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Writing about My experiences
ABOUT ME Jackie Paulson, this is three posts that I have blogged about and I do have to put it together in a better story. Just wish to share to be able to relate and make friends here on Blogher.
Hello, my name is Jackie Paulson. I am a 44-year-old single mother
born on 12-12-1966 with the zodiac sign of Sagittarius. The one thing
I find true for me that stands out in the traits of the zodiac sign is
“Knowledge is power.” I love to read and learn from others as a life
Long knowledge and truthseeker.
The reason why I blog is to mainly network and share knowledge with
others. My passion is reading and research so this helps me to share
what I know. I can read 167 pages of any book in two hours with
complete comprehension of what I have read. I was not always a good
reader and that all changed once I got married. The reason it changed
is because I wanted to “fix” my husband at that time. He was a
drinker and so was I. Of course I did not think I had a problem I
thought he did. What I did was to get my hands on every self-help
book I could get my hands on from Barns and Nobel book stores.
Eventually I was invited to a AA meeting with a friend and took her upon the offer.
I went there to “fix” my husband’s drinking problem. What I found out
was that I could not “fix” anyone but “myself.” Low and behold, I
changed and quit drinking and my husband did not. The changes I made
involved learning to not be a codependent and live my life
Married but “detached” from my husband and his drinking.
I got married on 2-22-92 and got divorced on 3-26-95 and I had our
baby on 2-14-94. Yes, a short marriage to an alcoholic, a divorce
with a 1-year-old which led me to being a single mother working three
Jobs just to survive. My ex husband was unfaithful in our marriage
and led to our divorce. I was born and raised Catholic and divorce
was not an option unless he broke one of the Ten Commandments and
since he did I was free to divorce and remarry, which I have not. I
received “sole custody” of our daughter and raised her the best way I
knew how and now she is going to be 17 on Valentine’s Day 2011. Yes, I
am a Proud Mother!
Okay, so to make a long story short, I have been in an ongoing battle
to get child support from my ex husband and he has been remarried and
has a ten-year old son. Here it is 2011 and my ex owes me over 94
thousand dollars. You wonder how come so much? He is Delinquent
and when that happens there is penalties and interest that built up over
the years. Have I gotten any of that money yet, No! What is crazy is
how “dead beat dads” like him can live “knowing” they do not
support the child they helped to create into this world. It takes
“two” to have a child and it take’s “two” to support a child. I did
my part by raising her the best I could, working many jobs to make
ends meet, and taking on all the responsibility that a single parent
does, and then my ex did not see what I had to do just to survive.
So, if he did care he would have paid his child support, “actions
speak louder than words.”
About Me Continued:
I grew up in a strict Irish Catholic family of seven kids and two adults. I even attended boarding schools in high school. Interesting enough my real mother died from over drinking and my father is a drinker to this day. My father owned a restaurant and later a bar and liquor store. It is obvious that my dysfunctional background helped me to want to start drinking when I was eighteen years old. Since I was born in 1966, I was able to travel over the border to Wisconsinand drink. Drinking at age eighteen started my love of drinking, attention, showing off, challenges and romances. Then I got married on 2-22-1992 to a man I fell in love with. He was a great looking man (Billy Ray Cyrus look-alike). He was a drinker. We enjoyed our new married life, new friends and all of the drinking parties. I joined a volleyball team at our local bar and loved the sport
