Battle #2: Making Stretch Marks Sexy
By battlefieldwife on January 10, 2014
I won't reveal my age. Not because I'm ashamed of it, but because I believe it would hinder my intent.But when I was younger it never occured to me that I would get old. Funny how that works, huh? Even with my first child, I actually thought the stretch marks would fade away and everything would just shrink right back in to place....Yes I know...take a moment to laugh with me, because I still giggle at my nieivity.
The Bible says we are not to be afraid to grow old, but to embrace it and love it. With age comes wisdom. The Bible also says that grey hairs are a sign of wisdom. Which sounds awesome when your are just a praisin' the Lord in the church, but when you get home and realize that florencent lighting really highlights those “light colored” hairs....well then it's “Lord, I'm only covering up this wisdom with a bottle of Ferier so that all my hairs will match..you know I'm OCD about these things.”
The truth y'all...I personally don't mind getting older. I don't mind the grey. I don't mind the laugh lines or crows feet. I don't mind the stretch marks. I don't mind that no matter how hard I try my stomach is going to forever be a flag waving at the pool; or that my boobs only look like they still have definition because of the AMAZING things bras can do now. I'm not 18 anymore, I've accepting these things. I only mind because I'm married and my husband works with girls who like they are about to walk the runway at a Victoria Secret's Fashion Show.
This is where those crazy thoughts come flooding back to me. I'm fat. I'm ugly. Of course he'd rather have that than me because after all my ENTIRE worth is wrapped up in my beauty...or lack there of.....right?
These thoughts are damaging. They cut us women right to the quick. And we do it to ourselves. It's one of those moments...that we have at least 3 times a day...when we have to stop and ask God to take those thoughts from us, and reveal to us our true selves. Who God sees us as. The Bible says that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. God doesn't make mistakes.
There is also something else to remember, and for that...it's story time.
I have a friend. According to the standard of the world she is not attrative. She is just a hair over 5 feet tall and about 220lbs....good thing we're doing anonimity here otherwise she'd KILL me for posting her weight. But, here's the kicker...she's got more men lined up to sign her dance card then anyone else I know. Men fall over each other to meet her, get her number and be the first to call. And the reason? Because she's smart, funny and doesn't play games. She says what she means and means what she says, and guys like that. She has a beautiful personality.
I know I know, we've all heard it before...”Saying you have a beautiful personality is something only ugly people say,” blah blah blah.
Well imagine my surprise when I was put in my place, unexpectdly, by my husband about this subject. We were out and about one day and stopped in to his work to pick up his paycheck. There was a beautiful girl that came from the back, greeted us, and went about her business. This girl was so beautiful that even I stared for a moment in awe as the florcentant lighting seemed to cascade off her perfect body, perfect hair, perfect teeth, and perfect face...which by this moment I wasn't to perfectly punch. But I kept my cool becasue we were at my husband's work. I didn't ask who she was or anything...mainly because I didn't want him to see that I was CLEARLY jealous that God made her look like and trust me God heard the prayer in my head that told him so the entire time we were in that building.
But then we got out to the car and my husband said “I was so glad to get out of there, I can't stand that girl” and so I asked him why. And this is what he said to me:
“She's smokin' hot...” PAUSE.
This is one of those moments where crazy stepped in, and my mind quickly decided that whatever he said next would determine if I were going to jail that day or not...hey y'all women emotions are NOT something to toy with. Anyway....
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