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Are You Addicted to Anxiety?

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Do you secretly enjoy being anxious? Do you choose hyperactive and anxious over peace of mind and happiness (even if unconsciously)? If you secretly answered yes, you are not alone. Being addicted to anxiety is surprisingly one way that people boost performance and find comfort.

According to new research reported in Newsweek via The Daily Beast some people are simply anxiety addicts.

In one recent study, psychologist Maya Tamir of Hebrew University in Jerusalem gave 47 undergraduates a standard test of neuroticism, which asks people if they agree with such statements as "I get stressed out easily." The more neurotic subjects were significantly more likely to choose feeling worried before a demanding task.

Apparently the neurotics performed demanding tasks at a higher level if they were able to feel worried beforehand. Non-neurotics did not experience enhanced performance by engaging in anxiety first. So I suppose you need to know for sure whether you are technically neurotic or not to determine if being anxious about the task at hand will help.

Another study featured in the article is by psychology researcher Brett Ford of the University of Denver who found the familiarity of anxiety was more important than its usefulness, concluding:

"Some people," he adds, "get addicted to feeling anxious because that's the state that they've always known. If they feel a sense of calm, they get bored; they feel empty inside. They want to feel anxious." Notice he didn't say "like."

While this may be true, personally I find it is fear, sometimes out-and-out terror, not boredom that is what is really going on. Thomas Leonard, a pioneer in the coaching profession often said "Boredom is the pathway to peace." Because when you silence all the nonsense in your head you are forced to come face-to-face with yourself. And that can be downright scary. However it is the doorway to creating what you really want in your life - the experience you most want to have. Unfortunately most people would rather stay preoccupied with anxiety and worry, mistaking busyness (even if just in their minds) for productivity.

I'm not saying anxiety or panic is not real. Quite the opposite. As someone who dealt with debilitating panic and anxiety in my mid-20's, I know what it feels like to be in a full-blown panic attack or be so anxious that you can barely navigate a situation. It is a horrible and terrifying experience, and the physical symptoms are real.

The National Institute fo Mental Health has a wealth of information about anxiety disorders and ways to treat them. There are ways to manage your anxieties but you have to choose to do something about it and reach out for the proper level of support.

However, for a host of others the desire to indulge in anxiety can simply be a choice, a way to cope with uncertain situations and uncertain times through familiarity. Notice the study says addicted to the state they've always known (meaning - familiar and comfortable) not necessarily what they like (would prefer to experience). The definition of addiction being: Addiction is a persistent, compulsive dependence on a behavior or substance. Mood-altering is usually an important component of addiction. You do something to feel differently (or numb out to feelings).

What instantly stands out for me when I read all this is -- what is the relationship between a culture obsessed with caffeine and a world where we thrive on being anxious, worried, and busy? Coffee is a socially acceptable addiction and is practically assumed to be required in professional settings. Ask for green tea (even in 2011) and you get blank stares (unless you are in some hip organic setting but that's not corporate life).

Caffeine is an addictive substance. In addition to the bona-fide chemical changes that happen in your body from drinking it, it also screams addiction because people start their day "unable to function without my first cup of coffee" and, when forced to go without, develop physical and emotional withdrawal symptoms. I know this withdrawal pain for a fact because in the early-1990's I went from being a 4-5 (or more) cups of coffee a day drinker to decaf only cold turkey. The headache was pure hell. The irritability almost got me disowned.

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GaelMc 5 pts

Thank you for this well written top flight article. You might find my blog on this topic to be interesting too. http://www.blogher.com/anxious-nervous-handwarming...,1

paulag01 5 pts

Thanks for this - I love that you share your story and how things have shifted, changed, evolved for you. I agree that medication is something each individual has to discuss with their physician, but that for some it can really help get over a hump.

Everything we do benefits us in some way - even if the "benefit" doesn't rationally seem like a "benefit" because it is the opposite of what we say we want. We do it for a reason, especially if it is a regular pattern.

Thanks for joining the conversation!

Paula Gregorowicz
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paulag01 5 pts

Hi there,

Truly appreciate you sharing your personal experience and that it leaves you feeling "on the fence".

I think anxious thoughts will always arise...like fear they will be there as long as we are drawing breath. It's what we do with those thoughts and feelings that becomes worth exploring.

I truly love your example of washing dishes - it is so personal and absolutely perfect.

Warmly
_Paula

Paula Gregorowicz
The Paula G Company
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Learn 5 Steps to Move from Fear to Freedom ( http://www.thepaulagcompany.com/feartofreedom ) (free)

paulag01 5 pts

Hi Shannon,

Really appreciate your comments!

I am curious - more in general, than for you specifically...does it have to be all or nothing. Meaning... someone can be productive and inspired to get things done but without all the buzzing anxious energy in the wake. Or at least I should say that it has been my experience as I've moved from frantic and anxious to much calmer and more grounded. I still get tons done, maybe even more but without the anxiety hangover.

Curious what you or others think.

Thanks for chiming in!

Paula

Paula Gregorowicz
The Paula G Company
http://www.thepaulagcompany.com

Learn 5 Steps to Move from Fear to Freedom ( http://www.thepaulagcompany.com/feartofreedom ) (free)

theclosetnarcissist 5 pts

Some people really do seem to thrive on being pessimistic, worrisome, and stressed, and that's an EXHAUSTING way to live. Like they're not happy unless they're unhappy, and they're draining to be around. Some people are naturally more positive people, while others have to work harder at it (I used to be the latter, now the former). I'm not, however, minimizing anyone's anxiety or depression; I also suffered damn near debilitating anxiety and depression in my early 20s. Mine was largely situational, combined with an incessant need to be perfect, which I no longer struggle with either after lots of work on myself. I was also on medication for a while, which was my saving grace at the time, but haven't needed it for years now.

I'd like to add that for people who do need medication, when you find the right one at the right dosage, it doesn't make you stop caring or take away your normal personality. You're still you and can have ups and downs; you're just not as hyper-anxious about everything. I'd just hate for people to be discouraged from trying medication if it's something that would really help them. I lived most of my life feeling like I had to be perfect at everything at all times; when I changed that, it was so freeing. I never wanna go back to that again!! I'm still plenty motivated - I just don't beat myself up anymore or hold myself to unrealistic standards.

Having said all that, though, I am the kind of person who often waits til the last minute to do things, and it does make me wonder if I secretly "like" the pressure and stress at the last minute! Anything we choose to do "benefits" us in some way or else we wouldn't do it, even when we're not aware of it. I don't think it changes my performance level, though, and I'm trying to start changing this behavior some, and it's much more relaxing to just get stuff out of the way!

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themarthacomplex 5 pts

I suffer from anxiety, so I am on the fence about this. On one hand I can't imagine anyone purposely choosing to feel anxious about anything. Anxiety sucks and if it really is a choice in feeling it or not, I would want that peaceful, who cares feeling.

BUT, then again I remember one time I was washing dishes. I was in a peaceful state and had no reasons to feel anxious about anything. Out of the blue, I felt a knot in my stomach and I started thinking what was I supposed to be worried about? I remember then it lead to a conversation with the spouse if my anxiety was a learned behavior.

 http://www.themarthacomplex.blogspot.com/

livingwithumami 5 pts

I'm addicted to Coke & Starbucks. I'm trying to detox, unsuccessfully, I might add. I had a baby 4 months ago & was prescibed an anti-anxiety medicine to help with PPD.

Guess what happened? I stopped caring about everything. About the house being clean, about getting everything done, about being perfect at everything at all times. The lack of enthusiasm was noticed. My husband asked me what was going on. He likes me anxious & truth is I like me anxious too.
That's how I get things done.

My name is Shannon & I'm addicted to anxiety . . . & Coke . . . & Coffee . . . & a clean house!

Great read! I sympathized with every word!

xo, Shannon
www.livingwithumami.com ( http://www.livingwithumami.com )