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    <title>I&#039;m not dead yet!</title>
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    <published>2008-05-04T23:05:52-05:00</published>
    <updated>2008-05-05T08:31:01-05:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
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    <category term="Sports &amp; Fitness" />
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    <category term="running" />
    <category term="santa monica classic" />
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<p>Today I ran AND completed--thank you very much--my first race.  I ran the Santa Monica Classic 5K/10K.  I did the 5K.</p>
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<p>Today I ran AND completed--thank you very much--my first race.  I ran the Santa Monica Classic 5K/10K.  I did the 5K.</p>
<p><img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2075/2464957890_cb7a73aba7.jpg" alt="" width="500" height="375" /></p>
<p>First off, everything that could have gone wrong did go wrong; I over slept (both alarm clocks did not go off), I couldn't find my shirt, the kids woke up, the batteries in both cameras were dead, I waited in a long line for parking only to find my permit was for the lot a mile away...and I had to walk back that mile to the start line.  The race was to start at 7:30am, I got to the start line at 7:28, and was amazed by the crush of humanity for such a small race.  I...uh, didn't get the race was starting and watched all these people move forward.  Some guy told me, &quot;Yeah, that's the 5Kers.&quot;  OH!  That's me!  Where was the gun?  I wanted a gun!!!</p>
<p>There was no way I was running with all those people around so I started walking.  Once we got onto Main St. and the major group of Runners were gone, I started on a small jog.  I guess I should mention at this point that I hadn't run or walked in almost a month because of my knee.  My relationship with the gym had dropped to something closer to a booty call.  I had been smoking abut a pack and half a day.  I also neglected to eat anything this morning becasue I thought that there'd be time to get something before.  Oops.  For a moment there, I thought I was just going to have to die.  Then I saw the mile marker and beamed.  That wasn't too bad.  I can do this!</p>
<p><img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2093/2464085781_5fea365044_m.jpg" alt="" hspace="5" vspace="5" width="240" height="180" align="left" />As we turned left onto Colorado, we can see the mass of Runners hitting the finish line.  Show-offs.  I kept trudging up Ocean Blvd. mainly to get away from this couple running with their two dogs (WTF!?!).  As I headed back down Ocean Blvd.  we saw the leaders in the 10K coming up with a police escort.  Ha!  I thought, I'm going to finish the 5K before the 10K people show.  Whoo-hoo!</p>
<p>I didn't do too bad.  I was finished around 8:20, so that means I walked/ran 3.2 miles in about 50 minutes.  I was banking on completing the race in 1:30, so that was very good time for me.  Not bad for an out-of-shape smoker with a bum ankle.</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Obama&#039;s big win</title>
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    <published>2008-02-06T02:58:34-06:00</published>
    <updated>2008-02-06T02:59:47-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
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    <category term="Politics &amp; News" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="Hillary Clinton" />
    <category term="Super Tuesday" />
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<p>Tonight was a big win for Obama.  Yeah, I'm bummed that he didn't win CA, but not surprised.  As I'll keep repeating, the voters of CA are incredible morons and supremely moderate.  They never want to try something new.  Uninformed stick-in-the-muds is my "polite company" term for the majority of our voters.</p>
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<p>Tonight was a big win for Obama.  Yeah, I'm bummed that he didn't win CA, but not surprised.  As I'll keep repeating, the voters of CA are incredible morons and supremely moderate.  They never want to try something new.  Uninformed stick-in-the-muds is my "polite company" term for the majority of our voters.</p>
<p>But back to the numbers...As of this writing, Obama has won 13 states with one more possibly going his way.  His numbers are going up in CA, if these people could get some ballot counting going on (we're having problems with non-partisan votes possibly not being counted).  The spin from the Clinton campaign is that her 8 state wins are "unexpected". Especially the Massachusetts win.  No one expected Obama to win Massachusetts, the numbers just weren't there.  Clinton outspent Obama there, <i>because</i> he had the backing of the governor and two Senators.  The ROI for her delegates must be worth it.  No shock that New York went to Clinton, everyone won their home states.  No shock New Jersey went for Clinton, it's in her backyard.  Damn, what did she spend all that money on?  These are states she was supposed to win.</p>
<p>What is shocking is Obama's wins in some states.  As I wrote at <a href="http://jackandjillpolitics.blogspot.com/2008/02/super-tuesday-results-obama-wins-13.html" target="_blank">Jack and Jill Politics</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>Obama was down 20 or 30 points in some of these states 3 months ago. He was down 10 - 15 points in some of these places 3 weeks ago. Tonight is HUGE for the Obama campaign. Clinton had to fight and that was unexpected no matter how hard her campaign tries to spin it.</p>
<p>That list of states won by Obama is huge. Some of those places have like 3 black people there and two of them are just visiting. It was a very big night.</p></blockquote>
<p>Know that.  Understand because as <a href="http://jackandjillpolitics.blogspot.com/2008/02/super-tuesday-results-obama-wins-13.html#c8911990540637989563" target="_blank">B-Serious</a> wrote, this is why Clinton's itching for some debates:</p>
<blockquote><p>Other than that, it looks like Obama has Clinton right where he wants her. Want proof? All of a sudden, Hillary wants to schedule a series of debates. The media picked up on this. Hillary is looking for free publicity. Why? Because she's losing the fundraising wars at a rate of more than 2 to 1. Plus, she knows that the next wave of contests favor Obama.</p></blockquote>
<p>That dawned on me a couple of hours ago...I couldn't figure out why Clinton would all of a sudden want weekly debates when she was bitching about the number of debates back in August.  It's obvious she feels that she does well in debates and Obama kinda doesn't.  My husband pointed out that the debates would keep Obama off the campaign trail and then I  noted the free publicity.</p>
<p>Over at <a href="http://firstread.msnbc.msn.com/trackback.aspx?PostID=642208" target="_blank">FirstRead</a> they've given us a cute little breakdown:</p>
<blockquote><p><b>OBAMA<br />
</b>13 states<br />
9 red states / 4 blue states</p>
<p><b>CLINTON</b><br />
8 states<br />
4 red states / 4 blue states</p></blockquote>
<p>Um...what's that about electability again?</p>
<p>You look at that map and look at Obama's spread throughout the United States.  He could rout any of those Republicans.  What's Clinton got?  The typical "liberal" strongholds, states she was expected to win and Oklahoma.</p>
<p>Yeah, I know who I'm backing.</p>
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    <title>ELECTION &#039;08:  UCLA Obama Rally</title>
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    <published>2008-02-03T22:26:57-06:00</published>
    <updated>2008-02-04T05:44:05-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
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    <category term="Politics &amp; News" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="campaign rally" />
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<p>Wow.  What an experience.  I'm glad I went, though I should have left the little girl at home.  She wanted to leave before it started!  I took <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/anikascreations/sets/72157603847893039/" target="_blank">107 photos</a>, so I'll just post some of them here an tell you what's happening as we go along.</p>
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<p>Wow.  What an experience.  I'm glad I went, though I should have left the little girl at home.  She wanted to leave before it started!  I took <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/anikascreations/sets/72157603847893039/" target="_blank">107 photos</a>, so I'll just post some of them here an tell you what's happening as we go along.</p>
<p>First off, considering that it's raining and it's Super Bowl Sunday and it's Los Angeles AND UCLA is on the westside, I was very, very shocked at the turnout.  Especially among black people.  I spoke to people who said they went to the early service today to attend this rally.  We got there around 10:30am, but considering the seating issues, we could have just showed up at 1 and been on time.<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2113/2240760972_2eaa1c2a3d.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
Here's the famous vendor everyone in LA has a photo of.  Funniest thing, the shirt he's wearing says "He's black and I'm proud".  I counted about 19 little (8 and younger) white kids wearing that shirt today.</p>
<p>Here's crowd shot:<br />
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When we first came in, they told us to sit on the other side of the gym, which is very strange.  Usually you're forced to fill up the behind the speakers sections first.  Then we all got in there and the section behind the speakers was empty.  Then they told us to go over there.  Bleeech.   What made it lamer was that they kept saying, "You'll be on TV!" like that's a selling point.</p>
<p>(To the fat black lady in the gray pants and black sweater chasing down the Asian chick handing out signs, thanks for making my daughter cry.  When you stole the sign I had asked for, even though you had 3 already, I was asking for her.  She kept asking me "Why that lady take my sign?"  Thank you very much for being the one blight on the day were everyone was treating her so nicely.)</p>
<p>If I have on complaint it's the seating people.  They were very rude and in typical LA fashion acted like they were bouncers at the hottest club on the planet.  Bleeech.  One lady had gone to the bathroom and was trying to get back to her stuff.  The asshole there wouldn't let her through.  Stupid.<br />
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<a href="http://dist24.casen.govoffice.com/" target="_blank">Gloria Romero</a> came to talk.  Even though she's wearing her trademark red, it took me awhile to realize that was her.<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2052/2239969709_131012ed89.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
<a href="http://normatorres.com/" target="_blank">Norma Torres</a>, Mayor of Pomona came afterwards.  She gave a good speech and was followed by the head of Women for Obama - Los Angeles and Buffy, the Obama field campaign manager.  I don't know Buffy's last name, but <i>everyone</i> knows Buffy.  She introduced a lady who is 93 years old.<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2173/2239970119_a233c0c991.jpg" height="375" width="500" /></p>
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They also played the will.i.am video I linked to last night.  Some people had never seen it before, as it had just come out the night before.  Everyone was cheering and I had to explain to an older couple near me that it wasn't an Obama campaign piece.  The lady then said, "That's the highest rated YouTube video right now!" and the crowd went nuts.  Then I had to explain what YouTube was.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.karenbass.org/" target="_blank">Karen Bass</a> followed and she gave a rousing speech in favor of Obama.   In turn, Maria Elena Durazo introduced Caroline Kennedy:<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2388/2239970595_0435f48a3c.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
Caroline Kennedy <strike>read her endorsement</strike> gave her speech and got off a funny.  She said, "It's so nice to be able introduce someone other than my uncle Teddy." and then introduced Oprah Winfrey, who rocked the house.<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2305/2240762556_abae5d3bac.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
I couldn't believe how big an applause she got.  Then she gave her speech and it was mind-blowing and awesome.  She said that those who told her that she was a traitor to her gender bugged her.  She said, "I've been a woman all my life, but the point is that I'm a <i>free</i> woman and I can make any choice I want." Then she said, "Then there were those narrow-minded people who said I'm only endorsing Obama because he's black."  And she went on about how that was insulting and she wasn't "endorsing Obama because he's black.  [She's] endorsing him because he's brilliant."  Cheers.</p>
<p>Then came Michelle Obama, with none other than Stevie Wonder.<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2195/2239970883_164fbe57bf.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
WOW...considering that the Obama campaign has been using Stevie Wonder songs, I had wondered if he gave his blessing.  Today there's no doubt.  Wonder talked about how he had supported the Clinton's in their first two WH bids and Sen. Clinton in her Senate bid, but this time he decided to do it differently.</p>
<p>Then Michelle Obama spoke.  Now, I completely understand why everyone says, "Go see her speak."  The woman is brilliant.  I've seen clips of her giving speeches and her and there and I have a total girl-crush on her.  Man...her speech was funny, delightful, inspiring, energizing, brilliant, awesome...I'm not even going to run out of out adjectives.  I would absolutely adore to see her as First Lady.  She will be the first First Lady since Eleanor Roosevelt who could inspire a nation to do better, to be better.</p>
<p>Then Mrs. Obama said, that there was someone she wanted to have come on as a last minute thing.  She said that this woman was someone who some of the people on stage knew and that we knew her too.  In my mind, I thought, "I just know it's not Maria Shriver."  Then she said, "I'm pleased to introduce the First Lady of Cali--" and the crowd went balls out nuts!<br />
<img src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2055/2239971245_a486f65d45.jpg" height="375" width="500" /><br />
Yeah.  Maria Shriver, wife of our idiot Governor endorsed Sen. Obama today and I was there.  Oh my goodness.  It was such an amazing moment.</p>
<p>Ha!  Snagged a video off BooMan Tribune:</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62_ajoKkuHA&amp;rel=1&amp;border=1]</p>
<p>Needless to say, I'm pretty happy to have gone.</p>
<p>In the parking garage, I spoke to a photographer who was also pretty stunned at the event.  He said, "All us photographers were like, 'Blah, blah, photo of Oprah, Caroline, Michelle...And WHOA Maria Shriver?!?!?'  That blew my mind.  It was a smart move."  I said, "Yeah, they just pushed a rally that should have been a blurb into the news cycle leading up to Super Tuesday."  He smiled, "Bingo.  People are gonna talk about this." It's always amusing to me to see the press get stunned.</p>
<p>UPDATE:</p>
<ul>
<li>Read <a href="http://www.boomantribune.com/?op=displaystory;sid=2008/2/3/205653/8588" target="_blank">Real History Lisa's diary</a> on her experience at the rally.</li>
<li>And <a href="http://haloscan.com/tb/ddayen/6763366435009306312" target="_blank">dday's blog</a> entry on his experience.</li>
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  <entry>
    <title>Women, Race and Hillary Clinton</title>
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    <published>2008-01-12T11:49:46-06:00</published>
    <updated>2008-01-12T12:14:02-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Politics &amp; News" />
    <category term="Race, Ethnicity &amp; Culture" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="black bloggers" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="female bloggers" />
    <category term="feminism" />
    <category term="Hillary Clinton" />
    <category term="Hillary Clinton" />
    <category term="liberal bloggers" />
    <category term="racism" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Indulge me a bit in posting on "old news", but there's a discusion going on in the blogosphere about the Senator, with the basis in feminism.  On BooMan Tribune, <a href="http://www.boomantribune.com/story/2008/1/9/134346/1288">Arthur Gilroy</a> has decided that women, particularly left-leaning, blogging women, hate Clinton because:</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Indulge me a bit in posting on "old news", but there's a discusion going on in the blogosphere about the Senator, with the basis in feminism.  On BooMan Tribune, <a href="http://www.boomantribune.com/story/2008/1/9/134346/1288">Arthur Gilroy</a> has decided that women, particularly left-leaning, blogging women, hate Clinton because:</p>
<blockquote><p>They resented her success. They resented the template ITSELF. To some degree, the fact that this woman had become a truly DOMINANT woman...not just independent,. but dominant over the lives of many, many men as well as children and women pressed buttons in both of their heads that had been implanted in their early "I ENJOY being a girl!!!", "Play with those damned dolls or ELSE"  youth.</p></blockquote>
<p>You have to read the entire post to fully appreciate that women, according to Gilroy, can not make a decision regarding Clinton because we're preconditioned.</p>
<p>Hijole!</p>
<p>Over at BlogHer, there's been a very robust discussion on the Senator.  Morra Aarons submitted the entry <a href="http://www.blogher.com/why-thirtysomething-women-need-hillary-clinton-and-why-she-needs-us">Why Thirtysomething Women need Hillary Clinton, and Why She Needs Us.</a>  She exhorts us to vote for Clinton for president, because "it's time".  Ironically, the same arguement Gilroy used for why lefty, blogging females hate Clinton, Aarons uses as to why women should vote for Clinton:</p>
<blockquote><p>I think many young women are coming around to Hillary because despite our hesitancy to re-join the Feminist Majority, we know it’s time. Oddly enough, I think it took a reminder from the godmother of feminism, Gloria Steinem, to wake us up. As (male) uber-blogger Markos put it: “You underestimate that sympathy at your own peril. If I found myself half-rooting for her given the crap that was being flung at her, is it any wonder that women turned out in droves to send a message that sexist double-standards were unacceptable?”</p>
<p>It’s time. Older women have understood that and overwhelmingly support Clinton, but younger women have been slower to support Hillary. I think, though, we are realizing that perhaps having a woman in the White House will let us breathe a little easier at work.</p></blockquote>
<p>These posts, in and of themeselves would be interesting enough if I was white.  But I'm not.  I'm black and there is a high level of disinterest of how racism AND sexism can effect a woman's outlook among white females. Especially of white females of certain economic classes and educational levels.</p>
<p>Gloria Steinem, the so-called Godmother of Feminism, wrote a piece for the NYT titled, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/08/opinion/08steinem.html?_r=3&amp;adxnnl=1&amp;oref=slogin&amp;pagewanted=print&amp;adxnnlx=1200076039-8sPvzJOupHbLroF43mK58A">Women are Never Frontrunners</a>.  Somehow, this title was chosen, despite the fact that Sen. Clinton has been the frontrunner since she announced her campaign.  Indeed, the media declared her the frontrunner <em>before</em> she announced her campaign.  Steinem's article does what most white feminist do, dismiss race.  After all, black men were given the right to vote before women were.  She neglects the Jim Crow south.  She doesn't mention the inherent privilege that Hillary Rodham Clinton grew up with.</p>
<blockquote><p>So why is the sex barrier not taken as seriously as the racial one? The reasons are as pervasive as the air we breathe: because sexism is still confused with nature as racism once was; because anything that affects males is seen as more serious than anything that affects “only” the female half of the human race; because children are still raised mostly by women (to put it mildly) so men especially tend to feel they are regressing to childhood when dealing with a powerful woman; because racism stereotyped black men as more “masculine” for so long that some white men find their presence to be masculinity-affirming (as long as there aren’t too many of them); and because there is still no “right” way to be a woman in public power without being considered a you-know-what.</p>
<p>I’m not advocating a competition for who has it toughest. The caste systems of sex and race are interdependent and can only be uprooted together. That’s why Senators Clinton and Obama have to be careful not to let a healthy debate turn into the kind of hostility that the news media love. Both will need a coalition of outsiders to win a general election. The abolition and suffrage movements progressed when united and were damaged by division; we should remember that.</p></blockquote>
<p>Yes, we <em>should</em> remember that, but Steinem spends the rest of the article, carefully <strong>not</strong> remembering that. At Jack and Jill Politics, dnA gives us a post titled <a href="http://jackandjillpolitics.blogspot.com/2008/01/access-to-power.html">Access to Power</a> with the conclusion:</p>
<blockquote><p>Women like Steinem are quick to invoke "the sisterhood" as a reason to vote for Hillary Clinton, but black women see few of the same benefits that white women do; yet they're still expected to feel (and act on) gender solidarity with people who essentially ignore the issues facing them. Unless it involves some high profile figure like Imus.</p></blockquote>
<p>Indeed, that is exactly what Aarons did in her BlogHer post.  I responded to the BlogHer post (my post is most definitely longer):</p>
<blockquote><p>Gloria Steinem's NYT article was clearly directed to young, white females. Of privilege. She lives in a headspace that I could never occupy, would never want to occupy. Her arguments were specious at best and all I took away from the article was that her oppression was greater than my oppression. (I'm sorry...I should stop here and mention that I read the article yesterday and got pissed. As the day wore on, I was downright livid at Steinem's presumptions, assumptions and petty pitifulness.)</p></blockquote>
<p>Over at <a href="http://www.talkleft.com/story/2008/1/8/91725/55357">TalkLeft</a> there was a post Steinem's article.  One person noted that Steinem seem to declare that racism is dead.  I posted:</p>
<blockquote><p>But Steinem is so incredibly wrong on this front.  White women are more often "given" much more leeway, advantages and opportunities than any minority regardless of gender and if anyone should know that she should.  For someone like Steinem to actually say that is laughable and insulting. Look at feminism, as a movement.  Did Steinem ever have to face police dogs, fire hoses and be scared of lynching to get equal rights for women?</p>
<p>Didn't think so.</p></blockquote>
<p>Other than that, the subject wasn't broached, yet ageism became the focus.  On liberal blogs, in general, the subject is very rarely touched.  And pointed comments like mine are usually ignored.</p>
<p>rikyrah's response at BlogHer gives you a little political perspective on how white women have more access than blacks in general.</p>
<blockquote><p>There are, what, 9 White Female Governors?</p>
<p>1 Black male Governor.</p>
<p>NEVER a Black Female Governor.</p>
<p>There are what, 15 White Female Senators.</p>
<p>1 Black Male Senator.</p>
<p>Only 1 Black Female Senator.</p>
<p>Who are the biggest beneficiaries of Affirmative Action?</p>
<p>Sure in hell isn't Black folk..</p>
<p>Oh yeah, WHITE WOMEN.</p>
<p>Black women are only 'Sisters' when it's convenient. If not, our concerns are not addressed, like in that Steinem piece. Black women were INVISIBLE in that piece. She completely and deliberately ignores White Privilege - how convenient for her.</p></blockquote>
<p>I usually like to keep my isms separated as, the liberal blogosphere has a horrible habit of ignoring one argument to bring up another to make a point.  In this case, it's a little difficult, as the Clinton campaign has been quite active in the <a href="http://faboomama.blogspot.com/2008/01/is-dog-whistle-when-white-people-do-it.html">racism front</a>.  Does she get a pass on this because she's a woman?  Because she's white.  Judging from the media coverage and unreaction in the liberal blogosphere, it seems the answer is 'yes' to both.  Female bloggers who are dismissing the sexism regarding Clinton's choking up moment, are <em>extremely</em> quiet on the campaign's race-baiting statements.</p>
<p>That's not to say that I would <em>expect</em> them to speak up.  After all, someone like Jane Hamsher, who would be a Clinton contemporary, now has a very strong reputation as a racist in the black and Latino blogosphere.  Her site seems to largely condone racism and since I've been oh-so-lucky as to meet some of the guest bloggers there, I'm going to say that this is something that is entrenched.  I'm certainly not going to disabuse anyone of the notion that FDL is a blog with racist bloggers, when <strong>my</strong> experiences with face to face meetings reaffirms that.</p>
<p>While female bloggers recently gave us entries on Feminism, all of them took Steinem's lead with dismissing or ignoring racism.  We've gotten rallying cries, as women, to back up Clinton, <i>because</i> she is female.  These are the same women who tell me that black people who vote for Obama because <em>he's</em> black are short-sighted.  I fail to see why that's not quite a double-standard.  However in the comment sections of media sites, to blogs, to random discussions, these double-standards are enforced to the point of becoming conventional wisdom.</p>
<p>I think it's important for people to understand that many black people don't put the Clinton's a pedestal as the media and the Clinton's will have you believe.  As I wrote on BlohHer:</p>
<blockquote><p>But let's take that experience at face value and ignore the fact that she's basically asking us to elect her to a 3rd term...When someone like Clinton wants something from me, my first (selfish) question is, "What have you done for me lately?" With Clinton (Bill or Hillary), it's "What have you done for me period?" Because every core supporter they could have had (Blacks and Gays specifically), they threw under the bus long ago to strengthen their insider ties. At least Bill could make you feel good while he screwed you over. His mantra was always, "Later...your time will come later." Well, it's "later" and Sen. Clinton has most certainly picked up that refrain. What exactly are we waiting for? More backroom deals? More compromises that still leave many Americans with unequal rights?</p></blockquote>
<p>With the race-baiting tactics from her campaign this past month, are black women supposed to ignore <em>that</em> and history and still back Clinton because she's a woman?</p>
<p>Let's keep in mind that Clinton is not the first woman to run for president and that Obama is not the first black person to run president. Indeed, in 1972 Shirley Chisolm was the first black woman from a major party to ran for president.  In 2004, Carol Moseley Braun another black woman ran for president.</p>
<p>Would Steinem still back Clinton if Clinton was a black woman?  Did Steinem back Moseley Braun's candidacy for president as she did her run for Senate?</p>
<p>Would the white women of New Hampshire have rallied behind Clinton if she was black?</p>
<p>Would female bloggers even be discussing Feminism if Clinton wasn't white?</p>
<p>For my part, just poking around these internets, I'm going to say the answers to all of my questions is 'no'.</p>
    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Is it a &quot;dog whistle&quot; when White people do it?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/it-dog-whistle-when-white-people-do-it" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/it-dog-whistle-when-white-people-do-it</id>
    <published>2008-01-11T09:24:46-06:00</published>
    <updated>2008-01-11T10:07:30-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Politics &amp; News" />
    <category term="Race, Ethnicity &amp; Culture" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="bill clinton" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="jack and jill politics" />
    <category term="liberal bloggers" />
    <category term="racism" />
    <category term="smear campaigns" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I know dog whistle politics. We've watched the GOP hone it to a science, that's no longer a "dog whistle", but rather an air raid siren when they use their code words to signal the religious right, racists and money people. We know this.</p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I know dog whistle politics. We've watched the GOP hone it to a science, that's no longer a "dog whistle", but rather an air raid siren when they use their code words to signal the religious right, racists and money people. We know this.<br /><br />Yet, it's very rare that you hear people refer to it as such. Sure, the liberal blogosphere can recognize the dog whistle to the religious right, but on other such  things they tend to be tone deaf and willfully at that. That was why it was laughable to me to log on to MyDD and see the title <a href="http://mydd.com/story/2008/1/9/184746/0372">Obama's Dog Whistle Politics?</a> and see people having a Serious Discussion about this. To recap my post from yesterday, <a href="http://faboomama.blogspot.com/2008/01/damn-you-jesse-jackson-jr.html">Jesse Jackson Jr.</a>, national co-chair of the Obama presidential campaign said this:<br /></p>
<blockquote><p><a href="http://tpmelectioncentral.com/2008/01/obama_campaign_cochair_questions_hillarys_tears.php">(transcript from TPM)<img id="snap_com_shot_link_icon" class="snap_preview_icon" src="http://i.ixnp.com/images/v3.9.2/t.gif" /></a><br />We saw something very clever in the last week of this campaign coming out of Iowa, going into New Hampshire, we saw a sensitivity factor. Something that Mrs. Clinton has not been able to do with voters that she tried in New Hampshire.
</p><p>Not in response to voters -- not in response to Katrina, not in response to other issues that have devastated the American people, the war in Iraq,we saw tears in response to her appearance. So her appearance brought her to tears, but not hurricane Katrina.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Were supposed to be worried that the Obama campaign my engaging Black people. As I said in my post  yesterday:<br /><br />
<blockquote>IMO, no matter what Jackson Jr. said, it would be called a "dog whistle" by someone in the blogosphere simply because he is a Black man defending another a Black man. I also wouldn't be surprised to see people (especially in the liberal blogosphere) hollering for Obama to distance himself from the remarks for various reasons I'm going to be too nice to mention.</blockquote></p>
<p>The reason I say this is that I've been searching for a post called Clinton's Dog Whistle Politics? in the liberal<br />
blogosphere and I'm just not finding it. I most certainly haven't found it on MyDD. Why should I expect it? Well, as we've seen these last 4months, especially in the last 3 weeks, from the Clinton campaign, they are most certainly not above their own brand of dog whistle politics.<br /><br />I'm not even going to touch Sen. Joe Biden's "he's articulate and clean" line, instead I'll go with <a href="http://www.boston.com/news/local/politics/primarysource/2007/12/bill_shaheens_o.html">Bill Shaheen</a> said about a month ago:<br /><br />
<blockquote>"It'll be, 'When was the last time? Did you ever give drugs to anyone? <b>Did you<br />
sell them to anyone?</b>' " Shaheen told the Post. "There are so many openings for Republican dirty tricks. It's hard to overcome."</blockquote></p>
<p>Did you sell them to anyone? Maybe it's just me, because I certainly don't remember anyone, let alone anyone advising a presidential campaign, asking that of our self-admitted cokehead president. Do you? Nah...why? Because apparently in Shaheen's world, only Black people sell drugs. When was the last time?From what I understand, Sen. Obama addressed his drug use in his books and it seems it's been a long time since he last did drugs. Meanwhile, judging from our current president's actions and behaviors, I wouldn't be surprised if he did a line before boarding Air Force One the other<br />
day. But I'm wondering if Shaheen had these same concerns in Bush's run in 2000 and 2004. A quick Google search shows he didn't.<br /><br />Is that dog whistle politics?<br /><br />Sen. Bob Kerrey managed to bizarrely bring up Sen. Obama's middle name in an interview. I saw bizarrely as I can't think of one situation where a politician's middle name has been so abused. Not only that, but Kerrey repeated a debunked lie created by the Clinton campaign <a href="http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/09/EDJUU9G6L.DTL">Kerrey said</a>:<br /><br />
<blockquote>[That] he liked "the fact that his name is Barack <b>Hussein</b> Obama, and that <b>his father was a Muslim and that his paternal grandmother is a Muslim</b>."<br />
Later, in explaining his remarks, Kerrey threw another jab by saying he wasn't troubled by the fact that Obama "spent a little bit of time in a <b>secular madrassa.</b>"</blockquote></p>
<p><br /><br />Kerrey, clearly decided to go for the xenophobic, I-Hate-Muslims group with this one. Anyone with more than two brain cells knows that Hussein isn't necessarily a name of a Muslim. And even if it was, so the fuck what?  Are the thousands of Husseins in the country now supposed to change their names because of bigots and ignorant tools?  The reason I added the clip is that not only was <i>CNN</i> debunk the "secular madrassa" smear and still let Kerrey repeat it, but when Kerrey spoke in this interview, he got into the "he's so articulate" zone. So that was a three-fer.<br /><br />Is that dog whistle politics?<br /><br />Two days after Kerrey made his remarks, Mark Penn, the Clinton campaign strategist dropped in another drug reference on Hardball:<br /><br />
<br />
</p>
<blockquote><p><b>Chris Matthews:</b> These comments that are coming out of your campaign from different directions -- and I'm not sure how they're coming, nobody does -- but<br />
going after his perhaps youthful drug use, which he admitted in his book, and going after comments he made as a kindergarten student, at the age of 5 ... do you think those are appropriate shots at theopponent or are they below the belt?</p>
<p><b>Penn:</b> Well, I think we've made clear that the issue related to cocaine use is<br />
not something that the campaign was in any way raising â€¦ I thinkthat's been made clear. I think this kindergarten thing was a joke after Senator --</p>
<p><b>Joe Trippi:</b> He just did it again! He just did it again!</p>
<p><b>Penn:</b> This kindergarten thing after what the senator did ...</p>
<p><b>Trippi:</b> Unbelievable ... He just literally --</p>
<p><b>Penn:</b> Excuse me.</p>
<p><b>Trippi:</b> No, no, no, Mark, excuse me. This guy's been filibustering this thing. He just said "cocaine" again. It's like --</p>
<p>Penn: I think <i>you're</i> saying "cocaine," I don't know. I think <i>you're</i> saying it.</p>
<p><b>Trippi:</b> You just did, and I think there's something wrong ...</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Is that dog whistle politics?<br /><br />Then Pres. Bill Clinton got into the act, repeatedly calling Obama "kid" last week, despite the fact that the Senator is the same exact age Bill Clinton was when he first ran for president. The intonation and mere dismissal of the Senator's campaign when Bill Clinton derisively said "This is the<br />
biggest fairytale I've ever seen." riled up Black America. That kind of coded racism, doesn't belong in our political discourse and surelyshouldn't be coming from a former president. (Weren't you embarrassed at how stupid he looked up there ranting about Obama?) At least not in public. And most definitely not from a Democrat.<br /><br />Is that dog whistle politics?<br /><br />And today, we have <a href="http://blogs.timesunion.com/capitol/?p=6127">Andrew Cuomo</a> who has given us "shuck and jive" while speaking about Clinton's win over Obama in NH.<br /></p>
<blockquote><p>”It’s not a TV crazed race. Frankly you can’t buy your way into it,” Cuomosaid. “You can’t <b>shuck and jive</b> at a press conference,” he added. “All<br />
those moves you can make with the press don’t work when you’re in<br />
someone’s living room.”</p></blockquote>
<p>Fine. Let's take his staff's statement at face value that isn't isn't about Obama, but about Clinton. But then <a href="http://www.politico.com/blogs/bensmith/0108/Dept_of_word_choice.html#comments">Politico</a> talked to Cuomo after these remarks:<br /></p>
<p>
<blockquote>"Barack Obama is a </blockquote></p>.beautiful symbol. He's a powerful speaker. He's a charismatic figure. And what he has to say is important for the Democrats," Cuomo says in the interview, with the New York Post's Fred<br />
Dicker.
<p>"It was never about Obama in the first place," Cuomo told me of the use of the phrase, which he said he was using "as a synonym for 'bob and weave.'"</p>

<p>Is that dog whistle politics?<br /></p>
<p><br />We got a drug dealing reference.<br />We got a Muslim reference* along with a "he's so articulate" smear.<br />We got a "boy" reference.<br />We got "shuck and jive" and "a beautiful symbol".<br /><br />As Black people in this country, we've grown up with these smears and denigrations. We've had to deal with being insulted because there are<br />
way too many White people who think that all Black people use and/or sell drugs. There are way too many White people who think that Black people are children. There are way too many White people who think "you're so articulate" is a compliment. And Lord knows that I've been used as a symbol by <a href="http://yearlykosconvention.org/">White people</a> who think that having this articulate Black woman on board means that they aren't racist, meanwhile dismissing my contributions or suggestions and taking full credit when they get implemented and work.<br /><br />Let's put it this way...when you got <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donna_Brazile">Donna Brazile</a> offended, you crossed a line:<br /></p>
<blockquote><p>BLITZER: Were you surprised to hear the former President going at it like that?</p>
<p>DONNA BRAZILE: I can understand his frustration at this moment, but, look, he<br />
shouldn't take out all his pain on Barack Obama. It's time that they regroup, figure out what Hillary needs to do to get her campaign back on track. It sounds like sour grapes coming from the former Commander-in-Chief, someone that many Democrats hold in high esteem. For him to go after Obama using "fairy tale," calling him a "kid," as he did last week, it's an insult. And I tell you, as an African-American, I find his words and his tone to be very depressing.</p>
<p>BLITZER: You know, as I said earlier, you have campaign staffers who are supposed to do that kind of talking, whether a Terry McAuliffe or any of the other top people in the campaign, but for the former President to be doing that, it does underscore a certain frustration.</p>
<p>BLITZER: But tell me why, as an African-American, Donna, you feel that the President's comments weren't appropriate?</p>
<p>BRAZILE: Well, first of all, if Bill Bennett had said some of the things Bill Clinton is saying about Barack Obama, I would have called Bill Bennett out of his name and said that Bill Bennett should shut his mouth because he is not speaking in the right tone. I think his tone, I think calling Barack Obama a "kid," he's a United States Senator, he's experienced, the people of Illinois elected him, and regardless of what kind of items on his resume, this is a man who has worked all his life. He has proven, he's been a college professor, I don't have to give<br />
Barack Obama a resume, I'm not for anyone at this point. But I think, for Bill Clinton to go out of his way to become a distraction to Hillary Clinton, and to launch the kind of attacks on Obama is just out of character for Bill Clinton. I think it's time that he helps Hillary talk about her message and not go down this road.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>She's right, of course, but to hear the small portion of the liberal blogosphere that's actually talking about it tell it, none of this is a big deal and it's all being blown out of proportion. Here we have White people saying these things that are code words. Yet, I don't see a post on any liberal blog asking about the Clinton's dog whistle politics. Instead a quick look through the lliberal blogosphere has many people excusing all the above statements. They say, "Well, I didn't know it was racist." or "I don't know why it's a smear." I've been emailed and told that I'm being overly sensitive or that I'm racist.<br /><br />As <a href="http://jackandjillpolitics.blogspot.com/2008/01/another-isolated-racial-insult-of-obama.html">rikyrah</a> over at Jack and Jill Politics said:<br />
<br /><br />
<blockquote>I'll keep on repeating this:<br /><br />When <strong>'Isolated Incidents'</strong> cease being <em>ISOLATED &amp; INCIDENTAL</em><br /><br />
<br />They form a <strong>PATTERN.</strong><br /><br />
<br />Accept what the <strong>PATTERN</strong> tells you.</blockquote></p>
<p>Exactly.<br /><br />So tell me liberal bloggers...Is any of this dog whistle politics?<br /><br />Or is it different when a white liberal does it?<br /><br />*As a Muslim, I'm totallly offended that these liberals think it's acceptable to use my religion as a smear.</p>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>NEVADA:  Labor backs Obama</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/nevada-labor-backs-obama" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/nevada-labor-backs-obama</id>
    <published>2008-01-09T14:44:08-06:00</published>
    <updated>2008-01-09T16:10:19-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Politics &amp; News" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="Barack Obama" />
    <category term="DEMOCRATS" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="Election 2008" />
    <category term="Endorsements" />
    <category term="John Edwards" />
    <category term="labor unions" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Well, Sen. Obama <a href="http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5hHpLwB7giyEmTH7995m5JbiroetQD8U2H8A82">locked up endorsements</a> from the local NV chapters of Culinary Union Workers and the SEIU.  That's certainly good for the Senator, but I am scratching my head as to why these labor organizations did not back Edwards.  Edwards, who has been running for president since '04, has been fine tuning his campaign to position himself as a champion of labor.  Obama...I don't know what he'll do for labor, specifically.</p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Well, Sen. Obama <a href="http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5hHpLwB7giyEmTH7995m5JbiroetQD8U2H8A82">locked up endorsements</a> from the local NV chapters of Culinary Union Workers and the SEIU.  That's certainly good for the Senator, but I am scratching my head as to why these labor organizations did not back Edwards.  Edwards, who has been running for president since '04, has been fine tuning his campaign to position himself as a champion of labor.  Obama...I don't know what he'll do for labor, specifically.  The <a href="http://www.barackobama.com/issues/economy/#labor">Labor</a> part of his website doesn't quite say anything that Democrats haven't been saying for eons:</p>
<p></p>
<blockquote><p>Obama will strengthen the ability of workers to organize unions. He will fight for passage of the Employee Free Choice Act. Obama will ensure that his labor appointees support workers’ rights and will work to ban the permanent replacement of striking workers. Obama will also increase the minimum wage and index it to inflation to ensure it rises every year.</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Ensure Freedom to Unionize:</strong> Obama believes that workers should have the freedom to choose whether to join a union without harassment or intimidation from their employers. Obama cosponsored and is strong advocate for the Employee Free Choice Act, a bipartisan effort to assure that workers can exercise their right to organize. He will continue to fight for EFCA's passage and sign it into law.</li>
<li><strong>Fight Attacks on Workers' Right to Organize:</strong> Obama has fought the Bush National Labor Relations Board (NLRB) efforts to strip workers of their right to organize. He is a cosponsor of legislation to overturn the NLRB's "Kentucky River" decisions classifying hundreds of thousands of nurses, construction, and professional workers as "supervisors" who are not protected by federal labor laws.</li>
<li><strong>Protect Striking Workers:</strong> Obama supports the right of workers to bargain collectively and strike if necessary. He will work to ban the permanent replacement of striking workers, so workers can stand up for themselves without worrying about losing their livelihoods.</li>
<li><strong>Raise the Minimum Wage:</strong> Barack Obama will raise the minimum wage, index it to inflation and increase the Earned Income Tax Credit to make sure that full-time workers earn a living wage that allows them to raise their families and pay for basic needs.</li>
</ul>
</blockquote>
<ul>
<li>
</li>
</ul>
<p>And looking at <a href="http://www.johnedwards.com/issues/trade/">John Edwards site</a>, you find that there really isn't that much mentioned about unions, although on the <a href="http://www.johnedwards.com/issues/working-families/">Working Families page</a>, there is a section that say:<br />
<b></b><br />
<blockquote><b>Strengthen Labor Laws:</b> Unions made manufacturing jobs the foundation of our middle class, and they can do the same for our service economy. That's why Edwards has helped more than 20 national unions organize thousands of workers over the last few years. Union membership can be the difference between a poverty-wage job and middle-class security. Federal law promises workers the right to choose a union, but the law is poorly enforced, full of loopholes, and routinely violated by employers. Edwards supports the Employee Free Choice Act to give workers a real choice in whether to form a union, and making penalties for breaking labor laws tougher and faster, so unions can compete on a level playing field and the right to join a union means something. Edwards also supports banning the permanent replacement of strikers so unions can negotiate fairly.</blockquote></p>
<p>I could be looking at these sites wrong and missing key information somewhere, but they seem to be saying the same thing.  I don't know what made the labor unions choose one over the other.</p>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Are you lonesome tonight?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/are-you-lonesome-tonight" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/are-you-lonesome-tonight</id>
    <published>2007-12-19T15:26:23-06:00</published>
    <updated>2007-12-19T15:26:23-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Life" />
    <category term="Sex &amp; Relationships" />
    <category term="friends" />
    <category term="friendship" />
    <category term="lonliness" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Aw...I feel so bad for <a href="http://stardusted.soreal.org/">this person</a>.  I've always had a soft spot for people who look like they're being left out.  I always try to find ways to include people.  Probably because of my own being different that I do it.  Growing up, I never had female friends.  In school, it was because I was Muslim.  At the mosque, it was because I was black.  It also didn't help that I was younger than most people in my classes.  Somehow, it never really affected me.  I never has an urge to belong with my peers or coworkers.</p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Aw...I feel so bad for <a href="http://stardusted.soreal.org/">this person</a>.  I've always had a soft spot for people who look like they're being left out.  I always try to find ways to include people.  Probably because of my own being different that I do it.  Growing up, I never had female friends.  In school, it was because I was Muslim.  At the mosque, it was because I was black.  It also didn't help that I was younger than most people in my classes.  Somehow, it never really affected me.  I never has an urge to belong with my peers or coworkers.  I would rather sit by myself and read or do a puzzle book versus making small talk with people who wouldn't remember my name in a week.  Not everyone is like that and I completely understand.</p>
<p>When I've had a job or am at a function, and I see someone I know who looks a little lost, instead of hanging with "cool kids", I make a point to hang with these loners.  If you've ever been around me in a social situation you've seen me do it.  Keep in mind that I suck at conversation, get way too riled up and excited.  I'll babble or say something offensive.  But I try.  I try to include them in events; lunch, going out after work, or doing something.  From groups, I've had eyes rolled at me, head-shakings and the whys, but come on if there is a group of people going out to lunch and you're making plans in front of someone, you invite them.  Be a grown up.</p>
<blockquote><p>I was looking forward to a fun night out with friends--some drinks,   good food, laughter and conversation. It didn't take me long, though, to   realize that the night was not going to be a good one. Ms. S talked to me a   little bit and Mr. A said a few words to me, but for most of the night I was   ignored and excluded. No one really talked to me, and the staff mostly   talked amongst themselves. I felt out of place. I felt like I simply didn't   belong. I only stayed about an hour or so and cried in the taxi on the way   home. I felt so very, very alone.</p></blockquote>
<p>Oh man do I know that feeling.  That was the first YearlyKos for me.  I just felt neglected.  It sucked not hanging out with anyone.  Late, when work for the day was done, I would mosey back to my hotel room, knowing that somewhere out there in Vegas was a good 700 people I knew from blogging were out there having fun, but not one of them were around.  </p>
<blockquote><p>I miss belonging. I miss having people to spend my weekends   with. I feel so alone right now and I don't know how to change that. I don't   know why people don't want to spend time with me. Am I not a nice person? Am   I too loud? Am I too opinionated? Am I not pretty enough? I don't understand   why no one wants to be my friend anymore.</p></blockquote>
<p>I also completely understand the feeling of being abandoned by your friends.  When I got married, I lost a lot of friends.  Oddly enough, when they got married all of a sudden 4 years later they wanted to hang out.  Like that would happen.  When I had my first kid, I lost a lot more friends.  And now we're homeowners and it seems that the few friends we've had have become completely unreliable. to the point of invisible.  I no longer call or email them.  I don't invite them over any more.  I'm okay with that though.  And in a few years we'll run into each other at Amoeba and they'll say something like, "Wow...it's been so long!  How'd we lose touch?  I need your email address."  And they'll send me chain letters, stupid photos and email hoaxes until the end of eternity.</p>
<p>I hope that someone in that person's world reaches out and becomes friends with her.  I hope she finds a hobby or interest that she loves and find people who become friends with her.  I hope she finds people who enjoy her company and accepts her for who she is.  I hope she finds happiness.</p>
<blockquote><p>I feel like an outsider   standing in the cold, looking into a window of a home where a happy family   lives. I just stand there and watch, wondering what I did wrong to earn me   the spot outside in the snow.</p></blockquote>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Working out</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/working-out" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/working-out</id>
    <published>2007-11-02T13:50:15-05:00</published>
    <updated>2007-11-02T13:50:15-05:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>fabooj</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Health &amp; Wellness" />
    <category term="exercise" />
    <category term="Fitness" />
    <category term="health" />
    <category term="working out" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p><b>cross-posted at <a href="http://faboomama.blogspot.com/">faboo mama</a></b></p>
<blockquote><p> 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and get them sit ups right and<br />
Tuck your tummy tight and do your crunches like this...<br />
~The New Workout Plan</p>
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<blockquote><p> 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and get them sit ups right and<br />
Tuck your tummy tight and do your crunches like this...<br />
~The New Workout Plan<br />
Kanye West</p></blockquote>
<p>I've been going to the gym the last month.  I've had the membership to the Y for a year, and I finally have the time to go, so why not, right?  Been doing the "Easy Does It" class, where I'm generally the youngest one there.  That's kinda weird.  But damn, I'm somewhat out of shape and with my back and ankle, I'm not quite ready to do the step classes like I want.   I still do my Wii, DDR and garden like heck, so it's not like I was completely out of shape you know.</p>
<p>At first I started with the class every other day.  I then signed up with the <a href="http://sopasadenasanmarinoymca.fitlinxx.com/">FitLinxx</a> program, it's a 12 week program.  With this, I put in my code and the machines are set up for me.  That's cool!  Well, yesterday, I went and did like 5 machines.  Then I came home and uprooted a tree.  Let me just say that my arms are KILLING me.</p>
<p>This morning, I got on the scale and I'm please to note that I've lost 7 pounds.  Yay me!  The past week, I noticed that had to go in more holes on my belt and lost a row on my bra (!).  So, I'm on my way.  As long as I keep up the motivation, which isn't all that hard.  I'm a pretty addictive personality and I get hooked on exercise way too quick.   At this rate, I'll lose 56lbs by the end of the year!</p>
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