The best advice I can give right now
My sister-in-law is pregnant with her first child. My brother said she wanted to talk to me because I’m an “expert” in this area. Granted, I do have three children but they are young (9, 5, and 2) and I’m the first to admit I really don’t have any plan as to what I’m doing. This is all done on instinct.
I had bad pregnancies. I threw up for months and was hospitalized for dehydration. The births were simple enough, two completely natural and drug free, one was induced because of a placental abruption. It was scary, all the births were, but I had to just let go and put myself and my fears aside and allow my body to work. Even with my induction, my body took over in the end. I know, I was lucky in that way, but honestly, how much can you plan when you go into these types of situations? My youngest child was born 15 minutes after I got to the hospital they didn’t even have a chance to verify my name and insurance details before she was laying on my chest.
You have the way you want things to go and then you get in to it and there are other people around (doctors, nurses, your partner) and things happen and you have to make adjustments right then and there and it is scary; but at some point it will be over and the baby will make it outside of your body and then you have this little person who is completely dependent on you. It’s overwhelming and scary and hard but you’ll figure it out, we all do. You can read as many books as you want to but eventually you’ll understand that you will just do what you need to do take care of your baby.
I think that’s the best advice I can give right now.