and one thing offered by pot dispensaries are cannabis-infused edibles such as candies containing doses of THC, the chemical that gives the “high” in marijuana. Some are worried that the candies might be mistakenly (or intentionally) given to children during trick-or-treating....more
(I live in WA, where medical cannabis has been legal seemingly forever and recreational is more ...more

Preventing Baby-Brain

Do you ever get the feeling that your brain is just working a little slower than it used to?  That ever since you’ve been pregnant, you can’t remember diddly-squat?  Are you constantly searching for your keys, your wallet, your sanity.. and wondering how you never misplace your children? ...more

How Do You Stay Busy?

Lately, I have been focused on staying busy. This morning I abruptly tore my fridge apart, cleaned it inside and out, then I folded laundry and put it away to sweeping my floors and taking my dogs out. Oh and go grocery shopping which I forget vegetables and cat food *insert palm to head*.Some days I am like this, I don’t know if it is mania or what, but its like I am on an engine revved and it has gas that until its used up, it doesn’t stop....more