The Whiteness Project: What Does It Mean to Be White?

Watching the videos from the first installment of The Whiteness Project—24 clips filmed this July in Buffalo as part of documentary filmmaker Whitney Dow's project—was uncomfortable, and sadly revealed nothing surprising. How do you ...more

9 New Books to Curl Up With This Fall

So Pumpkin Spice Latte has become the contemporary North American symbol for autumn, has it? Well, that's all fine and good: I love a good PSL as much as the next person, and fall is the best season of all. But why does the story stop there? After ...more

Understanding the Impact of Emotional Abuse

There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you.” Maya AngelouOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I’ve wanted to address the subject of emotional abuse for some time on my blog. I recently made a couple of new friends and heard ...more

15 Seriously Cute Fall Jackets

What I love about fall is that you can toss on a jacket and voila! A tee-and-jeans combo instantly gets chic-er. There are lots of great jacket options out right now; everything from romantic fringed kimonos to edgy moto jackets—and each one adds a ...more

How to Make Your Own Fruit Leather

The first time I heard the words "fruit leather," the images that appeared in my mind weren't all that appetizing. When I found out that fruit leather is essentially the non-trademarked term for Fruit Roll-Ups, the bad images were replaced with good ...more

We're Making History! A New Political Party for Women

Yesterday in New York City, Hillary Clinton Governor Andrew Cuomo, Kathy Hochul, and Christine Quinn gathered to support equal pay for equal work for every New York woman. They were there to support a new political party called Women's Equality Party that's already received support from the likes of Lena Dunham, Anna Wintour, Christie Brinkley, and film producer Jane Rosenthal, amongst others. Check out the list here:

Low-Carb Jalapeño Bacon Biscuits

Everyone loves those Red Lobster cheddar biscuits, right? Today's recipe is a kicked-up version of those—with just one quarter of the carbs. According to their nutrition facts, each Red Lobster biscuit has 16 grams of carbs, whereas each of my biscuits have only four grams total carbs, and just two grams net carbs once you subtract the fiber. After making today's batch, I had to physically restrain myself from eating all of them, so be prepared to have your willpower tested once these come out of the oven. ...more
LadyGourmet Thank you!  They are addicting, to say the least.  I have a hard time stopping at ...more

5 Easy and Fun Last-Minute Halloween Crafts

I know people who start their Halloween crafts in September. I applaud their obviously superior organization skills, because that is so not the way things roll for me. The way it works in my house: I look at the calendar, realize Halloween is a few days away, and then I say, "GAH!" So here's a list of crafts for the BlogHers like me out there who need fun Halloween crafts they can whip together quickly. ...more

I'd Rather Be Home Alone, Listening to My Radio

I’m dating my radio. OK, don’t get judgy. And before you picture me in my New York City apartment, sitting endlessly in my jammies, singing “All By Myself” into a hairbrush-cum-microphone, surrounded by ten cats, let me first say that I’m still kind of a babe and, frankly, men dig me. Done. But in a city such as this, where people are strange when you’re a stranger, you long for a connection. However, there’s a genuine difference between being alone and feeling lonely. ...more

Will This Election Put More Moms in Office?

There it was, on the website, in great big black bold letters:Midterm Elections See Surge in Tough-to-Lure Candidates: Young Moms...more

I'm Your Girlfriend, Not Your 'Bro'

I've been reading a book called Gone Girl for the past week and just finished it yesterday. One of the things I see repeatedly in the chapters is the phrase, "the cool girl" (e.g. "He wanted me to be the cool girl" or "She's the cool girl type")....more

The Real Reasons Parents Love Internet Lists

When I say I love a list, I'm definitely not talking Grocery or To-Do. (Those are illegibly scrawled on scrap paper you inevitably throw out so you feel less guilty about forgetting everything on them.) I'm talking the new wave of Internet information provided in beautiful bite-sized segments that all parents can jump in and out of lickety-split. Because we all know the days of being curled up in a window seat under a fresh stack of fragrant new books, as sunbeams dance across pages of essays and 1400+ wild word musings arelong gone. ...more

When You Still Want to Blog Even Though You've Been Silenced

As some of you know, I’ve been all over the place on blogging. I’ve been a daily poster, blogging every day. At the moment, I’m considering myself accomplished if I post once or twice a week. Just enough so that my friends know I’m alive. You see, I’m finding blogging challenging. But it’s not because I’m burnt out. In my offline life, I’m in the middle of something I can’t write about. So I am chilled. Quieted. In multiple ways, silenced. ...more
For me the TTSNBN isn't happening to me,but it's taken over my life. But I can't talk publicly ...more

Parenting Kids With Disabilities: How to Get Through Tough Times

When parents like me talk about our kids with disabilities and intense support needs, we have to be thoughtful. We need to make it quite clear that our kids are much-loved and very awesome human beings. We should never, ever state or imply that any challenges we face as a parent are our children's fault. We need to handle their privacy with delicacy. And we shouldn't accidentally enable disrespect towards children who are already too-frequent magnets for morbid fascination, and pity....more
@lauranne agreed, and that's why we need to help parents get Bette informed about *available* ...more

Ebola in New York: Doctor Tests Positive for the Disease

Ebola has reached New York City. A 33-year-old doctor named Craig Spencer who treated patients in West Africa through the Doctors Without Borders program has tested positive for the disease in New York. Bellvue Hospital is kicking into its emergency plan, but this new case raises alarm. Whereas the average suburban dweller may come in close contact with dozens of people per day, the average city dweller who takes the subway, walks the crowded streets, and lives in a large apartment building comes into contact with many, many more. ...more
Here's a good info video from Dr Oz...who knows this guy too.  ...more

Plaid: The Key To My Heart

Plaid is EVERYTHING this fall, and I am loving it! ...more

Falling In Love Again After Divorce

After getting divorced many years ago, I never dreamed of getting married a second time. I had a household of three children who were all under the age of ten. Being a single parent is a very hard job and having a relationship just complicates things. I am one of those women that you would call a "soccer mom". I have my children in private schools, music, sports, and just regular old family time. Back then, we would leave home at 6 am every morning and most nights get home after 7 pm. After 7 pm there was no time to do anything but have dinner, take baths, and go to bed....more

12 Salad Dressings That Will Transform Dinner Forever

As I create recipes for my blog, I keep tabs on all the salad dressings I've made with a little document that includes the ones I use most. These dressings are the ones I come back to time and time again, because they are flexible and tasty. Once you have these dressing recipes under your belt, you can transform endless salads! All the following recipes will dress a salad of 4 to 6 servings. ...more

10 Surprising Turn Ons

It seems like every week there's a new study out claiming to boost your libido. Some of them make sense, but a lot of them are flat out bizarre. We rounded up 10 of the strangest sex boosters, in case you were looking for a new way to get in the mood....more

The Ottawa Shootings Can't Take Away My Canadian Identity

I was sitting in a Starbucks in Toronto when I saw a tweet that stopped me in my tracks. A soldier had been shot at the National War Memorial in Ottawa—where I live. It was followed up by another tweet telling me that the shooter was in Centre Block of Parliament. I looked around … and no one was reacting. No one else knew. ...more
It was tragic and extremely shocking for our country.more

How Did You Handle It When Your Son Told You He Had a Girlfriend?

My 12-year-old started his second year of middle school — his first year alone without his big brother, who has moved on to high school. I listened to him share stories about his classes, his friends, the clubs he joined. One day to my surprise he called me with some news. Image: damo1977...more
BlogHer it did :)more

It's Not Your Kids That Make You Time-Starved: It's Your Spouse

So much for you and your marriage partner working together to share the burdens of family life, regardless of who does what or how much. Turns out that it's actually married moms who are feeling the stress and pull of time starvation the most, not single moms, according to a new survey about the growing segment of "breadwinner moms" around the world, released yesterday by global communications firm Ketchum, in partnership with BlogHer. ...more

Easy Pop Culture Halloween Costume Ideas

Bored with being a generic devil, cat or ubiquitous Freudian Slip again this year? I know you are. A costume drawn from pop culture hits all the marks, because it lets you find your tribe of fellow fans and lets you enter a universe you love without the long term commitment of cosplay community forums. Also, pop culture costumes are typically pretty easy to pull off. ...more
I love this post! Smelly Mellie made me giggle.more

An Evening with BlogHer: Building Your Blog for Business in 2015

Are you looking to build your blog for business in 2015? Then you can't miss this great Meetup we're announcing that will take place on November 6, 2014 from 6-9 PM. A preview of what we'll be covering at BlogHer PRO '14 the following month on December 3 & 4 (register now!), the meetup will help you get started on a great 2015. ...more

Why We Need to Push for Universal Pre-K

With the school year well underway, how many mothers have the pre-K programs they so desperately need? ...more
No. No. No. Less government in our lives. That's what we need.more

The Beautiful Ugly of Motherhood: More Like Teen Mom 2 Than Leave It To Beaver

The phrase “beautiful ugly” is a term used to describe a fashion model whose striking features could be considered either beautiful or ugly, depending upon the eye of the beholder. An apparent contradiction, it prompts one to reconsider their natural inclination to separate two extremes that are inherently related. It is a saying that in many ways describes certain characteristics of another highly esteemed occupation. Motherhood....more
danamatas  I can agree with the idea that the media portrays certain ideals for moms, sometimes ...more

Godinterest: Fabulous Site for Christians or Copyright Nightmare?

When I first heard about Godinterest, I was immediately intrigued. Being a devout Christian is not always the easiest thing to be in the online universe. Actually, "fitting in" and finding others who have similar views on social media can be one of my biggest daily trials. But here was a new site that was designed just for me. Or so it seemed. It is basically Pinterest for Christians. ...more
I tend to agree with you Laura!~  Good point on the "be of the world" issue.more

5 Important (but Random) Lessons Teens Need to Know

You thought you had a lot of lessons to teach your toddler? Well, I hate to break it to you, but potty training and spoon feeding are only messy in the literal terms when it comes to the lessons you will have to teach your teens and tweens. Most of our kids' friends are pretty smart and self-sufficient, but every now and then we'll talk about something and they have no idea how they would solve the issue. ...more
You might think this is a given, but show them how to do housework. I was at my ex's one day and ...more

Have You Turned Into Your FATHER?

When I was a kid, one of my favorite books was called “Mom, You’re Fired!” I still remember the bright yellow cover featuring an exasperated girl, nearly pulling her hair out in consternation at her mother, depicted in black and white in the background, cluelessly going about her job of embarrassing her daughter. ...more
hahah, definitely. and before reading this piece, I never thought of it that way, but yes. :)more

Finding a New Home for an Adopted Puppy Taught Us a Lesson About Our Adopted Children

This week I’m speaking to actor, writer, producer and parent of two, Dan Bucatinsky. You may recognize him from last week’s premiere of “Marry Me,” where he plays one of Casey Wilson’s two Dads. You may also have seen him on the Showtime comedy “Web Therapy,” coming back this Wednesday night. And that’s just a few of his recent credits....more

Don't Make Fun of Your Neatnik Friend: She Might Have OCPD

I have always been an anxious person. Whenever my mother would get angry or upset, I would follow her around the house until she grew happy again. Let me tell you, it usually had the opposite effect....more

What to Do If You Think Your Friend Is Racist

Dear Mouthy Housewives,I think a friend of mine is kind of racist. She always mentions if someone is black or Jewish or Hispanic. She doesn't say anything negative, but she whispers their ethnicity when it's not pertinent. Like: "There's a new waiter at the wine place. He's BLACK." She says it in this derogatory way.Should I say something or just let it go?Signed,Am I Friends with a Racist Person?...more
Timely post. I just posted a similar concern about a family member. Thanks for this.more

New Pew Research Confirms the Worst About Online Harassment

A new study from Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life confirms the worst news about online harassment. It is pervasive, endemic, and disproportionately levied against women. What we have done so far to deal with it isn't helping. As horrible as these findings are, do they offer ways to help safeguard ourselves, to be better Internet citizens, or to change the onslaught of harassment and danger? ...more
Great post. Tweeted it.more

Melting Witch Decorated cookie

Halloween is always a great time to make some funny things in the kitchen. This cute cookie, a tribute to the Wicked Witch of the West from The Wizard of Oz, is one of my favorites. ...more

In Conversation With: Video Interview Innovator Katrina German

Katrina German is the co-Founder of, a platform to create and share video interviews. We were introduced through a mutual friend (another Canadian) who said in his email introduction that “we had to meet” this may come as a surprise to some, but no, not all Canadians know each other). Our mutual love of social media over TV and laughter made a fast connection. Katrina is a social entrepreneur and speaks regularly about social enterprise and women entrepreneurship. She is in the CBC’s Top 40 Under 40 and also has been nominated for a Canadian DigiAward....more

In Conversation With: Lawyer, Coach & Management Consultant, Lenore Horton

Lenore Horton is an over-achieving badass, otherwise titled as an attorney, consultant, and serial entrepreneur. Lenore and I met when she was a newly minted attorney making her first dents in her newly minted law degree. She stood out from the crowd. Life has tossed her many adventures which I’ve delightfully followed (mostly these days via Twitter, she’s @LenoreHorton). Lenore currently heads up the law firm LFH ESQ, and the consulting group, KETNOI....more

5 Tips for Eating Out Cheaply

Most people enjoy eating out, but with the economy sluggish, it can be an expense that many families just cannot afford on a regular basis. While it would be nice to have a home cooked meal every day, the fact is that in today's fast-paced society, there are many days where dinner comes at a restaurant table. So, how can you still work in the growing expense of eating out with kids? We do not eat out as much as we have in the past, but I have tried to stick to some "restaurant rules" to keep costs down while still enjoying a meal out....more

In Conversation With: Mobile Tech Entrepreneur Lisa Abeyta

Mobile and New Mexico – yes, those two things will be synonymous if Lisa Abeyta has anything to do with it. A visionary who’s passionate about people, Lisa is the founder of APPCityLife, a company passionate about bringing community services to mobile.  Founded in 2009, Lisa has created a company with a track-record of revenue and acquisitions: in early 2013, Lisa acquired patented mobile publishing platform, Appliciti, and the technical talent from OnQueue Technologies....more

In Conversation With: Mobile Tech Entrepreneur Lisa Abeyta

Mobile and New Mexico – yes, those two things will be synonymous if Lisa Abeyta has anything to do with it. A visionary who’s passionate about people, Lisa is the founder of APPCityLife, a company passionate about bringing community services to mobile.  Founded in 2009, Lisa has created a company with a track-record of revenue and acquisitions: in early 2013, Lisa acquired patented mobile publishing platform, Appliciti, and the technical talent from OnQueue Technologies....more

In Conversation With: Mobile Tech Entrepreneur Lisa Abeyta

Mobile and New Mexico – yes, those two things will be synonymous if Lisa Abeyta has anything to do with it. A visionary who’s passionate about people, Lisa is the founder of APPCityLife, a company passionate about bringing community services to mobile.  Founded in 2009, Lisa has created a company with a track-record of revenue and acquisitions: in early 2013, Lisa acquired patented mobile publishing platform, Appliciti, and the technical talent from OnQueue Technologies....more

You Matter

When this year’s convocation speaker finished, every teacher in the audience had two things on their mind: 1. “My classroom is nowhere near ready.”  2. “What are we having for lunch?”...more

From scratch or homemade?

So my sister-in-law started me down another cooking philosophical rabbit hole (which I think we will call cuisinological conundrums from now on). My brother and I don’t speak often, not because we don’t want to, but because we don’t need to. I’m there for him and he’s there for me, when the chips are down....more

Can Alex's Story Teach Others To Have Compassion For Animals?

This morning I ran across an article about a grossly emaciated dog in New Orleans that disturbed me greatly.  As a rabid animal lover (who is the proud pet parent of four dogs, a guinea pig, and a bearded dragon), I was shocked not only to see the condition that this poor baby was in, but to know that a number of other people had to have seen the incredibly dire state that this dog was in.  Other people had to see that he was starving and needed help.  Yet they chose to do nothing.  ...more

And So It Begins.

I sat there staring at the screen trying to let the words sink in. Thigh gap.I mean, honestly, this couldn't actually be a thing, could it?As we all know not to do and immediately regret but we still do it anyways, I Googled it. T-h-i-g-h g-a-p * click * And there they were. Pasted before me were hundreds of girls and women with their feet perfectly placed together and there, between their tanned, toned legs, I found what I had hoped not to find. Gaps. ...more