Advice for Parenting after Adoption

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So you've either just started the adoption process or you're already a new adoptive parent. Whether you're navigating domestic, international, or a foster-to-adopt program, all forms of adoption have elements in common and this crib sheet aims to get you ready or help you along as you become a parent. You've probably already studied the mechanics of parenting such as feeding, changing, bathing and transporting, but what about all the unique parenting moments that come up through adoption?

My daughter was born three months after the day my husband and I submitted our application packet to our chosen adoption agency. We were chosen as parents by a beautiful young woman named Crystal, who invited us into the delivery room with her when our daughter made her grand entrance.

We have continued to have Crystal and our daughter's birth father in our lives as extended family. Two years later we went through the process again and became parents to our son and built relationships with his birth parents too. Parenting via adoption isn't always easy -- nor is regular parenting -- but it's always rewarding -- as is regular parenting.

This Crib Sheet will tell you:

  • How to get through various stages of "The Wait."
  • How to get ready for your new child.
  • When to tell people.
  • What you need to know about PADS, post-adoption depression syndrome.
  • When and how to tell your child about her adoption.
  • What to do when you fear you are an imposter.

Read and print out the entire Crib Sheet for parenting via adoption now


Lori Holden

Image: Kim Shokouhi

Lori Holden is the author of the adoption book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole (Rowman & Littlefield, 2013). She lives with her family in Denver, Colorado.

Lori writes regularly at and can be found on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+.

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