26 Things You Learn at 26
As I prepare to say goodbye to good ole' twenty-six, and give a warm hello to twenty-seven, I began thinking about all that this last year has taught me.
Twenty-six was full of trials and tribulations, excitment and opportunity, and overall I grew leaps and bounds. It earned me a new career, renewed confidence in myself, and an appreciation for all that I have been through.
Here is a compliation of 26 things that I learned at twenty-six, which will hopefully make me a (much) smarter twenty-seven year old.
1. Cultivating a better sense of self-not everybody’s doing it. Not everybody gets more mature, driven, or self-aware as they grow older. Don’t waste your time on these people, there’s too many awesome ones to surround yourself with.
2. Sometimes you’ll hate your day job. Don’t give up.
3. Follow your passions. They are the surest source of true joy, and will never lead you astray. Unless your passions are boozing and drugging- find something that doesn’t involve numbing yourself to the world around you.
4. Accept your past. You can’t change it, you can’t will it away, and you certainly can’t continue apologizing for it. Love your past, it helps shape you into the amazing person you are becoming.
5. It’s not bad to have lots of acquaintances, as long as you’re okay with those acquaintances not showing up for you. Acquaintances are for networking, best friends are for showing up. Just be sure to keep the two straight.
6. Married by thirty? Maybe. If not-it’s not the end of the world.
7. Kids by thirty? Forget it. I won’t be done with being selfish by then.
8. And that reminds me…the idea of having children is no longer automatic. Becoming a mother has always been an assumed part of my life plan, but I’ve come to realize it’s not a necessity at this point. I would love to have them, but I am not planning my life around a ticking biological clock.
9. Your words don’t determine who you are, your actions do. However, be sure to keep your words kind.
10. If you don’t want to eat the whole tub of ice cream, just don’t buy it. Quit deluding yourself that you’ll have any amount of self-control once you have that sucker home alone.
11. Sunday funday is no longer defined by bottomless mimosas. It’s beach days, quality time with loved ones, and Netflix marathons.
12. Your bed is an investment. Forget old pillows and crappy mattresses, ain’t nobody got time for that when you’re working a 50+ hour work week. Take a note from me and double up on that mattress topper!
13. You constantly question your purpose. My therapist tells me that’s normal. We’ll go with that.
14. Meditating is healing. It’s also freaking hard. Trying to sit still for ten minutes or more with a clear head is next to impossible. On the list of “things to work on” for twenty-seven.
15. Superficial attraction vs. actual attraction to a person- it’s different and it matters.
16. You’ll start to care less about what others think of you. Which means you’ve learned to accept yourself. Appreciate this.
17. You have to date a lot of the wrong people to know when you’ve found the right one. Still haven’t found the right one, but I must be getting close with all the wrong ones I’ve gone through!
18. Living with two girls or more is hell. Living with only one is a much better dynamic.
19. A good roommate situation is vital to happy living. Sometimes, you may end up in living situations that suck the life out of you. Eliminate this as soon as possible. Having a respectful, kind roommate makes your life infinitely better.
20. Juice. It’s no longer cute, or acceptable, to ignore your body’s need for nutrients and balance. An unhealthy diet is also detrimental to the aging process. Juicing is a great way to give your system the boost it needs- any gal on the go can appreciate this.
21. Your parents really are the coolest and best people in your life. Well, maybe not always the coolest. But they are always there for you, giving unconditional love and support when you need it the most. I love you, Mom.
22. Failing teaches you your strength. There’s nothing like letting yourself down in a spectacular way to truly learn the hardest lessons. Keep it up, it’s the best way to grow.
23. Live minimally, splurge occasionally. Occasionally does not equal daily. This applies to shopping, manicures/pedicures, food, vacations, and dessert. Go ahead and have seconds, or thirds, of the birthday cake.
24. The importance of love, kindness, and understanding. Learning to give rather than take these things will make you a better everything, and lead to a happier you.
25. Act like a fly on the wall. I’m an emotional person, and this doesn’t always lead to me reacting in the best way. I’ve found that if I’m in a stressful situation, and I imagine myself as a fly on the wall, I can get some distance from it and act in a much more logical (and dignified) manner.
26. Most of the time you have no flipping idea what you are doing. Just roll with it. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. That’s what your twenties are meant for, figuring it all out.
Twenty-six was good to me. I think twenty-seven is going to be even better.
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