9 Easy Swaps to Help with Frugal Budgeting

[Editor's Note: This great list of suggestions spans clothes to food to utilities.]Budgeting and saving doesn't have to mean sacrificing. It might just mean making small changes or tweaks in what you've been accustomed to. Swapping should be easy and ...more

(VIDEO) See the 2014 Voices & Photos of the Year Videos!

The Voices and Photos of the Year Community Keynote is always a highlight of the BlogHer conference. This year was no different, as 12 readers took to the stage to share their written words with their voices. Sometimes they trembled due to the weight ...more

6 Things to Do with Leftover Tomatoes

Got tomatoes? Here's a rundown of ways to put up your maters, from basic canned tomatoes to salsa, ketchup and more.  1. CANNING TOMATOES  ...more

4 Hot Polish Trends for Fall

Why wait until the leaves change color before you change your nail polish shades? As seasons change, so does your makeup. ...more

Get Over Your Fear of Free Weights

I've enjoyed working out at home for a while now. I don't have to worry about crowds or what I look like. I don't even have to wear clothes. I did weight training at home with what we had in the house, but I wanted to lift heavier and branch out ...more

Why "You Look Like Your Mom" Is the Worst Thing to Say to a Teen Girl

It happens often. When I'm out with my daughter, someone invariably exclaims, “Well, aren't you just the spitting image of your mother?” Outwardly, my daughter smiles. To the stranger, she seems thrilled to be given the comparison. To this mother's eye, I notice a faint twitch beginning to form behind her grin. Or maybe it’s just a bit of nausea coming on. Either way, she's clearly not pleased....more
BlogHer my daughter is 12 and she still smiles when ppl tell her she looks like me. Don't know ...more

Don’t Read His Post If You Hate Fatphobia, Says Wil Wheaton

I support health at every size. I support doing what you personally have to do to feel good in your skin, and in your body. And if that means weight loss, then it means weight loss—in a healthy way that works for you, not by super-restrictive diets and starvation. So, Wil Wheaton, who recently mentioned that he was working on getting healthier and wanted to share that with his fans, has my full support. I totally think it's great he wants to be healthier. ...more

I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I say with heart. October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, but to me, a previous victim, I feel its awareness should be felt around the world on a daily basis....more
It is so sad and shocking to hear stories like this. But you are very brave and sounds like you ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Help Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?"...more

Pregnancy: Signs You're Ready To Have Your Baby

The last days of your pregnancy are, how do I say it, AWFUL! They drag on in slow motion while you uncomfortably, well, drag on. You simply cannot wait another day to meet that little bundle of joy that you’ve been dreaming about for nine months. You also can’t sleep, you can’t eat, and you can’t do simple things like put on pants or get into bed without an ass kicking from your sciatica nerve. Nope, you can’t wait to shoot that tiny human out of your baby maker. Here are 12 ways you know that you are really ready to have that baby. ...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

5 Ways to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary

How to Make Dining Out Gluten-Free Less Scary What if you're met with an eye roll when you mention to the server that you have celiac disease? That doesn't exactly instill a level of confidence, does it? That's exactly what happened to me recently. It was a reality check about dining out gluten-free....more

Before You Judge: Here's What You Don't See

See that smiling woman cuddling her kids? You don't see her anxiety and her battle every day with post-partum depression....more
Excellent points. My anxiety tends to try to convince me that everyone hates me. I've tried to ...more

The Importance of Sucking At Life

Failure, by its very existence, is as important to life as success, for without one, the other means nothing....more
I so wish I would've known all this stuff so many years before I learned it. Yes, you can do ...more

Why I Didn't Do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

My news feed has been taken over by friends and family participating in the ALS ice bucket challenge.  I'm impressed by the sheer number of individuals who have stepped up and learned something about ALS, donated, or dumped a bucket of ice water on their heads in solidarity. It's really cool to see so many people rally for one cause. But I have not participated. ...more
@DoctorPragati I did not take the ice bucket challenge as I was not led to do so. I have the ...more

Amazon Fire TV: Farewell Cable Bill, Hello Great Viewing

For years, I've obediently paid my cable TV bill. And then moved, paid for a new installation, and paid some more. And paid as the bill went up. And then moved, paid for a new installation and... well, you get the picture.  Of course, my cable frequently went down due to what the computerized robot that always answered the phone at the cable company called "an unavoidable widespread outage." So when I read about options that would allow me to say farewell to my cable bill and hello to expanded show coverage as well as movies, I was intrigued. I only have basic cable, which means I get five channels and pay a ridiculous $35 a month for that privilege.  I decided to try Amazon Fire TV. ...more
I'm totally with you on this one. I almost feel liberated not having cable and sticking it to ...more

Protect the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act

As kids across the country are going back to school, Congress is also returning to work after a long summer break....more
Hunger is such a deterrent to learning. We're starting a food pantry at my kids' school this ...more

Hello Kitty is a Cat: My Open Letter to Sanrio

In case you haven’t heard, Hello Kitty is not a cat. Well, that’s what author Christine R. Yano was told by Sanrio (the company that owns Hello Kitty and her friends) when she was preparing her script for a Hello Kitty exhibit at the Japanese American National Museum. ...more
I totally agree and maybe it is a very badly executed marketing ...but like that song by Neil ...more

Why I Wore My Swimsuit this Summer for the Sake of My Family

Recently I came across a blog post on Facebook were a mom wrote about putting on her swimsuit, pushing aside her insecurities, coming out from under the sun umbrella, and taking off the coverup to… get this… ENJOY playing with her children in the water! So simple, yet something many of us, myself included don't do. ...more
Go you!  You are brave and smart and are setting a wonderful example for your little miss.more

15 Grilling Recipes for Your Labor Day Cookout

Labor Day marks the end of summer—and the weekend many of us host a blowout cookout for all our friends. Here are a ton of great recipe ideas to send off grilling season with a bang. BURGERS Image: Tracey’s Culinary Adventures ...more
Great collection of recipes, can't wait to try those stuffed mushrooms!more

Midlife: Between Youth and Old Age

You think about things. You think about how your grandmother was younger than you when you were born. How your mother was younger than you when you had your first baby. How much of your life is behind you, at 52. Most of the big events — the wedding, the births of your children, their college graduations — those things are done. ...more
A beautiful read. Thank you for this.more

DIY // How to Make Back-Tab Bedroom Curtains

Today, I’m sharing how I made my own bedroom curtains with blackout lining. I went with a 84″x54″ length, and three blocks (pattern on the top and bottom). It’s SO gorgeous in person. I am in love!...more

What I Know About Marriage Helped Me Buy A Home

Our family just hit our third year anniversary in this home we live in. Three years ago, my husband and I went through the grueling process of house hunting, and the process was even further complicated by the fact that it was going to be an interstate move for us. Staying put was not an option because of my husband’s new job....more
Great comparison! And after reading your post it got me thinking... I bet people who can commit ...more

New Season Breathes Life Back into Doctor Who

"Deep Breath," the title of Doctor Who’s season premiere, is more than just a reference to its featured villains (although, because said villains are cyborgs hell-bent on organ-harvesting their way to the status of "living," it’s a shame we won’t be spending more time with them). Based on the evidence, "Deep Breath" is actually a message to the fans, a warning that after several seasons of glossy explosions, love triangles, and soapy melodrama, their beloved show is about to head in a very different direction. ...more
Katy Anders  Thanks for your comment, Katy! I agree with you; based on the way they handled the ...more

18-Year-Old Cited for Waving Penis Out Car Window: Justified or Not?

If your kid was charged with waving a rubber penis out of a car window, how would you feel? First, I am not saying what he did was right at all. Small children could have seen this, and I'm sure it offended people. Personally, I would have laughed if it were just me and Chris in the car or even my older kids. Obviously they already know what a penis is. ...more
ShaunDakin You actually can't wave a gun anywhere you wish.  That is considered "brandishing" ...more

Featuring Our Voices and Photos of the Year Videos: Grab Some Tissues and Watch Them Now

The Voices and Photos of the Year Community Keynote is always a highlight of the BlogHer conference. This year was no different, as 12 readers took to the stage to share their written words with their voices. Sometimes they trembled due to the weight and emotion of the piece, but these strong, well-written, and well-spoken women stood at that podium and spoke their truth. Additionally, we honored all of our winners for our first ever Photos of the Year with three amazing photographers present on stage. ...more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such discussion was considered "indecent", and certain behaviors were punishable by arrest and imprisonment. This current level of openness in discourse also allows for candid, often difficult discussions of sexual harassment and assault, though we cannot exactly say that has lead to more arrests and imprisonment for offenders....more
sosvoltaire Our sexual identites are constructed based on how we identify ourselves through ...more

Intentional Parenting Can Wait

I stood at the white picket gate in the backyard and felt it rising in me, from even deeper than the pit of my stomach. That unwanted feeling that I have become more familiar with than I ever wanted to be. Shame. I had snapped, again. I barked at the little face in front of me about being told to close the gate so the dog doesn't get out. I issued ultimatums that this was the last time I was getting up to help him fetch the ball from the neighbor's yard. Next time he was out of luck. I sighed that I just wanted to relax for a few minutes, and he was making that impossible. ...more
I had not heard about the "intentional parenting" thing. Perhaps because my youngest of 3 just ...more

How to Use Instagram and Make it Your Blog's Best Friend

If you read the blogging better series, you know that I am a H-U-G-E advocate of using social media to market your blog. I talk a lot about Facebook and Twitter, but it kind of begs the question: what about Instagram? The truth about Instagram is that it is one of the fastest growing forms of social media, especially where blogging is concerned. It might seem counter-intuitive because you’re using photos instead of direct links, but Instagram is really a great space to grow your audience. If you can take a photo with a phone, you can use Instagram. To help you get started – or to take your account to the next level -- here are a few best practices to follow. At least, follow these if you are looking to grow your audience. ...more
I found this very helpful.  I am a new "instagrammer" and I am having fun with it, but I haven't ...more

All the Things Wrong With a 9-Year-Old Accidentally Killing Her Shooting Instructor

On Monday, a nine-year-old girl accidentally shot her gun instructor as he was teaching her how to handle an Uzi at anArizona gun range and popular tourist attraction called Burgers and Bullets. Image Credit: CNN...more
It wasn't "gun training." It was a tourist trap. Your argument is ridiculous.more

Comedian Tig Notaro Takes the Stage at BlogHer '14

Tig Notaro took the stage with BlogHer Co-Founder Elisa Camahort Page to talk life, personal setbacks, and what happens when you go viral—when you don't really know what going viral means. That's right. This not-on-Twitter comedian didn't realize people were tweeting and blogging a set of hers at Largo in Los Angeles, and woke up to an overflowing inbox, book deals, and you name it. She was baffled. ...more

Retiring Baby: When Your Little One Grows Up

It's the night before the first day of school. Everyone's in good spirits, some more excited than others, but it's good enough. My youngest sat in bed, cuddling his little blue bear, “Baby.” I smiled as I remembered the first time I gave him that bear. He was a small guy, maybe three-years-old. He was going to bed and experiencing his typical nighttime anxiety, not wanting me to leave the room until he was fast asleep. I sat at the edge of his bed and picked up the little blue bear, and put it into his arms. He quickly cuddled it. ...more
Avery Lane So sweet! Gotta love those teddy bears. I will definitely save my son's Baby forever.more

I Went On a Blind Date with My Husband and It Was HOT

Never let it be said that you can’t teach old dogs new tricks. At 54 and 49 respectively, Henry and I have been married 14 years, together for 17. I know the map of his body as well as my own. His flat feet kept him out of the service. The large black mole on his right shoulder blade must be removed whether it’s cancerous or not. His luxuriously furred, muscular chest is his sexiest feature. His nose is shy, leaning to the right as if it would prefer to go unnoticed. ...more
Love it! Too cute! I may have to try this with the mister :)more

4 Hot Fall Nail Polish Trends to Wear Now

Why wait until the leaves change color before you change your nail polish shades? As seasons change, so does your makeup....more
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September

September. That came up rather quickly, didn’t it? I remember when summer seemed to last forever, a long stretch of endless days of reading, riding bikes, playing outside, camping ....more

SEC comes down on Breached Companies

If you’re wondering if businesses, who’ve been targets of cybercrime, have been properly handling the fallout, you have company: The U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission.The SEC is investigating this very issue. Key Questions Include:...more

A Mother’s Difficult Challenge

A Mother’s Difficult Challenge

Create Your Own Button and String Closures

Have you ever crafted with printable clear sticker paper? We can use it for gorgeous labels, but a little something different today. Why don't we use it to create clear button and string attachments for our envelopes?...more

Rusty Bedspring Marquee Lights

Hi, all ! Happy Labor Day!...more

Heart every body

“I’m saying goodbye to August, and hello to September your soft days, and golden lights are glittering in our hearts as the shadows lengthen into darkness. Hang on to summer as long as you can, winter come around sooner then we think, and it outstays it’s welcome by far too long.” My previous post “If we were to meet” was a light hearted challenge getting your to describe yourself in 10 words or less. A few words to describe your sparkling personality, some to describe your physical look ....more

Keepin it real in our master bath

We "may" have been getting a bit lazy about keeping things in their place in our master bath. ...more

Selfless Signal-Boosting (September)

Recommend someone else‘s writings/events/fundraisers etc: this signal-boosting thread is a complement to our long-standing Shameless Self-Promotion Sundays. Use this thread for ICYMI links and anything else you think other readers might find interesting. Especially welcome are links to those who are blogging on issues Feministe has not recently addressed (the links can be to older posts, just something you’ve found recently relevant)....more