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When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, the first thing I did after jumping up and down (we had been trying for a year), was to dig out a due date calculator.  Last period March 21.  Due date… December 25?  Oh no!

My mother often relayed stories about my own birth.  I was also due on Christmas day, but held out in my cozy quarters.  I missed Christmas day, missed tax deduction day (December 31), missed New Year’s Day, and didn’t arrive until January 4th.  Although it was the 10th day of Christmas, it was still in January, so I didn’t feel as though my birthday was too close to the holidays. 

My daughter was not so lucky.  During my obstetrician visit on December 1st, my doctor informed me that I was already 2 centimeters dilated and that she would come any day.  After hearing this same news during my first pregnancy, my son was born three days later.  But my daughter, like me, had no intentions of coming out.  The weeks of December ticked by until my last scheduled appointment at 39 weeks.  The doctor informed me that the office was closed for the holidays, but that she was on duty at the hospital the day after Christmas.  I went for a check-up on December 26 and found that I was now five centimeters dilated.  “It’s time, let’s get her out,” my doctor said.  After a few short hours of induction, my daughter was born.

I always call my daughter the best Christmas gift ever.  Being 9 months pregnant, we planned no activities, travel or guests for the holiday week.  It was a very quiet, peaceful time, with only my immediate family and my mother present.  Since it was my second child, there were no anxiety attacks about her well-being, just the feeling of being truly blessed for the holidays.  (And yay, we got the tax deduction!)

This year, my baby turns six years old.  We’ve had mixed success with her birthday parties, with winter storms and holiday activities hampering turn-outs.  This year, we scheduled her party with her new Kindergarten friends before Christmas.  But what are some good activities for a bunch of giggly girls cooped up inside?  Turns out there are a ton of holiday-themed activities.

First, they played “Pin the nose on the Rudolf”, using a Santa hat as a blindfold.

Pin the nose on the Rudolf

And then there was making, decorating and eating spritz (cookie press) cookies.

Making cookes

We also made gingerbread people, snowmen and stars, and decorated them with seven colors of icing (quite messy and not as appetizing)!  If you’re not inclined to turn your kitchen into a huge explosion of cookie dough, colored sugar and icing, there are craft ornaments that both boys and girls would enjoy.  You could also play the dreidel game.

The amazing thing about having a birthday around the holidays is that you never feel bad about it.  A birthday is a birthday and it doesn’t matter when it falls.  My daughter absolutely loves having her birthday on the day after Christmas.  She wouldn’t have it any other way.  And my birthday is perfect for stretching out the holidays into January, Lords-a-leaping and all.

Contributing editor Angela blogs about over-ambitious parenting at mommy bytes.

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Joana 5 pts

Hi Magpie - You must not work in healthcare - there is no such thing as "rarely working your birthday" in healthcare. Glad someone doesn't have to do so!  :-) Happy birthday a few days ahead of time!

Joana 5 pts

I"m a fellow "December birthday" sufferer and have been for 52 years now. My folks and friends have generally been good about celebrating my birthday separate from the Christmas season and didn't combine gifts for the 2 days as one unless I wanted something more costly and agreed to combine my birthday and Christmas ahead of time. Still, I've always wished my birthday were in spring or summer, if only because, as a child and teen, I got what I call "dreary gifts" - things like clothing in the suitable seasonal darker palette (especially navy, YUKK!), gloves, etc. My friends with birthdays in summer got clothing in "fun" colors, or summer outside toys, etc.

As I've gotten into midlife, birthdays are not as big a deal, if at all - still, since the USA starts gearing up for Christmas the minute Thanksgiving dinner is "over," I find that having a birthday in December is more of a stinker than it used to be, in part because Christmas music and decorations are everywhere, but more because of all the obligatory "holiday parties" one is invited to/must attend for family or work obligations. There literally becomes no time to celebrate with friends and family until after the holidays! At 52, we're not talking a big deal, but just try going out to dinner amidst the chaos! I'm reaching the point where I'm telling friends to let's get together in January, especially friends who have December or early January birthdays - bleary, dreary January - when we need something fun to do anyway.

Mom101 5 pts

I've got one girl born Mother's Day weekend, and the other on 4th of July week - pretty much guaranteeing no classmate will ever be around for a birthday. So we're just learning to adapt and make it a whole birthday week. Of course having a 9/11 birthday myself, I can safely say that having one on Christmas doesn't seem all that bad.

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aroskelley1 5 pts

My daughter is also born Dec. 26th.  It hadn't been a problem until this year, she is turning 9. We already had her party a week ago, and two friends bought her the exact same thing as two gifts my husband and I bought her for christmas, already wrapped, already under the tree!  Luckily I had the reciepts, but I was DONE shopping!  Then I had to go back out again.

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moonfever0 5 pts

And here you are writing comments on BlogHer on their birthdays.  But you bring up a good point.  I went to check on my daughter's birthday presents and one of them was indeed wrapped in Christmas paper.  I ripped it off and re-wrapped it!!

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brisher7 5 pts

I'm Jan 2nd and can't say that I love it. In my family, maybe because we have a dominant slacker gene, it was the old, "Here's your Christmas AND birthday gift, in ONE!" I commend you for making your child's birthday special. I knew there was a way to do that. Luckily for me, and him, my son's birthday is in May.

magpie 5 pts

My mother was also due on the 25th - but I had the great good fortune to arrive four days late.  Of course, my father missed the birth, because his leave from the Marine Corps was up, but I didn't end up with a Christmas birthday. 

My mother, my father, and my husband are (were) very excellent about segregating my birthday - but many many people aren't - they just lump 'em together. And that's often kind of disappointing. On the other hand, I think I've had to work on my birthday maybe once...

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I love the wrapping paper rule. I have the same with my birth daughter (Dec 13). I mailed them both at the same time this year but wrapped them in different paper.

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KatieBeez 5 pts

is a very shiny happy month.  I would think the hardest thing would be missing out on cupcakes in class, and for planning parties when everyone can attend.

My birthday is almost exactly one month after Christmas and it still suffers from the wake created by the holidays.   I have received one gift for both more than once, and while I usually don't mind, it does sometimes bug me.

Carmen S 5 pts

but I have two girls, nine years apart, both born on Dec 22.  Not on purpose. :)

I always make a big deal for the other kids birthdays, and I do not discriminate for them. They both get big parties - usuallly held on either the first or second weekend of December, since no one can come on the last weekend before Christmas. I do cupcakes or treats at school a few days before the last day of school, in order to avoid the Christmas parties.

My big sticking points? Don't give one gift for birthday/Christmas and never, ever use Christmas wrapping paper for the birthday gift.

lauriewrites 5 pts

I was born two days after Christmas and the worst thing, by far, is that people say "Oh poor you, what a horrible birthday." And then they don't acknowledge it. 

Um, sure, but HEY. And also back off of my birthday!

The bummer was that we were always out of school when I had mine and birthdays were a huge deal in my school so I felt even more like the kind of square peg that I was. My mother ALWAYS made a big deal over my birthday, until an embarrassingly old age, because she was worried I was deprived. She even used to take me shopping at Bloomingdale's (a huge deal in DC) on my half birthday in June. 

Please to note: not deprived. :) 

The truth is no one really pays attention if you have a birthday in the latter part of December. People are too strung out from the holidays and who can really expect them not to be? I always have a dinner or a small party of some sort now, because it's a rite of passage for me and I have no problem owning it. 

And I have felt much better in recent years because approximately 15 of my favorite women are December babies. I am not exaggerating. The three women to whom I am closest are late-December birthdays, two of them born on the 17th. 

Crazy, yes, but your daughter is in very, very good company.

One thing to tell her: she is never, never to accept one gift for two occasions from a significant other. NEVER. Lines in the sand, friend - weed 'em out. ;)

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JennaHatfield 10 pts

Summer birthdays also have the ability to miss out on cupcakes with the class. Our school teachers, thus far, have anyone whose birthday falls on a weekend, holiday break or summer vacation bring their cupcakes in on a day of their choosing. Back to summer birthdays: I feel bad because we have NEVER been able to attend the birthday party for one of my friend's sons because we're ALWAYS busy in the summer.

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moonfever0 5 pts

And Happy Birthday to you in a few days!

Angela at mommy bytes ( http://www.mommybytes.com ) BlogHer Contributing Editor in Mommy & Family Cribsheet

moonfever0 5 pts

I was very lucky growing up as well, getting huge gifts for my birthday.  And my half-birthday was on July 4th, so the whole country celebrated with me.

I remembered that you wrote a post about your birthday being around the holidays last year.  Wait, wait... Here it is:

http://www.blogher.com/merry-birthday-happy-holida...

I'll be sure to remind her about not accepting one gift for both from a significant other when she gets older.  :)

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