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Bad Mothering Lawsuit: What Will Your Kids Sue You For Someday?

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I’ve seen some stupid lawsuits in my day. I mean, hello, coffee is hot. Unless it’s iced coffee, and then you might be in for a brain freeze if you drink it too quickly. (Consider this your warning.) However, a lawsuit out of Illinois by a pair of “grown,” adult children recently attempted to sue their mom for -- get this -- bad mothering. The judges eventually threw it out, for good reason, but now there’s a general feeling of, “Wait, that can happen?”

The lawsuit stems from a divorce, a custody dispute and what sounds like two rather immature parents not handling their less than ideal situation very well. Add in a pair of children who come off sounding slightly... let’s just say it, spoiled, who were being represented in this lawsuit against their mother by their father and it really doesn’t sound like this is the most functional family on the block. (Then again, whose is?)

Hardly neglectful but possibly stupid, the appeals court said the following about the mother’s parenting skills and decisions:

"At its worst, (the alleged wrongdoing) reflects behavior that is sometimes erratic, sometimes spiteful, sometimes less than fully generous or fully sensitive to the material and emotional needs of her children. But by no means does the nature and quality of this conduct fall outside 'all possible bounds of decency.'"

Whew. At least this court case didn’t set a precedent for every parent to second guess their every decision wondering if it would be held against them in a lawsuit somewhere down the road. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t keep our kids’ best interest at heart when deciding whether to ground them, take away a privilege or, you know, tell them to put on their seat belts like this mom did. But, let’s face it, as long as we’re not neglecting or harming our children, we’re all just flubbing along this journey together.

So I got to thinking: I wonder what my kids would sue me for doing wrong -- thus far. Here’s what I came up with -- thus far.

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  • I failed to breastfeed my oldest son. I then nursed our youngest son for just shy of two years. Obviously I showed preferential treatment, right?
  • Recently, I have had the audacity to make my youngest son dress himself knowing full well that he can do it. Oops, there goes that preferential treatment.
  • I wouldn’t let them play outside in the rain -- in the middle of a lightning storm.
  • I yelled -- loudly -- the first time our oldest son took off his seat belt while in the moving car. I should say, only time. Because he’s never done it again. Possibly because I've so emotionally scarred him.
  • Remember that time I locked the kid in the car? EMOTIONAL TRAUMA!
  • A long list of offensive foods that includes vegetables, fruits, meats, dairy products and basically anything that wasn’t chocolate ice cream -- or, really, the right kind of chocolate ice cream -- was set in front of them and they were required x-number of bites. Horrifying, all that balanced meal stuff!
  • Speaking of ice cream, I took away privileges for ice cream store trips, video games, time with friends and other things when they did something for which they had already been warned not to do.

Someday, I expect to take away their privileges to use the family vehicle, make them get a job and not fully fund their college educations. I also plan on making them pose for family pictures every year for the rest of their lives, change their underwear daily and respect their elders. I’m a mean, mean mom, let me tell you.

And when I think about it, there was a time when I thought that my mom was the meanest darn mom on the face of the planet. Ditto that for my dad. That’s why this post isn’t what I’d sue them for if I decided to be that stupid. It all boils down to the fact that the large majority of parents are doing as best as they can in any given situation with any given child. We fail sometimes. My parents did. I do. I will. You will. My main goal is to keep my children safe, fed and hopefully, someday, they will be happy, fulfilled adults who don’t need to sue me to make themselves feel better about some perceived slight.

Now, tell me -- and be honest: What would your kids sue you for if given the chance?


Family Section Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land. She is a writer, editor and photographer.

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TXLIN 6 pts

Hah! Mine could sue me for infringement on their freedom to play video games whenever they want, torture because I said they had to use soap when taking showers and not just rinse with water (yes it was tear-free shampoo/body wash), callous disregard for their privacy as I searched their backpacks for toys and other amusing paraphernalia that might be construed as FUN at school, and of course public humiliation as I call out "I love you, have a great day!" each morning when I walk them to the school doorway. Guess I should start saving for my future attorney's fees.

Nobody wants to be Ethel 8 pts

OMG.

The real adult children who should be suing their parents are the abused and neglected children out there. Or maybe children who were taken away from their parents and placed in bad foster homes, maybe they should be suing the state and counties for poor monitoring?

I'm glad the judge threw out this case.

NicoleGlover 7 pts

Here's one, I called the cops on my 15 year old once. It scared the ever living crap outta him. It therefore worked!

texasebeth 10 pts

Sadly my list is endless and very similar to yours. Toss in -

refusing to buy a toy every time we go to the store

refusing to look at the toy section every time we go to the store

pulling the car over and spanking my son the 2nd time he took his seatbelt off after being told not too

making Charlie write thank you notes to out of town relatives at Christmas/birthdays

I'm glad the judge threw the case out instead of giving it credence and setting a horrific precedence.

Contemplations of an Army Wife 5 pts

There's a court case coming for the day I put my son in his room after he flooded the master bath! I'm sure of it!

washingtonpharmgirl 5 pts

This world is done. Stop it. I wanna get off. This is madness. The worst part of it all is that "they" want us to control our children at all times, yet take away every effective tool of discipline. Parents don't know whether to wind their butts or scratch their watches anymore. We already have lawsuits filed against parents who didn't stop little johnny from shooting up the school. Maybe if he had been SPANKED a few times, he would have straightened up. Yeah, I said it, SPANKED. Call my attorney.

alittlebiteoflife 5 pts

I have so many things my son could sue me for....do you think I should start preparing a good defense now? Great read, thank you!

BobbiSLC 5 pts

As if living with parental guilt for the rest of our lives isn't bad enough, now we have to worry about being sued for not being perfect.

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Lisa Cowan Pineo
Lisa Cowan Pineo

Unbelievably petty crap. I hope they get laughed out of court.

Kimberly Curtis
Kimberly Curtis

Joan Crawford should have been sued.

Jane Collins
Jane Collins

Pretty much sums up everything that's wrong with our society today. Also--will provide more fodder for lawyer jokes for years to come! Pitiful!

Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima
Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima

Only in Illinois...they do not like women in that state...some rulings on single moms a few years back were totally backwards...

Black LotusButterfly
Black LotusButterfly

This should had even gone to court! It was a mockery brought about by two twisted kids and their sick lawyer father...immoral and disgusting to do this to their mother but u know what, she will get stronger and one day those rat faced kids will need her!!!

Plum District Orlando
Plum District Orlando

Calling my LAWYER right now!