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to TLC's "All American Muslim"

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TLC’s All American Muslim, a new eight-part series about American Muslims living in Dearborn, Michigan, debuts November 13 at 10p.m. ET and it is so much more than just another reality TV show.

Unlike the manufactured plot lines of traditional reality television shows centered on housewives or twenty somethings from Jersey, All American Muslim is as much documentary as it is a view into the nuance of how Muslim communities in the United States negotiate religious and national identity.

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TLC's All American Muslim takes place in Dearborn, Michigan, home to both the largest mosque and largest concentration of Muslims in the United States

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At its best, television can deliver intellectual diversity and cultural awareness into our living rooms, offering an intimate doorway into disparate communities. These secondary experiences can foster understanding and even respect for the subtle and unique differences in what we may otherwise perceive as a heterogeneous American experience. In this sense, All American Muslim is definitely good television.

The families featured on TLC's 'All American Muslim' represent the diverse appearance and attitudes of American Muslims

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Tracking the lives of several members of an extended Lebanese American family living in Dearborn, home to the largest mosque in America and the largest concentration of Muslims in the world outside of the Middle East, this series promotes an idea that many Muslim Americans have been trying to communicate post 9/11: No two Muslims are alike.

Diversity of practice becomes visually indisputable on the show, for example, when traditionally attractive golden haired event planner Nina, whose newest goal includes opening a night club, sits across a couch from fashionably modest Nawal who, along with her husband, is busy preparing to welcome the couple’s first child into the world. Both women are Muslim, but differ greatly in appearance and life purpose.

All American Muslim is an excellent first step towards teaching Americans about the diversity of Islamic practice in America and about the concept that “being Muslim” and “being American” are not necessarily oppositional. As a Muslim myself, though, and one who is also “all American,” there are aspects of the show that rest uneasy with me. I am concerned that non-Muslims may walk away from this show believing that they have experienced American Islam in its entirety as a result of watching the show. Though the people profiled carefully delineate that they are “Arab American Muslims,” I am curious about the weight that will be assigned to the “Arab” identifier by a largely non-Muslim audience.

For those of us that “speak Muslim,” the identifier of national origin is key in analyzing religious experience and practice. Islam is a religion and not a culture in and of itself.  There are some who might dispute that, but evidence around the world indicates that religious practice varies from nation to nation.  While Islam historically impacted the geography and culture of lands where it spread, it also bears the imprints of practices and values that predated its introduction.

As the daughter of Pakistani immigrants, for example, my definition of modesty, feminism or conservatism might vary significantly from a Lebanese American Muslim even though we are both “all American Muslims”. In the end, an eight-part series about Lebanese American Muslims cannot begin to convey the dichotomies of multiculturalism and religious practice inherent in understanding the term “American Muslim.”

Furthermore, I'm slightly disappointed by the adherence to the traditional perspective that assigns the hijab, or headscarf, a central role in any presentation of women in the Muslim community. The show focuses a great deal on women and their relationship with the hijab, and I suppose this is natural given that much of the non-Muslim world views the hijab topic as one that is quite literally shrouded in mystery. 

A significant aspect of the show, for example, revolves around three sisters and their varied approaches to physical appearance.  Souheila wears the hijab, Shadia not only does not wear the hijab but wears mini skirts, and Sameera decides to wear the hijab so that she might garner more favor from God regarding her infertility issues. Even though I started wearing a hijab myself about six months ago, I am exhausted by the inclusion of this character in every discussion regarding women’s relationships with God. I have come to realize that if Islam were a movie, Muslim women would play a peripheral character while top billing would go to their hijabs.

Most Muslim feminists agree that the context in which Muslim women have been discussed over the past one hundred

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RebeccaMiller 9 pts

I thought this was a good show, and nice to see more diversity on TV. I was blessed to become friends with a Muslim and his family prior to 9/11. Because of this, it changed my reaction to the event from what it might have been. Even though I am a Christian, I have such a positive feeling about Muslims. Most are such high-quality people and we have a lot in common. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this show.

I posted on Muslims here on my blog:

http://flatheadmama.blogspot.com/2011/09/what-woul...

mommyrehab 5 pts

I really loved watching the show. I waited for weeks for it to come on and can't wait for Sunday.

It will be awesome once society as a whole sees people as people not for their race or religion.

Sylver Blaque 8 pts

"...in the end, it's up to Americans to take charge of filling in the gaps and further understanding the world and the people in it."

As America is an historically insular society, this is excellent advice. Thank you for sharing this enlightening article!

jel1010 5 pts

That is a shame. I'm an Arab-American Muslim woman married to an Irish-American convert to Islam. My family completely welcomed my husband, however, I can't say that my husband's family ever welcomed me. I've never met them because they do not want to ever know me based on the fact that I happen to be Arab and Muslim and they never accepted their son's choice of religion. My husband was a Muslim for about 4 years when I met him, so he didn't convert to marry me or anything like that. He is observant of his faith and we have a good marriage. I'm just sorry that I'm made to feel like a second class citizen by his family and that they never even wanted to take the time to get to know me. I often wonder what will happen when we have children, will they remain the same? If so, that is fine by me because the children will still have a good extended family from my side that totally view my husband as a welcome member.

Faiqa 5 pts

jel1010 InshAllah, I'll pray that his family will come to accept you. I will say that I have some experience in this area, but from an opposite angle. Though he didn't convert to Christianity, my brother married a Christian lady about 10 years ago. While her and I were (and are) extremely close, there was a lot of tension between my brother and our parents over the matter. Despite the general acceptance that it's not haram for him to marry a Christian, my parents took it as an outright rejection of their beliefs.

Actually, my mother was infuriated and my father just stopped speaking to him. Many times, I'd try to tell my parents that she was a very decent and kind person, etc, and those pleas were returned with "This is not about whether she is good or not, this is about our son rejecting us and what we believe." Mashallah, even though she hasn't converted, my parents have gotten to know her and sometimes I think they like her more than my brother -- she is a really good person.

I share this very personal story with you because I think it might apply to you a little. As a Muslim, I'm happy for your husband that he accepted Islam, but I can also understand as a mother myself and having witnessed my own mother go through something similar, how painful it must be to be rejected like that. Many people look at their children as reflections of their failure or success at living their values with integrity. I suppose what I'm trying to get at here is that it's possible that this isn't about you being a second class citizen to your in laws, but perhaps them being intensely hurt by his decision to convert? Of course, I don't know you, so I could be completely off base and out of line here. If so, my apologies. In any case, I'll make dua that the situation improves between you and your husband's family.

tie 5 pts

be patient jel1010, a long life patient... many of my friends, when dealing with family from the husband, it become..."more space to breath". dealing with family from husband, it's not always because of something Principe like your case, even just because of small things... the important, you and your husband love each other. you sound a good wife. so, never stop praying and keep your an endless patient ya ummi

Ashanti 5 pts

My husband is Christian Arab-American and that show reminded me of his family. I found that a lot of Christian and Muslims Arabs have the same beliefs. His brothers are all married to their 1st cousins over in Israel. Years ago, one of my husband's family members told me that her 1st cousin was forced to marry my husband's brother. They divorced after over two decades of marriage. Anyways, most of his family lives in Israel, and the only time they had contact with us, is when they needed $$$$. My husband's deceased father never seen 3 of our children. His mother seen 3 of our children back in 1993. I haven't seen most of them since 1986. My husband is proud to be an American-Arab. I also realized how lucky I am to be an American, after going over to Israel and seeing how his family lived. Sadly, his mother and father missed out on ever knowing their grandchildren. Many of the Arab-Americans in our community, have modernized their ways over the years. Its been over 20 years since I spent a lot of time with the Arab community. I could understand a lot of Arabic, as a result of an excellent translator in his family. I have no desire to go over to Israel again and I am proud to be an American!!! I have been left with some pretty pieces of gold his family gave me, however; I do not miss them and their problems!!!

jel1010 5 pts

Actually, the only thing that bothered me about the Jaafars was that there really was nothing about them that was Muslim or Arab besides the fact that they said that they were Muslim and Arab. I didn't see them as representatives of the community in any way.

RebeccaMiller 9 pts

jel1010 I wondered about that as well. But then, we also have "nominal" Christians in our community, who are members at a church, attend rarely and have little connection of their faith to their life. So, why not nominal Muslims?

Ashanti 5 pts

The degrading, sexist, comment Angela Jafaar made on the first segment of All-American Muslims TLC should have been deleted from the segment. Her comment: we have 2 girls and 2 beautiful boys; is a sickening statement. Apparently, she thinks her girls are wallflowers and not beautiful. Also, in the English language and in that sentence, "beautiful," would have pertained to the girls, not the boys!!! Furthermore, her husband, Mike Jafaar is a sheriff. Shame on all of them, Angela Jafaar, Mike Jafaar, and TLC for allowing such a ignorant, shameful, sexist statement, that I hope her girls never hear!!!! By the way, her daughters were beautiful too!!!!

Faiqa 5 pts

Ashanti Wow. I completely missed that. But you're right, that's a pretty nasty comment if she made it.

jel1010 5 pts

I have to agree with Missbritt regarding the location of the show. I would've liked to have seen different kinds of Muslims portrayed in the show that come from places where there isn't a large concentration of Muslims. I live in NYC and though I'm an Arab-American who is a born Muslim, my husband is Irish-American and converted to Islam before we met. I would've liked to have seen some American converts that really do practice their religion rather than just converting for the sake of marriage.

Faiqa 5 pts

Definitely. a good point. I'm not going lie, I was a little weirded out by that guy breaking his fast on national television. I mean, I don't think badly of him, but I don't know... it made me REALLY uneasy.

Jesuslives 5 pts

I DVR'd it but haven't watched it yet. Looking forward to it though. I'm a Christian and pray for everyone regardless of their beliefs. I know by faith and from experience that the only way a person can be close to God and go to heaven is by acknowledging their sinfulness and putting their trust in Jesus Christ. Jesus said He was God (John 8:23,58) and He said He came to earth to go to the cross b/c His blood is the only thing that would satisfy God's judgement against sin. He promises to return to set up His Eternal Kingdom. He allows humans the free-will to choose to believe or not. God is love and love doesn't force people to do anything. His desire is for all of mankind to put their trust in Jesus Christ because w/o Him the closeness between man and God cannot happen. If we do believe, a spiritual door is opened and we are united with God (Spirit to spirit). I have received supernatural healing, comfort and peace since I've been born again. Jesus said a person needs to be born again to enter God's Kingdom-it's a spiritual Kingdom. May God bless you as you read this and may His love envelop you!

Faiqa 5 pts

Thanks for your prayers and I'm very happy that your choice has had such a positive impact on you. I, too, pray that God blesses you with not just love but with even more wisdom, understanding and compassion for those who inhabit the world along with you. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. Jesuslives

missbritt 6 pts

One concern I have upon reading the description is about where the filming is taking place. It seems that going to a place where there is the largest concentration of Muslims and the largest mosque might also give people a skewed perception of what life is like for American Muslims.

Faiqa 5 pts

Very true. There's a scene in the show where the high school football team which is 95% Muslim alters their practice schedule so they can fast during Ramadan (they end up sleeping in the day and practicing in the night). That was definitely NOT my experience as an All American Muslim. missbritt

Sylver Blaque 8 pts

Faiqamissbritt But, should Muslims change their Ramadan practices to conform to an All-American Muslim ideal?

Faiqa 5 pts

Oh, no, of course not! I suppose it's a much different world when I was growing up. If Ramadan happened during the school year, well, you didn't play sports because you were fasting. There wasn't enough awareness I guess to make allowances. I sort of brought up the point to illustrate that a lot of Muslim Americans don't live in Dearborn where practices can be adjusted and whatnot and that their experience of Ramadan would probably be more similar to the one I had, if that makes sense.

RebeccaMiller 9 pts

Faiqa I sometimes wish Christians were NOT the dominant group in the United States. I think that being a minority can bring added commitment to one's faith. I admire the dedication of Muslims who fast during Ramadan and still do their normal tasks, and who pray 5 times a day in the midst of their work week and school. I wish many of us as Christians were as dedicated, willing to suffer, and willing to endure ridicule.