9 Empowering Values That I (Try) To Live By
During my childhood, my family both taught and conveyed to me the importance of self-worth. These values came in handy because growing up as an African-American girl in the 1980’s, the outside world seemed to hold me in little or no esteem.
Below are the 9 values which my family instilled in me:
- You are responsible for the care and feeding of your own self-worth.
- Bring the best version of yourself to the table. However, realize that ultimately you cannot control other people and their perceptions of you.
- Hating on someone else will eventually poison your own harvest.
- There is a difference between not liking someone's character and hating on them because you are jealous of their talents and success.
- Stay out of the mean girl coven. The mean girl coven will lead you down the wrong road. It is a dangerous cult and in the long run the “protection” that they offer is both fleeting and false.
- Channel your angst into something positive.
- Life is not always fair. It is not life’s job to be fair. However, don’t let this reality prevent you from being optimistic.
- Empower other women to pursue their talents and gifts.
- Hold space for other women to make choices and lead lives which may vastly differ from yours.
These values are not always easy to live by. Some days, I just want to hand over my self-worth to someone else to sustain…just for a little while. I have not always brought my best self to the proverbial table of life. In addition, I have sometimes allowed the unfairness of life to cloud my optimism.
Yet, these values have given me a standard to live by and I credit them for providing a bounty of emotional, mental, and spiritual sustenance.