5 Things Stay-at-Home Moms Do Not Sign On For
By tattedmom on September 28, 2012
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- Playing Nicely with Other Moms -- Yes, we are stay-at-home moms who have less interaction with the outside world on a daily basis than working moms do. Yes, we need time away from the family to do things we'd like to do, just as much as the next mom (if not more). This, however, does not mean that we are needy and will latch on to the first woman or mother that we come into contact with outside the home. This includes wives of Hubby's friends, other moms at the weekly play group we take our kids to so they get outside interaction with other kids their age, or members of the PTO. When (or if) we find a mom-friend that fits well into our lives and personalities, then we will turn off the bitch switch and become friends. But it will be our choice to do so, and our choice alone.
- Giving Up on Our Hopes and Dreams -- Many stay-at home moms become stay-at-home moms because it's what we always dreamed about: growing up, getting married, having children and focusing on the family and kids. Some of us lucked into it, and some of us, because of the current state of the economy, can't afford to work outside the home. For whatever reason, especially for those who lucked into it or have to make the decision because daycare is too expensive, just because we are home with the kids does not mean we do plan on bridging the gap between mom and woman at some point. Whether we want to go back to college and get our degree, or start our own business, or eventually go back to a career we left behind, we have the right to do so. Don't think that because we are stay-at-home moms that's all we aspire to be. Even if it's the only dream we've ever had, we aspire to be the best stay-at-home mom we can be.
For those who have happened upon this post because you are struggling with the decision of whether or not to become a stay-at-home mom, the things above are things you don't have to settle for, or sign away on the dotted line. When becoming a stay-at-home mom, I will tell you that you do sign on to clean up various bodily secretions from your children, cooking, cleaning, playing referee (if you have more than one kid), laundry, being a chauffeur, sleep deprivation, moments of craziness, the household shopping, sometimes the budgeting, playing doctor, teacher, psychologist and general overall CEO of the home. But you are your own boss (sometimes answering to the Hubby, but we only let them think they are in charge), get loads of free time to pursue hobbies and dreams if your kids are in school, get to know what's happening in your kids' lives on a daily basis, and get to help build strong, responsible, independent children. It's totally worth signing on the dotted line, if you ask me.
~ Tatted Mom
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