Why Should I Be the One to Get Attacked?

One of the reasons I chose to live in this small town was its low crime rate. I know most of my neighbors (even if some of them aren't my favorite people in the world), and I've never felt unsafe. I often walk my dogs late at night right through the ...more

Check Out This Adorable Crocheted Nursing Necklace

About a month ago, I received an email from a friend of mine who recently had a baby. She asked if I would be interested in seeing if I could make her a nursing necklace. In case you didn't know (because I had no idea before she emailed me), a ...more

Why I'm Giving Up Dairy Completely

I've made the decision to join the ranks of those who have decided to give up dairy due to health reason. I know it sounds strange, yet with the research that I've done, it's one of the best decisions that I could make for myself and here's why. ...more

Why Discussing Natural Hair Is Different for Black Women

I'm not denying that women of all races can have similar experiences when it comes to hair and identity, but "similar" does not mean "same," and these differences should not be overlooked or dismissed. Learn the roots of the movement.  ...more

I Wanted to Resist Daycare

I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, to be able to nurture my kids 24/7 from birth until school age. That was the goal. I have friends who can’t even fathom that fate. To them, it sounds like pure misery. They are great mothers and they love ...more

Deep-Throating 101: 3 Ways to Improve Your Gag Reflex

You're a woman who enjoys performing oral sex on your male lovers. Either you've been doing it for years or you only recently came to love it, but it's your thing. Unfortunately, you've been struggling with going deeper; the idea of deep-throating makes you gag (literally!) and you want to take your skills to the next level. I have a few tips that just might help you out. (Note: I am considerate of people who have battled with eating disorders and for whom gagging/purging has been an issue....more
*takes notes* Well, I'll never look at my toothbrush the same way again!more

My Son Was Born With a Bull’s-Eye on His Back: One Year After Trayvon Martin

In between Oscar Grant’s killing by a BART police officer in Oakland, California, and Trayvon Martin’s fatal shooting by a neighborhood watch captain in Sandford, Florida, something changed. I became a mother—a mother to a baby boy. Soon—not tomorrow, but soon—I will have to have The Talk about what others assume about him, about his life, about his intentions as he browses through a store or strides down the night’s sidewalk. ...more
debontherocks Thanks, friend.more

DIY Taco Seasoning: Skip the Store-Bought Stuff

I love making my own seasonings at home. You never need to worry about not having them on hand, thus avoiding running to the store like a maniac last minute. Plus, they always test better in my opinion. Making your own seasonings can also save you some money. I highly recommend giving it a try. Here’s my version of the store-bought taco seasoning mixes. Gather all your spices and measure them out. ...more
Thanks for sharing.  I hate the chemical taste of packaged taco seasoning.more

Just Add a Kid T-Shirt: My Last Post on "Black People Are Monkeys" (I Hope)

I hope this will be the last thing I ever write about the history of White people portraying Black people as monkeys, but unfortunately, at some point I'll probably have to write something on this topic again. This racist insult repeats, repeats, repeats. ...more
Very well written, good job!more

How to Plant a Pineapple + a Pineapple Pot DIY

Pineapples are still the hot summer design trend. Don’t believe me? Check Pinterest. In the spirit of the pineapple, I thought I would show you how to grow your own, PLUS make a DIY pineapple-riffic planter. ...more
This is so creative and so cute!! Pinning to try as soon as I buy a pineapple! Thanks for the idea!more

Watching High vs. Low Class Struggles in Food Network's Cutthroat Kitchen

Cutthroat Kitchen is burning up the summer, off to a strong start with its fourth season on Food Network. I don't know whether to love it, hate it, or to make a bread pudding after tearing up my love-hate and covering it with an "I see your class struggles, First World" custard topped by a caramelized "WTF" glaze. ...more
Deb Rox Indeed!!more

Dear 'Unapologetically Fattist' Daily Mail Writer: I Am Unapologetically Human

The average newborn is 7.5 pounds. I came into the world at 10 pounds, so you might say I’ve been a Plus Size Princess since the beginning. I was eight when I began feeling bigger than the other girls. I was 12 when my pediatrician wrinkled her nose and bluntly told my mother that I was fat. I’ve been dieting, losing weight … and gaining more back ever since. ...more
Ahem! I am working towards adopting your attitude of being unapologetically human in the body I ...more

I Thought My Sister's Death Was a Lie

This spring I dreamt that my sister Bobbie wasn't dead. She hadn't committed suicide after all. She was coming home. It was 1966 again and I was 10 years old. She was 21, just like before, and I sobbed for joy when she came to the door, in her familiar beatnik style, looking somewhat detached and cold, but there. After all, I never saw her body — they said it was too far gone for me to see — so her death really may have been a lie, camouflaged amidst my parents' many other deceits. ...more
I am so sad for your loss and for your brother as well. I hope that  both of you have been able ...more

You Can (and Should) Set Relationship Boundaries

Recently, I was asked for advice from a beautiful twenty-something young woman who is helping me to rediscover fitness in my life. She needed some dating advice and I was flattered that she thought I could offer some helpful information to her. After all, it has been awhile since I was twenty-something....more

5 Unconventional BlogHer '14 Tips That You Simply Must Follow

DISCLAIMER: If you are looking for a “Are you ready for BlogHer?” post that talks about things that you should do to your website, how many business cards to order, and what types of shoes to pack for the maximum amount of comfort during the conference, this isn’t it. I repeat, THIS IS NOT YOUR TYPICAL “GETTING READY FOR BLOGHER” POST. ...more
Still trying to figure out what a chevron is that doesn't involve gasoline, LOL.more

Another Fun and Useful Conference Resource, Thanks to Our Sponsor Skype

Last week I announced the BlogHer Buddy System, brought to you by Official Communications Sponsor, Skype. Have you signed up yet? Have you accepted my Skype invite, so you can get added? Did you know you have to go to Skype to see your Skype invites and groups...it doesn't come to your email? Or did you know that, and you just don't want to connect to me?...more
cdrdash Yay :)more

How to Find Lost Items Using Psychic Powers (Really)

Approximately three months ago, I was losing my mind.Anyone who has planned their own wedding can probably relate to this. The stress of planning, combined with starting a new job and board exams had me at the point of total melt down....more
Rita Arens :( I was almost sure that my bracelet was gone forever. Losing something you love is ...more

The Most Important Lesson I Taught My Daughters I Learned from Halle Berry

When I hear the name Halle Berry, I immediately think of three things: her gorgeous face, her adorable pixie cut, and her messy break-ups. She is often in the press for her impeccable red-carpet looks, her cosmetic company endorsements, and her roller coaster of a love life. However, when it comes to giving parenting advice, her name doesn't appear on any lists that I know of. Nevertheless, one of the most important lessons I ever taught my daughters is a lesson I learned from Miss Halle Berry herself. Funny thing is, I doubt that she even knows what a perfect example she is. ...more

My Brother Took a Walk and Never Returned

You never think it will happen to you, not your family. Even the most paranoid and anxiety ridden of us never truly believe reality could be this cruel. We hear the news stories, we see the families huddled together, broken and scared, desperately hanging onto their prayers. We glance at the posters briefly, if we stare too long the picture might become too real and force us to imagine the nightmare. But then somehow, out of nowhere, everything we once knew shatters as we're dragged into one of life's horror shows. ...more
I am so sorry for your family. I am hoping and praying for your family.more

Goodbye Milk: I’m Giving Up Dairy and Here’s Why

I've made the decision to join the ranks of those who have decided to give up dairy due to health reason. I know it sounds strange, yet with the research that I've done, it's one of the best decisions that I could make for myself and here's why. ...more
I hope this works for you! I stopped eating dairy about 15 years ago and it totally changed my ...more

Starting a Blog is Like Having a Baby

I know what you were thinking when you started your blog. You had a kid. It was hard. It was boring. It was stressful. So you decided, hey, I'll start a blog! That'll make me feel like my life's worth living again. But what you didn't know was that all the hard, boring, stressful stuff you were trying so desperately to escape wasn't going to end at your laptop. Oh no. It was only the beginning. Because having a blog is exactly like raising a kid. Exactly.* ...more
So totally reassuring!  Thank you!more

I Don't Need a Man to Walk Me to My Car. But I Want One.

One of the reasons I chose to live in this small town was its low crime rate. I know most of my neighbors (even if some of them aren't my favorite people in the world), and I've never felt unsafe. I often walk my dogs late at night right through the middle of downtown without a second thought in regards to my safety....more
This makes sense, to me.more

Thrift Store Princess

Once inside the thrift store, I was in AWE. I wasn’t ready for the scent of mothballs hitting my nose, but my eyes had never seen so much beauty in one warehouse. This hideaway housed vintage pant suits, '80s-styled clutches, and a ton of sparkly jackets calling my name like a heavenly choir. ...more
I love thrift stores!  My mother and I used to go often enough that we knew which day of the ...more

Most Adorable DIY Crocheted Nursing Necklace

About a month ago, I received an email from a friend of mine who recently had a baby. She asked if I would be interested in seeing if I could make her a nursing necklace. In case you didn't know (because I had no idea before she emailed me), a nursing necklace is a long, chunky necklace made with wood beads and cotton yarn. (It can be made with plastic or other materials too, but the wooden ones are what my friend wanted.)...more
That is a cute idea!more

Will Having Sex Before a Big Game Help Your Chances of Winning? Maybe?

Well, it seems like our previous World Cup sex article was a bit premature. A new study is shutting down the debate on whether sex has an effect on a team's chances to win it all for their country. ...more

I Wanted To Hate Daycare But I Don't

I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, to be able to nurture my kids 24/7 from birth until school age. That was the goal. I have friends who can’t even fathom that fate. To them, it sounds like pure misery. They are great mothers and they love their children, but they love being able to split their time between work and home as well. The idea of being with their kids all day long sounds awful to them. ...more
I love this post!  Thank you for being brave enough to admit that daycare actually can be good ...more

What's Wrong With Pink LEGO? (Nothing!)

I'm going to post something a little (lot?) controversial here. I don't have a problem with LEGO Friends. I just don't. ...more
LindaCSmith I agree Linda! I feel these sets are adding diversity, not forcing anyone into ...more

The Best Fruit Smoothie Ever?

When I started this journey of finding the right combination of foods to make the perfect fruit smoothie, I tried many things and--yes--experienced some really bad smoothies. Yet, I'm so excited that I started this journey because I feel that I'm getting to the "perfect fruit smoothie" stage. Let’s set a basic foundation first. ...more
I don't do smoothies because I have a milk allergy and I can't drink soy milk because of my ...more

What Does Your Blogging Family Tree Look Like

During a previous Selfiebration #BlogHer14 Twitter chat, Carter Gaddis chimed in with something that made us all go, hmm. He said, "I haven't been to BlogHer yet, but if @mrdougfrench had a blogging family tree, I'd be a little twig out on the edge." Which started me off on a wonder trail: Who is part of my blogging family tree? ...more
You are one of my blogging Aunties! Along with @dtanton and @sassymonkey @tfigiliomore

I Get Cranky When People Call Me a Writer

When I chose to start a blog, I didn't do so because I saw myself as a writer, or that I could impress people with my way with words. Because I am not a writer. I'm a rambler. I write the same way I talk, which is usually fast and all over the place. I open an empty post box and it's like spitfire. ...more
Southernbellecharm you're so not alone! I think if I focused on all those tiny little mistakes ...more

Black Women, White Women, and Natural Hair

The burn of a relaxer on my tender scalp.The hiss of the hot comb against my untamed roots.The fear of moisture in all of its iterations: rain, sweat, ocean.The anguish of getting the most minor trim because length--not health--was paramount.These are the memories I carry of the never-ending battle to hide the state of my kinky hair. It's an experience belonging to sisters all over the globe, this fight to make our hair submit to societal standards of what is acceptable and proper....more
Shellireads Couldn't have responded better myself. Thank you. :)more

Mama Bear Moment: Your Kid Hurt My Kid

Seldom is there more anger than when a mama bear’s cub gets injured. Should a fellow kindergartner toss out a few typical teases, she’ll be forever labeled as a Mean Girl by the other mama bears, for certain. A boy who shoves another boy is a terrible bully. A child who hits must be hit at home. A kid who bites has “something wrong” with them. What is normal childhood behavior, and what is truly of concern? ...more
Thank you for sharing some excellent Mama Bear wisdom!more

More Wonderful BlogHer '14 Keynote Additions: Isabel Kallman, Kara Swisher, Nellie Bowles and Teneshia Jackson-Warner

The hits keep coming. Or, in this case, the awesome speakers do. I have four great additions to share with you today: Pathfinder Day Keynote Speakers: ...more
Outstanding speakers!more

Wino! DIY Coaster Made From Wine Corks

Having a husband in the wine industry means we have A LOT of corks lying around. No, it's not from all the wine we drink (I promise), but it is pretty cool. I mean, think of all the project possibilities! Today, we attempted our first cork project, and I will say these coasters came out pretty cute! So if you want to give it a try (I am sure you have some corks lying around, right?), here is how we did it. ...more

Virtual Garden Tour

When I recently saw Common Household Mom propose the idea of a Virtual Garden Tour, my first thought was, "Aw. ...more

Worn Out But Carried

Have you had the experience of being so exhausted that you just can't do what you're supposed to do and you cry out to God and He hears and carries you through it? (Whew, that was a long sentence!) It's an incredible thing to experience the power of God when you come to the end of your own strength. I felt this many times in my life: as a camp counselor, as a new mother, on the mission field, in sickness both mentally and physically, in graduate school, and sometimes just on ordinary days when I throw my hands in the air and say, "I am too tired! ...more

Stylish Summerwear

Stylish Summerwear by domesticblisssquared featuring a crochet cover-up ...more

Where Do You Turn When The Storms Comes?

This week was a difficult one for our family....more

#WorldCupFinal - Germany Wins! And Rihanna's Swimsuit Selfie Supporting The 'German Boys'

Rihanna may not be wearing the German colors at the #argentinavsgermany2014 match right now, but you can bet she will be a very happy girl. Germany has won the World Cup!One only need to check her Twitter profile picture to see which team she is cheering for, as she posted a swimsuit photo with the sexy one-piece in German colours.Rihanna captioned the shot, 'For my German boys'. There is also a small German flag painted on her face.Congrats to the Germany Team ....more

High on A Mountain Top

Have you ...more

Cajun Chicken Pasta

Quick and Easy DIY Deck Staining

This little trick today comes to you courtesy of Chris, who decided he was going to stain the deck after we finished re-building it a couple of weeks ago. If you missed the full before and after of this deck, click through to my deck recycling project post to see how run-down this little slice of heaven used to be! I honestly didn’t even think it was worth staining, because I’ve always thought of deck staining as a really really big job, and I honestly just...more

Rio Live - Celebrities Who Travelled to Brazil to Watch #ArgentinavsGermany2014

David Beckham and sons Brooklyn, Cruz and Romeo...more