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How do you know if you are in an abusive relationship? Do you know someone who is? What warning signs can you look for?
Since nearly one third of American women have been in some sort of abusive relationship, chances are that one of these women may be you or someone you know. So, what do you do? How do you help? I think having as much information as possible is a good place to start.
From the Family Violence Project...
Abuse is a pattern of coercive behavior (physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, financial, and spiritual) used by one person to control another's actions and feelings. One way to think of these behaviors is as tactics, actions which are chosen and planned. An abuser is not "out of control" -- the abuser is trying to control the victim.
When she left her abusive relationship, Anne knew she'd work with women escaping domestic violence -- once she'd regained her confidence.
"Violence takes its toll on a woman's self-esteem," says Anne, a mother of two. "When I left my former partner, I was just in survival mode. People think once you leave everything will be OK, but it is difficult raising children on your own and even more difficult when you still have your safety to consider. -- read more
Why do women stay in abusive relationships?
It's not uncommon to hear "Why do women stay in abusive relationships?" or "Why don't they leave?" These types of questions, although common, have a tendency — whether unintentional or not — to blame victims and to suggest they enjoy or thrive on being abused. If they didn't enjoy being ill-treated, they would leave, right? Obviously, if they choose to stay, they must have low self-esteem, right? No. -- read more
What about your teenager? Could your daughter have a boyfriend that is abusive and controlling? Chances are...yes. Parents and teens need to understand the signs. If you are the parent of a son that is exhibiting signs of control or abuse with his girlfriend, it's your obligation to step in. It's not too late to teach him that this is NOT how to treat a woman. By helping him now, you may be able to stop the cycle...Maybe he can go on and be a loving, caring, and non-abusive husband some day.
Teenagers are often involved in abusive relationships...
Teenagers often experience violence in dating relationships. Statistics show that one in three teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship. In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse. Dating violence crosses all racial, economic and social lines. Most victims are young women, who are also at greater risk for serious injury. Young women need a dating safety plan.
It's also a fallacy to believe that only poor and/or unemployed women are victims of domestic violence. You may be working along side of a woman that could use your help, your understanding, or your friendship. Don't assume that a woman who doesn't ask for help, doesn't really want or need it.
What about the corporate side of domestic abuse?
By ignoring the direct and indirect effects of domestic violence on employees, business owners lose $3-$5 billion annually. In addition, employers forfeit another $100 million in lost wages and lost work associated with domestic violence in the workplace.
The Internet is a great source of information on where to find help and support if you are in an abusive relationship. However, even without access to the Internet, your local phone book will have toll free hotlines. But, in an emergency...(call 9-1-1).
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
In many cases, even after a woman is free from domestic violence, the affects of this type of abuse can still haunt the woman through Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.
More than 70 percent of women who are victims of domestic violence exhibit the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), according to a survey by Health, Labor and Welfare Ministry study panel. -- read more
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