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Becoming Flame

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Third in a series of three.

Settling back down into my chair in the corner, I began to read Becoming Flame, a book authored by BlogHer's own Isabel Anders, an associate of Madeleine L'Engle, author of A Wrinkle in Time.

Ah! I thought. Some light reading. Something to take my mind off of the heavy, HEAVY spirituality of the Co-op. Surely this thin little book wouldn't take long to read. I figured I could finish it in the two hours I had to wait for my ride to arrive.

Just taking in the back cover gave me pause, however. Reading, "What could be more natural and timely than...A poetic exploration of the large and the small issues of women's life - nested, braided, interwoven, never fully unraveled - in precise language that retains the mystery but awakens the soul? "

I was taken aback and could only utter, "Huh?"

Becoming Flame is a book so rich with poignant twists
of common sense, it is hard to take in much at once.

 

Just as the Co-op had toyed with my sense of time, whipping me back and forth between 1975 and the present, the book began to play with my sense of spatial constraints. This thin little book began to grow, until I was, like Alice down the rabbit hole, shrinking and becoming insignificant next to it. The prominence of the pint size behemoth began to consume me. Like a scholar who studies to discover how much they don't know, I began to flip through the book, trying to take it all in at once, hoping to contain it as it continued to enlarge up and out of my hands and mind.

I tried to devour the pages, reading as fast as I could to get a sense of the largeness of this little book. I thought that if I could measure it, I could control it, keeping it within the bounds of what I could understand. I was undone, myself, however, as the book held firm, whirling and expanding while I was carried on high in a vortex of feeling, insight and expression. My chair began to raise off the floor and swirl around carrying me up into Isabel Anders' feminine domain, the vast group experience of women, the shared ancient knowledge passed down from Mother to Daughter.

With my head in danger of touching the ceiling, Becoming Flame became much like a fine wine. I couldn't just drink in the knowledge, but had to sip each phrase, acknowledging the bouquet, and swirling the shared images in my mind's eye. Here, I realized, was a book of deep thoughts to be savored. Here were collected vignettes of dialogue exchanged between a mother and daughter, putting into words things that, for the most part, usually go unsaid.

As I read Becoming Flame, the spiraling vortex of the
UofMD art student, Jenna Parry, painting on the wall
merged in my thoughts with the verbal images
presented by the book.

 

In her Introduction to Becoming Flame, Isabel offers that she has studied "the profound evocative legacy of Hasidic dialogue, or of a rabbi or holy man debating truth with his disciples." She shares she intended to "...employ the same conversational form, drawing from my experience as a women and a mother, and in a similar manner to convey some essentials of feminine collective wisdom, focusing on the process itself, as wisdom is 'kneaded' and 'made' like bread."

The title hints that the wisdom offered by Becoming Flame is enigmatic as is all knowledge and spiritual enlightenment. All great words of wisdom are not easily understood, digested and internalized without great study and sacrifice

"What is the difference between knowledge and wisdom?," a disciple asks his master. The Holy One answered, "When you have knowledge, you use a torch to show the way. When you are wise, you become the torch."

So, we learn that words are not wisdom, but the transmutation of words, shining by the light of each person's soul and collective experience, are wisdom. The words are reflected by the soul and become flame and the soul itself, in transmuting the words into wisdom, becomes flame.

Women, each one standing on the shoulders of the mother
who has come before, create an endless column of female
humanity rising from primordial history without beginning
and

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TruthsfromtheChaos 174 pts

Robin, Isabel Anders, stopped by my blog page yesterday:-) She took a moment to write a few words too. I wanted to thankU again for taking the time to write such a beautiful blog AND introduce me to her book, Becoming Flame. HUGE HUGS!!!

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

GLRED Wow! Gina! That is so cool. I am glad Isabel and you have been visiting. It is absolutely amazing what we can do for each other with less effort and more return than many of our other contacts in life.Thank you for your thank you...It reminds me of how much each one of us affects the other. I never would have dreamed anyone would like my blog that much and I am delighted you not only feel that way, but took the time to tell me. MADE my day! Much Love to Gina, Fondly, Robin

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

I think short communications (like these comments!), tweets, and the little dialogue form of Becoming Flame are thriving because we really don't have time for long dissertations on a subject--we want to cut to the chase. I have been tweeting my mother-daughter insights as BecomingFlame on Twitter and the 140 character form really works to get them "out there." Thank you all for your love and interest!

--I'm IsabelAnders and BecomingFlame (you can add @ before my "handles" and search on Twitter to see back posts).

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

Isabel_Anders Isabel! You spur me to new heights. I am embarrassed to say I am not Twiitter savvy.The 140 character limit is a nifty creative constraint. I get a kick of out of Victorias_view, Darcie, for that reason. She is a MASTER at creating Chatter one liners that intrigue and delight.

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com I just "Followed" Victorias_view on your suggestion!

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com Robin, I "Follow" you on Twitter anyway! When you get going with it, we can chat back and forth by direct message that way too! :-)

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com And now Victorias_view is following me! Thanks for getting us together! IsabelAnders

TruthsfromtheChaos 174 pts

I am speechless at the timing of your blog, Robin. Every ounce of my body has been moved after reading your words. Absolutely gorgeous writing my friend. God has used you as His messenger today. Thank you from the depths of my soul~

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

GLRED Gee...thanks...I am very moved, in turn, by your comment, Gina. Thank you so much for thinking everything you do. Did you get your Valentine? http://www.blogher.com/valentine-my-bloghers

I am thinking of and thanking YOU, Much Love, Fondly, Robin

TruthsfromtheChaos 174 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com YES!! I just read it. Very, very sweet indeed:-) ThankU for taking the time to write someting so lovely~ xo~

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GLRED Glad you saw it! there is SO MUCH good stuff on BlogHer...it's easy to miss things, so I thought I ought to "wave a flag." Love ya', Fondly, Robin

elaineR.N. 917 pts

My Becoming Flame book came today and I read one passage, The Flame of Life, twice. It was peaceful. I just flipped open the book and it caught my eye. Thanks!

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elaineR.N. Elaine! You are SO EFFICIENT! Amazing it came so quickly. You weren't joshing when you said you ordered it. Isabel will be tickled! I am glad you like it. Yes...I am doing that, as well. Flipping to a pertinent page that seems to serendipitously be what I need. It's comforting to me .Thanks for letting us know and giving us an update.Much Love, Fondly, Robin

Chivalry_Rocks 16 pts

Lost my head over this! Actually, the "system" cut it off when I uploaded my photo. Oh, well.

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Chivalry_Rocks Chivalry! Thanks for stopping by! We love you no matter what. I just thought you were shy.... :) Come back and see us, Fondly, Robin

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

Chivalry_Rocks We're glad you stopped by! I hope your daughters enjoy Becoming Flame. Fathers dispense wisdom too. :-)

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

Spinning Straw, Weaving Gold: A Tapestry of Mother-Daughter Wisdom, the sequel to Becoming Flame, now has a release date: June 29

So excited ... this little yellow square is a reduced portion of the book's cover ...

It should be up on Amazon within the month. :-)

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Isabel_Anders Do you mean within the month of February?

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com Possibly ... or early March. It would just be for pre-ordering. This book will be available in e-book form too.

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

I love this quote:

"... Sophia appears in her most simple guise like a little girl playing before God, but with a practical wisdom and ability to create ... " —Caitlin Matthews. http://www.blogher.com/life-curve%E2%80%94one-girl

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Isabel_Anders Wow...a child's creative freedom. A very powerful image. No inhibitions and total freedom to explore....and yet, with wisdom...getting heavy, again, Isabel...let me get the reference books... :) Fondly, Robin

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com I LIVE amid quotes—I'm a curator/managing editor for an educational resource, Synthesis (my day job)! So my "findings" can do double duty. Google is a revolutionary tool for editors like me who used to have to make many library trips with little white cards, taking down notes. :=|

elaineR.N. 917 pts

P.S. Just ordered the book, but not in Kindle form. In fact, I am not certain it comes that way. I want to be able to read it and then stop or maybe highlight and, for sure, contemplate. It has been awhile since I really contemplated anything beyond the concrete and I am looking forward to it!!

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

elaineR.N. Thank you for ordering Becoming Flame ... ! While you're waiting for it, check out my blog post on "Girl" at:

http://www.blogher.com/life-curve%E2%80%94one-girl :-)

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Isabel_AnderselaineR.N. Isabel! You are so prolific, it is amazing. I know you studied "at the knees" of the best, but, still, for this wannabee, your accomplishments are admirable. Great job, Fondly, Robin

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

elaineR.N. Yes, good idea, Elaine...I know I would be frustrated with a Kindle version of Becoming Flame. I'd be sitting there trying to highlight the screen....I just HAD to make notes and I used post-a-note flags to keep my thoughts straight. Yes...Isabel's books will take you up and out of the "today." Fondly, Robin

elaineR.N. 917 pts

Robin: I had to stop several times and refocus myself to concentrate on your post. You had written that, "Reading Becoming Flame jarred my psyche and my soul" and I feel the same way about what you wrote. It is amazing how little I really get past the superficial in my life. I will order Becoming Flame and will share passages with my daughter. THANK YOU for taking my mind away from where it was at to someplace better. You are the best!!

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

elaineR.N. Oh Elaine! I know, I know...what you mean. Thank you for thinking I could be anywhere as deep as Isabel. I'm telling you, I wrote to Isabel in a comment on one of her posts, that reading her work is like eating a box of chocolate covered cherries at one sitting. Her writing is so rich, you're better off just reading a few paragraphs at a time. Isabel has a profound multifaceted knowledge that sculpts her efforts. She seems to move easily within these disciplines, but I have to catch my breath before I can plod ahead to put it all together. Thank you, Elaine, for your nice thoughts. What a pick-me-up to read your comment. Thanks for stopping by. Much Love, Fondly, Robin

cookingwithkary 363 pts

Robin! Just catching up. Of course I love your post, I will be heading over to purchase this book. Your writing is just wonderful, so expressive and you know I am passtionate about "feeding the body which nurtures the soul".

Hugs, Kary

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cookingwithkary Hey Kary! I understand catching up. My attendance on BlogHer was "spotty" last week, not by choice. I missed so much in intellectual stimulation and I missed so much in the back and forth friendships that I suffered ALL WEEK. But, as you say, now I am catching up and getting my fix. Thanks for coming over this way, Fondly, Robin

cookingwithkary 363 pts

sheesh need my glasses and type check:) passionate. Sometimes the correct spelling looks funny......

Chivalry_Rocks 16 pts

This would be a great gift ... I have five daughters!

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Chivalry_Rocks Hello there, Chivalry_Rocks! How NICE to see you on BlogHer. Make yourself at home and visit anytime! Much Love, Fondly, Robin

widdlewade44 16 pts

Wow! What a book and what a review...Becoming Flame is a book I'll have to take in. Thanks!

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

widdlewade44 Thanks for stopping by ... hope you enjoy the book! Also see: http://www.blogher.com/part-one-wisdom-has-womans-name

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widdlewade44 Hello Widdlewade44! Man on the floor! Good to see you on this part of BlogHer. I'm not sure we women want you to know TOO MUCH about us! :) Fondly, Robin

Bad Luck Detective 323 pts

Amazing review and inspiration for women. Please take Isabel up on her comment and write something together. You are both incredible.

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

Bad Luck Detective Yes! Dialogue with other women is what it's all about! Thank you.

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Bad Luck Detective Suzie! Thank you so much! I value your thoughts and affirmation and greatly appreciate you coming over this way. You are a celebrity of sorts 'round these parts and I am delighted to see your smiling face. I haven't been on the computer much this week, so am catching up on the material I've missed. Going to your corner of BlogHer now. Thanks again, Fondly, Robin

isthisthemiddle 1399 pts

The third installment did not disappoint. You have given me a lot to think about, and thanks for letting us know about Isabel's book! I'm going to order it.

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isthisthemiddle Melanie! Thank you. I always like your taste and am glad this post made the cut. :) Well...Isabel has given us all lots "about which to think." Especially with not having had a nurturing mother, I found the rapport between the mother and daughter endearing and informative. Loved this book, but felt in "over my head" the whole time. Good though...like volleying with a better tennis partner. Thanks again, Fondly, Robin

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.comisthisthemiddleOn not having a nurturing mother: we have had to seek it out for ourselves. "It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure." -- Joseph Campbell

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Isabel_Andersisthisthemiddle Hey there! I agree with this quote...by not being as nurtured as I could have been, I became all the more nurturing....Whoa! Heavy.... :)

HomeRearedChef 2776 pts

P.S. (Robin)

I have tweeted and Facebooked this post. :)

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HomeRearedChef Virginia! The Head Cheerleader! Always ready to promote and support. Thank you for your interest! You are one of those friends who can never be repaid enough. By the time I catch up, you are on to another proactive kindness.Yay, YOU!

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

Dear Robin:

I am speechless (nearly) ... your review bowls me over with gratitude, that you have understood and enhanced my insights, in order to share them with other women, to mingle with their own wisdom ... May the chain of understanding and appreciation grow. You are priceless. We should write something together sometime.

Love and awe at your generosity,

Isabel

SunbonnetSmart.com 1500 pts

Isabel_Anders Oh Isabel! I could have worked another month on this post...I really loved your book and was overwhelmed by your scholarly knowledge and references. Thank you for sharing. I welcome all of your suggestions, Much Love, Fondly, Robin

HomeRearedChef 2776 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com Thank you for such a well versed synopsis, Robin. I plan to look for Isabel Anders' book and own it.

Thank you, dear friend!

Big hugs,

Isabel_Anders 459 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com I hope the book will continue to provide inspiration and be worthy to be read more than once. :-) I couldn't get the link at the bottom of the article to load. Here is a better one: http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Flame-Uncommon-Mother-Daughter-Wisdom/dp/1608992667/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1328957697&sr=1-4