Are Mommybloggers Represented Fairly in the Media?

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Woman using laptop on sofa by daughter (2-4) holding doll

Think you're a good parent, one who knows how to balance your own needs with those of your children? Think again. Other mothers know more about what's good for your family than you do and they're not afraid to tell you.

Welcome to the world of mommyblogging.

At least, according to a recent article on Detroit Free Press called "Sex, Lies and Mommy Blogs," which describes the mommyblogging community as "If you think high school is tough, with its cliques and mean girls, you probably haven't visited the ever-widening world of mommy blogs, where women bully and bad-mouth each other in posts that are more personal and more spiteful than you're likely to find on sports or entertainment blogs. Or on blogs written by dads."

But are the comments that come on mommyblogs that different from those that appear elsewhere in the blogosphere? Is it a case of the outside world trying to cause strife in order to fragment the mothers who "spend about $2 trillion annually" and reap in a whopping ad revenue to the tune of "$283 million on all blogs in 2007 and a projection of $746 million by 2012."

The reality is that mothers have always judged one another, so the fact that they're doing it on the Internet isn't new. What changes the playing field is the anonymity the Web provides--you can shout what you wish at another woman knowing you're not going to have to sit next to her on the bench at the next Little League practice and look her in the eye. This has made the statements louder and bolder. People no longer roll their eyes and purse their lips when you mention that you gave your kid a hostess cupcake as a snack. They now subject you to a three paragraph tirade about how you don't care about your child's health.

But isn't this the case in all areas of blogosphere? You might not be able to tell your boss your feelings about their political ideas, knowing that you'll have to spend the next hour with them at the staff meeting, but you can certainly sling bile about the other political party on the blogs.

Why are mommybloggers bearing the brunt of rudeness on the Internet?

Some read these descriptions of the mommy blogging community and nod their head in agreement while others have no clue how their community's main identity has come to be known by back-stabbing, judgmental description given in numerous articles.

What are some of the posts that you have found that accurately describe your experience with mommy blogging--either good or bad?

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens and Lost and Found. Her book is Navigating the Land of If.

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