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Are You Asking Too Much of Your Favorite TV Show?

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While driving to daycare drop off the a few weeks ago, I heard an opinion piece on Morning Edition with media critic Eric Deggans complaining about the way interracial relationships are being handled in prime time shows today. It’s his opinion that by not expressly dealing with the issues of racism and the struggles of interracial couples in their entirety on a show, they're being avoided.

I started thinking about the shows that we watch regularly and for the most part, the window into the characters' world for the viewer is pretty damn open. We definitely see the beginning of the conversation but the resolution is often completely laid out as well. And while I do somewhat disagree with the critic -- most specifically about the treatment of interracial relationships in the show Parenthood, as I actually enjoy the way the show treats both of the interracial relationships depicted (Jasmine and Crosby as well as Alex and Haddie)  -- what it really got me thinking about is what’s expected of the family sitcom/dramedy/whatever you want to call these few shows that remain on network TV that don’t involve voting for or against strangers or “stars.”

Are we asking too much? Or just more than we used to?

vintage televisionWhile watching Family Ties on DVD a few days after hearing that piece I found myself struck over and over again by the subject matter covered. Teen sex, pregnancy, drug use, alcoholism, divorce, child custody/kidnapping, academic cheating, racism, sexism, pedophilia, adoption, infidelity, corporate espionage... in the first two seasons of a 22 minute show that aired in primetime.

In 1982.

What struck me next was how the issues were handled. Rarely were situations carried through multiple episodes. Instead, in about 22 minutes the situation was described, impact on the family member illustrated and the conversation with the parental units begun.

But that was all we got to see, the BEGINNING of the conversation. In fact, in the fourth episode of the entire series, a 17 year old Alex P. Keaton loses his virginity to a college chick, stays out at her apartment all night long, and is in no way disciplined within the script of the show.

I can't imagine a show on the air today that wouldn't spell out for the viewer to the day, the length of the grounding imposed and if the character were female they'd probably spend half of a whole other episode on the trip to the GYN to get her put on the pill.

And I have to say, I miss the good old days.

As a parent (whose daughter is currently only interested in Lady and the Tramp... with an occasional side of Monsters, Inc. Thank goodness.), I'm far more comfortable letting my child watch a show that starts a conversation on an important or controversial issue but refrains from spoon feeding her the "right" answers.  I'm not going to shy away from the difficult conversations, but I'm also not enthusiastic about joining them when what is essentially a screenwriter’s opinion has tried to do my job for me already.

I guess I’m probably going to be one of those annoying moms who watches the first few episodes of a show before deciding it’s appropriate fare for my daughter. And even then I’ll probably watch it with her, or at least make sure I watch what she’s watching later in the week to make sure there’s not something I feel we should be discussing. I want the end of the show to be the beginning of the discussion in our house, and not the other way around.That's just how I think it should be, I guess.

Mae Winter blogs at Parenting In Progress and tweets @tophersgirl1 because some poser who never tweets already took tophersgirl without the 1.

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JennaHatfield 10 pts

"Everybody on it is just as screwed up as I am."

And I think that's why I keep going back. I'm hopeful -- HOPEFUL!!! -- that they won't screw it up too badly. (And I'm totally nervous for tonight's episode.)

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.

tophersgirl 5 pts

your comment, and I agree the Friends storyline was scary bad. And if Haddie gets pregnant and it's handled the way you fear I'll join you in severe disappointment.

But what I like about Parenthood is that the characters are complicated. Like real people they have LOTS of issues, not just the obvious one. Jasmine and Crosby have many problems as a couple and while sure, race is bound to be one of their challenges, it's certainly not the only one or even the biggest. That's one of MY favorite things about the show.

Everybody on it is just as screwed up as I am.

Mae Winter blogs at Parenting In Progress ( http://parentinginprogress.com ) and tweets @tophersgirl1 because some poser who never tweets already took tophersgirl without the 1.

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I get what you're saying. But I'm tired of shows being irresponsible with portrayals of various issues.

My pet peeve improperly displayed issue is adoption, of course. Glee is a fine example of building up the pregnancy and placement and then absolutely neglecting to deal with the post-placement issues. And, to be honest, I've already made a public call/tweet that Parenthood is going to use a Hattie pregnancy as a means-to-an-end for Julia's fertility issues. And I would be greatly upset by that because I adore Parenthood, even though they also bunk up a lot of autism issues. I just really like the actors and the chemistry.

Before people jump on me, I've come a really long way in my television-portraying-adoption issues. Friends had a horrific adoption storyline and it absolutely bothered the snot out of me ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2011/03/03/... ) back then. But I am now at a point where, nine times out of 10, I can recognize that television drama/comedy/dramedy (and movies as well) are fiction. They are made for entertainment. I get that. I accept it. I even laugh at some jokes here and there.

But I'm also tired of the continuous flub-up. Just once -- JUST ONCE -- I'd like someone to try to get it right. Even if they failed but tried, I'd be so excited that I couldn't contain myself.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.