30 Ways to Sneak in Special One-on-One Time With Young Children
By Parenthappy.org on August 22, 2014
In the hustle bustle of stressful family life, it is more important than ever to spend special one-on-one time with each child. Kids adore the attention, the fun, and the indulgence of having one parent all to themselves. What’s not as obvious is just how meaningful it can be for parents. If you are a parent who feels exhausted from doing laundry, dragging multiple kids to swimming lessons, refereeing arguments, or cleaning up spills, having special time with just one child can actually put the zip back in your step, the magic back in the moment.
What makes special time special?
It’s one-on-one. A child who is used to sharing you with a fussy newborn sister or a potty-training brother finally gets you, the most important person in his or her little life, all to themselves.
It invites complete presence. Naming time as special makes it more likely that you and your child will give each other your full attention. No iPhone, no Dora the Explorer, no phone calls. Giving someone your full self is a powerful present.
It’s fun. Labeling special time as such subconsciously makes you and your child look forward to it. It will be different from the stress of getting out of the house when you’re late. It will be different from the routine. There will be laughter. It will be fun.
How to Make Special Time Even More Special
Give your child a job to do. If you take your child to the car wash, ask him or her to vacuum the car for you. If you take your child out to eat, ask him or her to be in charge of buttering the pancakes or scooping the extra food into the take-home box. If you take your child swimming, ask him or her to be in charge of locking things up in the changing room. It doesn’t matter what the job is. When you give a child a defined role, they feel useful, cooperate more, and feel even more important.
Let your child make a choice. Give your child a choice about something during the special time. Ask your child if he or she wants to play tee-ball or soccer at the park. See if he or she wants to hold the light bulbs or be the tester to turn on the light. Letting a child make a choice gives him or her ownership and investment in the experience.
Have fun. Remember that the most important part of special time is to have fun together. Look into your child’s eyes, embrace your inner goofball, tease gently, throw your child in the air, tickle, smile, and have fun together.
Make a preview. Before special time, you can make a list of 3 to 5 things you might notice. For example, if you are going to the zoo, you can list that you might see the fountain, go on the carousel, play at the playground, jump in the ceramic kangaroo pouch, and get a hot pretzel. Before you go to the hardware store, you can talk to your child about finding the paint, the saws, and the place where they make keys.
Take photos and/or videos. You can have your child be the photographer, or you can take photos or videos and show them to your child when you get home. You may decide to print them out and make a small scrapbook for your child to look through later.
Make a related art project before or after the experience. If you fly a kite with your child, you may help him or her make an art project of flying the kite with colored construction paper, scissors, and glue. If you brought your child to the car show, you might print out a picture of his or her favorite car and let him or her paint it a favorite color. If you are going to go to the pool, you might make a collage before you go of magazine pictures of kids playing in water.
Play about the experience. If you visit the largest tower in your city, you can pretend like you’re building it with blocks together when you get home. If you take your child to the dollar store, you might draw a bunch of fake dollars and “play” dollar store with your child, a toy cash register, and aisles of toys you have already. If you go to the arboretum, “play” arboretum at home by making a booth where you check your child’s membership card as he or she “drives in” through the gate on his or her toy truck.
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