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The Accidental Midwife: I Delivered a Baby Today

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I delivered a baby today.

(I know, right?!!!!)

Delivering a baby was certainly was NOT on my “to-do” list for the day, trust me.

And yet, it is exactly what happened.

(See, this is what I mean when I try to tell people that while I certainly make choices that bring oddity, catastrophe, drama and WTH?! into my life, I am also the sort of person that just has UNBELIEVABLE THINGS HAPPEN TO THEM.)

My biggest plan for the day was to write.

And write.

Then write some more.

And possibly eat a lot of jumbo-sized marshmallows straight out of the bag.

In fact, this was NOT the post I thought I would be publishing today.

I had a bittersweet epiphany yesterday and it finally gave me the inner permission and freedom I need to write without being hampered by the thoughts, expectations and worry about others and their reactions to what I have to say or chose to disclose to the world and how it will affect them and their life. I was finally going to write about some things that had been going on that have been weighing on me, making me sad, hurting my feelings and that I have been really wanting and needing to write about but haven’t out of consideration and regard. But yesterday I realized that was a little misplaced and I need to do what I need to do to work through it, pick myself up, and progress and try to move on.

Which, for me, includes writing about it.

And I will.

But this story takes precedence, you know?

So, how in the WORLD did Loralee end up in the position of delivering a baby in an emergency birth, you ask?

Well, let me tell you.

My husband’s family was having a big family lunch in a neighboring town.

I didn’t want to go.

It’s not that I didn’t want to see the family. I did. I love seeing them. I just felt…awful. I have been having a really hard time lately.  September is such a difficult month for me.  And there has been a lot that has happened this month to make it even more difficult. I’ve been kicked while down, if you get my drift.

So, instead of going to dinner with everyone, I stayed behind. I curled up under the covers and slept.

I woke up and like I am wont to do, I wanted a Diet Coke.

But we didn’t have any in the house.

So, as I am also wont to do, I went out with my air-dried bed head, no make up, bra-less, barefoot and sporting my Sweet Moments swag tshirt I got from BlogHer. I know what you’re thinking. And, YES. I  was SERIOUSLY STUNNING, people.

I drove to my favorite gas station (which is my favorite because it has a drive thru window and thus it enables my bad habit of going out looking like homeless road kill) and I ordered a Diet Coke, medium ice.

On my way home, I heard a small noise from my car and I immediately thought, “I should drive to my Inlaw’s house and call Jonathan to check it out before I drive home.”

WHICH WAS STUPID.

I NEVER just go to my inlaws. Not without Jonathan or the kids. And they weren’t even there. My house is only about 2 miles from theirs and so the thought to go and wait there when I looked like crap and when I just wanted to go crawl back into bed and forget about my existence for awhile longer was just.not.normal for me.

But as I got closer, I thought it again…“Go to your inlaw’s and wait for Jon to check the car.”

So, I did.

When I pulled up I saw a truck I didn’t recognize. I went inside the house and just as I opened the door, my brother-in-law, Ben, came up the last stair with the phone in his hand. “Is Josh with you??!” I thought it was an odd question. Why would my brother-in-law be with me?

“No. Why?”

Amy’s water just broke. She’s downstairs.”

Oh, boy.

I ran quickly to the downstairs guest room while Ben made a phone calls to get help.

Amy is my sister-in-law. She was due to deliver in a couple of weeks. She and her husband (Jonathan’s brother), Josh, came up for the weekend to visit. They came to our house yesterday night for the last BBQ of the summer and then were driving back to their house about 100 miles away in Heber City.  Amy and I had had an extensive discussion about her birth plan, which included a midwife, a homebirth and a birthing tub.

Her plan was about to change.

She was laying on her side

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emilycsims 5 pts

What a beautiful and truly amazing story :) I cried as I read it! Who knew the urge to get a Diet Coke had such a deeper meaning???

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JenMcb 5 pts

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Sounds like a scripted tv response...wonderful story and beautifully written. I love how the family all gathered afterwards.
And your sister in law owes you big time for the afterbirth picture comparison!

laurenjean 5 pts

What a AMAZING story ! And you told it so well. I was laughing and crying !! What a cool experience :)

dianaelee 5 pts

I'm totally crying. He is beautiful and perfect. I can't believe how peaceful and lovely mama looked.

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loraleechoate 5 pts

I think my heart is still racing, too! :) (And me, as well. This month is hard, but like I tell myself every year...it can't last forever and will get better.)

loraleechoate 5 pts

So are we...he is such a little love. :)

loraleechoate 5 pts

As an educator in it, it will probably come as no surprise that most of it hit me afterward. But I was SO glad that I was able to keep my cool. (Most of that was due to the mom and dad being AMAZING during it.)

another reluctant mom 5 pts

...pretty well sums it up for me! What an amazing story.

Touchy 5 pts

Loralee, that is the most amazing story. My heart is still racing! What an experience to see and participate in a birth like that. And I am so, so sorry about your boy. I sincerely hope you make it through September intact.

netc23 5 pts

that's amazing. thanks for sharing. glad all are ok. :)

Lori Randall Stradtman 5 pts

Gave me chills, all kinds of chills!! I used to teach childbirth education and attended lots of births and I can't imagine the additional stresses you described.

WELL DONE!!!!!!!

You'll never be the same, and I mean that in all the right ways!! :D

Thanks for sharing your incredible story!

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Liz Henry 5 pts

Wow Loralee. That is amazing! What a gorgeous baby and mom and family!

You totally need a special catcher's mitt now. All the ladies in town are going to be calling you to be on hand!

Who knows, you might go back to school and end up a midwife someday!

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loraleechoate 5 pts

The timing of this is truly a blessing. It has helped so much. September needed a joyful light and I cannot imagine a better one.

loraleechoate 5 pts

It seems unbelievable but I agree. A lot of things that were so joyful and good came from it. Including the fact that I CAN BE GREAT in an emergency. Which is something I would never have thought.

loraleechoate 5 pts

I will definitely remember it always.

loraleechoate 5 pts

Everyone wishes they could look that awesome postpartum, no? ;)

I loved having the family together. It was such a loving experience for everyone.

loraleechoate 5 pts

That would be why I fled the house to GET ANOTHER ONE. (And you know...so I could cry n' stuff. :) )

loraleechoate 5 pts

TOTALLY.

I will even take payment in Diet Coke. :)

loraleechoate 5 pts

RIGHT?!!! In subsequent deliveries I was like, "um...tempting, but NO." Grin.

Miss you, love! xo

Jory Des Jardins 5 pts

Getting over myself now, and this need to make my birth go "according to plan". Amy is an inspiration! And YOU! Want to come up to Northern California and be my zen birthing master?

-JD

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Lisa Stone 6 pts

The only articulate sentence of my labor, I swear.

Loralee, what an amazing story. I'm speechless! Congratulations to your entire family.

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loraleechoate 5 pts

The irony is that this is the first birth story I have written. I've had four children but all their stories are private and just in my head and heart. Odd, but true.

loraleechoate 5 pts

It seriously scarred me seeing that view. TOTALLY UNPREPARED FOR THAT. :)

TheAngelForever 5 pts

Congratulations to you and your entire family. It sounds like everything was meant to be and so glad that you shared this surprise event with everyone.

BTW - So glad to know that I was not the only one that could not do the mirror thing when birthing. No issues watching other births, just did not need that view of myself.

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LindsayMaddox 5 pts

Not like I should've been surprised that I was going to cry... but DANG.

So beautifully written. Thank you for sharing your story, both the past and the present.

And, of course, congratulations!

Lindsay
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whitneymoss 5 pts

How wonderful. And all those adult siblings bonding together. What a great family adventure.

I love your hot mom picture, too!

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magpie 5 pts

That is a beautiful and amazing story. Wow.

Deb Rox 5 pts

Amazing story, amazing, amazing. So glad you were there to help your family--you are absolutely the person to have in an emergency. (I bet that flat warm watered down Diet Coke tasted great afterwards, too, didn't it? Cheers!)

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TheMentalClutterCoach 5 pts

I'm a firm believer in the way things happen & after reading such a touching story I'm convinced ~ not only were you the EXACT person that was meant to be there for David Michael but this was also a piece of your healing journey.

Hugs my friend,

april

mbteaches 5 pts

With the sorrow of your loss and joy of new life.

Congratulations Auntie! Good job!

loraleechoate 5 pts

They wheeled in a mirror for me to watch my first son being born and I flipped out. THAT WAS WHAT I LOOKED LIKE?!!! GAH!!!!!

So, I really couldn't watch and with my others I just preferred not having a mirror there. It was a very cool experience though and I am grateful I got to have it. :) xo

loraleechoate 5 pts

I was saying that ALL day yesterday so you are in good company!

loraleechoate 5 pts

It was such a multi-faceted experience for certain. And a huge gift for our family. And for me. :)

angiewith3 5 pts

I would have been absolutely terrified. I only watched the birth of my 3rd child. I never wanted to watch the first two. I have an issue with blood and stuff. You did a great job. I can't imagine what she felt like either not having her husband there initially and being 100 miles from home. So glad everything turned out well. He's perfect.

NotJustAnotherJennifer 5 pts

I really don't have anything else to say.... WOW

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JennaHatfield 9 pts

Gah, I got all weepy. I can imagine your panic. And I can imagine that healing. *hugs*

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