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My daughter Alex, at 5 years old, has not yet received an allowance -- but I'm strongly thinking that in the coming months, when she officially starts kindergarten, I'm going to start giving her one.

This decision has necessarily caused me a bit of consternation:  how much allowance, for example, is appropriate for a 5-year-old?  And how often?

I think I was about 5 years old myself, when I started receiving an allowance:  fifty Trinidad & Tobago cents (about US$ 0.09) a week, if I remember correctly.  One thing that I am certain of, however, is that my chores were in no way tied to my allowance.  In my parents' thinking, chores were not something for which a child received pay; instead, in exchange for doing chores, the child got to remain a tenant of the house.   Money was another thing entirely.

And I think that I sort of like that philosophy.

One of the methods I definitely will be using is one I read a while ago -- I can't remember the source, unfortunately.  It involved having not one, but three "piggy banks" (or mason jars, or whatever) -- and each was labeled, respectively, "spend," "save" and "charity."  The thinking is, obviously, that this method gets the child thinking about the various ways in which money can be used.  I love this idea, because to be honest, when I left home, I had very little street savvy when it came to how to manage money, and honestly, I'm not entirely comfortable with my money intelligence, now.  I think having a spend-save-charity methodology at a young age might be just the way to ensure that Alex has more confidence around money when she's an adult.

After this, however, I really don't have any idea what else to do.  My gut is saying to give her, say, $1.50 (50 cents for each mason jar) -- but is that right?  What's the going allowance rate these days?

How have you guys done it?

 

Karen is a writer and photographer in Houston, Texas.  You can read and see more of her work at Chookooloonks.

 

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doreenpayne 5 pts

might work with my little girl Lillian. she's 8.

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Scott Gale 5 pts

Chores and allowance is a really hard thing to do right. In fact, it took my wife and I three trys in three years to get it right. The first time, we gave my older son chores, but no allowance. It ended up being easier for us to do his chores than to bug him endlessly to do them, so attempt #1 bit the dust.

We tried again a couple a year later, this time introducing allowance into the mix. The problem was, the allowance was basically meaningless because it was very little money and we still dictated how he could or could not spend money. So, in the end, he was not motivated (again!) and this attempt went the way of the first one.

Attempt #3 was the winner. We give allowance that got his attention ($5 per week) and stopped paying for little extras (i.e. video games after a movie, little snacks or junky toys while where at Target, etc.). All of a sudden, he had to decide if something was worth the cost...money had real value to him. We also put in clear standards and schedules when chores had to be done, as well as penalties (i.e. no TV, in addition to lost allowance) if they didn't get done.

Once the expectations were clear, the rewards and consequences were consistent, and the allowance was valuable, the stars aligned and we didn't have to bug my oldest to do his chores. He went from complaining about having to put away his own shirt to washing all of his clothes each week, folding them and putting them away.

Amazing what happens when you reset expectations.

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I am the father of two boys, and the author of "Your Family Constitution," a parenting book ( http://www.yourfamilyconstitution.com/ ) for modern parents.

Beth Engel 5 pts

My kids are in elementary school. We give them $10 per month. We don't require that they save or donate, but we suggested that they put some of the money in "mommy's and daddy's bank" and earn interest. They liked the idea and it helps them learn about saving and delaying gratification. 

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francaisejolie 5 pts

we got an allowance the same as our age.  But, it was divided into 4 groups: long term, intermediate, short-term and discretionary.  Don't remember % breakdowns

Long-term went immediately into the bank for college.

Intermediate was for summer camps and soccer registration and once we got older, car insurance, etc.

Short term was for that concert ticket, DVD purchase, etc.

All of those were in manilla envelopes in a locked box in M&D's room. If we wanted money out, we had to ask. 

Discretionary was pocket money for candy, ice cream, movies, and when we went to sunday school-the offering plate.  

We paid for everything and didn't get extra money for chores around the house unless it was something really special-polishing dad's shoes wasn't a normal chore, but doing the dishes, laundry and helping with lawn care was.

At the time, I kind of resented my parents for making me pay for everything when my friends could just ask for $30 each week to go out and do stuff, but now, I know that I can earn money and be responsible.  I got through school without credit card debt and have a pretty good relationship with money. 

Jenifer Monroe 5 pts

I give each of my kids their age in dollars every time *I* get paid (so twice a month).  I love the jar idea; though with four kids, I think I may just give them a group jar to fill up. 

It seems like a lot for allowance (my kids are 6, 8, 10, and 12) but I think now that I'm not buying beef jerky, gum, songs on iTunes, and popsicles, I'm coming out ahead.  It's been fascinating to watch their spending choices.  One son is saving for an expensive skateboard, another one went and bought treats at the grocery store to deliver to his buddy who'd just had the cast taken off of his arm. 

I'm not the best with money, either, so maybe I should just get my age in dollars for pocket money every couple of weeks, too!

AmberS 5 pts

I give my 4-year-old a weekly allowance and I don't tie it to chores. Chores are something she's expected to do either way, money is different. Just as your parents did with you. I settled on $2 / week. It's enough that once every few months she can pick out a toy or something she likes, but not so much that I'm being inundated with Barbies. 

I don't do the separate jars. I like the idea of teaching her to save,
but the system felt a little contrived to me so I haven't used it so
far. However, I don't rule out using it down the line.

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