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Bad Haircut? How to Handle a Do-Over

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Last week, my friend Chris got her hair cut. It did not go the way she was hoping. At all.

"I am not sure I can fully explain the horror of the haircut once it was dry," she wrote. "But I cried. I cried and held up the front choppy section of my hair and asked what this was supposed to be. It looks like I am growing out really thick bangs, you know the kind that people have when they have a mullett. Oh God,that is exactly what it looks like. It looks like I am growing out a mullet."

Ironically, the day before, I had had my hair cut and colored, and as with Chris, it did not turn out the way I was hoping. My color was more red than brown, my roots were a different color from the ends, and the back was crooked. I needed a do-over, and fast. But what's the etiquette? Could I just call the salon and ask for another appointment? Would I need to pay for the second service? Tip the stylist again? Should I go back to the first stylist or find someone new?

I decided to ask an expert; I spoke with Sheba Nemerovski and Susan Flaga, co-owners of Sparrow Hair in Chicago. Both say not to hesitate returning to the salon if you're not happy. "I always always tell my clients, especially new ones and especially ones who I can sense are not completely thrilled, not to hesitate to call me if they get home and feel they can't live with their cut or color," Nemerovski told me. "Sometimes there is a miscommunication, sometimes color looks different under different lights, whatever the cause, it's often hard to tell whether you like your cut and color when you are sitting in the chair."

But Flaga suggests caution, saying, "no two stylists are alike, and calling back for a change may truly offend your stylist." Choose carefully, she says. "The most important thing is to find someone that you can feel comfortable communicating with. You could technically have the best stylist in the world, but if they don't share your sensibilities in any way, they won't be right for you." Of course, if your stylist isn't a good fit, it means you are less likely to get the service you want in the first place, and more likely to wind up needing a do-over.

Sparrow Hair

Sheba Nemerovski cuts Susan Getgood's hair. No do-over needed.

How can you know if your stylist will be open to criticism? "One way to establish good communication with any stylist," suggests Flaga, "would be to directly ask them how they would respond to any of these situations. Even the most freaky primadonna-stylist might appreciate a little direct questioning about how they respond to requests for change."

What if you leave the salon and then realize you don't love your hair? Nemerovski says that's fine. "You need to get home, see the color in different lighting, style the cut yourself, sleep on it, wash it maybe once or twice, before you can really tell if you like it or not," she says. "I would always rather be given the opportunity to fix it and have you be happy, then to have you go somewhere else." Stylists are business people, after all, and they don't want to lose your business -- most will go out of their way to make your cut or color right again.

Sparrow Hair

Loralee Choate watches as Susan Flaga transforms her color.

So what do you do if you need a do-over? Call the salon as soon as possible; be specific about what exactly isn't right about your cut or color, but keep your cool. It won't help to yell or cry, even though you might feel like doing both. If you need to, make a list of things you would like the stylist to fix and take that with you to your appointment. It's important that you communicate clearly with your stylist in order to prevent a second mishap. And if you really don't think your stylist is listening, find a new stylist. Fast.

Finally, here's the million dollar question: if you return to the salon for a do-over, do you need to tip the stylist again? Nemerovski says it's

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Sarcastic-Mom 5 pts

This is really great advice.

Hair is important!  I don't care how vain that seems - it alters everyone's first impression of you, and it's a part of how you present yourself to others.  Small differences can make a big deal.

I definitely agree that you should never hesitate to ask for a re-do if you hate it - especially if it was poorly executed.  I'd do the same for any other service rendered to me, why not this one?  And if the re-do is bad, too, I even think you're well within your rights to ask for a full refund and go elsewhere.

Butterflydiary 5 pts

It's always easy to go from long to short hair but if hairdresses  botch up and your hair doesn't grow back that quickly, it's pretty much a disaster.

When I go to a salon I always request that if they are going to chop-  they do it 2-3 inches longer than the version THEY envision. That way, I have a safe margin to play with. I'm not big on wearing wigs or extensions!

Charu Suri

EIC, www.Butterflydiary.com ( http://www.Butterflydiary.com )

Lisa Stone 6 pts

Because I loooove a good haircut and would love to know how to talk the talk. I recently went online to get-schooled re: home haircolor and had a blast. I won't pay anyone else to color my hair -- I had it done professionally once. Once. And thought to myself, okay, well, why pay anyone more than $100 to do what I can screw up  myself? So I went online, which led me straight to L'Oreal an their tutorials. The result? A spring return to my natural color (thank you, Imelda, for this photo ( http://www.flickr.com/photos/imelda/4372322158/ ), I loved meeting you too!).

That doesn't mean I won't keep monkeying with the shade though...:)

Lisa Stone BlogHer Co-founder ( http://www.blogher.com/member/lisa-stone ) Surfette ( http://surfette.typepad.com ) BlogHer is non-partisan but our bloggers aren't! Follow our coverage of Politics & News ( http://www.blogher.com/topic/politics-news ).

midnightbliss 5 pts

for me, my hair is not a big issue. when I feel that my hair is long enough for me, I go to a saloon and have it cut in whatever way the stylist want it. if it gets bad, it will grow again anyways. LOLs. But for about two yeras now, I go to this certain stylist for my haircut because  he  pretty much know what to do with my hair.

Julie Marsh 5 pts

Much needed. I've only had one stylist in my life with whom I really felt comfortable telling her exactly what I wanted and trusted her implicitly.

I think the worst cut I ever got was the night before BlogHer06. I was her last client of the day, and she just kept snipping away at my bangs until I looked like Peggy from Mad Men. I should have told her to stop, but I just sat there mute.

Julie @ ( http://twitter.com/ ) The Mom Slant ( http://themomslant.com )

Rita Arens 7 pts

I ended up breaking up with a stylist/mental health pro (kidding, but I still miss our talks) because she only knew how to cut my hair one way and I was bored. I didn't have the heart to make her do it over when I finally tried to change -- I just moved on.

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy ( http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com ) and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

loraleechoate 5 pts

I am STILL recovering from the "Sliding Doors" platinum boy haircut my stylist talked me into. 

Could you GET a worse look for me? 

Shudder.

So, I am ALL for the "How to talk to your stylist" tutorial, Susan!

jenniferl 5 pts

I really needed to get a cut and a color and I was in a new town. So I walked into a cute salon and asked if anyone was available right then for a cut and foils, about a 2-3 hour apointment. They did. Unfortunately they didn't tell me she had only 1 year of experience and she proceded to butcher my hair and completely botch my color. I called either that afternoon or the next day and spoke to the manager/owner. Turns out the salon was less than a year old so she really wanted to take good care of me. I got an immediate apointment with someone with 9 years of experience for the cut and that was completely comped. With the color I didn't have enough free time to get in right away so we waited a few weeks and I negotiated a discounted rate. I went there a few more times but then I found somewhere else. I just didn't feel comfortable there.

Susan Wagner 5 pts

True story: Three years ago, my stylist turned my hair orange. ORANGE! It was horrific, and not at all what I had asked for (because ORANGE! HAIR! OMG!). When I saw it, I was horrified. But I paid the bill and tipped her and said thank you and then went home and put on a ball cap and started calling other salons for a fix. I never went back to that stylist because I couldn't face the idea of telling her how much I hated the color, which was a bummer because she did a great job cutting my hair.

Sigh.

I will say, though, that when I went back last week, the stylist was lovely -- she agreed that my color was off and apologized for not cutting the back evenly, and then she tried to refuse the tip when she was finished. I will absolutely go back to her next time.

All this makes me think that we might need a tutorial on talking to the stylist. What do you think?

Susan Wagner writes about pragmatic fashion at The Working Closet ( http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/workingcloset/ ) and chic suburban living at Friday Playdate ( http://fridayplaydate.com ).

Susan Getgood 5 pts

I've never had to have a hair redo, but my salon did comp me my services once because they made a clusterf*** of my appointment.

Sheba is awesome. I loved my hair makeover last summer. 

Susan Getgood blogs at Marketing Roadmaps ( http://getgood.com/roadmaps ), Snapshot Chronicles ( http://snapshotchronicles.com ) and Snapshot Chronicles Roadtrip ( http://snapshotchronicles.com/roadtrip ).

sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

Well, that's not really correct. I've had horrible haircuts (including one that made my head look like a layered cake...) but in those cases there was no way you would ever get me to go to that person to get my hair done again. Ever. It's usually that they took off too much hair and the last thing I wanted was more taken off. (And the one the gave me the layered cake look? Was dating my brother. That wasn't at all awkward when I stopped going to her...) 

The best stylists I've ever had both told me when I finished my first appointment with them that if I wasn't happy with it to come back and and they'd fix it. In both cases there was nothing to fix. 

Contributing Editor Sassymonkey also blogs at Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca ).

Kimmber 5 pts

Being in a stylists chair turns me into a wishy wash, timid little girl.  At leasts that's how I feel. I can never articulate exactly what I want. It is so unnerving to me.  There have been times I've left unsatified, but never could muster up the courage to call and complain.  Hopefully I'll summon my big girl voice with my next cut.

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