Are You Friends With a Bad Mom?

If you are looking at the above photo - Seriously? I read the blog. No where did the writer mention that "Monica sat down with her daughter for a smoke and a glass of wine" so I really think that it was wrong to portray Monica as a mother who was choosing to parent that way and this was one of the reasons the writer could no longer maintain that friendship.

Seeing that photo the child is probably no older than my own 10 year old child and its not the way I would parent my girls. Even if it's juice or pepsi, the connotations the photo represents universal "bad parenting" according to our religious & social customs here in America. The writer should know better.

I do believe the blog could have been better written, sticking with facts. Not assumptions portraying mothers as alcoholic guzzling bimbos who were allowing their prepubescent very underage tween girls to imbibe and to smoke, while at the same time making concession for their family members own sins, yet others, were written off.

I don't apologize. As women and mothers we're all in this together. Whether we wish to admit it or not. We have the children, we're responsible for their care and upbringing. Good, bad or neutral.

To partially quote the original blogger " I do take parenting seriously. I do have requirements and it is a big deal to me. I will never have all of the answers but I do try and I try every day. I have to be the adult, every day, but I also know when to give in. But when you decide that the people that are your blood relation are the only people who are allowed "wiggle room" in the equation, you are setting yourself up for a really big "EYE OPENER".

What I wouldn't allow for friends, I don't allow for family.

I don't apologize there just simply isn't any wiggle room for me and mine ~ Shalamar Rue

I really believe it depends on both the situation, circumstance and ages of the child(ren) involved. There is not one simple rule for every situation. Yet there is yet a general rule of thumb so to speak.

Oh, there are days... days where I'm pretty sure I *am* the bad mom that others may not want to be friends with. LOL

I've had kids for the past 28 years so I've been around lots of other parents who have a variety of temperaments represented in their child ranks. I've not experienced any parent I liked but couldn't stand to be around because of the way they manage their kids, though. Maybe I've just been lucky??

Hmm. I'm not really interested in labeling anyone as a bad mom just because they have a willful child or a situation that they can't figure out what to do with at any given time.