I Didn't Find My Tribe at BlogHer '14

I found my village. Seems that it has become pretty popular to write about, or talk about, finding one's "tribe." Finding a like-minded group to which to belong. A group that thinks in ways similar to you; or rallies around a cause or champions a ...more

Keep Your Kitchen Cool with This Bowl of Yum

When it's too hot to turn on the stove, either grilling or using the slow cooker are my preferred ways to cook and keep the kitchen cool. ...more

Bits of Wisdom and Inspiration from BlogHer '14

The best of the best quotes coming out of BlogHer's ten-year anniversary conference. ...more

Day-to-Night Style Guide

Get inspired by this collection of gorgeous things. ...more

BlogHer, Huffington Post Join Forces to Address Work/Life Conflict. Join Us!

We have all been there. Or, more accurately, not been there. We have missed a soccer game, an important day at school, a key doctor appointment for a sick parent. ...more

How to Color Sand and Make a Bowl With It

I love colored sand. I have used it to flock ceramic figurines, paint groovy mushrooms, and make funky sand art terrariums. ...more

It's Okay. I Wore Pearls Today.

I woke up late and rushed to get ready but remembered to wear my pearls today. Credit Image: Lili Vieira de Carvalho on Flickr As I was leaving the house, Baby Girl spit up all over my shirt; it’s okay, I wore pearls today....more
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Bullying Doesn't Just Happen at School

"I had cat scratches on my wrist one day, and a girl started a rumor that I was suicidal. So a lot of people wouldn’t talk to me, or they would just tell me to kill myself."...more

Create Memories with August's NaBloPoMo

So what is the NaBloPoMo theme of the month? ...more

5 Ways to Have a Healthy Sex Life After Kids!

Lets talk about sex.Regaining and maintaining your sex life after having kids can be trying at times, but is extremely important for you and your partner. We, as humans, require intimacy on so many levels, and physical intimacy is right there at the top. I know, after the hectic days we face as modern women, its very easy to let sex fall to the wayside. BUT I am happy to offer you 5 surefire ways to find the spark and reclaim your carnal right.Before we talk about how, lets discuss why....more

10 Summery Lasagna Recipes for National Lasagna Day

Just like Garfield, I hate Mondays and love lasagna. National Lasagna Day falls on a Tuesday this year—so I am practically purring with delight. I've collected 10 ideas that run from cheesy classic to super-vegan, with lots of smart variations (and even dessert!?) in between. ...more

Visiting the Trauma Center Was More Frightening Than Sticking My Hand In a Blender

When I received a handheld immersion blender as a gift, it was given to me with recipes and a warning. The recipes were for soup. The warning was about how dangerous the blender was. When I mentioned it to a good friend of mine, she emailed me a link to a New York Times article about how many people were mangling themselves with immersion blenders. Being squeamish, I only skimmed the article....more

Facebook Forces Mobile Users to Download Messenger App to Access Facebook Messages

Facebook announced today that you'll need to download a second app in order to access Facebook messages from your smartphone. This is both for your benefit -- faster app speed for their main app since it won't be weighed down by messages -- but moreso Facebook's benefit: why use any other messaging app when you need to download Facebook's regardless if you want to access that Facebook feature? It's like colonizing your phone, one app at a time. ...more
I downloaded the app for now, just because I NEED to access messages on the go for a current ...more

Cleaning a Coffee Pot

Good morning! Raise your hand if you're a coffee addict. I'm raising both hands because I LOVE coffee!...more
Great tip! I have the same coffee maker, don't you just love it!!!more

BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote on Race, Gender and the Internet: Where Do We Go Next?

Talking about race is not just for people of color. Talking about feminism is not just for women. If there’s anything I hope people will take away from the BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote about race, gender, and the Internet, it’s that. ...more
Excellent article with some extremely valid points, thank you.more

I Didn't Find My Tribe at BlogHer '14

I found my village. Seems that it has become pretty popular to write about, or talk about, finding one's "tribe." Finding a like-minded group to which to belong. A group that thinks in ways similar to you; or rallies around a cause or champions a segment of society. In the blogging world, seems a "tribe" can be expressed as "mom bloggers," or "food bloggers," "one-cause bloggers (i.e. breast cancer), or "women of ___" [certain ethnicity]. And there seems to be great value in this for those who belong to such. ...more
I attended BlogHer13 in Chicago and while I connected with a couple of people, I wouldn't call ...more

My 12-Year-Old Was Blackmailed for Nude Photos Via Kik Messenger

As a mom, and a communications professional in the technology space, I’ve heard some pretty scary stories about kids use of social media. Predators lurking on Facebook, bullying happening via Twitter, and even suspicious activity occurring on Minecraft. ...more
How about don't let your kids get these apps.more

Desperately Seeking the Consistent Comfort of Reruns

I'm home after two weeks of high-stakes deadlines, difficult news from a family member, and work and conference travel plus all that goes with that. I landed feeling tired, stressed and daunted by the piles of work, laundry, bills and untended emails waiting for me. I needed comfort. Serenity now! So I did what any sane person in need of a comforting buffer would do: I watched three episodes of Will & Grace and went to sleep. ...more
Classic! I need to look up Wings and rematch. It's been a long time.more

Should Training Bras Be Sexy?

My sweet little thing is turning 12 in a month, and this girl is changing! Not only emotionally, but physically. A couple of months back, her friends started wearing training bras, so needless to say she needed to get one too. The funny part is, I happened to be excited, whether I believed she needed one or not. I was happy she came to me and asked. It was something I didn't do. ...more
I've always thought "training bra" was a misnomer. Either you're going to get breasts or not, ...more

5 Pinterest Boards for Paper Artists to Follow

Disclaimer: If you end up on Pinterest for hours today, it's clearly not my fault, because I'm only telling you which boards to follow. I'm certainly not telling you to scroll all the way down through all of their awesomeness, through the forest of instructional blog posts and how-tos and DIY goodness. That's on you. :) ...more

5 Ways To Give and Receive More Oral Sex

About 60% of married Americans give and receive oral sex, but many want to receive more oral sex than they are getting. Why aren’t people bagging the oral sex they want? Usually, this comes down to one of three things:a gross factor,an uncertainty factor, orselfishness....more
drowsymama Thanks DM.  As a woman in my 50s, my views on shaving various body parts has ebbed ...more

Yes Virginia, I Am Christmas Shopping In July

I don't generally plan to start my Christmas shopping in July but every year, it seems to work out that way. Too many really cool things cross my path or I've saved a half dozen links and they all start to pile up in Evernote and that leads me to just go ahead and BUY now rather than waiting until the last minute. This actually works out really well since I can get a big batch of shopping done and my wallet (or gasp, credit cards) don't groan quite as much under the weight of all of the purchases in November and December. Take a look at some of the things I've bought (or plan to buy) this month: ...more
Pups Against the Patriarchy!!!!more

BlogHer, Huffington Post Join Forces to Address Work/Life Conflict. Join Us!

We have all been there. Or, more accurately, not been there. We have missed a soccer game, an important day at school, a key doctor appointment for a sick parent. Or we have had to make impossible choices: sending a feverish child to school, fingers crossed he won't get worse, so you can go to work; putting off doctor appointments you know you need because you don't know how to fit them into your work schedule; going back to work just weeks after your baby is born because your family simply cannot afford to go without your salary....more
I love this and will help support every mothers story!more

Slow Cooker Spicy Brown Rice and Black Bean Cheesy Bowl

When it's too hot to turn on the stove, either grilling or using the slow cooker are my preferred ways to cook and keep the kitchen cool. On a hot day earlier this summer I made this Slow Cooker Spicy Brown Rice and Black Bean Cheesy Bowl, where the rice is cooked in the slow cooker with onions, canned black beans, diced green chiles and seasonings. I had the wild idea of cutting up some string cheese and stirring in the last half hour of cooking, for bites of melted cheese throughout the dish, but skip the cheese if you want a dish that's vegan. ...more

Bridging the Thigh Gap: Crossfit Got Me Over My Thigh Hate

When I was seven years old, my mother proudly showed me the space between her thighs as she stood with her feet together. Yes, my mother had achieved the coveted thigh gap. Even being so young, I was in awe. I couldn't believe such a thing was possible. My thighs collided at the knees. ...more
That's wonderful, I'm so happy for you!more

Everything You Need to Know About Backing Up Your Blog

A few years ago, I paid a designer a lot of money to build a fancy custom design on my Wordpress website. Unaware that I was not to tamper with any plugins or settings, I performed a routine update of my plugins, even the ones that I wasn't familiar with. All of a sudden, my site went from a thing of beauty to something resembling a broken 80's video game. I tried to fix the glitches, but it only made things worse. I had nothing backed up and no way to fix the mess. The only thing left to do was wait until my designer responded to my desperate pleas for help. 72 stressful hours and many more dollars later, I was up and running again. If you have a blog, you must protect your data. This is a post about the less sexy side of blogging, but one that could not be more important: backups. ...more
Oh no Jeanne! That must be so devastating. I'm really sorry that happened to you. Best of luck ...more

The 2014 Photos of the Year and Voices of the Year Readers!

They're here! Read on for the bloggers who read their amazing, passionate, hysterically funny, and poignant posts at BlogHer's Friday night Voices of the Year Community Keynote—and see all 10 brilliant pictures honored in BlogHer's very first Photos of the Year. ...more
BlogHer Love it!more

BlogHer '14 Opening Video: "I Am BlogHer"

BlogHer '14 kicked off with a video that showed us in words and pictures and—most of all—faces what it means to be ... us. The community. The past 10 years have brought us together to start important conversations, support each other and reach through the ether with virtual hugs and comfort when one of ours stumbled and fell. Whether you're here with us right now in San Jose or watching along at home, you are our community. You are BlogHer. ...more
Gracias amiga!more

I Finally Stopped Apologizing to My Kids for Divorcing Their Dad

My happiness vs. what I thought would be my kids happiness...   That is the place I was in, while considering leaving my husband. A decision I did not take lightly, an agonizing, heart breaking, painful decision. How could I take my children away from their Dad, how could I break up all they knew as a family. It simply came down to what I truly wanted for my children. Their happiness....more
I wanted to let you know I updated my post. As it was not meant to be a personal attack, just ...more

We All Want to Raise Strong, Brave Girls

First of all, just writing that title made me go “AHJHJKJgajgdajsgdjhagdhja” because we all want this for our daughters, don’t we? We all want our daughters to grow up brave and empowered, able to stick up for themselves in an unpressured environment that, frankly, does not exist. And that’s really the root of all of this, isn’t it? The world is a rollercoaster. How do we help our girls ride without puking? Is there an antidote? An emotional Dramamine we can prescribe to keep them from feeling sick as they go up and down and upside down and backwards? ...more
Girls are not always neat and sweet. They don't always measure up to an idealized, version of ...more

5 Lessons I've Learned from 5 Years of Blogging

When you first start blogging, everything's a mystery. At least in was for me. When I wrote my very first blog post on my very first blog, I had no idea the massive amount of work and learning that lay ahead of me. Fast forward five years, and I'd like to think I've picked up a few things here and there. ...more
Leila Boukarim Social media is definitely my favorite way of reading a lot of different people! ...more

Wisdom from Pathfinder Day that You Simply Can't Miss

Pathfinder Day '14 was a both with our attendees and those following the #PathfinderDay hashtag on Twitter. We rounded up some of the most inspirational, informative, and really just perfect tweets from the day for you in this one place. If you're trying to figure out what your next step is and you couldn't attend Pathfinder Day, start here....more

Beyond Disneyland: California Destinations My Autistic Son Loves

"We love it when our guests are happy!" That's what the red-coated Monterey Bay Aquarium official told me, as she and I stood next to my son Leo, who was blissfully sprawled out on the the floor looking up at a tank full of sparkling anchovies. I had just explained to her that Leo was enraptured rather than upset or injured, and I hoped it was OK for him to be on the floor since his sisters and I were ringing him and he wasn't in anyone's way. Autism acceptance as guest relations policy. What a wonder. What a gift. ...more
Shannon Des Roches Rosa Laurend1985 Yes, but I really didn't want to say it here.  He's high ...more

My Number of Sexual Partners Doesn't Matter. Here's Why.

My number has zero bearing on who I am as person, nor does it suggest anything about my morals. ...more
As a relationship expert many men tell me they only care what the woman knows about sex and are ...more

Ask a Yoga Question

Wearing:...more

Moving Announcements

Moving every two years means we send out a lot of moving announcements. The last one was a magnet and I loved it. Well, I loved it in theory....more

Bora Bora Coconut Custard Pie

Have you ever traveled to a destination and basically ate your way through the trip? When Jason and I traveled to Bora Bora this coconut custard pie recipe was...more

Vanilla Confetti Cake with Whipped Vanilla Buttercream Frosting

Vanilla Cake filled with lots and lots of confetti and frosted with whipped vanilla buttercream....more

Free Printable Summer Artwork (& Random Summer Musings)

The fact that Little C is starting kindergarten in just over a month just hit me like a brick last night. I’ve been really excited up until now (and so is she), but suddenly I’m ... [[ This is a content summary only ....more

Scandinavia Trip: Sweden + Copenhagen

Are you ready for more pictures!?...more

How To Make Your Own LongBoarding Gloves

We are starting a longboarding gang at my house. And accordingly we need the gear. All of the boys have gloves except Ledger ....more

Throw A Tie-Dye Party with Tulip!

I want to thank Tulip and Blueprint social for sponsoring this post....more

Dads on the Beach Bring a Different Kind of FUN!

The first two days of our trip all of the guys got up at the crack of dawn and went fishing....more