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    <title>Three Vegetables to Cozy Up to When the Weather Turns Cold </title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T07:00:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T07:42:03-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Alanna Kellogg</name>
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    <category term="Food &amp; Drink" />
    <category term="seasonal eating" />
    <category term="Vegetables" />
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    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Research says that we cook the same 20 dishes again and again. Again and again. Again and again. (And again.) Sure, every six months, we drop one and replace it with another. Eating in rhythm with the seasons changes that. Each season, each month, there's something new to pique our curiosity and tickle our tastebuds, something that just last month wasn't available or wasn't at its freshest or had to travel from, alors, South America to reach your table. So, tis late fall. Tomatoes are two months gone and asparagus are five, maybe six, months away. What's special about what we cook in November? Here are three vegetables that will turn November into something special, something memorable. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Research says that we cook the same 20 dishes again and again. Again and again. Again and again. (And again.) Sure, every six months, we drop one and replace it with another. Eating in rhythm with the seasons changes that. Each season, each month, there's something new to pique our curiosity and tickle our tastebuds, something that just last month wasn't available or wasn't at its freshest or had to travel from, alors, South America to reach your table. So, tis late fall. Tomatoes are two months gone and asparagus are five, maybe six, months away. What's special about what we cook in November? Here are three vegetables that will turn November into something special, something memorable. <!--break--></p>
<p>BUTTERNUT SQUASH<br />
<strong>Daily Unadventures in Cooking</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.dailyunadventuresincooking.com/2009/10/squash-risotto-with-blue-cheese-and.html">Squash Risotto with Blue Cheese &amp; Crispy Sage</a><br />
"The crispy sage and the blue cheese melt into the risotto and combine really well with the sweetness of the roasted squash."</p>
<p><strong>Rookie Cookie</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.rookie-cookie.com/2009/11/pasta-with-butternut-squash-caramelized.html">Butternut Squash with Caramelized Onions &amp; Pancetta</a><br />
"Last winter, I had a pizza at Pizzeria 712 that was just like this pasta. Butternut squash, rosemary, caramelized onions and bacon. It was super delicious. Ever since then, I have wanted to make a pasta version of it and I pulled it off. In all honesty, this was better than the pizza."</p>
<p><strong>dlyn</strong> ~ <a href="http://dlynz.com/?p=3391">Butternut Squash Gratin</a><br />
"There are so many ways to use winter squash, and I never get tired of looking for new ones. The fact that we still have about 40 winter squashes of various types is certainly an influence on my thinking, I’ll admit, but even if I had to buy them, I would still enjoy finding new ways to cook them. For one thing, they are very inexpensive right now, especially as an end of season bargain at Farmer’s Markets and local veggie stands."</p>
<p>BRUSSELS SPROUTS<br />
<strong>StephenCooks</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.stephencooks.com/2009/10/shredded-sprouts.html">Shredded Brussels Sprouts with Fresh Herbs</a><br />
"... this one is pretty much sprouts forward, with complementary onion, carrot, red pepper and fresh herbs to add depth to the flavor."</p>
<p><strong>Gastro-Nomi</strong> ~ <a href="http://gastro-nomi.blogspot.com/2009/10/green-apple-brussels-sprouts-pistachios.html">Green Apple, Brussels Sprouts &amp; Pistachios</a><br />
"If you were thinking "I want a salad that is fresh, crisp and all shades of green" this is the one for you. Think a crunch, a tang, and a nutty sweetness. It has autumn written all over it."</p>
<p><strong>Nourishing Days</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.nourishingdays.com/?p=2313">Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Pears &amp; Thyme</a><br />
"I think Brussels sprouts are one of those vegetables that a lot of people don’t like. Or at least they think they don’t like them. ... This is a wonderful fall dish that would be worthy even of a celebration table. And any recipe that can turn the disdained Brussels sprouts into something your husband goes back for thirds on is worth sharing, right?"</p>
<p>CAULIFLOWER<br />
<strong>Simply Recipes</strong> ~ <a href="http://simplyrecipes.com/recipes/pasta_with_cauliflower/">Pasta with Cauliflower</a><br />
"It's outrageously good; I've been eating the leftovers for days, which just seem to get better as the flavors have more time to meld."</p>
<p><strong>Lucullian Delights</strong> ~ <a href="http://lucullian.blogspot.com/2009/10/roasted-cauliflower-and-potato-soup.html">Roasted Cauliflower &amp; Potato Soup</a><br />
"When I think soup, I get this fairytale vision of a huge iron pot hanging over a fire, lovingly stirred by a woman whose face is lit by the burning fire. A generous soup, that has been simmering for hours and filled with vegetables and maybe a bone here and there. It is such a romanticized view on soup making but I leave it like that. My own soup making is nothing near that vision but the love is there."</p>
<p><strong>A Wee Bit of Cooking</strong> ~ <a href="http://aweebitofcooking.co.uk/2009/10/14/cumin-roasted-cauliflower/">Cumin-Roasted Cauliflower</a><br />
"Nam nam nam.  Need I say more?"</p>
<p>POTLUCK<br />
<strong>TasteFood</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.tastefoodblog.com/tastefood/2009/10/root-vegetable-puree.html">Root Vegetable Pur&eacute;e</a><br />
"As I puréed the steamed vegetables [sweet potatoes, rutabagas, parsnips &amp; turnips], I envisioned doctoring it with all sorts of extra spices, a little grated cheese, maybe even some minced onion.  But then I tasted the purée, and was blown away by its soft, sweet, nutty flavor.  Mild and delicate, all it needed was salt and pepper and a dollop of sour cream to lighten its texture.  For a little autumnal flourish, I topped the purée with fresh sage leaves before baking, so their woody flavor would lightly infuse the vegetables."</p>
<p><strong>Phoo-D</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.phoo-d.com/2009/10/autumn-panzanella.html">Autumn Panzanella</a><br />
"A big loaf of leftover sourdough inspired me to create an autumn riff on a traditional panzanella (Italian bread salad). I cubed the loaf of bread and then toasted it with a red onion and sweet potato to create the base of the salad. Toasted pepitas added a flavorful nutty crunch, while a big pile of grated Parmesan cheese melted around the warm bread cubes nicely."</p>
<p><strong>Greedy Gourmet</strong> ~ <a href="http://www.greedygourmet.com/2009/10/22/swedeaphobia-cure/#utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=swedeaphobia-cure">Swedeaphobia Cure</a><br />
"Pumpkins and apples are reigning at the moment but soon they will give way to chestnuts, Brussels sprouts, and array of root vegetables and let’s not forget the swede [rutabaga]. Why does everyone avoid it like the plague? It’s not the most attractive vegetable on this planet but it definitely beats the celeriac in the looks department."</p>
<p><strong>And you?</strong><br />
And you, what's your favorite fall vegetable? Leave a recipe or a link to a recipe in the comments!</p>
<p><i>BlogHer food editor Alanna Kellogg isn't the 'veggie evangelist' for nothing. At the moment, she's wild for butternut squash, most recently <a href="http://kitchen-parade-veggieventure.blogspot.com/2009/11/savory-bread-pudding-with-butternut.html">Savory Bread Pudding with Butternut Squash, Chard &amp; Cheddar</a>.</i></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Raising HIV/AIDS Awareness</title>
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    <published>2009-11-06T23:38:58-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T23:38:58-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Catherine Morgan</name>
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    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
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    <category term="AIDS/HIV" />
    <category term="Conditions &amp; Ailments" />
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    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Did you know that one in four Americans living with HIV are women?&nbsp; It's true.&nbsp; HIV/AIDS is affecting more and more women, specifically African American women.&nbsp; It's actually become the leading cause of death in African American women between the ages of 25-34.</p> <p><a href="http://www.womenshealth.gov/hiv/">Women and HIV/AIDS</a>...</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Did you know that one in four Americans living with HIV are women?&nbsp; It's true.&nbsp; HIV/AIDS is affecting more and more women, specifically African American women.&nbsp; It's actually become the leading cause of death in African American women between the ages of 25-34.</p> <p><a href="http://www.womenshealth.gov/hiv/">Women and HIV/AIDS</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>The statistics are alarming. But there is good news. Taking some simple steps can protect women from getting HIV — or prevent women from passing it to others, including their children. Also, while there is no cure yet, many women with HIV and AIDS are living longer and stronger lives thanks to a number of new treatments. A wide variety of government resources also are in place to help people living with HIV.</p></blockquote> <p>Here is a link to <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/women/resources/factsheets/women.htm">statistics from the CDC on Women and HIV/AIDS</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>Today, women account for more than one quarter of all new HIV/AIDS diagnoses. Women of color are especially affected by HIV infection and AIDS.</p></blockquote> <p>Many women are using their blogs to bring more attention to the need for HIV/AIDS awareness.</p> <p>From Feministing - <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018764.html">New Campaign for HIV Testing Excludes Women</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>Photos feature young gay African American men with the caption "Status is Everything," and the ad campaign will refer viewers to a hotline and website where they can schedule free HIV testing at local clinics.</p> <p>Not found in this campaign, however, is the need for a cogent campaign that's inclusive of young women of color. In 2007, blacks accounted for 44% of the 455,636 people living with AIDS in the 50 states and District of Columbia.</p></blockquote> <p>From Diane - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/women-living-hiv?wrap=free-tagging/empowerment">Women Living with HIV</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>I'm writing this blog to help other women living with HIV to tell you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.</p></blockquote> <p>From The Common Wealth Times - <a href="http://media.www.commonwealthtimes.com/media/storage/paper634/news/2009/11/05/News/Hiv-Aids.Awareness.Rally.Steers.Student.Focus-3824205.shtml">HIV/AIDS Awareness Rally Steers Student Focus</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>Deirdre Johnson, 34, said that when she was diagnosed with HIV in 2000 she could only sum up her reaction in one word, shock.</p> <p>Johnson now works to raise HIV and AIDS awareness among students and communities across the state. She has worked with Richmond City Hall, Virginia Union University, Virginia State University, University of Richmond and VCU, sharing her story as a person living with HIV.</p></blockquote> <p>From Lori - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/mid-life-women-contracting-hiv-hidden-epidemic?wrap=free-tagging/aids">Mid-Life Women Contracting HIV</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but while unintended pregnancy may<br /> not be an issue anymore, there's a new kid in town and it's called<br /> HIV.  Old news, you say?  Not a problem for middle-aged, monogamists<br /> like yourself?  If you really believe that, do yourself a favor and<br /> keep reading.  Also, you might want to dig that box of condoms back out<br /> of the garbage, you're gonna need them.</p></blockquote> <p>From the National Youth Advocacy Coalition - <a href="http://blog.nyacyouth.org/2009/10/national-latino-hivaids-awareness-day.html">National Latino HIV/AIDS Awareness</a>...</p> <blockquote><p><object data="http://www.youtube.com/v/VuMmlF9-B9o&amp;color1=0xb1b1b1&amp;color2=0xcfcfcf&amp;feature=player_embedded&amp;fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="425" height="344"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always" /><param name="src" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/VuMmlF9-B9o&amp;color1=0xb1b1b1&amp;color2=0xcfcfcf&amp;feature=player_embedded&amp;fs=1" /><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /></object></p></blockquote> <p>At the end of last month President Obama signed the <a href="http://www.ryanwhite.com/pages/story.html">Ryan White</a> HIV/AIDS Treatment Extension Act.</p> <blockquote><p>On October 21st, the House passed the <a href="http://www.speaker.gov/newsroom/legislation?id=0342">Ryan White HIV/AIDS Treatment Extension Act (S.1793)</a>, reauthorizing the Ryan White program for four years. The Ryan White program has been serving people with AIDS and HIV for nearly two decades. Today, the program provides care, treatment and support services to nearly half a million people – most of whom are low-income. Without this critical safety net, some of our nation’s most vulnerable populations would not receive the care and treatment they need and rightfully deserve. There are more than 50,000 new HIV/AIDS infections reported each year and according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 1.1 million Americans are currently living with HIV/AIDS. All parts of the Ryan White program have been in desperate need of increased funding for the past three years. Modern medical advancements have made it possible for more individuals to live full lives with an HIV/AIDS diagnosis, which means there are more individuals living with the disease and in need of services.</p></blockquote> <p>From The White House - <a href="http://www.whitehouse.gov/blog/2009/10/30/honoring-legacy-ryan-white">Honoring the Legacy of Ryan White</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>Today, President Obama signed the Ryan White HIV/AIDS Treatment Extension Act of 2009. It represents our ongoing commitment to ensuring access to needed HIV/AIDS care and treatment. The White House and the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) worked very closely with Congress on this bipartisan legislation, and the consensus document developed by the HIV/AIDS advocacy community was an important part of the process. We were so pleased that Jeanne White-Ginder, Ryan White’s mother, was here at the bill signing.</p></blockquote> <p>From Pam's House Blend - <a href="http://www.pamshouseblend.com/diary/13852/president-signs-the-ryan-white-hivaids-treatment-extension-act-of-2009">President Obama Signs Ryan White HIV/AIDS Treatment Extension</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>THE PRESIDENT: We often speak about AIDS as if it's going on somewhere else. And for good reason -- this is a virus that has touched lives and decimated communities around the world, particularly in Africa. But often overlooked is the fact that we face a serious HIV/AIDS epidemic of our own -- right here in Washington, D.C., and right here in the United States of America. And today, we are taking two important steps forward in the fight that we face here at home.</p> <object data="http://www.youtube.com/v/4SSVJns3grI&amp;color1=0xb1b1b1&amp;color2=0xcfcfcf&amp;feature=player_embedded&amp;fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="425" height="344"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always" /><param name="src" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/4SSVJns3grI&amp;color1=0xb1b1b1&amp;color2=0xcfcfcf&amp;feature=player_embedded&amp;fs=1" /><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /></object> <p>Also from Pam's House Blend - <a href="http://www.pamshouseblend.com/diary/13251/doug-spearman-on-why-hivaids-awareness-and-testing-should-be-a-priority-every-day">Why HIV/AIDS Awareness and Testing Should Be A Priority Every Day</a></p></blockquote> <p>From Renee &nbsp; - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/every-day-should-be-national-hiv-testing-day">Every Day Should Be National HIV Testing Day</a>...</p> <blockquote><p>It is my belief that most Americans think that HIV/AIDS is now a global problem and almost eradicated in the United States. Sadly, this is far from the truth. According to the CDC, in 2006 approximately 1.1 million people in the United States are living with HIV and 1 in 5 are undiagnosed. Twenty-one percent!</p> <p>A staggering 232,700 individuals living with HIV and are unaware of their status. Keep in mind that this number is from 2006, one can only guess what these numbers look like today.</p></blockquote> <p><strong>Also See</strong>:</p> <ul><li>From Times Live - <a href="http://blogs.timeslive.co.za/hiv/2009/11/06/todays-historic-hiv-convention-a-success/">Today's Historic HIV Convention A Success</a></li><li><a href="http://www.blogher.com/hiv-aids-2009-prevention-conference">HIV/AIDS 2009 Prevention Conference</a></li></ul><p><strong>Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan</strong><br /> at <a href="http://catherine-morgan.com/">Catherine-Morgan.com</a> and <a href="../">Women4Hope </a></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>One man, one woman. Three legs. Three arms. Big spirit. </title>
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    <published>2009-11-06T23:12:19-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T23:12:19-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Mata H</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Entertainment &amp; Culture" />
    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
    <category term="Arts" />
    <category term="Body Image" />
    <category term="Life" />
    <category term="Religion &amp; Spirituality" />
    <category term="ballet" />
    <category term="dance" />
    <category term="Ma Li" />
    <category term="Zhai Xiaowei" />
    <category term="Entertainment" />
    <category term="Living" />
    <category term="Religion &amp; Spirituality" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Ma Li has only one arm. Zhai Xiaowei has one leg. And below is a video of them dancing. They dance into the holes in people's lives. In the wordlessness of their dance, libraries of the soul open and volumes of unutterable wisdom fly off the shelves. A knowing comes forward.</p>
<p>We all know this. We recognize the feeling of brokenness. We know what we do not have, will never have. We know that all the pieces in the world are not whole, not complete. We know that we needed, and that we need.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Ma Li has only one arm. Zhai Xiaowei has one leg. And below is a video of them dancing. They dance into the holes in people's lives. In the wordlessness of their dance, libraries of the soul open and volumes of unutterable wisdom fly off the shelves. A knowing comes forward.</p>
<p>We all know this. We recognize the feeling of brokenness. We know what we do not have, will never have. We know that all the pieces in the world are not whole, not complete. We know that we needed, and that we need.</p>
<p>In the dance, we see that aching need and see that it can be as beautiful as it is heartbreaking. We are dumbstruck by the transformative power of the human heart. I have been haunted by this video since my friend, Marge, sent it to me this week. I play it and cry for its beauty, for the longing, for the dream of it. The video has been circulating since 2007.</p>
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<p>Ma Li and Zhai Xiaowei. Who are they? Ma Li was a promising 19 year old professional ballerina when she lost her right arm in a car accident in 1996. Her handsome boy friend walked away from her. She tried to kill herself, but was saved by her parents. Zhai Xiaowei lost his leg in a tractor accident when he was 4, and had never danced until less than two years before this video was made.</p>
<p>The story of how they met can be found <a href="http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/bjweekend/2007-12/21/content_6338410.htm">here</a> and <a href="http://www.flixxy.com/ballet">here.</a> By the time they met, Ma Li had won a competition for disabled dancers, and Zhai Xiaowei had entered the Paralympics in cycling. He moved in with Ma Li and her boyfriend/agent and began intense training in dance.</p>
<p>As I read what small information there is on the web about them in English, what stood out for me (in addition to the triumphant nature of the story) is that Ma Li was afraid when she first started dancing again that her stump would be seen by the audience. She was embarrassed.</p>
<p>But them I thought, is that not what accompanies all our brokenness? Shame, embarrassment, shyness. We don't want people to know, to see, to realize how imperfect we are, how flawed. So we hide those parts as best we can. At first, Ma Li had a special soft fabric limb made so that when she goes out it looks as though she has one hand in her pocket.</p>
<p>But her passion drew her back into dance. She not only felt the tugs of who she was meant to be, she followed them, and through agonizing training to re-learn such basic things as balance in dance, her spirit began to push out of the shadows into the light.</p>
<p>But if their bodies apart show us something about being broken, not whole, incomplete  -- what does the dance show us?</p>
<p>Redemption.</p>
<p>Community.</p>
<p>Love.</p>
<p>Grace.</p>
<p>It is almost cliche to say it, but combining our brokenness with others allows us to produce a whole thing, unique and beautiful - not whole in the usual sense, but fully functional, and complete in our own new way. The combination is more than the sum of its parts. Once combined, no one is adding them up any more. What is, is.</p>
<p>Think back to obstacles in your own life, Maybe they weren't as obvious as these dancers' obstacles are, but they are just as real. Think about what you did to get to the other side of them. Now let yourself feel the beauty in that, just as real as the beauty in this dance. To not just survive, but to live -- that is our calling, all of us.</p>
<p>It doesn't matter that we are not whole, imperfect, incomplete. We are not meant to be stand-alones. We are part of a tribe -- the human community. We are obligated to each other.</p>
<p>When you are bent and falling it is my job to help you up. When I fall, you must provide a hand. That is the only way any of us makes it in this world. And, like the dancers, we'll practice until we get it right -- one fall, one bruise, one celebration, one lift at a time.</p>
<p>RELATED BLOGS:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.mm-ministry.com/2009/06/hand-in-hand-lessons-from-ma-li-zhai.html">Oksana</a> observes:</p>
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Unfortunately, many people lack the kind of attitude that has helped Ma and Zhai redefine the possibilities of dance. Most of us tend to fall into one of two traps: we either see other peoples' needs but refuse to offer our strengths in assistance, or we choose to focus our lives on things at which we're not gifted, fruitlessly trying to perform an arabesque without a leg to lift while our healthy arms dangle unused.
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<p><a href="http://www.mentalfloss.com/blogs/archives/29393">Miss Cellania</a> has pictures and stories of other dancers - salsa, ballet, hip-hop who use crutches while performing. She says "...most of us, using crutches to get around would be an excuse to sit on the side of the dance floor. A select few take those crutches and outshine everyone around them. Here are the stories of four men who have two things in common: they use a crutch or two, and they are very, very good dancers."</p>
<p><a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=21647390">Sony</a> was also moved. She writres:</p>
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My eyes actually welled up with tears watching them perform. It wasn't just their handicap that touched my heart - the serene music, the liquid movements, the genuine emotions - everything was awesome! They are a living proof for how valor conquers physical disabilities. And here I am, cribbing about a minor body ache!
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<p><a href="http://kimchow.blogspot.com/2009/06/hand-in-hand_15.html">Kim Chow</a> says:</p>
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Watch their spectacular dance and splendid choreography - a breathtaking interpretation of how people overcome life’s frustrations and reap the joy of love.<br />
Watch it on full screen to enjoy the full impact of the dance. It's okay if your eyes are misty. We cry not for broken bones but cry in celebration of the unbroken human spirit.
</p></blockquote>
<p><a href="http://www.areyoubreathing.com/2008/10/amputee-ballet.html">Wendy </a> says: I am dedicating this video to anyone who has ever been told they couldn't do something or even felt a goal was out of their reach. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe that applies to everyone, including me.</p>
<p>----------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
<i>It took us so long to realize that a purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.<br />
Kurt Vonnegut<br />
</i></p>
<p>Mata H, CE for Religion &amp; Spirituality, blogs at <a href="http://timesfool.blogspot.com/">Time's Fool</a></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Come On, U.S., Give the Kids Their Rights</title>
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    <published>2009-11-06T18:28:16-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T18:28:16-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Britt Bravo</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Non-profits" />
    <category term="News &amp; Politics" />
    <category term="children" />
    <category term="human rights" />
    <category term="rights" />
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    <category term="Social Action" />
    <category term="World" />
    <category term="Social Action" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>November 20, 2009 is the 20th anniversary of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC).  <a href="http://www.unicef.org/crc/">According to UNICEF</a>, "<span><span><span>The Convention on the Rights of the Child is the first legally binding international instrument to incorporate the full range of human rights<span style="color: black;">—</span>civil, cultural, economic, political and social rights."</span></span></span><span><span><span> </span></span></span><br /></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>November 20, 2009 is the 20th anniversary of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC).  <a href="http://www.unicef.org/crc/">According to UNICEF</a>, "<span><span><span>The Convention on the Rights of the Child is the first legally binding international instrument to incorporate the full range of human rights<span style="color: black;">—</span>civil, cultural, economic, political and social rights."</span></span></span><span><span><span> </span></span></span><br /><br /><span><span><span>Only two </span></span></span>United Nations member states have not ratified it: <span style="font-style: italic;">Somalia</span> and the <span style="font-style: italic;">United States</span>.<br /> <br /> Did you just say, "What?" Yeah, me too.<br /> <br /> I'm not entirely sure why the U.S. hasn't ratified the Convention. It seems like a no-brainer. According to The Huffington Post article, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/23/obama-administration-seek_n_219511.html">Obama Administration Seeks To Join U.N. Rights Of The Child Convention</a>, "[O]pponents in the U.S. have long argued that it could open the door to outside interference from government and U.N. officials in what they say are parents' rights to raise a child as they see fit."<br /> <br /> I know the Obama Administration has a <span style="font-style: italic;">ton</span> on its plate right now, but I mean, come on--it's children's rights: things like <span><span><span>non-discrimination, protection from abuse, and protection for children without families, refugee children, and children with disabilities.&nbsp; Do we really need to think hard about this one?</span></span></span><br /> <br /> The <a href="http://www.theirc.org/">International Rescue Committee (IRC)</a> has launched an <a href="http://www.theirc.org/campaign/urge-president-obama-take-action-childrens-rights">online petition</a> urging President Obama and the U.S. Congress to ratify the agreement. Amnesty International also has a <a href="http://www.amnestyusa.org/children/crn_sampleprint.html">sample letter template</a> you can send to your Senator, <span><span><span>and has created an <a href="http://www.amnestyusa.org/children/crn_summary.html">unofficial summary of the 42 main provisions of the Convention</a> for you to peruse.</span></span></span><span><span><span><br /> <br /> If you know of a good reason why we shouldn't ratify this let me know, 'cause I can't think of one.</span></span></span></p><p><span><span><span><br /><object data="http://www.youtube.com/v/WzQb7z-k1T0&amp;hl=en&amp;fs=1&amp;" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" height="344" width="425"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /><param name="src" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/WzQb7z-k1T0&amp;hl=en&amp;fs=1&amp;" /><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /></object><br /></span></span></span></p><p><span><span><span>Related blogs:<br /></span></span></span></p><ul><li><span><span><span><a href="http://fieldnotes.unicefusa.org/">U.S. Fund for UNICEF's Field Notes</a></span></span></span></li><li><span><span><span><a href="http://blog.amnestyusa.org/">Amnesty International USA's Human Rights Now</a></span></span></span></li><li><span><span><span><a href="http://blog.theirc.org/">International Rescue Committee's Voice from the Field</a></span></span></span></li></ul><p><span style="font-style: italic;">Full disclosure: I donate to Amnesty International and UNICEF.</span><br /><br /><em>BlogHer Contributing Editor, <a href="http://blogher.org/?q=member/britt-bravo"> Britt Bravo</a>, also blogs at <a href="http://havefundogood.blogspot.com/">Have Fun * Do Good</a>, WE tv's <a href="http://www.wetv.com/blogs/do-good-feel-good/index.html" target="_blank">WE Volunteer blog</a>, <a href="http://www.theextraordinaries.org/" target="_blank">The Extraordinaries</a>, and the <a href="http://culturalentrepreneur.org/blog/" target="_blank">Global Center for Cultural Entrepreneurship blog</a>. She is a <a href="http://www.brittbravo.com/" target="_blank">Big Vision Consultant</a>.</em></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Is Bob McDonnell Bad For Women?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/bob-mcdonnell-bad-women" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/bob-mcdonnell-bad-women</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T17:38:20-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T19:21:57-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>American Princess</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="News &amp; Politics" />
    <category term="BlogHers Act" />
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="Issues" />
    <category term="Politics" />
    <category term="Law" />
    <category term="Libertarian" />
    <category term="Republicans" />
    <category term="Social Action" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Okay, that's an incendiary headline, isn't it? I'm not one to enter the circular firing squad on Republicans (okay, so yes, I am, but not fresh-out-of-the-box governors who are serving as a bellweather for the Democratic agenda's chances in 2010), but there are certain issues on which I feel, as a libertarian feminist, on which I have to seek clarification, the question of whether a certain candidate actively works against the interest of women being one of them.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Okay, that's an incendiary headline, isn't it? I'm not one to enter the circular firing squad on Republicans (okay, so yes, I am, but not fresh-out-of-the-box governors who are serving as a bellweather for the Democratic agenda's chances in 2010), but there are certain issues on which I feel, as a libertarian feminist, on which I have to seek clarification, the question of whether a certain candidate actively works against the interest of women being one of them.</p>
<p>So when I got an email from the <a href="http://www.now.org" target="_blank">National Organization of Women</a> accusing Governor-elect McDonnell of saying this:</p>
<blockquote><p>[The] " dynamic new trend of working women and feminists ... is ultimately detrimental to the family."</p>
</blockquote>
<p>naturally I was concerned. Sure, I'm not always ideologically in line with NOW, but I'm not always presented with a situation wherein a politician actually states, for the record, that he's opposed to women working outside the home. NOW's mission is to preserve and promote the rights of women, and they need the support of their members (active and financial) to continue to pursue their goals, and generally speaking, Republicans are a huge roadblock to those goals. They show up and they start snooping in your bedroom, around your gay marriage and your reproductive rights. Note the use of the term "feminist" as a pejorative. Its so classic, so stereotypical, so perfect...so I had to investigate.</p>
<p>Bob McDonnell appears to have made a pretty strong statement...in a <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/09/01/AR2009090103075.html" target="_blank">paper he wrote about the current Republican Party platform for a policy class 20 years ago</a>. From a September column by Ruth Marcus in the Washington Post, which called McDonnell's statements his "Macaca Moment:"</p>
<blockquote><p>Bob McDonnell, the Republican candidate for governor of Virginia, didn't really mean it when he equated homosexuality with drug abuse and pornography as evils that "the government must restrain, punish, and deter."...Or when he described "feminism" as one of the "real enemies of the traditional family" and criticized federal child-care programs because they "subsidize a dynamic new trend of working women and feminists that is ultimately detrimental to the family."</p>
<p>Or if he did mean it, he doesn't any longer. When he wrote his thesis on "The Republican Party's Vision for the Family," McDonnell, you see, was a "college student at the time, albeit a little older college student, within an academic environment and completely not restrained by the real policy world."</p>
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<p>The paper was written in 1989 when McDonnell was a 34 year old student who had already earned a Bachelor's and Master's degree and was working on a joint law/public policy degree. He had already served in the Army and was currently serving an internship in the US House of Republican Policy Committee. So its not like it was his first time around the block. McDonnell brough the report up himself in an interview with the WaPo's Amy Gardner.</p>
<p>But here's the thing. The paper <em>wasn't</em> a 93-page blog post, stuffed to the gills with McDonnell's personal beliefs. He wasn't writing about what he had on <em>his</em> agenda, but rather what the Republican Party had on <em>its </em>agenda for the American family in 1989. Sadly enough, 20 years ago, it was acceptable to call co-habitating couples "fornicators" and warn of the dangers of gays getting the idea in their heads that they might like to have legally-recognized relationships. And while we can argue until we're blue about the propriety of such beliefs - and whether they've evolved over the last 20 years even in the public realm - that they were on the Republican agenda at the end of the Reagan era is without question. Pornography and drugs were bad (I'm pretty sure this is still the GOP position), <em>Griswold v. Connecticut</em> is still a case that introduces substantive due process and the right to privacy, which radically changed how the government viewed liberties and the laws that infringe on them, and the existence of federally funded childcare programs could snowball into (OMG!) children being raised by the collective and not their parents, I guess.</p>
<p>Hey, I didn't say the positions were <em>good</em> positions or that they...um...even make sense. But they were the GOP's in 1989. And that last part? That's what Bob McDonnell was referring to - its clear when you put the quote back into context.</p>
<blockquote><p>“Further expenditures would be used to subsidize a dynamic new trend of working women and feminists that is ultimately detrimental to the family by entrenching status-quo of nonparental primary nurture of children,”</p>
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<p><a href="http://view.picapp.com/default.aspx?term="bob mcdonnell" women&amp;iid=6798910" target="_blank"><img src="http://cdn.picapp.com/ftp/Images/5/6/d/3/Virginia_Gubernatorial_Candidate_5fd5.jpg?adImageId=7172633&amp;imageId=6798910" width="380" height="570"  border="0" alt="Virginia Gubernatorial Candidate Bob McDonnell Holds Women&apos;s Rally" /></a></p>
<script type="text/javascript" src="http://cdn.pis.picapp.com/IamProd/PicAppPIS/JavaScript/PisV4.js"></script><p>Okay, I'm still not feeling that "feminist" invective (really? federal child care = working women = nonparental primary care is the norm?), but the clouds are parting here. And McDonnell spent 90 minutes on the phone with reporters trying to part them further (from <a href="http://article.nationalreview.com/?q=MTViYjY4YTEyNzM3Mjg3ZTRiZmIxNzNiN2VjZDA3ZjE=&amp;w=MQ==" target="_blank">National Review</a>):</p>
<blockquote><p>The controversy over McDonnell’s thesis, with its inflammatory language about working women, risked destroying all this effort. But McDonnell handled it deftly. He spent 90 minutes on a conference call with reporters exhausting every possible question about the thesis. Then, the next day, when he was asked about it again at an education event, he said he’d answered all the thesis questions the day before and wanted to keep the campaign on the here and now.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>McDonnell, who is generally recognized now as a "pragmatic conservative" who champions a traditionally conservative agenda along with innovative fiscal policy, also says that nowadays, he doesn't feel this way. That was 20 years ago, he maintains, and he's had daughters grow up and enter the working world, and political realities and a moderating culture have probably had an effect on his opinions, even if they did fall in line with the hard GOP in the late 80s.</p>
<p>Now, if only he'd voted with NOW on some key issues like federal child care and federally-mandated equal pay laws? Yeah, he didn't. As <a href="http://www.momsrising.org/blog/who-loves-working-women-more-playing-the-new-political-football-in-virginia/" target="_blank">Arianna of MomsRising.org</a> points out:</p>
<blockquote><p>[Ruth] Marcus wasn’t the only woman who was skeptical of McDonnell’s defense that he was just a kid (at 34), and that hey, he loves working women now. Why, his wife and daughters even work!</p>
<p><strong>What undermines McDonnell’s defense? His actual votes against two...issues, child care and equal pay for women.</strong></p>
<p><strong>McDonnell countered these attacks with his own ad, entitled “Trust” featuring women he himself employed when he was Attorney General. </strong> He is also airing another ad, featuring his daughter, and Iraq war vet, called “Working Woman.”</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Even this doesn't get my blood boiling. I'm not a fan of government-funded anything, or government-mandated anything, and federal child care programs are no exception. As a libertarian, I happen to agree with the idea that where it can be done better by the free market (and probably cheaper), it should be. Is federally-funded child care necessary? Maybe, but voting against it doesn't necessarily mean one is "anti-woman," and neither does a vote against a measure that would expand equal pay laws that are <em>already in existence</em> by extending the time and analysis period for lawsuits. As much as it might pain people to admit it, we have a pretty good system in place to fight sexism, and given that companies aren't falling all over themselves to have workplaces full of supposedly-cheaper women in order to maximize profits in a troubled economic time, I'm fairly certain they're at least working a little.</p>
<p>And, to be really honest, these are pretty standard conservative positions. Even if I disagree with them (and him), Bob's allowed to be a social conservative. If the Washington <em>Post</em> crowed about it and he still won independents by almost a 2 to 1 margin, I think most of Virginia might agree with me.</p>
<p>If you're into these laws, then I can see where the Bob McDonnell case, as a whole, might convince you that he was an evil, woman-hating Republican, but I'm just not buying it. Given the context, and the fact that I'd probably vote agains those measures, too, given the chance, I have to say this is a little thin. I'm open to being convinced, though.</p>
<p>I mean, he just <em>looks</em> terrifying.</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Finally Getting &quot;Syked&quot; about Diversity in Late Night TV</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/finally-getting-syked-about-diversity-late-night-tv" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/finally-getting-syked-about-diversity-late-night-tv</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T16:00:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T19:55:52-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>debontherocks</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Movies &amp; TV" />
    <category term="comedy" />
    <category term="comics" />
    <category term="Fox" />
    <category term="hbo" />
    <category term="late night television" />
    <category term="lesbian mothers" />
    <category term="lesbians" />
    <category term="marginalized voices" />
    <category term="midlife" />
    <category term="Saturday Night Live" />
    <category term="talk shows" />
    <category term="twins" />
    <category term="women of color" />
    <category term="For grownups" />
    <category term="Midlife" />
    <category term="Movies &amp; TV" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Late night network talk shows are about to get the correction of all correction.&nbsp; Fox booted <a href="http://www.variety.com/article/VR1117995723.html?categoryid=1417&amp;cs=1">Mad TV</a> and has now signed the Saturday night 11:00 EST slot to <a href="http://www.fox.com/wanda/">The Wanda Sykes Show</a>.&nbsp; Provocative, acerbic, and unabashedly liberal, Wanda promises a show that will focus on ripping up and riffing on the news and pop culture trends of the week with monologues, taped pieces and a panel discussion with guests.&nbsp; Finally, Saturday night may once again showcase te</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Late night network talk shows are about to get the correction of all correction.&nbsp; Fox booted <a href="http://www.variety.com/article/VR1117995723.html?categoryid=1417&amp;cs=1">Mad TV</a> and has now signed the Saturday night 11:00 EST slot to <a href="http://www.fox.com/wanda/">The Wanda Sykes Show</a>.&nbsp; Provocative, acerbic, and unabashedly liberal, Wanda promises a show that will focus on ripping up and riffing on the news and pop culture trends of the week with monologues, taped pieces and a panel discussion with guests.&nbsp; Finally, Saturday night may once again showcase television to talk about.<br /><br />The test show offered an incredibly funny and a fast-paced hour.&nbsp; I wouldn't rush home from a party to catch it, but I'd pause watching a recorded show to catch it live, because I'm betting The Wanda Sykes show will prompt a Twitter #sykes tag that will be cool to play with. I certainly wouldn't have flipped the channel midway through for Saturday Night Live--the shows will overlap by a half-hour.&nbsp; A variety of set-ups keep it moving. The Wanda Sykes Show reminds me most of Bill Maher's construct, but decidedly more appealing and relaxed.&nbsp; The panel rolls like a late night conversation with different types of people in an airport bar or at a comedy club after the show is over--and in fact, Wanda graciously has a swank bar onstage in case her guests want a cocktail.&nbsp; Wanda nurses a vodka.</p>
<p><a href="http://view.picapp.com/default.aspx?term="Wanda Sykes"&amp;iid=5828179" target="_blank"><img src="http://cdn.picapp.com/ftp/Images/7/3/9/7/Summer_TCA_Tour_083e.jpg?adImageId=7173906&amp;imageId=5828179" width="380" height="529"  border="0" alt="Summer TCA Tour - Day 10" /></a></p>
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<br /><br />Fox's choice is an exciting break to the monotony of current late night talk shows where hosts represent wide range of white dudes: from greyish-white Bill Maher, to pinkish Conan, to ruddy Letterman, to white white Leno.&nbsp; Same white smarmy, smug humor, too. Wanda's notably the first chick late-night network host since <a href="http://tvseriesfinale.com/tv-show/the-late-show-starring-joan-rivers/">Joan Rivers</a>. NBC has inexplicably dominated Saturday night with <a href="http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/">Saturday Night Live</a> which continually marginalizes female cast members.&nbsp; Wanda is also an out lesbian mama who talks openly about her wife and six-month-old twins. In most ways on television, Sykes stands alone.</p>
<p>Starr Rhett thinks The Wanda Show will score. She blogged at <a href="http://blogs.bet.com/entertainment/staytuned/wanda-sykes-talks-about-new-show-format-prop-8/">BET.com</a>: "We definitely need more people like Wanda Sykes. She’s relatable to everyone despite her sexuality. I think her show will do well. I’m particularly feeling the round table format. Plus, I’m still holding on to hope that someone will fill the late night talk show void that Arsenio Hall left wide open. At least now I’m grown and won’t have to sneak to watch it."</p>
<p>Like the comic equivalent of a rock anthem for individuality, Wanda apologetically proclaimed "<a href="http://www.hbo.com/events/wanda-sykes-imabeme/video.html">I'ma Be Me</a>" in the title of her recent HBO comedy special.&nbsp; One of the most exciting things about watching her new show is that Wanda is at a fascinating time in her life and career.&nbsp; At 45, she's a role model for midlife women coming into their own, with her personal life and biggest career successes (including roles on <a href="http://www.cbs.com/primetime/old_christine/">The New Adventures of Old Christine</a> and <a href="http://www.hbo.com/larrydavid/">Curb Your Enthusiasm</a>) hitting a huge stride in the last few years.&nbsp; Television viewers are used to seeing her play "the friend," albeit the friend who will tell you the horrid truth while swearing and shaking her head. Her perspective is both daring and completely no-nonsense average, which creates a dynamic tension that many find engaging.&nbsp; Of course, it also makes her completely unbearable to others.&nbsp; But I'm not worried about those viewers, as they don't lack for other options.</p>
<p>Ma'at, who blogs at <a href="http://ybwconfessions.blogspot.com/2009/10/i-3-wanda-sykes.html">Confessions of a Young Black Woman</a>, wants to hang at Wanda's table. "I'm watching her latest HBO special, and she's still funny as hell. I love the fact that she is shamelessly open about who she is. I love that she's not ashamed of her wife and kids. Plus, she looks DAMNED good."</p>
<p><a href="http://blackqueerradical.com/stories/tv-10.8.09-Wanda%20Sykes%20Plugs%20New%20HBO%20Special%20on%20Jay%20Leno%20Show.html">Black Queer Radical</a> blog highlighed Wanda's recent Jay Leno appearance where she talked about legalizing marijuana.&nbsp; Wanda's take:</p>
<blockquote><p>That's nuts. I'm against it. You ever know a pot smoker that keeps a to-do list? You're not going to improve the economy or productivity.&nbsp; If Schwarzenegger wants to spark productivity and make some money, cocaine baby. You'll have people working 48 hour shifts. It will be good for the environment - people will be running to work.</p>
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<p>Give her a few weeks to settle in to her new loft and the show will sail.&nbsp; SNL must be oblivious or not worried, though, as their choice of Taylor Swift as host against The Wanda Sykes premiere is absolutely puzzling.&nbsp; Maybe the writers and producers want to be free to catch Wanda's show too?</p>
<p><em>Contributing editor Deb Rox has her own bar at <a href="http://www.debontherocks.com">Deb on the Rocks</a>. She also <a href="http://www.twitter.com/debontherocks">tweets</a> about many things, including television (while trying to avoid spoilers for her West Coast friends, really, she tries).</em></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>A Week in Review - November 6, 2009</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/week-review-november-6-2009" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/week-review-november-6-2009</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T13:23:02-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T13:23:02-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>loriluna</name>
    </author>
    <category term="BlogHer Conferences" />
    <category term="2009 Meet-ups" />
    <category term="BlogHer Business 2010" />
    <category term="BlogHer Business 2010 Updates" />
    <category term="BlogHer Conference 2010" />
    <category term="BlogHer Conference 2010 Updates" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Happy Friday!!</p><p>Another great week with an exciting <strong><a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-two-blogher-holiday-meet-ups-join-us-sf-or-nyc-december-3-2009" target="_blank">holiday announcement</a></strong> - <strong>TWO BlogHer parties!</strong>&nbsp; In true BlogHer fashion we are having fun on not one but two coasts!</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Happy Friday!!</p><p>Another great week with an exciting <strong><a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-two-blogher-holiday-meet-ups-join-us-sf-or-nyc-december-3-2009" target="_blank">holiday announcement</a></strong> - <strong>TWO BlogHer parties!</strong>&nbsp; In true BlogHer fashion we are having fun on not one but two coasts!</p><p>San Franciscans will be celebrating at <a href="http://www.tresagaves.com/" target="_blank"><strong>Tres Agaves</strong></a> and New Yorkers will be kickin' it at <a href="http://prannarestaurant.com/" target="_blank"><strong>Pranna</strong></a>.&nbsp; To make sure your name is on the list, <strong>RSVP</strong> for the <a href="http://blogherholiday09sf.eventbrite.com/" target="_blank"><strong>San Francisco</strong></a> and <a href="http://blogherholiday09nyc.eventbrite.com/" target="_blank"><strong>New York</strong></a> parties!&nbsp;</p><p>In addition to the parties, we are working with the <a href="http://www.sffoodbank.org/give_food/pdfs/2up_shoplistbw_09.pdf" target="_blank"><strong>San Francisco</strong></a> and <a href="http://foodbankny.org/index.cfm?objectid=4C663139-3048-651A-2027F69BC59D0767" target="_blank"><strong>New York Food Banks</strong></a>.&nbsp; The Food Banks have provided us with lists of items that are most needed now and during the holiday season - check out the lists:&nbsp; <a href="http://www.sffoodbank.org/give_food/pdfs/2up_shoplistbw_09.pdf" target="_blank"><strong>San Francisco Food Bank</strong></a> - <a href="http://foodbankny.org/index.cfm?objectid=4C663139-3048-651A-2027F69BC59D0767" target="_blank"><strong>New York Food Bank</strong></a>.</p><p>Of course we are still working hard on<a href="http://www.blogher.com/blogher_conference/conf" target="_blank"><strong> BlogHer '10</strong></a> and <a href="http://blogher10.eventbrite.com/" target="_blank"><strong>registration</strong></a> is steady.&nbsp; In addition to attendee <a href="http://blogher10.eventbrite.com/" target="_blank"><strong>registration</strong></a>, Elisa posted our <a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-blogher-10-call-ideas" target="_blank"><strong>Call for Ideas</strong></a> and we are getting fabulous ideas and input from so many of you.&nbsp; If you have a <a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-blogher-10-call-ideas" target="_blank"><strong>great idea</strong></a> you have until November 30 to let us know.</p><p>Have a great weekend, talk to you next week!</p><p><a href="mailto:lori@blogher.com" target="_blank">Lori</a><br />Events Manager</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Surviving Holidays with the In-Laws through Camp</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/surviving-holidays-laws-through-camp" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/surviving-holidays-laws-through-camp</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T12:09:04-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T12:52:52-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Shannon LC Cate</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="Balance" />
    <category term="christmas" />
    <category term="Family Connections" />
    <category term="grandparents" />
    <category term="Holiday Survival Guide 09" />
    <category term="holidays" />
    <category term="in-laws" />
    <category term="Family Dynamics" />
    <category term="Grandparents" />
    <category term="In-laws" />
    <category term="Relatives" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>My partner has never spent a single Christmas away from her mother.&nbsp; In the contest between making my eighty-something-year old mother-in-law hate me and doing Christmas in my own preferred, low-key way...well, it <em>was</em> no contest.<br /></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>My partner has never spent a single Christmas away from her mother.&nbsp; In the contest between making my eighty-something-year old mother-in-law hate me and doing Christmas in my own preferred, low-key way...well, it <em>was</em> no contest.<br /><br />To be fair, my mother-in-law has her own low-key version of Christmas, it's just about the diametrical opposite of what mine would be.&nbsp; My in-law's house rings with electronic beeps mimicking Christmas carols, emitted by dancing Santa dolls; it is filled with high-fructose corn syrup-sweetened donuts and drug store candy.&nbsp; Everyone's stocking is stuffed with lottery tickets.&nbsp; If I had my way, Handel would play softly in the background while we all ate one or two homemade cookies and opened one or two modest but meaningful gifts around a natural tree decorated with popcorn and cranberries to feed later to the birds.<br /><br />The fact is, neither of these versions of Christmas is better or worse.&nbsp; It's a matter of personal preference, taste, and, I'm well aware, not a little bit a matter of social class.&nbsp; My in-laws scrambled and scraped and worked their fingers to the bone to arrive in the middle class after growing up in working poverty, in the coal mine country of West Virginia where the Great Depression lingered well past their births in the 1920s.<br /><br />My mother-in-law wants to give her grandchildren a Christmas she never had--with all the glitz and sweetness and hope-against-hope (read: lottery tickets) that capitalism has to offer.&nbsp; My socialist self may be disgusted by this glitz, but then again, I've never wanted for food on the table or new shoes when I needed them, either.<br /><br />So when my mother-in-law cajoles the children to squeeze the power button on the dancing electronic Santa doll under the artificial tree trimmed with garish multi-colored lights, what do I do?&nbsp; I dance along.&nbsp; I ask her to pass me the peanut brittle (not such a big sacrifice, really) and I let her talk about "Santy Claus" coming to the kids.&nbsp; I do it not because any of it represents taste or values I necessarily want to pass onto my young children, but because it makes an old lady very happy, and it's easy.<br /><br />If I ever feel bummed out about not having Christmas "my way," what do I do?&nbsp; I think Camp.&nbsp; Camp as in "ostentatious, exaggerated, affected, theatrical" as the <a href="http://infao5501.ag5.mpi-sb.mpg.de:8080/topx/archive?link=Wikipedia-Lip6-2/83987.xml&amp;style#1">OED claims the word first came to mean in 1909</a>.&nbsp; That is, when I feel I must participate in something that is simply not me, I become, imaginatively, someone other than myself.&nbsp; The "real" Shannon may loathe electronic beeping masquerading as music, but the camp daughter-in-law Shannon sees a dancing snowman at the Cracker Barrel on the road to the in-laws and scoops it up, knowing my partner's mother will love it.&nbsp; The "real" Shannon may think the lottery is a tax on the poor, but daughter-in-law Shannon gives her $2 "winning" ticket (out of $12 of tickets) back to her mother-in-law on Christmas morning and says "put it on the power ball!"<br /><br />It costs me very little.&nbsp; It makes some important people very happy.&nbsp; And ultimately, what I'm teaching my children is that a "tasteful" holiday is nowhere near as important as showing love to the people who matter in your life.</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>When Mascara Attacks: Because  not ALL beauty products are winners.</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/when-mascara-attacks-because-not-all-beauty-products-are-winners</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T08:45:46-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T13:34:00-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>metalia</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Fashion &amp; BeautyHacks" />
    <category term="Makeup" />
    <category term="beauty disasters" />
    <category term="loreal" />
    <category term="mascara" />
    <category term="Makeup" />
    <category term="Mascara" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;At the risk of boring you with my intricate and multifaceted philosophies on where to spend and save in your beauty product budget (which, if I'm being honest, would likely involve charts, graphs, or at the very least, a Venn diagram or two), I will simply say this: I feel that mascara is one of the products where you can really save your money. The drugstore offers formulas that, in many instances, are of comparable quality to department store versions. And so it was that a few weeks ago, I found myself in the market for a new mascara, and the drugstore was my destination.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;At the risk of boring you with my intricate and multifaceted philosophies on where to spend and save in your beauty product budget (which, if I'm being honest, would likely involve charts, graphs, or at the very least, a Venn diagram or two), I will simply say this: I feel that mascara is one of the products where you can really save your money. The drugstore offers formulas that, in many instances, are of comparable quality to department store versions. And so it was that a few weeks ago, I found myself in the market for a new mascara, and the drugstore was my destination.</p><p>I had polled <a href="http://twitter.com.metalia" target="_blank">Twitter</a> as to people's favorite tried-and-true drugstore mascaras, and off I went, armed with a fistful of recommendations.</p><p>And then I was blinded by this one:</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><img src="http://img25.imageshack.us/img25/7751/14282776.jpg" alt="" width="318" height="423" /></p><p>L'Oreal Telescopic Explosion. Remember that name, people. Despite having been given great suggestions by a number of people, people PASSIONATELY advocating for this drugstore mascara or that, I (stupidly) went rogue, and opted for this, the unknown. I was equal parts frightened and fascinated by the blowfish/mace-looking wand, but I was DAZZLED by words like "breakthrough" and "multi-angle application" and (the vaguely porny-sounding) "telescopic explosion." And so, I bought it, and well...no. Just...no.</p><p>For frame of reference, here's how my eyes generally look, with and without mascara. (Shown here is my current favorite, Max Factor 2000 Calorie Extreme Lash Plumper.)</p><p><img src="http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u287/metaliablog/mascara3.jpg" alt="" width="493" height="159" /></p><p>Annnnnd, here's how they look with my new acquisition, Telescopic Explosion. Please note: THIS IS AFTER ME UTILIZING A LASH COMB. FOR SERIOUS.</p><p><img src="http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u287/metaliablog/mascara.jpg" alt="" width="332" height="464" /></p><p><img src="http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u287/metaliablog/mascara2.jpg" alt="" width="397" height="282" /></p><p>The mascara is, as you can see, is lumpy as well as clumpy. (And apparently, it also makes me talk like Dr. Seuss, but both of those words are QUITE APT.) There is, I think, too much freedom that comes with having a wee ball-type mascara applicator instead of the standard wand, and that, coupled with its lumpy-clumpy qualities, spelled disaster for me. I gave it a few more tries, but a few days ago, I quite literally drop kicked it into the trash.</p><p>I know we're generally all about touting things that we enjoy here, but sometimes it's also good to call attention to the things that DON'T work for us, and why. After all, although the mascara wasn't great for me, I gained a new mantra from the experience (which is that life is too short to walk around looking like Tammy-Faye Bakker), as well as a new life lesson (for the love of god, LISTEN to the nice people making mascara recommendations).</p><p><strong>What has been YOUR biggest beauty fail lately?</strong></p><p><em>Metalia also blogs <a href="http://metalia.blogspot.com" target="_blank">here</a>.</em></p><p>&nbsp;</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Down Syndrome - A Condition, Not A Definition</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/down-syndrome-condition-not-definition</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T08:00:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T11:16:28-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>butternugsquash</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
    <category term="&#039;07 Sponsors" />
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="Down Syndrome" />
    <category term="Special Needs" />
    <category term="Special needs" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Last month was a month devoted to promoting awareness about what Down Syndrome REALLY is. About how amazing people with that little extra chromosome are. About how we’ve spent centuries treating them as if they can’t do anything simply because they do it more slowly &amp; deliberately. Because they look different than neurotypical people. But they’re showing us “normal” people every day that they can do far, far more than we know.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Last month was a month devoted to promoting awareness about what Down Syndrome REALLY is. About how amazing people with that little extra chromosome are. About how we’ve spent centuries treating them as if they can’t do anything simply because they do it more slowly &amp; deliberately. Because they look different than neurotypical people. But they’re showing us “normal” people every day that they can do far, far more than we know.</p><p><img style="border: 2px solid black; float: left; margin-left: 3px; margin-right: 3px;" src="http://i127.photobucket.com/albums/p134/butternugsquash/head.jpg" alt="" width="350" height="350" />This is my son, Henry. He's 6 years old and has Down Syndrome. He<strong> isn't</strong> Down Syndrome, he <strong>has </strong>Down Syndrome. It doesn't <em>define</em> who he is, it's only<em> part </em>of who he is. He's also a 6 year old boy who loves books, farm animals, dancing, laughing, Elmo and lots of other things six year olds love. Unfortunately, many people will not be able to see past the Down Syndrome portion of who he is, which is a shame, because he - and all people who have Down Syndrome - are SO. MUCH. MORE.</p><p><br />Let’s educate ourselves about Down Syndrome &amp; what it REALLY means. It doesn’t mean institutionalizing people. It doesn’t mean they’re “retards”. It doesn’t mean they can’t learn or love or do much of what we all do every day. They go to work. They go to school. They play sports. They love music. They have friends. They go on dates. They’re even going to college &amp; getting married. They are JUST LIKE YOU &amp; ME. From what I can see - here’s the only difference. They do what we do - just a little more slowly &amp; deliberately. It’s not that they CAN’T do something - it’s just that it takes them a little longer to learn how to do it. Having seen the strides we’ve taken in just the past couple of decades, I wouldn’t be surprised to see a future when people with DS regularly drive, live on their own, and do a lot more. Of course, I’m speaking in generalizations, but I see it. I believe it.</p><p><br />Another misconception people have about those with Down Syndrome is that they’re dull. They don’t have a sense of humor and they just sit there with their mouths hanging open and their tongues hanging out. They don’t really *respond* to people - just kind of dopily flop around being completely passive and….well….dull. I’m here to say that’s a load of crap. Let me show you the responsiveness of a 21 month old with DS. Tell me this is a “dull” child.</p><p><object data="http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=1893262&amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;show_title=0&amp;show_byline=0&amp;show_portrait=0&amp;color=00ADEF&amp;fullscreen=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="451" height="340"><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /><param name="src" value="http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=1893262&amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;show_title=0&amp;show_byline=0&amp;show_portrait=0&amp;color=00ADEF&amp;fullscreen=1" /></object></p> <p><br />Isn’t that the cutest thing? Now, let me explain something. You see him doing a lot of licking – his hands and his pacifier strap. Understand why this is – it’s due to sensory issues. Because he has a very high need for sensory input, coupled with being practically blind without his glasses, he uses his mouth a lot to learn about the world and his place in it. If he’s not getting enough stimulation (like skin pressure, spinning, and stuff like that), he tends to lick his hands or his pacifier strap. At the point of this video, we weren’t yet aware of his serious sensory issue problems. But it’s not because he’s DULL or something. It’s because it provides something he needs. People with Down Syndrome tend to have their tongues hanging out sometimes. We see it as “dull” or “slow”. That’s not it at all. It’s because people with DS tend to have smaller mouths and their tongues are too big. Plus, very low muscle tone in the oral area is very typical. Combine those things and unless they’re really concentrating on it, it can simply be difficult to do.</p><p><br />See how it’s all about perception? If you don’t ask the questions in order to understand, you assume the worst. “If he/she wasn’t so dumb, they’d be able to keep their tongues in their mouths – means they’re all stupid.” Wrong. There’s a REASON. Often it can be improved. If not, don’t assume it’s because they’re too dim-witted to know to keep their mouths closed.</p><p><br />You know what I’m realizing? People fear what they don’t know. They treat people with DS as if they’re less-than-human because they don’t KNOW them. They’ve never met a person with DS and certainly don’t know someone like my Henry. So that’s my mission – to help people know someone with Down Syndrome so they won’t be fearful of people with Down Syndrome. They’re people. They like to be treated like it. Talk to them. If you see someone with DS working at your store – say “hi”. Ask how they are. Don’t stare. Don’t whisper. And, hopefully, with every person who does this, a little prejudice will ease up. A little love will spread. Like the Grinch, maybe a heart will grow 2 sizes that day. Do it for Henry. Or <a href="http://carolinesmom.blogspot.com/">Caroline</a>. For <a href="http://20birds.net/concealedstars/">Jenni</a>. For <a href="http://rhettsjourney.blogspot.com/">Rhett</a>. For <a href="http://bananamigraine.blogspot.com/">Delphine</a>. For <a href="http://willswebplace.blogspot.com/">Will</a>. For <a href="http://mdbeau.blogspot.com/">Kayla</a>. For countless HUMAN BEINGS who live like us, love like us and deserve respect &amp; dignity just like us. Thank you.</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>From Great Depression to Great Recession: Layaway Is Making A Comeback</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/great-depression-great-recession-layaway-making-comeback</id>
    <published>2009-11-06T00:48:40-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T07:53:24-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>wellheeledblog</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Money &amp; Personal Finance" />
    <category term="Frugal" />
    <category term="holiday shopping" />
    <category term="Layaway" />
    <category term="Budgets" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>One side effect of the Great Recession is the return of the layaway. A layaway is a low-cost finance method for a customer to make a purchase in installments prior to buying the item. For example, a customer who is eying a $100 jacket might not have enough money to buy it at once, but under a layaway plan, she can put away $20 a week for 5 weeks until the jacket is paid in full. Usually there is also a fee associated with the program to compensate the store for putting the item on hold until the customer makes the final payment. </p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>One side effect of the Great Recession is the return of the layaway. A layaway is a low-cost finance method for a customer to make a purchase in installments prior to buying the item. For example, a customer who is eying a $100 jacket might not have enough money to buy it at once, but under a layaway plan, she can put away $20 a week for 5 weeks until the jacket is paid in full. Usually there is also a fee associated with the program to compensate the store for putting the item on hold until the customer makes the final payment. </p>
<p>Wal-Mart, U.S. largest retailer, <a href="http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=6533682">ended its 44-year layaway program in December 2006</a> and have no plans to reintroduce it. Several large chains are bringing back the practice, however. Sears is advertising its layaway program as <a href="http://www.sears.com/shc/s/dap_10153_12605_DAP_Sears+Layaway">“Shop Now, Pay Later”</a>, but that isn’t quite the case. Customers do have the benefit of reserving popular items with a $15 or 20% down payment to begin the layaway, however, they would not be able to pick up the item until it has been paid in full.</p>
<p>Layaway has largely fallen out of favor for the past years. Instead, credit became the norm in paying for purchases. (In fact, the first time I heard of the concept of layaway was a year ago, when the beginning of the economic crisis prompted many retailers to offer the option for the first time in years). With a declining economic environment and tightening credit, companies see the benefit in offering layaway programs. K-Mart, Sears, Toys-R-Us, TJ Maax, and Marshalls are offering layaway as an option in all or most of their stores. </p>
<p>K-Mart offers an 8-week period for customers to make payments. In order to reach more customers, K-Mart has also introduced an online version of layaway. As <a href="http://www.bvonmoney.com/2009/10/07/layaway-is-back-at-k-mart-and-sears/">Carmen Dixon of BV on Money</a> said, “layaway is going digital”. </p>
<p>Toys ‘R’ Us has introduced the layaway program for the first time in 2009. Layaway is available for expensive products, or as the company calls it, “Big Gifts”. The Big Gift Layaway can be used on items such as dollhouses, indoor table games, playsets, baby gear, and battery-powered vehicles. Consumers pay a $10 fee and must put a 20% down payment to put an item on layaway.   </p>
<p><a href="http://www.examiner.com/x-20778-Buffalo-Single-Moms-Examiner~y2009m9d6-Guilty-pleasure-of-the-week-Stores-that-offer-Layaway">Jackie O’Malley of Buffalo, New York</a>, calls the layaway plan a guilty pleasure because “it simply makes you feel better when you pay off the last amount (without ever paying interest) and are able to take home your items.” Even though layaway might be considered old-fashioned, the change from credit’s “buy now, pay later” mentality is a refreshing change to many people. </p>
<p>Layaway was a common practice during the Great Depression, so it’s no surprise that as the country struggle with the Great Recession, layaway programs have enjoyed a resurgence in popularity. </p>
<p><b>Are you planning to use layaway this holiday season? </b></p>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>The Lessons of NY23 (and NJ and VA)</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/lessons-ny23-and-nj-and-va" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/lessons-ny23-and-nj-and-va</id>
    <published>2009-11-05T23:48:32-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-05T23:48:32-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Dana Loesch</name>
    </author>
    <category term="News &amp; Politics" />
    <category term="bill owens" />
    <category term="bob mccdonnell" />
    <category term="Chris Christie" />
    <category term="Democrats" />
    <category term="DNC" />
    <category term="doug hoffman" />
    <category term="GOP" />
    <category term="New Jersey" />
    <category term="republican" />
    <category term="Virginia" />
    <category term="Politics" />
    <category term="Democrats" />
    <category term="Republicans" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000000; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif; line-height: 19px; font-size: 13px;"></span></p><p>I've been following these races for quite some time and was glued to the television and Internet as the results came in. A big message was sent to three different entities on election night, a message to:</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000000; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif; line-height: 19px; font-size: 13px;"></span></p><p>I've been following these races for quite some time and was glued to the television and Internet as the results came in. A big message was sent to three different entities on election night, a message to:</p><p>1. The Republican party: voters made it clear that when they veer off platform, they'll get dumped. Newt Gingrich's attempted co-opting of the "big tent" is dishonest; it ignores that no party has a patent on limited government and it's a reason why, according to the latest Gallup poll,&nbsp;<a href="http://www.gallup.com/poll/120857/conservatives-single-largest-ideological-group.aspx" target="_blank">the majority of Americans identify themselves as conservatives</a>. Not republican -<em>conservative</em>.</p><p>2. The Democrats, too, a startling revelation about the trouble President Obama has in getting people elected. What happened to his mojo? The President made many trips to both Virginia and New Jersey and despite slathering on the support, the Democrats lost – in Virginia by a landslide – 17 point gubernatorial spread (and all top three state elected offices went to the GOP). Their only big victory was Bill Owens, a moderate Democrat For all the talk some of the left espouses about the “fringe” right – it looks like moderation in the DNC was the ticket last night. And New Jersey? Blue NJ? My jaw hit the floor.&nbsp;</p><p>3. The grassroots. I often discuss all the ways one can get involved politically on a local level, precincts, et al. We can avoid the candidates we don't like by filtering them out at the local level, nipping their ascension to power in the proverbial bud by assuring they don’t get nominated in the first place – and we can’t do that until we infiltrate the party, beginning at the most basic levels. It takes about as much time a year, if not less, than standing on a street corner with a placard.</p><p>2010 will be interesting. This doesn't bode well for the blue dog democrats who are feeling very uneasy about passing a health care bill that&nbsp;<a href="http://thedanashow.wordpress.com/2009/11/05/why-rush-through-a-bill-nobody-supports/" target="_blank">the majority of the country opposes</a>.&nbsp;They're especially nervous after seeing how ineffective the Obama factor was to Democrats in Virginia and New Jersey. In all races, independents tired of government expansion voted for another change. In Virginia, the disparity was 58 - 33% in favor of Chris Christie - startling numbers, considering that it was the creme de la creme of swing states last year.&nbsp;</p><p>Now, depending on health care, that split may grow even wider.&nbsp;</p><p>A round up from the web:</p><p><a href="http://www.cassyfiano.com/2009/11/election-night" target="_blank">Csssy Fiano</a>:</p><blockquote><p>The thing the Republican party needs to remember here, and especially in the NY-23 race, is that they can claim no credit for these victories. In fact, in the NY-23 race, Doug Hoffman will have won in spite of the GOP. It should be sending a pretty clear message to the Republicans like Meghan McCain who like to say that Americans want a “moderate”, Democrat-lite version of the GOP. Democrats haven’t won in NY-23 in over 110 years, and yet here they are, contenders to take the seat because the GOP decided to go for a Republican that would surely get the Meghan McCain stamp of approval. What does that tell you? Abandoning conservative principles to get liberals in the media to like you does not win you voters, and it’s a testament to Doug Hoffman, not the GOP, that he could walk away tonight victorious.</p></blockquote><p><a href="http://www.commentarymagazine.com/blogs/index.php/rubin/154201" target="_blank">Jennifer Rubin</a>:</p><blockquote><p>The White House spends its time attacking radio-talk-show hosts and Fox News. Jon Corzine went after his opponent’s weight. Creigh Deeds obsessed over a 20-year-old college paper. There is, in all these gambits, a fundamental contempt for voters and a smallness by those attempting to distract and befuddle their fellow citizens.</p><p>Are the voters to believe that Fox is the problem and not the president’s own policies? Should New Jersey voters think that Chris Christie’s girth is more important than the gluttony of spending in Trenton? And, really, did Virginia voters think school papers should dictate their votes? Democrats seemed to think so. The voters had other ideas.</p></blockquote><p><a href="http://tammybruce.com/2009/11/two-for-the-gipper-and-a-bunch-for-next-year.html" target="_blank">Tammy Bruce</a>:</p><blockquote><p>Obama should also take note because a dual-state takeover by Republicans in both NJ and VA has happened before in an off-year election. Andrew Malcolm at the&nbsp;<a href="http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/washington/2009/11/obama-christie-mcdonnell-owens-corzine.html">LA Times</a>&nbsp;reminds us:</p><blockquote><p>Interesting historical anecdote that sounds strangely familiar for some reason: The last time voters in both those states did this same dual political overthrow simultaneously was 1993 after the first 10 months of a new Democratic president named Bill Clinton, who was pushing a massive healthcare reform plan.</p><p>Anyone remember what the outcome of that off-year harbinger was? The Republican revolution of the 1994 midterm elections, when the GOP seized both houses of Congress.</p></blockquote></blockquote><p><a href="http://www.melaniemorgan.com/latest/1675-pelosi-qwe-won-last-nightq.html" target="_blank">Melanie Morgan</a>:</p><blockquote><p>Speaker Nancy Pelosi has her game face on.</p><p>But, um,&nbsp;she looks and sounds ridiculous. For that matter, so&nbsp;does White House Senior Advisor&nbsp;David Axelrod and all the other pols who maintain that they are actually "pleased with the election results" yesterday. Quietly, though, Pelosi, Reid and tons of other liberals are very very worried about the movement of Independents and Democrats who are now voting for the GOP.</p></blockquote><p><a href="http://biggovernment.com/2009/11/04/the-real-meaning-of-new-jersey-and-virginia-and-new-york-23/" target="_blank">My words at Big Government</a>:</p><blockquote><p>It was about wrenching the reigns away from the GOP, a party that the tea party movement pulled out of the muck post-2008 elections, a party that literally turned about-face to walk right back into the crap pile. People were active locally in NY23 – they were sidestepped by the NRCC who, in a backroom meeting with a handful of folks, chose a ridiculous liberal as their nominee. There was NO primary. The RNC spent $1 million dollars campaigning against conservatism in New York’s 23rd. They spent that money on an ACORN candidate that forced them to turn and grab their ankles when she endorsed Democrat Bill Owens. Beltway Republicans like Newt Gingrich praised Scozzafava as being the new face of the party … which says a lot when that face does robocalls for a high-taxes, big labor Democrat.</p></blockquote><p></p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>How to Find the Silver Lining: Living Life as a Thank You</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/how-find-silver-lining-living-life-thank-you</id>
    <published>2009-11-05T23:12:09-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-05T23:12:09-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Maria Niles</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Business &amp; Career" />
    <category term="Life" />
    <category term="Personal Development" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I practice gratitude and offer up to the heavens a silent "thank you" when small <a href="http://www.blogher.com/care-and-feeding-ordinary-miracle">ordinary miracles</a> appear. But gratitude in the face of the obvious is easy. How do you find the silver lining in the maddening, seemingly nothing but frustrating moments?</p>
<p>Going <a href="http://www.blogher.com/going-complaint-free-again">complaint-free</a> is a good start but moving past merely not complaining and into a space where I am actively appreciative of the hard is harder.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I practice gratitude and offer up to the heavens a silent "thank you" when small <a href="http://www.blogher.com/care-and-feeding-ordinary-miracle">ordinary miracles</a> appear. But gratitude in the face of the obvious is easy. How do you find the silver lining in the maddening, seemingly nothing but frustrating moments?</p>
<p>Going <a href="http://www.blogher.com/going-complaint-free-again">complaint-free</a> is a good start but moving past merely not complaining and into a space where I am actively appreciative of the hard is harder.</p>
<p>Recently I read <a href="http://www.eastbayexpress.com/artsculture/hey__thanks/Content?oid=1220267">an article</a> that flipped a switch and the little light bulb over my head went off. </p>
<blockquote><p>Caught in a recent downpour, Nina Lesowitz was on the verge of whining. Her clothes were wet. The streets were slick. But then she thought: Hey, at least I'm headed home.
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<p>Nina Lesowitz is co-author of a new book titled <i><a href="http://greatgoodplace.indiebound.com/book/9781573443685">Living Life as a Thank You: The Transformative Power of Daily Gratitude</a></i> who discovered the power of finding the "thank you" in situations:</p>
<blockquote><p>Wrenched by that sense of incompleteness, of what-if and only-when, she had "stress contests" with friends, each trying to outdo the rest in lamenting about spouses, children, work.</p>
<p>It was a kind of addiction, and the cure was astoundingly simple. Lesowitz calls it "saying 'thank you' all day."</p></blockquote>
<p>I love that idea. Even in the crappiest events some good can often be found. That's not to say that real pain, ongoing difficulty and reality can or should be ignored. But finding that bit of gratitude for a lesson or new perspective or tiny triumph of finding our way home in the midst of the storm. </p>
<p>Part of the power of this practice is, I believe, the immediacy and pro-active nature of it. Rather than waiting until the end of the day to remember things for which to be grateful and writing them down, we can stop for a moment, be present and appreciate where we are right then and there. No waiting necessary.</p>
<p>Do you have a great story of a time where you found a thank you? How do you look for silver linings?<br />
<b><br />
Related Reading:</b></p>
<p>Anneli Rufus at East Bay Express: <a href="http://www.eastbayexpress.com/artsculture/hey__thanks/Content?oid=1220267">Hey, Thanks</a></p>
<p>Viva Editions: <a href="http://vivaeditions.blogspot.com/2009/11/moments-of-reflection-and-gratefulness.html">A Perfect Moment: Embrace Gratitude</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Just picture a world without grumbling, a world where everyone is happy and grateful for where they are.</p></blockquote>
<p>Dani at Shine from Yahoo!: <a href="http://astrology.yahoo.com/channel/health/living-life-as-a-thank-you-the-transformative-power-of-daily-gratitude-542271/">Living Life as a Thank You: The Transformative Power of Daily Gratitude</a></p>
<p>Lee Ann Spillane at Pink Stone Days: <a href="http://laspillane.blogspot.com/2009/10/whats-your-silver-lining.html">What's your silver lining?</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Pastor Abel railed. He said that if we were still worrying--worrying about what other people think, worry about our jobs, worrying about things "of the world" then we aren't the transformed faithful God calls us to be. We weren't putting our trust in God first. I get it. Barely. I feel the idea of getting it. I glimpse it--when I roll-over mid-dream and feel God in my mind. It's in there.</p>
<p>It's my silver lining, isn't it? I mean like everyday. No matter what. Period. As my friend likes to say for emphasis.
</p></blockquote>
<p>Helene Taylor at The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide: <a href="http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/2009/10/a-silver-lining-in-divorce">A Silver Lining in Divorce?</a></p>
<blockquote><p>1. Discover strength within you never knew existed</p></blockquote>
<p>Living With Lindsey: <a href="http://www.livingwithlindsay.com/2009/09/finding-silver-lining.html">Finding the Silver Lining</a> (literally - click for a picture)</p>
<p><i>BlogHer CE Maria Niles is looking for the thank you at <a href="http://consumerpop.typepad.com/popconsumer/">PopConsumer</a></i></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Know What You Want In A Relationship? I Do. So What?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/know-what-you-want-relationship-i-do-so-what" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/know-what-you-want-relationship-i-do-so-what</id>
    <published>2009-11-05T22:15:49-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-05T22:15:49-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Liz Rizzo</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Dating" />
    <category term="Sex &amp; Relationships" />
    <category term="Break Ups" />
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Dating" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>It always seems to me like knowing what you want will make things so much better. And yet, once you get there – no matter how long THAT takes – you soon find that knowing what you want is more like a first step in a process. And getting there is the real nightmare. </p>
<p>
I remember in my 20s when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. If only I could figure it out, I reasoned, then everything would be so much better. I ached to be rid of the quest to figure out what I wanted. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>It always seems to me like knowing what you want will make things so much better. And yet, once you get there – no matter how long THAT takes – you soon find that knowing what you want is more like a first step in a process. And getting there is the real nightmare. </p>
<p>
I remember in my 20s when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. If only I could figure it out, I reasoned, then everything would be so much better. I ached to be rid of the quest to figure out what I wanted. </p>
<p>
Then I discovered that I could go to film school and so decided it would be possible to become a director. Which put me on a path all right. It was a relief to know what I wanted. But it was just the beginning of a journey that is full of many more challenges beyond just figuring out what you want. Turns out that was the easy part. </p>
<p>Still, though, I thought that when I figure out what really mattered to me in a relationship, surely *that* would be a huge relief that made all the difference. No more indecision and uncertainty! Easier decisions! How could this make things anything but better, romantically speaking? </p>
<p>
I read a book once where the author posited that when you break up with someone, if you look back you’ll find that you experienced the reason for the break-up in the first month or two of the relationship. I believe that that’s true. </p>
<p>
And, I know what’s important to me and what I want in a partner.</p>
<p>How else can you put it besides cost/benefit analysis? Sometimes I don’t hit everything on my must haves / can’t stand lists from eHarmony (yes, I totally printed them out because I think they’re the best thing I ever got from eHarmony), but when I give one up there’s a damn good reason. That I considered thoroughly before moving forward. </p>
<p>Of course, some things by necessity reveal themselves later. The holidays, for example, land when they land. Ripe with opportunities to learn new things.</p>
<p>It’s true that I can’t really look at the first few months of my last relationship and surmise that he would get all the way to October and then not be excited about spending the holidays with me. That one is a stumper, and so I have to believe that it’s more to do with us and me and what he ultimately wants, than the holidays really. </p>
<p>
But see, that brings me back to my original point. I know what I want. I’m making decisions within the first six months of a relationship. I’m doing the cost benefit analysis. It’s not outside the realm of possibility that something new might present itself later in the relationship that changes my position. And yes, I realize that perhaps this is what happened - something I did,<br />
something about me that wasn't evident in the beginning? But me, well usually, I’m a first 3 months dumper, maybe 6, even more likely: 1 month in. </p>
<p>
Man, is that weird? My point is, though, that even when YOU know what you want, your partner may take longer to figure it out. </p>
<p>
And then you may find yourself heartbroken for the holidays in what would have been month 11.</p>
<p>So exactly how much good does knowing what *I* want ever do me?</p>
<p>~</p>
<p>Linky Goodness from the <a href="http://www.blogher.com/topic/sex-relationships?tab=all-posts">BlogHer Sex &amp; Relationships Blogs</a>:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.blogher.com/stockholm-syndrome">Stockholm Syndrome</a> - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile/vanbono">vanbono</a> writes about being in the sh*t.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.blogher.com/what-if-hes-cheating">What If He's Cheating?</a> - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile/dashingscorpio">dashingscorpio</a> offers a different perspective on this particular relationship fear.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.blogher.com/sustainable-relationships">Sustainable Relationships</a> - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile/MaryanneLive">MaryanneLive</a> offers sage advice for nurturing the relationship you're in.</p>
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<p>~</p>
<p><em>Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at <a href="everydaygoddess.typepad.com/">Everyday Goddess</a>.</em></p>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Plus Size Clothing: The Internet is Your Personal Stylist</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/plus-size-clothing-internet-your-personal-stylist" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/plus-size-clothing-internet-your-personal-stylist</id>
    <published>2009-11-05T21:44:47-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-05T21:44:47-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Susan Wagner</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Fashion &amp; BeautyHacks" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <category term="plus size clothing" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I love fashion magazines; I like nothing better at the end of a long day than to curl up in bed with <em>Vogue</em> or <em>InStyle</em> and admire all the pretty things. I'm currently smitten by the gown in the Bottega Veneta ads, although they are both beyond my price range and out of my league. Fashion magazines, as Tim Gunn says, are <em>aspirational</em> -- they're not realistic in the least.</p><p>Still, it's fun to look.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I love fashion magazines; I like nothing better at the end of a long day than to curl up in bed with <em>Vogue</em> or <em>InStyle</em> and admire all the pretty things. I'm currently smitten by the gown in the Bottega Veneta ads, although they are both beyond my price range and out of my league. Fashion magazines, as Tim Gunn says, are <em>aspirational</em> -- they're not realistic in the least.</p><p>Still, it's fun to look.</p><p>When I need real fashion advice, though -- like suggestions about where to shop or tips for styling my current closet -- I go to the Internet. Fashion bloggers are plugged in to what's current and cool, and they often specialize in a particular niche, which makes them <em>inspirational</em>. Fashion blogs offer concrete suggestions and strategies that will really work.</p><p>Which makes it even more fun to look.</p><p>When your closet is part of a niche that's not covered by traditional fashion media -- which, one could argue, is a lot of us these days -- it can be difficult to find anything that is either inspirational or aspirational. That's where the Internet comes in.</p><p>Fashion bloggers, particularly those with a tight focus, are your best friends; they're like that girlfriend who always knows where to shop and what to buy. Over the next few weeks, we'll look at some of the best blogs in different specialties; let's start with plus size fashion blogs.</p><p><a href="http://fashionloveandmartinis.blogspot.com/" target="_blank" title="Fashion, Love and Martinis">Fashion, Love and Martinis</a> is written by Amanda Allison Valdez; she covers fashion and beauty with video tutorials and posts about her personal style. Recently, she started a weight loss program; watch her amazing introductory video <a href="http://fashionloveandmartinis.blogspot.com/2009/10/revealing-my-starting-weight-in-style.html" target="_blank" title="Fashion, Love and Martinis">here</a>.</p><p><a href="http://www.fatandfabchic.com/" target="_blank" title="fat and fab CHIC">fat and fab CHIC</a> is a hip, cool blog that covers a range of prices, with an eye to what's hot right now. Subtitled "The Premier Shopping Guide for Discerning Fatshionistas," the site is a treasure trove of style and shopping suggestions.</p><p><a href="http://fatchic.net/" target="_blank" title="Fat Chic">Fat Chic</a> is a beautifully laid-out site that looks like a magazine but reads like a blog. My favorite thing, though, is that <a href="http://www.flickr.com/groups/862879@N22/pool/" target="_blank" title="Fat Chic">Fat Chic has a Flickr pool</a>. And we all know how much I love the Flickr pool as a fashion tool.</p><p><a href="http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com/" target="_blank" title="The Curvy Fashionista">The Curvy Fashionista</a> is also a magazine-style site. Marie Denee covers news and fashion and shopping; her writing is excellent and her behind-the-scenes look at what's new for plus size women is right on.</p><p>Your turn: When you look for inspiration, where do you turn? What blogs and websites cater to your plus size needs?</p><p>And next week: Shoes! Because I love a good shoe blog.</p><p><em>Susan Wagner writes about pragmatic fashion at <a href="http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/workingcloset/" target="_blank" title="The Working Closet">The Working Closet</a> and chic suburban living at <a href="http://fridayplaydate.com/" target="_blank" title="Friday Playdate">Friday Playdate</a>.</em></p>    ]]></content>
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