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    <title>BlogHers Talk Health Care with Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand (AUDIO)</title>
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    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>With this week's release of the Senate's health care reform bill, the timing couldn't have been better for BlogHer's chat with Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY). Women bloggers discussed the new bill, as well as Stupak, breastfeeding, and even childhood obesity and food safety. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>With this week's release of the Senate's health care reform bill, the timing couldn't have been better for BlogHer's chat with Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY). Women bloggers discussed the new bill, as well as Stupak, breastfeeding, and even childhood obesity and food safety. </p>
<p>You can listen to the audio:<br />
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<p>Nancy Watzman:	Welcome everyone. I'm Nancy Watzman of the Sunlight Foundation representing BlogHer Today and their Community Journalism Initiative on Healthcare Policy.</p>
<p>	The sunlight foundation is a non-partisan, non-profit dedicated to using the power of the Internet to catalyze greater government openness and transparency.  As CEO, Lisa Stone announced BlogHer has been sponsoring a bipartisan series of telephone conference calls to connect women bloggers directly with their legislators.</p>
<p>	Today on the call we have Senator Kirsten Gillibrand of New York.  And she'll give a brief introduction of herself and then we'll go straight to question and answers.  I know that we have a lot of people on the line.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Hi everybody, can you hear me?</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Yes.  There's a bit of an echo, for me.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Okay.  I'll get closer to the phone.  Well thank you all for being part of this call.  I'm very appreciative of your time.  And I'm appreciative of your advocacy.  The work that you do on so many of the blogs throughout the Internet are so important to the advocacy that's important to me, so I'm very grateful for your outreach.</p>
<p>	Today we're going to talk about healthcare.  I'd like to give you a brief introduction about what happened in the bill.  But before I start, I really want to thank the host, the Sunlight Foundation.  And I want to thank you particularly Nancy for your leadership.</p>
<p>	As you guys know, I was the first congress member to post all my earmark requests, my schedule and my financial disclosure on my Web site.  I was the first member to do that in the history of congress.  And interestingly, once I did it, a bunch of other freshman congress members did it.  And within two years, Speaker Pelosi decided that everybody had to put their earmark requests online.</p>
<p>	So, you know, sometimes you don't think that change happens, but it really can, through advocacy and hard work; and that's exactly what the Sunlight Foundation has demonstrated.</p>
<p>	We got our bill last night from Senator Reid, and it's, you know, the bill's not perfect.  It's got a lot of things that I think need improving.  But it's got some important pieces that I think makes this bill passable by 60 votes.  It's got the public option, and it's a small public option, and not what I would like.  I would prefer a Medicare for all approach.</p>
<p>	But it has a public option which means it'll pass the house, and it doesn't have the Stupak language in it, which would have made it very difficult for a number of senators to vote for it.  So keeping that language out is great.  It really just continues Hyde, meaning that no federal money can go for abortions.</p>
<p>	Some of the things that were disappointing; I would have liked a robust public option; I would have liked a Medicare for all where anybody could buy into Medicare at 5% of income.  Because I think that's a good framework, Medicare only has a 3% overhead.  You'd have to fix some reimbursement rates in Medicare, because a lot of our doctors and hospitals suffer from low reimbursements.  But for the most part, it's a - would have been a good framework.  And 5% of income is always affordable.</p>
<p>	The affordability provisions in this bill aren't bad.  They basically say you don't have to buy insurance if nothing's available at 8% of your income.  And that's very helpful because that number could have been as high as 12%, and I think that's unaffordable.  So I think the 8% number's good.</p>
<p>	Some of the large structural changes that are in, that are really important; no-one gets denied coverage because of preexisting condition, no one goes bankrupt because of one illness, and all preventive care is covered.</p>
<p>	So we had a provision that would have better on preventive care that Senator Mikulski had that would have made all preventive care for women's health entirely free.  But the CBO scored it as too expensive so, we weren't able to get it entirely free.  (Unintelligible).  So there's going to be a subsidy, but you still have to pay a copay.  So it's not ideal, but at least it covers the preventive care, which I think is so important.</p>
<p>	So you know, what we're going to do going forward, as the Leader put it on the floor, we're going to now start the process of amendments.  We're going to - we could have as many as 500 amendments, like they had in the Finance Committee.</p>
<p>	But the Leader said that he's going to try to keep the amendments, you know, have one abortion amendment, one Acorn amendment, one, you know, keep one amendment for each major issue.  And I'm hopeful that we will defeat all those amendments that are not good for America.</p>
<p>	So I'm hopeful that we're going to get this bill done.  I think we'll get it done by Christmas.  And then I think it will go to conference, and they will, you know, try to merge the two bills.  I think our abortion language will stay in, because a lot of House members have said that they will not vote for a bill if Stupak's in it, and I think that will ruin their majority.  So I think our language will stay in.  And I think the public option will definitely stay in, because that's mandatory for the House side.  And we'll have the beginning of healthcare reform in this country.  And I think it's a great first step.  It's only a first step.  I think that, you know, Medicare, Medicaid, Social Security; none of them happened in a day.  This is not going to happen in a day either; it's going to require reform, and revision over the next ten years.  And I hope I'm in the Senate that long so I can really be part of that, to make sure we protect women and that we protect Americans in the healthcare that they need.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay great.  Let's go to the first question.  Do we have a first caller on the line?</p>
<p>Operator:	Yes, thank you.  Ladies and Gentlemen, if you'd like to register a question, please press the 1 followed by the 4 on your telephone.  You'll hear a three tone prompt to acknowledge your request.  If your question has been answered and you'd like to withdraw your registration, please press the 1 followed by the 3.</p>
<p>	If using a speakerphone, please lift your handset before and during your request.  Or you can also submit a question via the Chat feature on the bottom left of your screen.</p>
<p>	And our first question comes from the line of - from Line Number X195.  Please proceed with your question.</p>
<p>(Danine):	Hi, my name is (Danine) and I'm calling from Wisconsin.  And I'm calling - my question is about the public option.  We haven't really heard a lot about it.  Who will be eligible for the public option?  What will it look like?  What will the premiums be?  What will the copays be?  Can you talk a little bit about that?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Yeah.  This is the detail we have so far.  First of all it's voluntary, so nobody has to use the public plan.  States can opt out if they want to, but it does require a vote by their legislature -- which is a good protection I think, than just a governor being able to say, "We're opting out."  Because if that legislature for example votes against having a public option, then hopefully the people of that state can elect them out in their next election.</p>
<p>	The rates that are negotiated, the public option will negotiate rates just like any other provider.  So that means that it's not going to be a cheap.  You know, if you had a Medicare for all, where you could buy it at 5%, that's just cheaper.  So it's not going to be very cheap.  Because if you're just with the same as all other providers it probably won't be as inexpensive as we'd like.</p>
<p>	But Sebelius, who's our Secretary of Health and Human Services, she will determine the rates.  She will determine how much it costs, she will determine what copays will be, and you know, what deductibles will be.  And let me ask my staff; when does she have to do that by?  Is there a deadline for - yeah.  This doesn't put - go into place until 2014.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay, does that answer your question?</p>
<p>(Danine):	Okay, so did you say that this will not be very cheap, so it will be - will it be comparable to your average policy?  Or will it be less or more expensive?  Will it be…</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	It will probably be comparable to the policies that are on the exchange.  Because they have to negotiate rates, just like anybody else, their cost will likely be comparable.</p>
<p>	It will create competition.  And it will drive down cost.  But it's not as, I think, as exciting as a Medicare for all, where you would really drive down cost.</p>
<p>(Danine):	Okay.  So…</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	And the other thing that is beneficial about the public option, which is why so many of us fought for a public option; they don't have any overhead.  There's no advertising budget, there's no CEO salaries, and there's no margin for profit.  And so because they don't have those affects, it will lower cost, and it will create competition.  So I do think it will work in the way that people have imagined the public option will work.  I think it will work over time to bring those costs down.</p>
<p>(Danine):	Okay.  Thank you.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay.  So we have another caller on the line.  We'll go to them.</p>
<p>Operator:	As a reminder, to register a question, please press the 1 followed by the 4 on your telephone.  Our next question comes from Line Number X397.  Please proceed.</p>
<p>Woman:	Hi.  I realize that you're a proponent of breastfeeding, you breast fed your son well beyond the recommended standard.  Breastfeeding can be shown to reduce childhood obesity, among its other benefits.  Given that it can be looked at as the first step in preventative care that lasts a lifetime, how can it be part of healthcare reform?  And what is the status of the Breastfeeding Promotion Act?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Well I agree with your statement that breastfeeding is very good for children.  I think it - there are a lot of studies that show its - it promotes healthy eating, it limits obesity in children that are breast fed.  It provides the immunities that regular milk doesn't offer.</p>
<p>	But not all women can breast feed.  So you want to make sure that women have choices about what they want to do for their child.  But I breast fed because I thought it was important.  And my mother breast fed me, so it's been our family tradition.</p>
<p>	But I think what's important is that you have to provide information.  If a woman did not grow up in a family where her mother breast fed, there's going to be no one to encourage her to breast feed.  The most encouragement I got to nurse, was from my mother.  So if you don't have a mother who nursed, then you might not have that encouragement.</p>
<p>	So some of the things we want to do is to train doctors, to train pediatricians, to train advocacy groups.  And to encourage employers to have lactation consultants that come in and meet with employees.  To have lactation rooms, so there's a place for if a woman is nursing, but she's working, where she can go and pump to bring breast milk home to her baby.</p>
<p>	So those are the kinds of - of - of - of innovations that we really need to promote breastfeeding in people's businesses and among families, so that they have someone to encourage them.  Because sometimes breastfeeding's difficult.  It's not always easy, and if you don't have someone encouraging you, often times moms will give up.</p>
<p>	So I think it has to be a very comprehensive approach, with a lot of education.  It also is related to an issue that's very important to me, which is the childhood obesity issue.  When I went to a health center in the Bronx, what I thought was so important, was that the doctors were getting women when they are pregnant to start teaching them about nutrition.  To encourage them to nurse, and then to teach them what foods their children should eat to stay healthy.  And that a fat baby isn't necessarily a healthy baby, but an actual - feeding them proper foods is what needs to happen.</p>
<p>	So a lot of the things I've been working on right now is tackling childhood obesity.  And I have a very comprehensive program to do that with (be any chance that) making sure we pay more for our school lunches, to be able to afford more whole foods, more fruits, more vegetables, more whole grains and less processed meats and processed foods.  And giving, you know, more investment to communities that get the kids active, outdoors, being athletic.  </p>
<p>	And also focus on giving the USDA authority to look at all the foods in a school -- not just what's served at the lunch counter, but also what's served in the vending machines.  And I think those changes overall will make a big difference for giving parents the tools they need to keep their kids healthy.  I also think we should have mandatory gym time for public schools, an hour a day.</p>
<p>	And I also think we should have mandatory nutrition education, so kids just know what is good to eat.  Because a lot of kids just don't.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	And you asked about the bill specifically, I'm a cosponsor of the Breastfeeding Promotion Act with Carolyn Maloney, which encourages breastfeeding through, you know, promotion and through education.  I don't know when that'll be on the floor, but I'll research it and find out which committee it's in, and when it expects to come out of the committee.</p>
<p>Woman:	Thank you so much.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay.  Let's go on to the next caller.</p>
<p>Operator:	Our next question comes from the Line Number W998.  Please proceed.</p>
<p>Erin Kotecki Vest:	Hi, this is Erin Kotecki Vest I am with BlogHer.  I'm glad to hear what you had said about breastfeeding.  But I'm a little curious, because you said some of the - a lot of the women's issues didn't necessarily make it into this final senate bill.  Will you be introducing any amendment?  Do you see maternity care or any of those things on there?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Well I'm working with Senator Mikulski right now on that very issue.  Because some of the things that Senator Mikulski wanted included, she wanted to have all preventive care covered so it will be free.  Because when women don't get their pre-cancer screenings, the incident rate of ovarian cancer and, uterine cancer, and breast cancer is much higher.</p>
<p>	So we want to have that covered completely, to really encourage preventive care to keep women healthier longer.  So that was taken out, because CBO scored it and said it was too expensive.  So Senator Mikulski and a number of the women are now working on what amendments we can offer to try to get the votes necessary to put that back in.</p>
<p>	Preventive care though, is covered in the bill, we just would have to have a copay.  And so we want to have no copy, so that there's no excuse for a woman to not get that mammogram, or not get that pre-cancer screening.  Not get her Pap smear, for example, every year.</p>
<p>Erin Kotecki Vest:	You know… go ahead Nancy.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Sorry, I was just going to follow-up to that, because obviously that speaks to the recent study about mammograms.  I was wondering if you had a position on that, or?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Well the study concerned me, because it created a lot of confusion for women all over the country.</p>
<p>	And I think what needs to happen, and I've written a letter to Secretary Sebelius asking her to provide clarity to the American public about what is recommended.  Because the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force is one - an outside independent panel of doctors and scientists who make recommendations, but they do not set a federal policy, and they don't determine what services are covered by the Federal Government.</p>
<p>	I don't want to have insurance companies have an excuse to stop offering coverage for mammograms for women in their 40s.  And not offer coverage for a yearly mammogram because the recommendation was for every other year in the 50s.  So I have concerns, and I think it's important that we create a body of review.  Because the American Cancer Society does not agree with the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force.</p>
<p>	So Sebelius came out yesterday and she is basically saying mammograms have always been an important lifesaving tool in the fight against cancer, and they still are today.  And she said, specifically she says, "Keep doing what you've been doing for years; talk to your doctor about your individual history, ask questions and make the decisions that's right for you."</p>
<p>	So she is pushing back on some level.  I'm going to ask her to take an even stronger role, because I'd like her to create the clarity and create a body of advice to give American women.  And I want her to bring together the experts to make that determination.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay.  Let's go on to the next question.</p>
<p>Operator:	Our next question comes from Line Number 20 - X208.  Please proceed.</p>
<p>(Gina Carroll):	Hello, this is (Gina Carroll), I'm calling from Houston, Texas.  And your response just really covered my question, because my questions were related to the new announcement by the federal panel regarding testing.  I guess my biggest concern is in the informational realm; the fact that the study is saying that the risk of the testing doesn't justify regular testing in that way.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Right.</p>
<p>(Gina Carroll):	I'm wondering how, you know, we can undo that damage.  Because there are a lot of women out there who (unintelligible) to have that justification, and really do have a fear about the risk of testing.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Right.  Well, you know, I didn't even know about the risks of testing for myself.  You know, I just did a public service announcement, it's urging women to get their yearly mammogram.  I'm 42, I've had two so far.  My doctor wants me to have another one this year.  I'll get mine, but you know, I didn't know what risks there were.  No one told me there was a risk with getting a mammogram every year.</p>
<p>	So, there's a lot of misinformation, and I'd like to know what the risks actually are now.  And you know, am I endangering myself by getting mammograms?  I just don't know.  So I think the confusion that's been called is doing a grave disservice to American women.</p>
<p>	And I think it's important that Secretary Sebelius take a leadership role here, and create clarity so women know what the risks are, and they can weigh those risks with their doctor, and make a determination what's best for them.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay.  Does that answer your question?</p>
<p>(Gina Carroll):	It does, thank you.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay, so on to the next caller.</p>
<p>Operator:	Ladies and Gentlemen, as a reminder, to register a question, please press the 1 followed by the 4.  Our next question comes from Line Number X397.  Please proceed.</p>
<p>Woman:	Hi, I'm the one that asked about the Breastfeeding Promotion Act.  I had a follow-up question.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Okay.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Woman:	…center case that just went through the Supreme Court this year found that breastfeeding is not a condition related to pregnancy, which is just ludicrous.  Is there a way to undo that damage through the healthcare reform?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	I know nothing about that decision, could you email my staff the information and I'll review it?  But that sounds very alarming to me.  How could breastfeeding not be related to pregnancy?</p>
<p>Woman:	And, I know, it was a split decision, and of course the female justices were a little alarmed that they weren't tackling that issue.  The issue was that a breastfeeding mom was fired for pumping without permission to pump.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Unbelievable, unbelievable.  That makes me so angry.  Let me give you my Healthcare Allies email, it's Shari -- S-H-A-R-I_S-W-A-A-L-E-Y@gillibrand, G-I-L-L-I-B-R-A-N-D.senate.gov.  If you could email her, we'll be in touch because that is extremely alarming to me and I'll come up with an idea about how to fight back on that.  </p>
<p>Woman:	Thank you so much.  Can I read that email back to you?  </p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Yep.</p>
<p>Woman:	It's shari_swaaley, S-W-A-L-L-E-Y.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	S-W-A-A-L-E-Y.  Two A's.</p>
<p>Woman:	A-A-L-E-Y, okay, thank you so much.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Welcome.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay, Senator Gillibrand, I would like to ask a quick question on Sunlight Foundation's behalf, which is, you know, you spoke at the beginning eloquently about the importance of transparency and how - I'm just curious how you see its role in the current healthcare debate and whether you think the process has been transparent enough?  And whether you think there should be any improvement?	</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Yeah, I think the process has been transparent enough.  You know, the process is very traditional.  You know, you take a bill through the Finance Committee, take a bill through the Health Committee.  Those committees get to work on what their bill will look like.  They issue those bills, everybody gets to review them.  Then Senator Reid takes the two bills and creates a compromise.</p>
<p>	The compromised version - between the two committees, the compromised version is now out and publicly available.  It's going to be online, it's going to be read out loud.  I'm going to put it on my Web site so my constituents have an easy button to push if they want to read it.</p>
<p>	It's not as long as people think it is.  They say it's 2000 some odd pages, but it's like double spaced, big fat print.  It would be much smaller if it was normal print, it would be like, I don't know, 500 pages.  But, you know, something that's well worth reading and going through.  Particularly for advocates, you know, who know what the fine print means, how it will actually affect policies.</p>
<p>	And so we're going to have it online for quite awhile before we have to vote on it.  And in fact, I don’t think we're going to vote on it until after Thanksgiving, so we'll - everyone will have more than a week -- more than 10 days even -- to sit down and read it.</p>
<p>	And then we'll also have three weeks of debate.  So that will, you know, to do all those amendments.  That will give us additional time to poke and prod it, and see what's good, see what's bad, and then come up with amendments to fix whatever we think's wrong in it.  So I think the process is okay, it's just a traditional process.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	I'm sorry?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Do you think it's not okay, did you feel you didn't get enough… </p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Well, you know, (Kris) we’re concerned that the legislation, you know, any final version obviously would be available for at least 72 hours before any kind of debate.  So, you know, if the bill changes again, you know, it always ends up being at the very end obviously, when things change quickly and things get rushed and then it's not available.  So, you know, that would be our big concern.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	There will be 72 hours before the cloture vote on the final bill on the final bill.  So you will get 72 hours to see all the amendments and what it finally is going to look like.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Right.  Well, we'll be watching.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	…just one more question?  Next caller.</p>
<p>Operator:	And our next question comes from Line X195, please proceed.</p>
<p>Woman:	My question actually goes a little bit back to - Nancy's question about the bill being available for 72 hours, (unintelligible) was the Stupak language, and how it was inserted.  It seemed to be inserted right before the final vote.  Some of the (unintelligible) are really, really concerned that, you know, with its - you know, there's been some concern that Senator Hatch may introduce similar amendments.  </p>
<p>	How worried to we need to be about that?  Are the votes there to add it?</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	I don't think the votes - I don't think he's got 60 votes.  He will offer an amendment, it will be Stupak, and I do not think he has 60 votes.  And my job is to make sure that the Senators who are Democrats do not vote for it, particularly the Conservative Democrats, because if their view is they want to continue - excuse me - in they're view.  I'm sorry I've got a terrible cough.</p>
<p>	If their view is they want a continuation of Stupak, this goes far beyond Stupak.  And so I'm going to try and make that case to them one-on-one, so we don't have - excuse me, it goes far beyond Hyde.  So I'm going to make case to them one-on-one that they should not vote for any amendment.  Whether I'll be successful or not, I don't know, but they - I do not think they have 60 votes.  We've been counting it for a while and no one believes we have 60 votes to overturn what Harry Reid put in the bill.</p>
<p>Woman:	Okay, so what should we be doing? </p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	I think you should be lobbying the Conservative Senators.  </p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Woman:	So that would be …</p>
<p>  Kirsten Gillibrand:	Conservative Democrats who have sometimes voted for pro-life bills, I would lobby them and tell them, particularly if you can get people from the state, to call and to write and do letters to the editor, do television interviews, you know, blog; whatever you can do to get your views know, so that your Senator in your state says, "Well, you know, there's quite a groundswell against Stupak, and they feel comfortable with Hyde."</p>
<p>	So that is what needs to happen.  We need to get our advocacy ringing loud and clear in the states where those votes are still in question.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay, I think we have one more question.  We'd like to squeeze in, so…</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Last one?</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	…why don't we go to that.  Next - the next caller.</p>
<p>Operator:	Our next question is from Line W998, please proceed.</p>
<p>Erin Kotecki Vest:	Hi this is Erin Kotecki Vest again from BlogHer.  I know that you've talked a bit about preventative care and preventative measures when it comes to this stuff.  And one of the things that you've championed is food safety, as well as the child obesity issue.  Can you talk a bit about food safety and why it's so important in all of this?</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Yes, it's a huge concern.  You know, 1 in 300 lots of ground beef have E.coli in it.  If you get ground beef that has E.coli it can result in death.  Thousands of children are made sick every year throughout America, and a number of people die.  </p>
<p>	So my concern is that we need better testing of - the meat is not tested before its ground, so it's very hard to trace where the bad meat comes from.  And it's not acceptable for producers to send out meat that has E.coli and just say well it needs to be cooked at 160 degrees, or whatever the number is.</p>
<p>	So what I'm - I have a bill, it's called the E. Coli Eradication Act that will require testing before, and I introduced it yesterday, it requires testing before meat is ground.  And then one more time, it requires two levels of testing before grinding and after grinding.  So that we know that the meat that reaches our kitchen tables, our school cafeterias, our family's homes is safe.</p>
<p>	We also have to better by our schools.  There is very little notification if the - if a supplier has tainted foods or if there's been a recall; our schools are the last to know.  They are not notified if there's a recall of a product nationwide.</p>
<p>	And so it mandates recalls going straight to the school.  It also mandates that where you buy your meat, or buy your produce, that there has to be a sign right where you buy it on your supermarket shelf.</p>
<p>	So if you buy hamburger and there's been a recall and you go to the freezer section, and it says, "This kind of hamburger meat was just recalled," you will know to go back to your own freezer and make sure you don't have any old hamburger meat there, so you can throw it away.  So that kind of notification, I think, will make a big, big difference.</p>
<p>	The FDA is not testing any fruits and vegetables, but we also have a bill, the FDA Modernization Act that I co-sponsored, and it passed yesterday through committee, and that will change that.  So we'll have testing of E.coli of all our meats, we will have testing of fruits and vegetables through this new bill.  And I just think that will go a long way to keeping our kids safe and keeping the food that they eat safe.</p>
<p>	Our parents need a lot more tools, they need a lot more notification.  And it needs to be more transparent because when a child gets sick, you know, the facts can be devastating.  You know, the New York Times story about a month ago, where it talked about a young woman who was a dancer who had a bad hamburger and she's now paralyzed from the waist down.</p>
<p>	I met with some physicians and they told me stories about 6 month olds, and 6 year olds coming into their emergency rooms, and then barely surviving because of tainted food.  So it - you know, anything can be tainted.  It could be peanut butter, it could be fruits and vegetables, it could salads, it could be chicken, it could hamburger, anything, and we need to do better.</p>
<p>	And these processes we have in place are 100 years old.  So we need to do better.  We need to revise our processes, and reform them so the food we feed our children, and our families, is safe.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Okay.  Thanks so much Senator Gillibrand.  That wraps up today's call with Senator Gillibrand and BlogHer.  Thank you for participating and thanks for bloggers for joining us.</p>
<p>((Crosstalk))</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Thanks so much, really appreciate it.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	So no, yeah, definitely.  Please keep an eye on blogher.com for the audio and transcript of this call and an announcement of any new calls.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Thank you.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	And we will - to give everybody another opportunity to talk about healthcare reform with legislators.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Great, thank you so much.</p>
<p>Nancy Watzman:	Bye-bye.</p>
<p>Kirsten Gillibrand:	Take care.</p>
<p><em>Operator inro and outro have been removed. </em></p>
<p>**end transcript**</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>A Week in Review - November 20, 2009</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/week-review-november-20-2009</id>
    <published>2009-11-20T12:28:42-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T13:11:51-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>loriluna</name>
    </author>
    <category term="BlogHer Conferences" />
    <category term="BlogHer Business 2010" />
    <category term="BlogHer Business 2010 Updates" />
    <category term="BlogHer Conference 2010" />
    <category term="BlogHer Conference 2010 Updates" />
    <category term="Sessions/Speakers" />
    <category term="Sponsors" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Happy Friday and happy Fall.&nbsp; The weather is changing here in Northern California and I must say, it feels good; just in time for the upcoming holiday and BlogHer parties.</p><p>Yes, I said parties!&nbsp; Woo hooo!!!</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Happy Friday and happy Fall.&nbsp; The weather is changing here in Northern California and I must say, it feels good; just in time for the upcoming holiday and BlogHer parties.</p><p>Yes, I said parties!&nbsp; Woo hooo!!!</p><p>As I mentioned last week, <strong>San Francisco is sold out</strong> and <a href="http://www.tresagaves.com/" target="_blank"><strong>Tres Agaves</strong></a> isn't going to know what hit them!&nbsp; If you are attending, please check out the <a href="http://www.sffoodbank.org/give_food/pdfs/2up_shoplistbw_09.pdf" target="_blank"><strong>most needed items</strong></a> from the <a href="http://www.sffoodbank.org/index.html" target="_blank"><strong>San Francisco Food Bank</strong></a> and join us in sharing the holiday spirit with those less fortunate.&nbsp; <em>P.S.&nbsp; If you have signed up to attend but now realize you can't make it, please <a href="mailto:lori@blogher.com" target="_blank">let me know</a> so we can open up space for others :))</em></p><p>A big BlogHer welcome to our sponsor, <a href="http://getbacktothetable.com/" target="_blank"><strong>Libby's Vegetables</strong></a>, to the <a href="http://prannarestaurant.com/" target="_blank"><strong>New York Holiday Soiree</strong></a><strong>!</strong> Along with the <a href="http://foodbankny.org/index.cfm?objectid=4C663139-3048-651A-2027F69BC59D0767" target="_blank"><strong>on site food drive</strong></a> we are hosting at <a href="http://www.prannarestaurant.com/" target="_blank">Pranna</a>, <strong>Libby's</strong> <strong>Vegetables</strong> is in full swing with their <a href="http://getbacktothetable.com/" target="_blank"><strong>virtual canned food drive</strong></a> - a perfect compliment!&nbsp; Read more about Libby's Vegetables virtual canned food drive and you too could walk away with a <a href="http://getbacktothetable.com/" target="_blank"><strong>years supply of canned vegetables, coupons and MORE!</strong></a></p><p>And not to be left out of the party scene, we just received word that <a href="http://www.blogher.com/groups-forums/austin-area-bloghers/austin-blogher-holiday-party" target="_blank"><strong>Austin is having a holiday meet up!</strong></a>&nbsp; If you aren't in SF, NYC or Austin, <a href="http://www.blogher.com/search-groups/cat/47265" target="_blank"><strong>check your city</strong></a> and find a holiday gathering near you (or you can start one, there is still time).</p><p>Okay, less party talk and more <a href="http://www.blogher.com/blogher_conference/conf" target="_blank"><strong>BlogHer 2010</strong></a> chat...</p><p>Our <a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-blogher-10-call-ideas" target="_blank"><strong>call for ideas</strong></a> is ending in a few short days, if you have not submitted <a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-blogher-10-call-ideas" target="_blank"><strong>your idea</strong></a> please do so on or before <strong>November 30!&nbsp; <a href="http://www.blogher.com/announcing-blogher-10-call-ideas" target="_blank">All ideas are welcome, don't be shy.</a></strong></p><p>Small housekeeping note, next Friday is a holiday here at BlogHer so I will not be posting the week in review.</p><p>Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving!</p><p><a href="mailto:lori@blogher.com" target="_blank"><strong>Lori</strong></a><br />events manager</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>A Holiday Season That Sucks Less</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/holidays-suck-less</id>
    <published>2009-11-20T01:58:09-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T09:13:21-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Shannon Des Roches Rosa</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="accommodation" />
    <category term="autism" />
    <category term="holidays" />
    <category term="Kids" />
    <category term="parenting" />
    <category term="special needs" />
    <category term="stims" />
    <category term="stress" />
    <category term="thanksgiving" />
    <category term="travel" />
    <category term="Special Needs" />
    <category term="Special needs" />
    <category term="Travel" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>As last year's holiday season sputtered out and the relatives left our house, I exhaled, then smiled. I'd really enjoyed all the feasting and fun, from the morning moment the kids' cousins started frolicking underfoot, until the last precious late-night conversation wound down. But there is no way in hell we can manage another holiday season like that one, because floundering in all the happy happy joy joy was one miserable, disoriented, sleep-disturbed little boy with autism and his equally disoriented parents.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>As last year's holiday season sputtered out and the relatives left our house, I exhaled, then smiled. I'd really enjoyed all the feasting and fun, from the morning moment the kids' cousins started frolicking underfoot, until the last precious late-night conversation wound down. But there is no way in hell we can manage another holiday season like that one, because floundering in all the happy happy joy joy was one miserable, disoriented, sleep-disturbed little boy with autism and his equally disoriented parents. Please, learn from our mistakes and successes so that your holiday season can be as enjoyable as ours was but suck less than ours did.<br /><br />Your advocacy skills need to go into overdrive during the holidays. Of course you need to advocate for your child, to ensure they're accommodated -- but you also need to advocate for yourself. Your children are sensitive to your moods, so think about how you can minimize your own inevitable holiday stress and not amplify that of your child. Ask relatives to help out, and show them how to do it. Make your trip shorter, split your family's travels up, or just stay home. Get a hotel room and make it your child's safe space. Bring familiar toys, activities, and comfort items to occupy your child even for the briefest of moments, so you can take an occasional deep breath.<br /><br />Here is what not to do: have a house full of guests stay with you for more than a week while your son is on a disturbed sleep jag and gets up every morning between 3 and 5 AM, and never ask any of your guests to spell you even though they have the option to take naps during the day and you and your spouse do not. I never asked anyone for help with Leo's early waking last year; he was in a particularly violent phase and I didn't want him to hurt anyone. This might have made sense for my 70-year-old 5' 2" mother, but not for my athletic 5' 11" brother. Instead of asking him to occasionally get up with Leo, I grumbled under my breath as that brother played Rock Band until 3 AM every night. Not asking was not very smart of me. Had I arranged for even a little bit of help, it might not have taken me two months to emerge from the post-traumatic holiday blues.<br /><br />One thing we did right was give ourselves permission to make the holidays work for all three of our children. My husband's parents were not able to travel last Thanksgiving yet really wanted to see their grandchildren, so my husband and I agreed that he would travel with the girls, while Leo and I stayed home and ate a sub-continental Indian Thanksgiving dinner with friends (Leo loves "naan bread"). We didn't think it was fair for the girls to miss seeing their grandparents because Leo couldn't travel, and it was absolutely not fair to subject Leo to the terrors of traveling for his sisters' sake.<br /><br />Leo's in a better space now. He's less agitated, and his sleep cycle has normalized, so he and I are going to try a very short Christmas trip to his grandparents'. The girls and their dad will come with us, but will stay a bit longer. If Leo does well, he and I might stretch our stay next year. But we remain aware that travel might make Leo implode, and are open to taking the next plane straight back home if that's what he needs.<br /><br />The value of planning cannot be overestimated for kids with sensory sensitivities, who thrive on routine, or who are easily disoriented. I've located some fine articles to help you plan for your kid with special needs to enjoy the holidays (these are autism-centric, but most points work for any kids who needs accommodation). Here are some of their more salient points:</p><p>Karen Plumley recommends <a href="http://specialneedsparenting.suite101.com/article.cfm/holiday_travel_tips_for_kids_with_special_needs">talking to kids about their routine and the way it will be affected by the holidays</a>:</p><blockquote><p>Kids with special needs are often anxious about changes in their daily routines. Unexpected surprises will not necessarily be met with enthusiasm. Preparing children with autism or anxiety disorders ahead of time for the holiday trip will benefit them greatly. Talk about the trip’s daily itinerary, places the family will visit, and what the hotel and food will be like.</p></blockquote><p>Squidoo advises <a href="http://www.squidoo.com/holiday-tips-for-special-needs-kids">setting aside a safe space for your child to retreat to</a> if their sensory barriers are breached:</p><blockquote><p>Everybody gathering at your house for dinner? Then make your child's room off-limits to everybody but him/her. Encourage your child to use their room as a refuge when things get overwhelming.</p></blockquote><p>Aliki McElreath <a href="http://blogs.familyeducation.com/parenting/moms/aliki-mcelreath/bag-tricks-special-needs-holiday-survival-edition">wants parents to remember that there is a lot of extra, overwhelming noise around during the holidays</a>:</p><blockquote><p>Holidays are noisy. There is no way around this. Most kids are able to process out the noise, or to use instinctive coping skills to deal with extra sounds and activity. A very small baby will resort to crying when she is overwhelmed, because she has no other way of dealing with it. An older child will leave the room or sit still, quietly overwhelmed by it all. But a child with an autism spectrum disorder cannot process the excess volume, and to him the sounds become inseparable--a cacophony of senseless noises that are actually physically painful, even if he doesn't react in classic ways to perceptions of pain. If you see your child become over-hyped ... or upset, take the time to help him find a quieter place, even if he resists this. Even a short time away from all the sounds can make a huge difference.</p></blockquote><p>It is critical to be sensitive to your child's needs during the holidays, and give them space to self-regulate. If your child has coping behaviors that your family finds odd but aren't actually inappropriate, then your family will need some educating. Humor can help. Here's something I wrote three years ago, to help our families understand some of Leo's stims:</p><blockquote><p><a href="http://www.squidalicious.com/2006/12/holiday-tune-just-for-leelo.html">Let Me Stim, Let Me Stim, Let Me Stim</a><br />(To the tune of "Let it Snow, Let it Snow, Let it Snow")<br /><br />Oh, the holidays are coming<br />And that means that I'll be bumming<br />Unless you can go out on a limb, and<br />Let me stim, let me stim, let me stim<br /><br />It's my favorite way of coping<br />And it calms me so I'm hoping<br />You won't feel the need to look grim, just<br />Let me stim, let me stim, let me stim<br /><br />When it's finally time for bed<br />Please don't make me give up my green straw<br />Or I might never go to sleep<br />And all of your nerves will be raw<br /><br />I'm not hurting anybody<br />Though to you I might look nutty<br />Don't you folks have a tree to trim??<br />Let me stim, let me stim, let me stim!</p></blockquote><p>I don't know if it's possible for families of children with special needs to eliminate holiday stress altogether, especially for kids on winter breaks whose routine is disrupted, and who as a result need to lean more heavily on their parents or caregivers. But we need to jettison the idea of hoping for the best -- instead, we need to plan meticulously for the reasonable.</p><p>--------</p><p><em>Shannon Des Roches Rosa documented the ups, downs, and sideways spirals of Leo's last seven holiday seasons on her personal blog, <a href="http://www.squidalicious.com/">www.squidalicious.com</a>.</em></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Makes Friends With Exes</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/makes-friends-exes</id>
    <published>2009-11-20T01:44:33-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T01:44:33-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Liz Rizzo</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Sex &amp; Relationships" />
    <category term="Break Ups" />
    <category term="Friendship" />
    <category term="Love" />
    <category term="The Ex" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p></p>
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<p>I had coffee with an ex-boyfriend last weekend. My move featured technically two ex-boyfriends, though at the time I was in some pretty spinny denial about the one. Sometimes I think my life is kinda like "My Boys," but all the male friends are exes.</p>
<p>That's an exaggeration, of course. No way I'm as cool as PJ, and I barely remember the last time I hosted a poker game. Sigh.</p>
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<p>I had coffee with an ex-boyfriend last weekend. My move featured technically two ex-boyfriends, though at the time I was in some pretty spinny denial about the one. Sometimes I think my life is kinda like "My Boys," but all the male friends are exes.</p>
<p>That's an exaggeration, of course. No way I'm as cool as PJ, and I barely remember the last time I hosted a poker game. Sigh.</p>
<p>Point is, I like to think I'm a practical person about these things. A relationship doesn't work, there's pain involved to be sure, but the heart wants what the heart wants. And it doesn't want what it doesn't want. Usually, there's not anyone to blame, and, assuming any bad behavior was of the garden nobody's-perfect variety, in the end you're left with someone you really cared about for a multitude of reasons. In my experience, friendships with exes can be wonderful, and certainly I am thankful for those friendships in my life.</p>
<p>Did I mention how I like to think I'm a practical person? Strong, swimming against the flow, making my own way despite societal conventions. It works so well for me. So often.</p>
<p>But I don't know where I am right now. I don't know who this person is I've become. It's absurd to me.</p>
<p>I tried to do what I always do. Like, OK, I'm not what you want, that's a fact, so practically speaking we should just shift into friendship. A little pain for me that I work through and...</p>
<p>Wow, I am in Total Fail.</p>
<p>A close friend of mine talked about friendship with exes like it's some sort of milk-for-free thing. Like, why should you give an ex the parts of you he does want, when there's parts of you (namely, the relationship parts) that he doesn't. I didn't like that. I didn't ring right to me. I don't think I could withhold my friendship like that.</p>
<p>But, I've had to admit that I simply can't do it. Be his friend. Right now, anyway. Theories aside - and man, do I love a good theory - I just don't have it in me. It's not what this heart wants. </p>
<p>I guess he does just want certain pieces. Friendship.</p>
<p>I wanted the whole package.</p>
<p>Conventional wisdom says that this phase will pass, and I will feel better. For once, I guess my bet is on convention. Because I really need it to be true.</p>
<p>There's pieces of him that maybe I don't have to lose. If only I can get there.</p>
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<p>Linky Goodness:</p>
<p>From Erin Donnelly on <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com">LemonDrop</a> - <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/11/16/everything-you-always-wanted-to-know-about-ex/">6 Signs of Bad Ex Behavior -- and How to Avoid Them</a>. Featuring "six common exing patterns to 86 from your life (along with that dude!)."</p>
<p>From Affair of the Heart on <a href="http://www.blogher.com/topic/sex-relationships?tab=all-posts">BlogHer</a> - <a href="http://www.blogher.com/ex-files-should-you-cut-sling-load-and-drive">Ex-Files: Should you cut sling load and drive on?</a> I don't agree with everything in this post, but I love this: "If the break up was a clean one, there is still a period of confusion. You know, that period of time where the two of you transition from romantic to platonic. The lines can get soo blurry when the break-up is fresh. Insecurities, sexual tension, questionable decisions loom over your head." Wise.</p>
<p>From Kirsetin on <a href="http://blissfullydomestic.com">Blissfully Domestic</a> - <a href="http://blissfullydomestic.com/2009/friending-your-ex-on-facebook">"Friending" Your Ex on Facebook</a>. OMG, I have a ton of exes on my Facebook! lol</p>
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<p><em>Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at <a href="everydaygoddess.typepad.com/">Everyday Goddess</a>.</em></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Optimism Plus Action Equals Balance</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/optimism-plus-action-equals-balance</id>
    <published>2009-11-20T00:38:15-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T00:38:15-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Maria Niles</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Business &amp; Career" />
    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
    <category term="Life" />
    <category term="Personal Development" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Previously I've written about the <a href="http://www.blogher.com/how-find-silver-lining-living-life-thank-you">upside</a> and <a href="http://www.blogher.com/bright-sided-when-positive-thinking-becomes-tool-repression">downside</a> to positive thinking. And while positivity and negativity might be polar opposites, combining optimism with action can lead to finding a balance between the extremes.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Previously I've written about the <a href="http://www.blogher.com/how-find-silver-lining-living-life-thank-you">upside</a> and <a href="http://www.blogher.com/bright-sided-when-positive-thinking-becomes-tool-repression">downside</a> to positive thinking. And while positivity and negativity might be polar opposites, combining optimism with action can lead to finding a balance between the extremes.</p>
<p>Positive thinking presents a conundrum in that it involves first finding a negative and thinking about the negative repeatedly and even in the context of working on convincing ourselves that it is not true doing so can <a href="http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1909019,00.html">reinforce the negative thought</a>. Negative and positive thinking both contain and element of belief that our <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jim-selman/positively-stinking-think_b_317524.html">thoughts are the truth</a> which is often more about ego than reality. </p>
<p>One way of finding a middle path is to practice being present in the moment rather than judging the past or focusing on predicting the future. And that can be a great path for calming the incessant chatter of our minds. But much as I find meditation incredibly useful, sitting around waiting for life to happen to us and then benignly accepting doesn't sound terribly appealing to me. </p>
<p>If optimism can be defined as a hope for and belief that life and the future can always be good if not better than it is how we can form goals and dreams. Action is how we can then pursue those goals and dreams.</p>
<p>You might believe to be snake oil salespersons those who push the idea that if you just wish hard enough for a pony one will appear in your front yard as if by magic. Yet you would probably admire the little girl who sets up a lemonade stand to raise money so she can save up to pay for riding lessons because she hopes that a pony is somehow in her future and she is putting her optimism into action. </p>
<p>The win in this scenario is not the pony but the action. Her dream might morph but she is working towards it and I believe that if she never sits in a saddle she's better off for having the dream and doing something about it.</p>
<p>Though you might not subscribe to the belief that reality can be shaped by the power of our minds, you can choose to take action. And without discounting the reality of depression and other health issues, we can choose our outlook; we can choose to believe that our lives can continue to improve and make it so.</p>
<p>How do you find a balance between optimism and pessimism? Even if your disposition does not naturally tend towards optimism, do you find taking action helpful?</p>
<p><b>Related Reading:</b></p>
<p>Julia Baird at Newsweek: <a href="http://www.newsweek.com/id/216147">Positively Downbeat</a></p>
<blockquote><p>But surely there's a middle way between clueless cheerleaders and grumpy prophets. The Dalai Lama shows you can strive to be content and remain angry about injustice.</p></blockquote>
<p>Russell Bishop at The Huffington Post: <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/russell-bishop/could-you-just-get-over-y_b_358636.html">Could You Just Get Over Your Negativity About Positive Focus?</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Far from denial or pretense, the consistent theme across these many articles over the past 18 months is one of taking charge and doing what you can to improve your life experience along with your life circumstances. To play off the editor quoted above, there seem to be many puerile comments from the "shoot from the lip" crowd distorting this kind of advice into some kind of namby pamby pabulum about just pretending that things are fine or that things will get better if you just sit around and hope.</p>
<p>Far from it. It takes great courage to face adversity, imagine a better outcome, and then get off your butt and do something about it.</p></blockquote>
<p>Tim Byrd at Under An Outlaw Moon: <a href="http://tim-byrd.com/2009/03/27/optimism-action-and-how-to-be-the-neighborhood-pulp-hero/">Optimism, Action, and How To Be The Neighborhood Pulp Hero</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Optimism and action.</p>
<p>That’s the sort of formula I’d like my son to imprint on, more than trite “believe in yourself” homilies or the sort of self restrictions people come up with (“This is how a man acts, a man never does that,” and whatnot). That’s the sort of formula I’d like myself to imprint on, fully, so that I can live it.</p></blockquote>
<p>Megan Hustad at The Daily Beast: <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2009-10-15/americas-optimism-addiction/3/">Why Are You So Damn Happy?</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Finally I asked Ehrenreich if there might be times when willful, defiant optimism can be a force for good, even for social progress. I tossed out the name Elizabeth Cady Stanton and mumbled something about how the first generation of suffragists didn’t live to see the 19th Amendment. If they’d been pessimists, would they have devoted years of their lives to a seemingly hopeless and thankless cause? Ehrenreich paused for a split second—she collects her thoughts faster than most mortals—then defined what she sees as the critical distinction: “There’s a difference between being willing to take on really difficult things and being overly optimistic. I’ve taken on many things that turned out to be extremely difficult. I didn’t take them on feeling, ‘Oh, I’m going to ace this.’ I took them on thinking I was just going to do my damnedest, whether it was some sort of outdoor adventure or an intellectual task. That’s a very different spirit. It’s not, ‘I’m going to win because I know I’m going to win because I’m wonderful and God loves me so much.’ It’s thinking ‘This is so important, I’m going to die trying.’“</p></blockquote>
<p>Tina Su at Think Simple Now: <a href="http://thinksimplenow.com/motivation/how-to-motivate-to-massive-action/">How to Motivate Yourself to Massive Action</a></p>
<blockquote><p>“<i>It’s the <b>action</b> behind the attraction that makes the wish come true</i>”</p>
<p>Powerful motivation comes in understanding that <i>you can achieve anything you truly desire in your heart</i>. It is the knowledge that you are destined to fulfill your every goal, which drives you to change.</p>
<p>The <u>decision</u> is the first step towards change. Regardless of the decision, every change requires some form of action.</p></blockquote>
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  <entry>
    <title>5 Thanksgiving Dishes I’m Very, Very, Very Thankful For</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/5-thanksgiving-dishes-i-m-very-very-very-thankful</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T21:35:10-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T11:13:24-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Honeybeast</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Food &amp; Drink" />
    <category term="Food" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>'Kayso, I got a little snarky yesterday with my <a href="http://www.blogher.com/5-dishes-i-wouldnt-feed-dog-i-do-eat-be-polite-thanksgiving">5 Dishes I Wouldn't Feed a Dog (but Do Eat to Be Polite on Thanksgiving)</a>. Today, the flip side: Thanksgiving foods I dream about as soon as the air turns crisp ...</p>
<p><b>5. Oysters.</b></p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>'Kayso, I got a little snarky yesterday with my <a href="http://www.blogher.com/5-dishes-i-wouldnt-feed-dog-i-do-eat-be-polite-thanksgiving">5 Dishes I Wouldn't Feed a Dog (but Do Eat to Be Polite on Thanksgiving)</a>. Today, the flip side: Thanksgiving foods I dream about as soon as the air turns crisp ...</p>
<p><b>5. Oysters.</b><br />
Thanksgiving food's all about what the pilgrims could scrounge -- and oysters were the cheapest, most abundant food of all back then. <a href="http://kitchenparade.com/2008/12/oyster-stew.php">Oyster stew</a>'s traditional, but I like starting off on the half shell <a href="http://umamigirl.com/2009/08/oysters-with-mignonette-granita.html">with mignonette granita</a> as a refreshing counterpart to all the richness to follow, and it makes a grand excuse for popping some bubbly. (What? It's a holiday.)</p>
<p><b>4. Mashed Potatoes.</b><br />
My mom makes something she calls "triple dairy" and I call "triple bypass" mashed potatoes: Butter, sour cream or crème fraiche and a dollop of soft cream cheese. They're definitely not the kind of boring spuds that recede into the distance on Thanksgiving table (though they may shorten my life span some; I'm OK with that). Jack them up with some <a href="http://www.lifesambrosia.com/2009/10/horseradish-and-sour-cream-mashed-potatoes-recipe.html">horseradish</a> and you've got the perfect match for the rich stuff and the sweet stuff.</p>
<p><b>3. Brussels Sprouts.</b><br />
They're one of those foods you just either love or hate. Me, I love. Especially <a href="http://kalynskitchen.blogspot.com/2009/11/recipe-for-roasted-brussels-sprouts.html">Brussels sprouts with pecans and gorgonzola</a>, <a href="http://blog.ruhlman.com/ruhlmancom/2009/11/brussels-sprouts.html">Brussels sprouts with bacon and pine nuts</a>, or <a href="http://simplyrecipes.com/recipes/hashed_brussels_sprouts_with_lemon/">Brussels sprouts hashed with lemon</a>. </p>
<p><b>2. Gravy.</b><br />
As a child, I didn't really care that Gravy Train was a brand of dog food -- it still sounded sort of good to me. I think it was being exposed to my Texas Granny's cream gravy over biscuits at an early age (yeah, I'm lucky -- you should taste her fried okra). But I'm pretty happy with any homemade gravy whether brown, giblet, ham, redeye, or onion. Alas, copious ladlefuls of gravy doesn't make turkey any more tasty for me. Boo.</p>
<p><b>1. Stuffing.</b><br />
Stuffing or dressing; <a href="http://crockpot365.blogspot.com/2008/11/crockpot-corn-bread-stuffing-recipe.html">cornbread</a> or white bread; <a href="http://www.lambertslately.com/2009/11/our-thanksgiving-traditions.html">oysters</a> or chestnuts: I love them all. I know it's just old bread, heavy seasoning and some fat but by the same curious magic that turns old bread into French toast, stuffing is enchanted. </p>
<p>True story: I once stuffed stuffing with stuffing. I was trying out a few pre-Thanksgiving recipes and had more also-rans than I knew what to do with. So I lined ramekins with stuffing, baked it off to make a crisp "pie shell," then added a layer of cooked greens and another layer of stuffing. Because that's how I roll. I might crave stuffing even more than these guys:</p>
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<p>What are your absolute faves? Share!</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>U.S. District Court Rules Against Army Corps for Katrina Flooding</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/u-s-district-court-rules-against-army-corps-katrina-flooding</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T20:22:03-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T20:26:07-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Nordette</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Media &amp; Journalism" />
    <category term="Race &amp; Ethnicity" />
    <category term="United States" />
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    <category term="environmental justice" />
    <category term="Hurricane Katrina" />
    <category term="lawsuit" />
    <category term="New Orleans" />
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    <category term="Environment" />
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    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>It's being called a "landmark decision." A federal judge ruled November 18 in favor of New Orleans residents and one business, the plaintiffs, and against the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers in a Hurricane Katrina flooding lawsuit. </p>
<p>U.S. District Court Judge Stanwood R. Duval, Jr, decided that the Corps failed to maintain the levees that breached during Katrina, flooding St. Bernard Parish and the Lower 9th Ward of New Orleans. The case involved six plaintiffs, two of which are in the same household, and the court awarded $720,000 in compensation to the remaining four.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>It's being called a "landmark decision." A federal judge ruled November 18 in favor of New Orleans residents and one business, the plaintiffs, and against the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers in a Hurricane Katrina flooding lawsuit. </p>
<p>U.S. District Court Judge Stanwood R. Duval, Jr, decided that the Corps failed to maintain the levees that breached during Katrina, flooding St. Bernard Parish and the Lower 9th Ward of New Orleans. The case involved six plaintiffs, two of which are in the same household, and the court awarded $720,000 in compensation to the remaining four.</p>
<p>From the New Orleans <span style="font-style:italic;">Times Picayune</span>/NOLA.com:</p>
<blockquote><p>In a groundbreaking decision, a federal judge ruled late Wednesday that the Army Corps of Engineers' mismanagement of maintenance at the Mississippi River-Gulf Outlet  was directly responsible for flood damage in St. Bernard Parish and the Lower 9th Ward after Hurricane Katrina. (<a href="http://www.nola.com/hurricane/index.ssf/2009/11/post_16.html">Source</a>)</p></blockquote>
<p>Its story includes this language from Judge Duval:<br />
<blockquote>The failure of the Corps to recognize the destruction that the MRGO had caused and the potential hazard that it created is clearly negligent on the part of the Corps." ... "Furthermore, the Corps not only knew, but admitted by 1988, that the MRGO threatened human life ... and yet it did not act in time to prevent the catastrophic disaster that ensued with the onslaught of Hurricane Katrina."</blockquote></p>
<p>And from CNN's story on the ruling:</p>
<blockquote><p>"For over 40 years, the Corps was aware that the Reach II levee protecting Chalmette and the Lower Ninth Ward was going to be compromised by the continued deterioration of the MRGO ... The Corps had an opportunity to take a myriad of actions to alleviate this deterioration or rehabilitate this deterioration and failed to do so. Clearly, the expression 'talk is cheap' applies here." (Duval quoted by <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/11/18/louisiana.katrina.lawsuit/index.html">CNN</a>)</p></blockquote>
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<p>The ruling, with its 156-page opinion, is so unprecedented that the <a href="http://www.laed.uscourts.gov/CanalCases/CanalCases.htm">court's website has a message</a> saying that the court has been overwhelmed with phone calls. Consequently, "the court has ordered that any questions concerning the Katrina Canal Breach Consolidated Litigation should first be addressed by Liaison Counsel."</p>
<p><a href="http://www.wdsu.com/station/267734/detail.html">Norm Robinson</a>, the main anchor of a local New Orleans television station, <a href="http://www.wdsu.com/news/21668365/detail.html">WDSU</a>, was one of the plaintiff's in the case. However, Judge Duval ruled against the Robinson household's claim. That ruling may make it difficult for residents of New Orleans East, the location of the anchor's home, to sue the federal government, said a WDSU reporter.  Leading into the story <a href="http://www.wdsu.com/news/21658334/detail.html">Wednesday night</a> for WDSU, Robinson said the ruling leaves New Orleans East residents in limbo.</p>
<p>However, speaking of how this news vindicates New Orleans residents who have been saying <a href="http://www.blogher.com/fourth-anniversary-katrina-and-well-still-here">since Hurricane Katrina</a> flooded the city in 2005 that the flooding was not an act of God but man-made, Mayor Ray Nagin told CNN,  Duval's ruling will "open the floodgates" for people in the Lower 9th Ward to seek "proper compensation."</p>
<p>The <span style="font-style:italic;">Times Picayune</span> clarifies what "floodgates" may mean:<br />
<blockquote>Duval's 156-page decision could result in the federal government paying $700,000 in damages to three people and a business in those areas, but also sets the stage for judgments worth billions of dollars against the government for damages suffered by as many as 100,000 other residents, businesses and local governments in those areas who filed claims with the corps after Katrina.</blockquote></p>
<p>If the Lower Ninth Wards sounds familiar to you, that's probably because it is one area of the City of New Orleans that has gotten massive mainstream media coverage since the flooding, a historic but also largely poor and African-American section. It's the section on which actor <a href="http://www.blogher.com/curious-case-brad-pitt-mayor-new-orleans">Brad Pitt</a> has focused his renewal efforts, and it's also the section featured in the HBO documentary <i><a href="http://www.hbo.com/docs/programs/troublethewater/index.html">Trouble the Water</a></i> and mentioned frequently in Spike Lee's film <i><a href="http://www.hbo.com/docs/programs/whentheleveesbroke/">When the Levees Broke</a></i>.</p>
<p>In addition to the Lower 9th Ward, Duval's ruling impacts residents of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Bernard_Parish,_Louisiana">Chalmette in St. Bernard Parish</a>.</p>
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<blockquote>On August 29, 2005, St. Bernard was devastated by Hurricane Katrina. The storm damaged virtually every structure in the parish. The eye of Katrina passed over the eastern portion of the parish, pushing a 25-foot (7.6 m) storm surge into the Mississippi River Gulf Outlet ("MRGO"). This surge destroyed the parish levees. Almost the entire parish was flooded, with most areas left with between 5 and 12 feet (3.7 m) of standing water. The water rose suddenly and violently, during a period which witnesses reported as no more than fifteen minutes. In many areas, houses were smashed or washed off their foundations by a storm surge higher than the roofs. (<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Bernard_Parish,_Louisiana#Hurricane_Katrina_and_its_aftermath">Wikipedia</a>)</blockquote></p>
<p>Unfortunately for St. Bernard Parish, you may be familiar with its being in the news over the years for <a href="http://blog.nola.com/jarvisdeberry/2009/09/jarvis_deberry_how_much_money.html">a housing bias case</a>.</p>
<p>Under "insouciance, myopia and shortsightedness," a phrase from the court document, <a href="http://righthandthief.blogspot.com/2009/11/insouciance-myopia-and-shortsightedness.html">Your Right Hand Thief</a> suggests you read excerpts from the ruling. The blogger declares, "The word "failure" is repeated again and again in the ruling describing ACoE's relation to it's responsibilities."</p>
<p>Edtilla at the New Orleans Ladder, a blog that consistently advocates for action in the city, has multiple posts on the ruling, of which <a href="http://noladder.blogspot.com/2009/11/corps-operation-of-mr-go-doomed-homes.html">his Wednesday post</a> is one with video from the Rachel Maddow show. Maddow makes clear in her commentary as the news breaks that district court is on the lower rung of the federal courts system.</p>
<p>In his sidebar he links to this Levees.org video, which asserts long before the ruling that levee failure was an "engineering disaster," not natural. The video further explains why New Orleans is not in the wrong place, but one of the most important ports for the United States America.</p>
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<p><a href="http://levees.org/2009/11/19/levees-org-on-judge-stanwood-duvals-ruling/">Levee.org</a> also has a statement on Duval's ruling. It's <a href="http://levees.org/2009/11/19/levees-org-on-judge-stanwood-duvals-ruling/#comments#ixzz0XMNU65O2">founder said</a>, "To me, the reward is helping the American people understand that the 2005 levee failures in metro New Orleans were indicative of a national problem, and not a symptom of local corruption."</p>
<p>The blogger at LipRap's Lament wrote:<br />
<blockquote>Yes, it's damn nice to be vindicated - not just for all of us here and for the New Orleans and Plaquemines Parish diaspora, but for the many other places all over this country that are threatened due to the same sort of neglect the Corps is still exhibiting all over this country (in cities such as Sacramento, for instance, as if California didn't have enough problems already) with regards to flood protection. ... [<i>but considering other issues such as loss of wetlands</i>] ... We've got a long ways to go, people. We must keep on keepin' on, living like we do, spreading this news and putting all our weight behind it like I know we in this city love to do when we wanna. (<a href="http://liprapslament-theline.blogspot.com/2009/11/so-fine-now-we-have-campaign-commercial.html">LipRap</a>)</blockquote></p>
<p>Yes, expect the U.S. Justice Department to appeal this decision all the way to the Supreme Court.</p>
<p><i><a href="http://twitter.com/nordette_verite">Nordette Adams</a> is a BlogHer.com CE, the <a href="http://nola101.com">New Orleans Literature Examiner</a>, and the African American Books Examiner. See more at <a href="http://her411.com">Her411</a>. </i></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Sammy Sosa&#039;s &quot;Skin Rejuvenation&quot; and the Politics of Skin Color</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/sammy-sosas-skin-rejuvenation-and-politics-skin-color" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/sammy-sosas-skin-rejuvenation-and-politics-skin-color</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T20:04:04-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T05:10:40-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>lainad</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Race &amp; Ethnicity" />
    <category term="Celebrities" />
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="Gossip" />
    <category term="Music" />
    <category term="Pop Culture" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<P>So we are at the end of 2009, and it amazes me how many&nbsp;lingering social/racial/socio-political issues have suddenly raised their ugly head late in the year.</p>
<P>We have body issues - are we too fat or thin?</p>
<P>Hair problems - straight or curly, natural or relaxed, weaves or wigs?</p>
<P>And the latest problem...skin color.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<P>So we are at the end of 2009, and it amazes me how many&nbsp;lingering social/racial/socio-political issues have suddenly raised their ugly head late in the year.</p>
<P>We have body issues - are we too fat or thin?</p>
<P>Hair problems - straight or curly, natural or relaxed, weaves or wigs?</p>
<P>And the latest problem...skin color.</p>
<P>This past weekend, I attended a conference where one of the panelists, a young biracial man who is the vocalist for an up-and-coming band, unwittingly unleashed a firestorm when discussing blacks in the rock / punk / hardcore scene. He declared that he had never experienced any negative remarks about his ethnicity but then he added, "well my mom always told me and my brother that because of our light skin and wavy hair, that we would have an easier time in life."</p>
<P>People were stunned. At first, I decided maybe he was just stating a fact and there was nothing insidious behind it, but later on during his time on the panel, he used his light and bright appearance as a defense mechanism to when people critiqued the&nbsp;other somewhat disturbing things he said during his talk.</p>
<P>When a group of black female university students challenged him, he alluded to the fact that they disliked him because he was 'lighter' than they were. He also compared his 'wavy' hair to an attendee who wore a natural 'fro. The look of hurt on this woman's face - an absolutely beautiful&nbsp;woman completing her Masters as a prestigious university&nbsp; - broke my heart.</p>
<P>The worst part was - and I gathered this because I spent quite a lot of time with him after the panel - was that he was not being intentionally cruel&nbsp;in his remarks - he clearly had no idea how f&amp;*ked up his reasoning was. He knew that he had benefited because he was a very good-looking young dude with a kick-ass body, smarts (I think he went to MIT) and his band is doing well, but by openly admitting his privilege, he hurt the feelings of many people who were struggling with their images.</p>
<P>So&nbsp;I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. I did tell him that he was truly f$%ked and I told him why - I didn't slap him like I wanted to, but I was actually proud of myself that I and the other women who went for a drink after the panel, had a rational - okay, it did get heated at times - discussion with him.</p>
<P>But what was interesting was the timing of this incident. A week earlier, pictures showed up on the 'Net of <A href="http://ca.sports.yahoo.com/mlb/blog/big_league_stew/post/Not-to-worry-Sammy-Sosa-is-just-rejuvenating-hi?urn=mlb,201086"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">Sammy Sosa</span></span></a>, whom despite claiming that he is going through 'skin rejuvenation everyone is skeptical that the brother went from having brown skin to a frightfully&nbsp;pale appearance. Sosa, who is Dominican, has been quoted as saying that it was an accident but I am pretty sure people know he is lying. After all, wasn't he on steroids?</p>
<P>Shaka from <A href="http://shakashawshow.wordpress.com/2009/11/19/are-you-serious-sammy-sosa/"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">The Shaka Shaw Show</span></span></a> thinks that this is just a symptom of self-hate:</p>
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<P>This is some old school self-hate sh*t.&nbsp; Back before we had BET and JET Beauty of the Week, before Kiki Shepard and Tyler Perry movies.&nbsp; <EM>Before </em>we had a plethora of good-looking Black people in the public eye, on the big screen and on TV, in all their beige, caramel, chocolate, and blue-black glory.&nbsp; Naps and perms, weaves and dreads.&nbsp; It’s all beautiful.&nbsp; So why in 2009 is Sammy Sosa (without the vitiligo excuse) brightening his skin?&nbsp; Mental slavery…some folk just don’t wanna be free.</p></blockquote>
<P>What was funny is that at the same conference, we were talking about Michael Jackson. I can't remember what I said ( probably something mildly offensive) but people went silent. Black Americans and Michael Jackson? Talk about denial. No one wants to talk about how the brother not only bleached his skin, wore a wig and&nbsp;was not interested in any woman who were darker than a paper bag. It is this silence that tells me that black folks are really invested in only keeping the 'positive' aspects of Michael alive and will conveniently forget the troublesome ones.</p>
<P>And now they are saying that Prince, Jackson's son <A href="http://www.starpulse.com/news/index.php/2009/11/17/michael_jackson_s_son_suffers_skin_condi"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">has Vitiligo</span></span></a>, the same skin disorder that Jackson allegedly had - but isn't that child white? and allegedly not Jackson's biological child?</p>
<P>And we have, of course Precious and the actress,&nbsp;<A href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2829737/"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">Gabourey Sidibe</span></span></a>&nbsp;that played her. We have the issue that I raised in <A href="http://www.blogher.com/precious-and-representation-blacks-media-do-we-care-too-much-about-what-others-think?wrap=blogher-topics/race-ethnicity">last week's post</a> about Lee Daniels decision to have a biracial actress play an integral part in the movie, in which the original character, Ms. Rain, was a dark-skinned, deadlocked sista. From <A href="http://genderacrossborders.com/2009/11/17/film-review-precious-based-on-the-novel-push-by-sapphire/"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">Feministing:</span></span></a></p>
<BLOCKQUOTE>
<P>In the book, the description of Blue Rain, the half-messiah, half-educator that delivers Precious from the bondage of illiteracy and abuse is as follows: "She dark, got nice face, big eyes, and...long dreadlocky hair." (39-40) This character in the movie is played by <A href="http://images.askmen.com/galleries/celeb-profiles-actress/paula-patton/pictures/paula-patton-picture-1.jpg"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">Paula Patton</span></span></a>, a light-skinned African American woman with straightened hair. By no means do I doubt the talent of Patton, but it means something that the directors chose to cast one of the most central characters of the film against Sapphire's original description.</p></blockquote>
<P>Look, if people want to bleach their skin, so be it. But people ain' t stupid.We know about the <A href="http://sikhsangat.org/2009/11/open-letter-to-barak-obama-ahead-of-his-visit-to-india/"><SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"><SPAN style="COLOR: #669966">caste system</span></span></a> in other countries where people are more valued if their skin is lighter (thanks Colonialism!) We also know that popular culture / media values those who have more Eurocentric features. It is sad, though that just like our hair issues, our weight issues and apparently now our skin color issues, we haven't yet beat the beast that has been plaguing us for centuries - in a time when we are supposed to be celebrating the fact that the American president is biracial. That his beautiful wife and daughters are black and beautiful.</p>
<P>Also this weekend I also interviewed a well-known vocalist/guitarist in the metal world who is biracial. He said that despite Obama being in office, in his opinion, racism in the States had gotten worse, and he predicted that things would continue to go downhill. So I guess the guy at the conference was wrong after all: Light-skinned brothas with wavy hair are not better off.</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Weekend Menu Planning:  Homemade Dinner Rolls to Try Out Before Thanksgiving</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/weekend-menu-planning-homemade-dinner-rolls-try-out-thanksgiving</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T19:37:58-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T19:37:58-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Kalyn Denny</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Food &amp; Drink" />
    <category term="homemade dinner rolls" />
    <category term="Weekend Menu Planning" />
    <category term="Bread" />
    <category term="Food 101" />
    <category term="Holidays" />
    <category term="How To" />
    <category term="Retro" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>When I was a kid, my mom was famous for her homemade bread, rolls, and cinnamon rolls.  This was in the days before breadmakers, no-knead bread, or rolls that pop out of those cylinder-shaped containers.  Mom had a lot of good tricks for homemade bread, and today I'm sharing one she used every Thanksgiving.</p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>When I was a kid, my mom was famous for her homemade bread, rolls, and cinnamon rolls.  This was in the days before breadmakers, no-knead bread, or rolls that pop out of those cylinder-shaped containers.  Mom had a lot of good tricks for homemade bread, and today I'm sharing one she used every Thanksgiving.</p>
<p>Every year my mom would make big pans of homemade rolls a few days before Thanksgiving, cooking them until they were nearly done, but not too browned.  Then on Thanksgiving day she'd pull them out of the freezer, thaw, and pop them in the oven after she took out the turkey, so they'd be perfectly browned and hot when it was time for dinner.</p>
<p>There are a lot of good cooks making rolls these days too, and most recipes for rolls can be frozen, then thawed and reheated the way my mom used to do it.  If you haven't made homemade rolls, or haven't settled on what kind of rolls you'd like to serve for the big turkey holiday, here are some very Thanksgiving-friendly recipes for rolls I found on the BlogHerAds food blogs.</p>
<p><a href="http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/?action=view&amp;current=IMG_6748-600x399.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/IMG_6748-600x399.jpg" alt="Photobucket" border="0" /></a><br />
Photo of <a href="http://www.thefrugalgirl.com/?p=4027">Glazed Honey Pan Rolls</a><br />
from The Frugal Girl</p>
<p>The Frugal Girl has <a href="http://www.thefrugalgirl.com/?p=4027">Glazed Honey Pan Rolls</a> that look very similar to what my mom used to call Pull-Apart Rolls.  There are step-by-step photos here of how to make the rolls, as well as links to some other recipes for rolls.</p>
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Photo of <a href="http://www.ingoodtasteblog.net/in_good_taste/2009/11/on-a-roll-nablopomo-and-whole-wheat-dinner-rolls.html">Whole Wheat Dinner Rolls</a><br />
from In Good Taste</p>
<p>I love whole wheat rolls, and the <a href="http://www.ingoodtasteblog.net/in_good_taste/2009/11/on-a-roll-nablopomo-and-whole-wheat-dinner-rolls.html">Whole Wheat Dinner Rolls</a> from In Good Taste are just what I'd want to mop up my gravy with on Thanksgiving day.  Maris mentions that this dough can be frozen, then thawed and cooked on Thanksgiving (and I bet my mom's trick would work with this recipe too!)</p>
<p><a href="http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/?action=view&amp;current=crescentrolls.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/crescentrolls.jpg" alt="Photobucket" border="0" /></a><br />
Photo of <a href="http://bakingbites.com/2009/11/homemade-crescent-rolls/">Easy Homemade Crescent Rolls</a><br />
from Baking Bites</p>
<p>You also couldn't go wrong with the <a href="http://bakingbites.com/2009/11/homemade-crescent-rolls/">Easy Homemade Crescent Rolls</a> from Baking Bites.  This is another type of roll I'm sure could be partially baked, frozen, thawed, and finished in the oven on Thanksgiving day because I remember my mom doing it with this type of rolls.</p>
<p><a href="http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/?action=view&amp;current=1752877947_82181d5b22_o.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/1752877947_82181d5b22_o.jpg" alt="Photobucket" border="0" /></a><br />
Photo of <a href="http://blog.kitchenmage.com/2007/11/rosemary-fan-ro.html">Rosemary Fan Rolls</a><br />
from KitchenMage</p>
<p>Beth from KitchenMage is one of three bloggers behind the bread-baking site <a href="http://ayearinbread.earthandhearth.com/">A Year in Bread</a>, so you know her <a href="http://blog.kitchenmage.com/2007/11/rosemary-fan-ro.html">Rosemary Fan Rolls</a> are going to be just as good as they look.  Beth says this is a "never-fail" recipe, and if rosemary isn't your thing, you can use other fresh herbs.</p>
<p><a href="http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/?action=view&amp;current=rolls1-1.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z10/kalynskitchen/rolls1-1.jpg" alt="Photobucket" border="0" /></a><br />
Photo of <a href="http://erincooks.com/kitchenaid-sixty-minute-dinner-rolls/">KitchenAid Sixty Minute Dinner Rolls</a><br />
from Erin Cooks</p>
<p>Finally, if  you manage your time you might even be able to make these <a href="http://erincooks.com/kitchenaid-sixty-minute-dinner-rolls/">KitchenAid Sixty Minute Dinner Rolls</a> from Erin Cooks while your other food is cooking.  This recipe makes 24 rolls, which Erin made in two different shapes, but you can cut it in half if you don't want that many rolls.</p>
<p><strong>More Thanksgiving-Worthy Rolls You Might Like:</strong><br />
<a href="http://familystylefood.com/2007/11/whole-grain-dinner-rolls-with-3-seeds/">Whole Grain Dinner Rolls with Three Seeds</a> from FamilyStyle Food<br />
<a href="http://mihow.com/articles/2009/11/02/mom-it-down-quick-rosemary-dinner-rolls/">Quick Rosemary Dinner Rolls</a> from Mihow<br />
<a href="http://www.andreasrecipes.com/2007/04/05/hot-rolls-one-dozen-ways/">How Rolls, One Dozen Ways</a> from Andrea Meyers<br />
<a href="http://www.noveleats.com/bread/vegan-dinner-rolls/">Vegan Dinner Rolls</a> from Novel Eats<br />
<a href="http://rtheyallyours.blogspot.com/2008/11/best-ever-100-whole-wheat-rolls.html">The Best Ever 100% Whole Wheat Dinner Rolls</a> from 11th Heaven Homemaking Haven<br />
<a href="http://therepressedpastrychef.com/2009/06/06/basic-dinner-rolls/"></a><br />
Do you have a great tried-and-true recipe or tip for making homemade dinner rolls?  If so, please share in the comments!</p>
<p><strong>(Every Thursday night on BlogHer, we spotlight five recipes with a common theme for a feature called Weekend Menu Planning, hoping one of them might make it onto the menu at  your house. You can find previous recipes shared by clicking the tag <a href="http://www.blogher.com/free-tagging/weekend-menu-planning">Weekend Menu Planning</a>.) </strong></p>
<p>Kalyn Denny also blogs at <a href="http://kalynskitchen.blogspot.com/">Kalyn's Kitchen</a>, where she's focused on creating low-glycemic recipes using fresh ingredients.  Kalyn hasn't even posted a recipe for rolls, but recently she made some amazingly easy and tasty <a href="http://kalynskitchen.blogspot.com/2009/11/recipe-for-100-white-whole-wheat-bread.html">100% Whole Grain White Whole Wheat Bread</a>.</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>A mother&#039;s stark choice: foster care or providing for her child and serving her country</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/mothers-stark-choice-foster-care-or-providing-her-child-and-serving-her-country" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/mothers-stark-choice-foster-care-or-providing-her-child-and-serving-her-country</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T18:43:15-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T18:43:15-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Morra Aarons Mele</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="afghanistan" />
    <category term="Alexis Hutchinson" />
    <category term="Childcare" />
    <category term="single mom" />
    <category term="single parents" />
    <category term="Caregiving" />
    <category term="Caregiving" />
    <category term="Gender" />
    <category term="War" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>What if a white male single dad had a 10 month-old, adorable baby boy. Say his wife had died tragically and he had no extended family….The dad was in the army, and he was deployed to Afghanistan. The dad had nowhere for his baby to go while he was deployed… what would happen? I bet that baby would not go to foster care.<br /></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>What if a white male single dad had a 10 month-old, adorable baby boy. Say his wife had died tragically and he had no extended family….The dad was in the army, and he was deployed to Afghanistan. The dad had nowhere for his baby to go while he was deployed… what would happen? I bet that baby would not go to foster care.<br /><br />Blogger <a href="http://geishaschooldropout.typepad.com/geisha_school_dropout/2009/11/more-on-spc-alexis-hutchinson.html">Julie Kang</a> really shifted my thinking on the case of Alexis Hutchinson, the 21 year old Army Specialist who did not show up for her deployment to Afghanistan because she had no one to care for her 10 month old baby Kamani. Julie writes, “…hello!&nbsp; I think there would be an even BIGGER furor if a single dad (and for the sake of argument, make him a single white dad) had his child taken away, not because he was defecting, but because he needed more time to find another caregiver during his deployment.&nbsp; Everyone, including aforementioned conservative talk show hosts, would be clamoring to care for that baby.”<br /><br />Julie is riffing off the fact that the site <a href="http://www.couragetoresist.org/x/content/view/792/1/">Courage to Resist</a> reported “A few conservative websites have taken notice of growing public outrage over this case. Some have attacked Alexis because she is young black woman who got pregnant soon after basic training, yet she chose to remain the Army! Another blames her because Kamani’s father is not a part of their lives. Some incredulously ask if we would support a young male soldier in a similar situation (yes—we would). Alexis’ only real mistake was believing the military’s “family friendly” recruiting sales pitch.” (and, Morra’s note, the <a href="http://womensissues.about.com/od/reproductiverights/f/HydeAmendment.htm">Hyde Amendment </a>that rules that no federal funds be used to pay for abortions means she would have had few options had she wanted to terminate the pregnancy, anyway. She had to keep the baby, and she had to provide for the baby. She is mother and provider.)<br /><br />Let’s take a step back: 21-year old Alexis Hutchinson is the parent of a 10-month old boy. She is African American. She is a single parent. She is a cook in the Army, and she had orders to deploy to Afghanistan on Nov. 5, but she stayed home and did not show up to move out. When she showed up to the Base the next day with her son in town, she was arrested and her son was taken into custody. She is now on base in Georgia, waiting to find out her fate, and her baby is with his grandmother Angelique Hughes. <a href="http://michaelmoore.com/words/latest-news/military-mom-without-childcare-goes-awol">Latest reports</a> have Alexis Hutchinson facing a possible court martial. Her son is thousands of miles away in California.</p><blockquote><p><br />“According to the family care plan of the U.S. Army, Hutchinson was allowed to fly to California and leave her son with her mother, Angelique Hughes of Oakland. Angelique says she realized she could not care for her grandson, since her other duties include caring for a daughter with special needs, her ailing mother, and an ailing sister, and working long days running a daycare.<br /><br />The Army then gave Hutchinson an extension of time to allow her to find someone else to care for Kamani. Meanwhile, Hughes brought Kamani back to Georgia to be with his mother.<br /><br />However, only a few days before Hutchinson's original deployment date, she was told by the Army she would not get the time extension after all, and would have to deploy, despite not having found anyone to care for her child.<br /><br />Faced with this choice, Hutchinson chose not to show up for her plane to Afghanistan. The military arrested her and placed her child in the county foster care system.”</p></blockquote><p><br />According to a story on NPR, the estimated 85,000 people in the Army who are single parents are required to have a caregiving plan, for when the custodial parent is deployed or unavailable to care for a child. When Alexis Hutchinson’s learned her mother was unable to be Kamani’s backup caregiver, Hutchinson says she advised her Commander of the change in her care arrangements and asked for time to figure out a new plan. Hutchinson states her Commander basically said to figure it out in the next 24 hours, because deployment had been moved up to November 5. If she couldn’t find an alternative in time, Kamani would have to go into foster care.<br /><br />How does a parent of a baby weigh the decision whether to break the law, or leave her child in a dangerous situation? It’s an unconscionable decision, and I imagine must have been a lonely one. <br /><br /><a href="http://nccpr.blogspot.com/2009/11/alexis-hutchinson-foster-care-and.html">The blog for the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform writes,</a></p><blockquote><p><br />“the only thing unusual about this case is the fact that this single mom's job was about to be moved to Afghanistan. There are, in fact, thousands of children of civilian parents trapped in foster care when their parents didn't abuse them or neglect them either. Many of these parents, mostly single mothers – have what amounts to the same problem as Spec. Hutchinson.<br /><br />“These are the mothers who are told: "We don't care if your child is sick, show up for work or you're fired." Mom knows if she's fired, she won't be able to pay the rent. She'll be homeless and child protective services can take the child because of lack of housing. So mom shows up for work. Someone calls child protective services. The child is taken away on a "lack of supervision" charge.</p></blockquote><p><br />I know that I have had days where I have had up to three caregivers on call to fill in for childcare while I travel. Anyone who has experienced the anxiety of being without childcare, even for an hour, can viscerally feel the panic Hutchinson must have felt as she weighed her options the night before her planned deployment. <br /><br />The Army says it is exploring all options and will "do right by the situation." I hope so. But what Hutchinson faced is what so many women deal with daily: a boss who doesn’t get it, or just doesn’t care. A lack of options for an affordable, trustworthy place for your baby to go while you’re at work, a family far away, and zero options to work and have a baby. No mother should have to choose between providing for her family and foster care. It just plain sucks. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>The Senate Health Care Bill Is Out-How Does It Stack Up?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/senate-health-care-bill-out-how-does-it-stack" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/senate-health-care-bill-out-how-does-it-stack</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T15:12:28-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T15:15:49-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Erin Kotecki Vest</name>
    </author>
    <category term="News &amp; Politics" />
    <category term="Politics" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Upon hearing the news Senate Majority leader Harry Reid released the Senate version of a health care reform bill last night, I quickly brewed some tea, snuggled into bed, and settled myself in for a long read.  I've made it about 400 pages in and I can tell you already, there are some notable differences between the <a href="http://www.opencongress.org/senate_health_care_bill">Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act</a>&nbsp;and the House bill.  <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/19/health/policy/19health.html?_r=1&amp;partner=rss&amp;emc=rss">The New York Times</a> reports,</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Upon hearing the news Senate Majority leader Harry Reid released the Senate version of a health care reform bill last night, I quickly brewed some tea, snuggled into bed, and settled myself in for a long read.  I've made it about 400 pages in and I can tell you already, there are some notable differences between the <a href="http://www.opencongress.org/senate_health_care_bill">Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act</a>&nbsp;and the House bill.  <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/19/health/policy/19health.html?_r=1&amp;partner=rss&amp;emc=rss">The New York Times</a> reports,</p><blockquote>Though broadly similar to the House bill, Mr. Reid’s proposal differs in important ways. It would, for example, increase the Medicare payroll tax on high-income people and impose a new excise tax on high-cost “Cadillac health plans” offered by employers to their employees.  Mr. Reid’s bill would not go as far as the House bill in limiting access to abortion. And while he would require most Americans to obtain health insurance, he would impose less stringent penalties on people who did not comply.  Many provisions of Mr. Reid’s bill, including the creation of insurance markets, or exchanges, would take effect in 2014, a year later than similar provisions of the House bill.</blockquote><p>Of course, despite the bill's many nuances...it all comes down to money.  Think Progress has a <a href="http://thinkprogress.org/2009/11/19/senate-house-comparison/">handy-dandy chart</a> to show the budget differences between the House and Senate bills.  The bottom line? The <a href="http://cbo.gov/ftpdocs/107xx/doc10731/Reid_letter_11_18_09.pdf">Congressional Budget Office</a> report says the Senate bill would extend coverage to 31 million uninsured people while reducing the federal deficit by nearly $130 billion over 10 years.  The <a href="http://voices.washingtonpost.com/ezra-klein/2009/11/health-care_reforms_grand_barg.html">Washington Post's Ezra Klein</a> says there's more to it than that though,</p><blockquote>If this piece of the bill was passed on its own, it would be the most important cost control bill ever considered by the United States Congress. But you could never have passed it on its own. You needed the coverage to make the grand bargain work. Republicans like to call this bill a trillion-dollar experiment to expand the health-care system, and in some ways, it is. But it's also a multitrillion-dollar experiment to cut costs in the health-care system, and it deserves credit for that, and support from fiscal conservatives. It's easy to talk about cutting costs, but this is the chance for people to actually do it.</blockquote><p>But it's not only about money. <a href="http://www.politico.com/livepulse/1109/Major_reforms_delayed_until_2014.html">Carrie Budoff Brown</a> at Politico reports one of the significant differences in this bill is the delay of reform until 2014.</p><blockquote>This is bad news for lawmakers who will need to explain to constituents why the elements that have attracted the most attention -- the public plan, the Medicaid expansion and the insurance exchanges -- won't be available for four years.  Some reforms would kick in earlier, Senate aides explained, but the big pieces would still be a ways off.</blockquote><p>And then there is, of course, the abortion question. With <a href="http://www.blogher.com/public-funding-abortion-or-good-game-plan">both</a> <a href="http://www.blogher.com/stupak-amendment-subsidy-or-tax-our-anatomy-depends-your-gender-0">sides</a> still debating the ramifications of the Stupak amendment, the Senate bill seems to incorporate a variety of ideas.  While <a href="http://tpmdc.talkingpointsmemo.com/2009/11/reid-outlines-bill-for-caucus-warns-conservative-dems-that-reconciliation-is-still-an-option.php">TalkingPointsMemo</a> reports key Democrats are onboard with the abortion language in the Senate bill, others aren't so happy.  <a href="http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/11/senate-health-bill-answer-to-stupak.html">Shakesville </a>writes,</p><blockquote>Of course, <a href="http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/11/at-least-its-warm-under-bus.html">Azzy's earlier post</a> outlines why "allowing a woman to use her own private funds" for an abortion is a pretty pathetic solution in a healthcare bill ostensibly designed to serve people who don't have the funds to pay for their healthcare out of pocket. Again I will note that this fuckery only flies in a culture that treats women's healthcare and abortion as mutually exclusive concepts.</blockquote><p>So now the real work begins. Debate over the bill is expected to last through December with every nook and cranny of these over 2-thousand pages discussed.  <a href="http://www.opencongress.org/articles/view/1364-Senate-Health-Care-Bill-Released-">OpenCongress has the bill</a> for your tea-drinking, snuggle in bed, reading needs. Join me, won't you?  <em>Contributing Editor Erin Kotecki Vest also blogs at <a href="http://queenofspainblog.com">Queen of Spain Blog</a>. </em></p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Do Working Moms Lose Child Custody in Divorces?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/do-working-moms-lose-child-custody-divorces" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/do-working-moms-lose-child-custody-divorces</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T14:45:52-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T14:45:52-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Suzanne Reisman</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Business &amp; Career" />
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="Life" />
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="United States" />
    <category term="Money &amp; Personal Finance" />
    <category term="News &amp; Politics" />
    <category term="Sex &amp; Relationships" />
    <category term="bias in divorce cases" />
    <category term="child custody" />
    <category term="divorce" />
    <category term="fathering" />
    <category term="sole custody" />
    <category term="Stay at home dads" />
    <category term="working moms" />
    <category term="Balance" />
    <category term="Career" />
    <category term="Caregiving" />
    <category term="Co-parenting" />
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Custody" />
    <category term="Divorce" />
    <category term="Divorce" />
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="Gender" />
    <category term="Issues" />
    <category term="Living" />
    <category term="Parenting" />
    <category term="The Ex" />
    <category term="Law" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Not long after I graduated from college, I worked at a government agency.  One of my co-workers was in the middle of a bitter divorce.  Prior to the divorce, he stayed home caring for his two young sons.  Once his wife left him, however, she filed for custody of the children.  At the time, he did not contest the filing, as he did not want to upset his kids any more than they already were.  However, he was clearly heartbroken and missed nurturing his children. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Not long after I graduated from college, I worked at a government agency.  One of my co-workers was in the middle of a bitter divorce.  Prior to the divorce, he stayed home caring for his two young sons.  Once his wife left him, however, she filed for custody of the children.  At the time, he did not contest the filing, as he did not want to upset his kids any more than they already were.  However, he was clearly heartbroken and missed nurturing his children. </p>
<p>I left my job to return to school, as did my colleague.  Over the years, I lost track of him.  Then, many years later, I was at LaGuardia Airport when I noticed my former friend's face on the cover of one of New York City's tabloid-y newspapers.  "City's Worst Deadbeat Dad!" the headline screamed.  "WTF?" I thought to myself.  I bought a paper.</p>
<p>Long story short, eventually Bob (not even close to his real name) became upset with the way his ex was raising their kids.  He went to court to get them back.  He lost.  Bob was also ordered to pay more child support, although his ex had a very high salary herself.  Rather than give her more money, Bob quit his job and moved into his mother's basement.  The article portrayed Bob as a horrendous person and his wife as a victim of a petty man.  I felt awful for Bob and the children; the media coverage relied heavily on the stereotypical idea that men cannot possibly be as good caregivers as women.</p>
<p>It seems, however, that <a href="http://www.workingmother.com/web?service=direct/1/ViewArticlePage/dlinkFullArticle&amp;sp=2868&amp;sp=120">Working Mother</a> magazine readers disagree:</p>
<blockquote><p>
A new survey by Working Mother magazine shows that 74% of respondents believe a mother’s nurturing is essential to a child’s development, but at least 50% of custody cases now end with the father gaining primary custody, and this figure looks set to rise.
</p></blockquote>
<p>Here's what I say to that: <i>so what?</i>  Of course, I'm not in favor of the idea that working mothers should be punished for doing so by losing their kids.  But if we are asking fathers and other partners to step up and do their part in caring for and raising children - as they should - then we also have to acknowledge some stereotypes that have traditionally worked to the benefit of women and we have to be willing to give up those privileges.</p>
<p>I'm not saying that there are not scary issues that this raises.  Clearly, we do not yet live in a world where people understand that a mom who works is as devoted to her children as a mom who does not.  The idea that women might be losing custody of kids merely because working women are seen as less devoted to their children is horrifying.  And I also know a woman in the midst of a terrible divorce whose powerful, working-long-hours husband filed for sole custody, saying his wife neglected their school-age kids because she opted to go to night classes in a master's degree program two nights a week.  That is evil.</p>
<p>But back to the idea of sharing and working toward a better world.  It turns out, contrary to popular belief and strange excuses, that men are actually capable of nurturing and raising kids.  Some do it on their own when their wife dies or leaves them.  Others have male partners and no women in the household.  Another group shares responsibility with the children's mother.  When men care for their own children, they do not "babysit" any more than mothers do when they care for their kids.  If a man is a stay-at-home dad, why shouldn't he have any less of right to custody than a stay-at-home mom?  That is insulting and absurd.</p>
<p>In the past, it was thought that a father's role in child rearing was to earn some money so that the kids had a house and food and clothing.  That was pretty much it.  Maybe he was also expected to discipline the kids or show the kids what the proper role of men was, but when couples got divorced under this rubric, it made sense to automatically grant custody to the moms.  At the same time, the mom and kids were usually plunged into lower economic circumstances for a variety of reasons, one being that she had been out of the work force for a while, another being that women are paid about 25% less than men for doing the same job, and a third that alimony doesn't really add up to enough to support a family.  Plus, men got remarried and had new families to look after.  Really, when I think about it, the old system kind of sucked.</p>
<p>Since I don't want to live in a world where women are made to feel guilty if they work and men are not expected to have real responsibility in raising the kiddies, I'm down with the idea that more men want to share custody of their kids.  The key is to make sure that women are not punished for working while men are rewarded for changing an extra diaper or two every week.  But a knee jerk reaction to news that dads want custody and that women must do everything they can to prevent this from happening is wrong.  It doesn't serve working parents, stay-at-home parents, or most importantly, the kids.</p>
<p>Those are my two cents.  There's a very interesting discussion over at <a href="http://community.feministing.com/2009/09/do-courts-favor-mothers-or-is.html">the Feministing Community</a> on custody and whether courts favor mothers.  Back in 2006, Ampersand at <a href="http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2006/01/23/who-wins-custody-in-contested-divorce-cases/">Alas, a Blog</a> offered an excellent analysis of custody decisions and the stat that men get custody 50% of the time.  On a related topic, Hannah "might mouth" Wallen shares her frustrations over <a href="http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474977813866">Sexism in Divorce law and Child Support enforcement</a>.  Cafe Cynthia at <a href="http://www.cafemom.com/dailybuzz/big_kid/8402/Working_Moms_Are_Losing_Custody">Cafe Mom</a> looks at both sides of the <i>Working Mother</i> article.  Finally, Deesha at <a href="http://coparenting101.org/2009/11/17/more-fathers-are-getting-custody-in-divorce/">Co-parenting 101</a> looks at the original article and few other blogs and concludes, "we believe that joint custody should be granted except in situations where such an arrangement is detrimental to the kids."</p>
<p><i>Suzanne also blogs at <a href="http://cussandotherrants.com">Camapign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) &amp; Other Rants</a> and is the author of <a href="http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com">Off the Beaten (Subway) Track</a></i></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Olympic Mittens - the hottest and hardest thing to find in Canada</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/olympic-mittens-hottest-and-hardest-thing-find-canada" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/olympic-mittens-hottest-and-hardest-thing-find-canada</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T14:07:30-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T16:39:16-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>sassymonkey</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Sports" />
    <category term="World" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <category term="Olympic Fashion" />
    <category term="olympics" />
    <category term="Own the Podium" />
    <category term="Vancouver 2010 Olympics" />
    <category term="Accessories" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <category term="Canada" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Take one part Olympic fever, one part the realities of a Canadian winter, one part philanthropy and one part Canadian patriotism all rolled up in red wool and what do you get? Canada's obsession with the Canadian 2010 Olympic mittens. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Take one part Olympic fever, one part the realities of a Canadian winter, one part philanthropy and one part Canadian patriotism all rolled up in red wool and what do you get? Canada's obsession with the Canadian 2010 Olympic mittens. </p>
<p>The <a href="http://www.vancouver2010.com/more-2010-information/about-vanoc/own-the-podium/red-mittens/">red Olympic mittens</a> are a fundraisers for the <a href="http://www.vancouver2010.com/more-2010-information/about-vanoc/own-the-podium/">Canadian Olympic Foundation's Own The Podium campaign</a>. The initiative strives to help Canadian athletes to be the best they can be, if I may steal a phrase from our southerly neighbours. A noble ambition if I do say so, but one that needs funds to get it there. </p>
<p>There is perhaps no easier time to get public attention toward sports funding than during an Olympic year, except maybe when it's an Olympic year and you are playing host. This particular campaign appears to be quite the success. Everywhere I turn people are talking about these mittens. They love them! They want them! They are cheap! They can't find them! </p>
<p>Oops. Yes, it seems that maybe they are suffering from a bit too much popularity. They are the season's must-have winter accessory - <a href="http://www.royaltyinthenews.com/2009/11/07/charles-camilla-in-toronto-and-vancouver">even the royals have them</a>. (Though I suspect will not be wearing them much now that they are home.) The mittens are available in stores from coast to coast...if you can find them. They keep <a href="http://blushstopshere.wordpress.com/2009/10/22/2010-red-mittens-flying-off-the-shelves/">flying off the shelves</a>, in part because people are not just buying a pair for themselves but they are buying them for all their family too. I have a hunch they are going to show up in many a Christmas stocking this year.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.embracingbalance.com/2009/11/2010-olympic-torch-relay-halifax.html">Jaime at Embracing Balance</a> missed seeing the Olympic relay because of a conference call (is that a bummer or what?) but to add insult to injury she still can't find any mittens. </p>
<p><a href="http://mylilsockdrawer.blogspot.com/2009/11/ready-set-run.html">Sue not only has the mittens</a> but a whole outfit...because she's a torch bearer. Go Sue! Actually I've heard that the official torch bearer mittens are slightly different. Supposedly the maple leaf on them is grippy, which makes sense. I mean, you wouldn't want someone to drop the torch because the mitten made it slippery. </p>
<p>While I'm not clamoring for a pair of the mittens (though I do think the leaf right where you'd give a high five is cute) I think I understand their vast popularity. You see, our official Olympic wear? It's well, fugly. We've come a long way from the famous poor boy caps our Olympians wore in 1998. We were really hoping the Beijing Olympic gear was an anomaly and that we'd redeem ourselves. Instead we have a look that has been (rather politely) described as <a href="http://www.ctvolympics.ca/news-centre/newsid=16721.html">"hoser meets heritage"</a>. Yes hoser like Bob and Doug MacKenzie on SCTV. Oh I know, I know. Everyone should want <a href="http://store.hbc.com/kids-team-canada/girls-canadian-olympic-team-lamb-s-wool-sweater/prodRVGTF913.html">stag heads right over their boobs</a> but for those that don't, the mittens are a good choice. Inexpensive, small, functional and they fit inside our uncle's Christmas stocking. What more could we ask for? </p>
<p><em>Contributing Editor Sassymonkey also blogs at <a href="http://sassymonkey.ca">Sassymonkey</a> and <a href="http://sassymonkeyreads.ca">Sassymonkey Reads</a>. </em></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Traveling for the Holidays? Take Some Advice... </title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/traveling-holidays-take-some-advice</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T11:45:09-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T11:45:09-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Pam</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Travel" />
    <category term="christmas" />
    <category term="holiday survival" />
    <category term="thanksgiving" />
    <category term="travel" />
    <category term="winter" />
    <category term="Travel" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>A few years back we were able to negotiate a Thanksgiving deferral, a plan that moved our family holiday gathering to the weekend after Thankgiving or bypassed the holiday madness altogether, pushing our annual family pow wow up into January birthday season. We're lucky, no kids, retired parents, a weird genetic disposition towards avoiding traditional employment gives us independence in planning.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>A few years back we were able to negotiate a Thanksgiving deferral, a plan that moved our family holiday gathering to the weekend after Thankgiving or bypassed the holiday madness altogether, pushing our annual family pow wow up into January birthday season. We're lucky, no kids, retired parents, a weird genetic disposition towards avoiding traditional employment gives us independence in planning. Not everyone has the leisure to schedule their holidays at will, they'll plunge into the fray, kids and gifts and luggage in hand, to make the annual pilgrimage to where ever the homing instinct takes them. And it's a hassle, you won't hear any argument from me about that, but there's help. Check these links for tips for holiday travel that will make your life easier. Even if you think you know it all, it's worth a peek just for the reminders. </p>
<ul>
<li><a href="http://magazine.truth.travel/2009/11/seven-tips-for-headache-free-holiday-travel-1.html">Seven Tips for Headache-Free Holiday Travel</a> from Conde Nast Traveler: Hey, start with the experts!  </li>
<li><a href="http://www.tsa.gov/311/311-holiday.shtm">TSA Holiday 3-1-1 Tips</a>: Next, check in with the adversaries. It's no secret that I think the TSA is, well, if you can't say anything nice... but the reality is that they stand between you and your flight and they publish their plan of attack. Know it, prepare for it, check it often. </li>
<li><a href="http://www.amazingmoms.com/htm/christmastravel.htm">Traveling with Kids-Holiday Travel Tips for Parents</a>: You're taking the kids, it's not some Home Alone scenario, is it? I hear it's about preparedness and distractions. There are loads of great sites that talk about traveling with kids, this is just one of them. </li>
<li><a href="http://www.roadtripamerica.com/travelplanning/Secrets-for-Surviving-Holiday-Road-Trips.htm">Secrets for Surviving Holiday Road Trips</a>: Going by car has its own challenges. Plus, consider getting that tune up NOW.</li>
<li><a href="http://www.forbes.com/2009/11/12/swine-flu-tips-lifestyle-health-h1n1-five-steps.html?feed=rss_forbeslife">Five Ways To Avoid Swine Flu While Traveling</a>: Freaking out about the flu? This might help you.</li>
</ul>
<p>I've already said it, I avoid holiday travel as best I can. Airports are packed, travelers and workers are stressed, I'd rather skip the whole thing and spend time with the family when there's no additional external pressure. But if you can't make that happen, you can at least prepare.<br />
Good luck out there, travel safe, stay calm, and have a great time.</p>
<p>Pam blogs about travel and other adventures at <a href="http://www.nerdseyeview.com">Nerd's Eye View</a>. </p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Creme de la Creme and the Golden Haiku</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/creme-de-la-creme-and-golden-haiku</id>
    <published>2009-11-19T09:00:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T09:42:03-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Melissa Ford</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
    <category term="Blogging &amp; Social Media" />
    <category term="Infertility" />
    <category term="blogging" />
    <category term="creme de la creme" />
    <category term="the golden haiku" />
    <category term="Blogging &amp; Social Media" />
    <category term="Infertility" />
    <category term="Internet" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Don't fret if you're not part of the adoption/loss/infertility community because this year, our annual list has been expanded to include <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/the-golden-haiku/">everyone in the blogosphere</a>.</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Don't fret if you're not part of the adoption/loss/infertility community because this year, our annual list has been expanded to include <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/the-golden-haiku/">everyone in the blogosphere</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/time-to-start-cranking-out-the-creme-de-la-creme/">The Creme de la Creme</a> is a blogging project that is currently in its fourth year.  Starting in November, bloggers in the ALI community (adoption/loss/infertility) submit a single post--their favourite post--from their blog to the list.  I compile the list, write the blurbs, and the <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/01/the-creme-de-la-creme-of-2008/">final list is posted on January 1st</a>.  Part of the fun is seeing what other bloggers chose as their personal favourite, but the final list also serves as a small microcosm to the larger community.</p>
<p>Outsiders can read their way down the list and get a three-dimensional understanding of infertility, adoption, and loss.  Insiders can consider other paths to parenthood different from their own and see the larger scope of our community.  It is too easy to get wrapped up in your own small niche and not consider where you fit in the larger picture.</p>
<p>Several hundred participants are expected for the list, with a steady increase over the years from 75 or so in the first year to 222 in 2008.  While I'd love to see all 2000+ blogs on the blogroll represented, I'd settle for breaking 300 blogs this year.  It's one of our favourite community projects, bringing together old bloggers and new, from every stage of family building, and from every diagnosis.<br />
<a href="http://onewhounderstands.blogspot.com/2009/11/creme-de-la-creme.html"><br />
One Who Understands</a> is joining in though it's her first year blogging.  <a href="http://taderbaby.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-joining-creme-de-la-creme-are-you.html">The Adventures of Tader Baby</a> is joining along too.  <a href="http://smartone.typepad.com/smartone/2009/11/because-im-an-idiot.html">I'm a Smart One</a> is back for a second year.  <a href="http://whichbox.blogspot.com/2009/11/creme.html">Which Box</a> states: "I'll go through my archives and see if anything jumps out at me.  Or maybe I'll try extra hard to write something meaningful this month of blog posting."</p>
<p>This year, I decided to open a second, similar list for the entire blogosphere, which is sort of a far-reaching project to essentially catalog the year 2009 for every blog in existence and provide a snapshot of the last 12 months.  But how cool and useful will this be once completed?  <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/the-golden-haiku/">The Golden Haiku</a> is open to any blog that has at least one post from 2009 and the project is open from now until March 1st.<br />
<strong></strong><br />
<blockquote>The Golden Haiku, a blogosphere-wide project collecting a single, great post from each participating blog.  This project is open to every single blogger in the world–from those who just started writing to those who have four years under their blogging belt.  For every type of subject matter, for every type of person, from gay men living in Kansas to elderly women living in New York City to mothers in London and political activists in the Middle East.  Literally everyone.  Broken down into small, bite-sized categories for easy navigation.
</blockquote></p>
<p>It will be constructed differently from the original Creme de la Creme list due to its size, with a main lobby-like map sending readers of the list to different corners of the blogosphere.</p>
<p>Can't picture this?</p>
<p>When the list comes out on January 15th, the image below will be linked to individual rooms which will contain blog posts in separate subcategories that fit under the umbrella topic:</p>
<p><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_2SDEpISlohw/SvciVtVlwZI/AAAAAAAAD3E/X4XAe_Ol7k4/s1600-h/Map.PNG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 245px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_2SDEpISlohw/SvciVtVlwZI/AAAAAAAAD3E/X4XAe_Ol7k4/s320/Map.PNG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5401824034396946834" border="0" /></a>People will be able to jump not only to their own section of the blogosphere and find new blogs on topics of interest, but they'll be able to peruse the rest of the blogosphere.  They'll be able to get a glimpse into worlds outside their personal experience or connect with bloggers in similar yet separate communities.  The list will be invaluable to those starting a blog who want to find others writing on the same topic to read.</p>
<p>Pretty damn cool, no?</p>
<p>It's the blogosphere distilled down to a really flavourful essence.  It's like those American Best Short Story anthologies without the exclusivity because everyone who wishes to participate will be included.  It is a fun way to read your way through the beginning of the year, but it will hopefully also be enlightening and moving and funny and a unique time capsule to 2009.</p>
<p>So go peruse your archives and <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/the-golden-haiku/">submit a post from 2009</a> to the list.  And look for the posts to start going up on January 15th.</p>
<p><span style="font-style: italic;">Melissa is the author of the infertility and pregnancy loss blog, </span><a href="http://stirrup-queens.com/" style="font-style: italic;">Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters</a><span style="font-style: italic;">.  She keeps </span><a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/" style="font-style: italic;">a categorized blogroll</a><span style="font-style: italic;"> of over 2000 infertility blogs and writes the daily </span><a href="http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.com/" style="font-style: italic;">Lost and Found and Connections Abound</a><span style="font-style: italic;">, a news source for the infertility blogosphere</span>.  <span style="font-style: italic;">Her infertility book, </span><a href="http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/"><span>Navigating the Land of If</span></a><span style="font-style: italic;">, is currently on bookshelves (May, 2009)</span><span style="font-style: italic;">.</span><span style="font-style: italic;">  She is the keeper of the <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/icomleavwe-november-2/">IComLeavWe list</a> and compiles the yearly <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2009/11/time-to-start-cranking-out-the-creme-de-la-creme/">Creme de la Creme</a>.</span></p>
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