5 Tips To Help You Get Over Your Ex

Falling in love can feel like falling off a cliff.  It is a giant leap into the unknown, accompanied by enormous butterflies and incredible joy.  It’s scary, but the pull to move forward and keep the connection and passion alive is overwhelming. That’s why we all do it, right?

We all decide to jump off a cliff at some point in our lives.  But sometimes things don’t work out the way we thought they would. The connection was strong and all the ingredients all seem to be there, but for whatever reason, it fizzled out.   The one BIG lesson I learned from all of it, is to move on as quickly as possible.

So ladies, learn from your heartbreak, but don’t let it take over your life.  Good things will come.  You just have to keep the faith.  Here are 5 tips to help you do just that!

Tip 1-  CLEANSE YOUR LIFE-  Get rid of the things that remind you of him.  If you used a blanket together, get rid of it. Old pictures, lock them away. Then, clean your room completely. Really get in there and invite Mr. Clean to help you.  This is a new life and it requires a new, clean room. Spray a new scent in the air, light a candle and open your windows. 

Tip 2- MEET MANY GUYS.  I am talking about TONS of guys.  Make new friends all over the place.  Talk to shy guys, outgoing guys, happy guys, civic-minded guys.   Ask them to introduce you to new guys too.  

Tip 3-  FIND A NEW HOBBY OR VOLUNTEER:  Nothing re-energizes you like learning something new or discovering a hidden talent.Volunteering also helps because the act of giving makes you feel really good!

Tip 4- AVOID COMPARISONS- When you are out with new guys, avoid thinking about how these “new guys” are pale in comparison because your ex would do ______ for you and these guys don’t.  No new relationship is going to be like your last.  Do you really want it to be like your last? Really? What’s the fun in that?

Tip 5-FIND TIME TO CRY-  When you keep your feelings bottled up inside and just focus on anger or avoid thinking about it, you are not healing.  Cry, scream and let it all out. Don’t let it sit in your body. 

It's time to get over your ex, he wasn't that great to begin with. He was just human, like you.


Stay True,



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