Adoption, Infertility and Loss: How Much do you Share Online?

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Personal Identity

There are so many paths to identity, to true community, to being a woman, to family, to parenthood and, for many of us, to being called mommy.  For those of us that reach our place in life (and blogging) through untraditional means; we can wear many hats all at the same time.

We are the adoptive parent  bloggers, infertility bloggers, surrogacy  bloggers, birthmother bloggers, same sex parenting bloggers and we are also mommy bloggers. No matter what label sort of uncomfortably fits; personal blogging can present issues that others don't always face. 

It use to be that the internet offered many the opportunity to be open and honest because of the anonymity that the internet provided. Now, with the boom of social media, we can find that our "internet personas" get "outed" and our real life can collide. Adoption, infertility and "nontraditional mom"  blogs focus on something intensely personal, and often involve more people than just the blogger sharing it all on the internet.

How do you find the lines in real, honest blogging about extremely personal issues and feelings?  Where do you draw them, when do you cross them and what are your reasons?  What happens when your cousin "un-friends" you because they don't like your personal issues? How much do you worry about your children reading your thoughts in the future? Where does your personal story end and your children's or another real person's  story begin?  What happens when your neighbor reads your blog and looks at you funny? What do you do if you find things getting more than personal, but political too? Can we all fit in or are the smaller niche communities a subset of the mommy blogging community?

Let's explore these topics in a supportive environment, with a panel of moms (and adoptees) who have blogged the tough issues and lived to talk about it.

Featuring: Marcie Pickelsimer, Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy, Carissa Haning, Judy Miller, Melanie Recoy, Michelle McNally, and Stacey Conner from Grown in My Heart. GIMH is a place where all adoptive parents, adoptees, and first moms know they feel safe to air their opinions, regardless of differences. It is a group of women (and a man) joined, somehow, by adoption, infertility, and loss. 

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Adding more thoughts...

February 15, 2010 - 9:04pm

I have to say that with the opportunities that many of the social network sites bring, that are so "real" person based like Facebook, that this topic can have appeal to many bloggers who have been schooled to not disclose too much. It doesn't really matter how you got to this point.. many of us are there!

In order to take advantage of many of the sites and network for popularity and blog traffic and new readers, it's really hard to achieve a personal comfort level with complete intergration of your worlds...and I know we can definatly talk about that!

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy

www.musingsofthelame.com

Director of Social Media @DragonSearch Marketing

http://twitter.com/fauxclaud

 

Great Idea

February 15, 2010 - 9:07pm

I think this is such a relevant issue--when you blog about your family--it's not just your life you are putting out on the Internet for all to see.

 

Sharing

February 15, 2010 - 9:09pm

I was always taught to keep my personal things to myself so when I started blogging about my infertility and adoption my mother was shocked. But, women don't have a 'place' to talk about those things anymore so blogs ARE that place.

 

Perfect

February 15, 2010 - 11:05pm

Amazing.  I love how this came together and I can't wait to be a part of it.

- stacey

 

Very Close To My heart

February 16, 2010 - 7:43am

This topic is very close to my heart.  I'm where one story ends and another begins, I'm an adult adoptee.  I've shared the most personal things, things that involved more than just me, more than my adoptive family, more than my birth family.  Laying claim to these things as my own, as a real person, has been one of the most difficult things I had to do.

 

Melanie Recoy

 

This will be a wonderful

February 16, 2010 - 9:14am

This will be a wonderful experience. We have a lot to share! 

Judy

Judy M. Miller

Facilitating Online Classes for Adoptive Parents of Tweens, Teens & Beyond http://JudyMMiller.com/

Next class begins April 7th

The International Mom

 

Great topic, fantastic panel!

February 18, 2010 - 4:32am

Can't wait!

 

Excellent topic!

February 18, 2010 - 1:42pm

The conversation should be excellent! Great proposal. 

 

Adoption, Infertility and Loss: How Much do you Share Online?

February 18, 2010 - 2:28pm

Thanks! We're looking forward to connecting with other amazing women in New York.

Judy M. Miller Facilitating Online Classes for Adoptive Parents of Tweens, Teens & Beyond http://JudyMMiller.com/ Next class begins April 7th

 

I am looking forward to this.

February 21, 2010 - 6:33pm

These questions have run through my head a thousand times.  I have started and stopped a blog twice because of these very questions.  I look forward to hearing others input.

Stephanie Rs

 

important topic

February 23, 2010 - 1:13pm

I think this is a topic that is relevant to so many women, whether they have struggled through the infertility process of chosen adoption.  I look forward to meeting other women on this journey.

 

Kristen

www.RAGEagainsttheMINIVAN.com

 

If I make it to Blogher this summer,

February 27, 2010 - 12:06am

I am SO THERE for this session.

I ceased blogging altogether for a period at the end of last summer, after I mentioned my (much-desired) pregnancy and subsequent (four days hence) miscarriage and my SIL, aka super-lurker, alerted my MIL in a huff and of COURSE my ears ended up ringing from having to hear about it from my husband, telephone-game style.  It was stupid.  A fairly heated exchange via email later, I'm still managing the resentment my husband bears for me toward blogging for having caused the nastiness because I dare to blog.  About my own body and its workings (or broeknness, as it happens), because my GOD, the outrage.  I'm clearly shameless for mentioning such things for the whole world to see. 

Also, I have to know how other women handle the pain and frustration of watching everyone around them have babies, more and more and more babies, all the time more babies, while their bodies laugh drily and produce fistfuls of empty angst.  I have to know, OR GO CRAZY NOT KNOWING.

That is all.

 

Adoption, Infertility and Loss : How Much do you Share Online?

February 27, 2010 - 1:01am

 

Now the days the internet features and social media sites offers online shareing facilities to the people. Where you can share with the network groups. Some blogger sites are offer the facilities to women share real, honesh blogging about extremely personal issues and feeling ? This is wounderful articles and resourceful information to share.  It is great to  look forward and open and blod to share thir problems online.

 

 

 

 

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