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    <title>a good man: a blogher &#039;08 story</title>
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    <published>2008-07-29T13:46:59-05:00</published>
    <updated>2008-07-29T13:46:59-05:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>laurie</name>
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    <category term="BlogHer Conferences" />
    <category term="BlogHer 08" />
    <category term="BlogHer Conference 2008" />
    <category term="community" />
    <category term="inspiring" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>On my first full day in San Francisco, I spent the early part of the day playing tourist. A highlight was a visit to <a href="http://www.citylights.com/">City Lights Book Store</a>.<br />
When I am away on my own, my kids and my spouse are never very far from<br />
my mind and this wonderful and historic book store seemed like as good<br />
a place as any to buy them some presents.  </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>On my first full day in San Francisco, I spent the early part of the day playing tourist. A highlight was a visit to <a href="http://www.citylights.com/">City Lights Book Store</a>.<br />
When I am away on my own, my kids and my spouse are never very far from<br />
my mind and this wonderful and historic book store seemed like as good<br />
a place as any to buy them some presents.  </p>
<p>And<br />
so I did. I bought an armload of stories that I had never seen anywhere<br />
else and put them all in canvas bag with the store's name on it. I left<br />
the store feeling very pleased with myself.</p>
<p>I schlepped those books from <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/North_Beach,_San_Francisco,_California">North Beach</a> to <a href="http://www.sfgate.com/traveler/guide/sf/neighborhoods/unionsq.shtml">Union Square</a>, for the orientation session for <a href="//">BlogHer</a> speakers. But before going out for dinner and on to the various BlogHer welcome receptions, I stowed all my stuff in <a href="http://www.lovebabz.blogspot.com/">Babz'</a>s room in the hotel, so that I wouldn't have to carry them or risk losing them. Again, I felt very pleased with myself.  </p>
<p>I<br />
had a lovely evening. I don't handle crowds of new people very well but<br />
there is something to be said for hitching yourself to an extrovert and<br />
just enjoying the experiences. And so I basked in Babz's glow and met<br />
some wonderful people at the Speakers' reception. I even won the door<br />
prize, a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nintendo_DS_Lite">Nintendo DS.</a><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nintendo_DS_Lite">  </a></p>
<p>As<br />
that party wound down, we headed up to the Newbie party for BlogHer<br />
first-timers. I demurred, as I was not a newbie but someone convinced<br />
me that I could play a role in welcoming the newbies. It sounded good<br />
to me, and besides it was in a rooftop bar with a beautiful view.  I<br />
had expected to make the evening a short one, as I was jet-lagged and<br />
feeling the three hour time difference. I also had to commute out to<br />
friends' place where I was staying in Oakland. But it wasn't until we<br />
arrived at our <a href="http://www.velveteenmind.com/velveteenmind/2008/04/the-peoples-par.html">third party</a><br />
of the evening (in yet another part of the hotel) that I realized that<br />
I had hit a wall (and that the room was just too packed for me). I left<br />
that party as quickly as I had entered it and headed back up to Babz's<br />
room to get my stuff.  </p>
<p>Babz walked me down to the taxi stand (it was too late for me to feel safe walking home from the <a href="http://www.bart.gov/">BART</a> in Oakland) and saw me get off safely.</p>
<p>It was at that point that I realized that I was more than a little drunk.   As<br />
I had been busy socializing all evening, the bar had been open and my<br />
glass was always full. And somehow it hadn't occurred to me to get<br />
someone to fill my glass with water.</p>
<p>I<br />
managed to slur out the address in Oakland to my cab driver, a young<br />
man who was really very nice. When I couldn't tell him how to get to my<br />
destination, he first called a friend and then used his Blackberry to<br />
call up a map. He had to use it again when I couldn't tell him where to<br />
exit off the freeway (something I could not have done even if I were<br />
sober. I am a terrible navigator).  </p>
<p>While<br />
he drove, we chatted a little bit. I told him about the conference. He<br />
told me that he didn't usually like to drive to Oakland but that he was<br />
doing it for me because I &quot;seem like a nice person.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;I am a nice person,&quot; I enthusiastically replied.  </p>
<p>We were both relieved and happy when he dropped me off in front of my friends' building and we wished each other well.  </p>
<p>In<br />
the middle of the night (skipping over the part where I locked myself<br />
out and had to wake my hosts who I had only met the day before so that<br />
they could let me in), I woke with a start and registered the fact that<br />
I know longer had the City Lights bag.</p>
<p>I<br />
tip-toed down the hall and back out to the street to see if I had left<br />
the bag on the front stoop (where I had sat while I had been trying to<br />
sober up), to no avail.  Nor did Babz find<br />
the bag in her room. My receipt didn't have the name of the taxi<br />
company (and I couldn't remember). I checked twice with hotel security<br />
(in case it had been found and dropped off there) and with the lost and<br />
found table for BlogHer. By Saturday, I had given up and was trying to<br />
decide if I should return to City Lights and attempt to replace the<br />
presents I'd bought.  </p>
<p>Then, on Saturday, as I was being miked for the session at which I was speaking, I heard my name being called.  &quot;I was your taxi driver,&quot; he said. And on his arm was bag full of books.</p>
<p>&quot;How did you find me?&quot;   </p>
<p>He made typing motions with his fingers. &quot;Your name was on your credit card slip.&quot;</p>
<p>I was euphoric.</p>
<p>I asked him if I could hug him.</p>
<p>I offered him money (he refused).</p>
<p>Babz took his picture (which I won't post here because it doesn't do him justice).</p>
<p>And everyone made a big fuss.</p>
<p>&quot;I was in the neighbourhood,&quot; he said, modestly.</p>
<p>But I know that he went to great lengths to track me down. He googled my name to find my blog. My <a href="http://notjustaboutcancer.blogspot.com/2008/07/im-off.html">last post</a><br />
had said that I was going to the BlogHer conference. I had linked to<br />
the BlogHer agenda, so he must have read it to find my name and the<br />
title of my session (I had told him that I was speaking). He then came<br />
to the hotel, checked the directory and followed the labyrinthine<br />
corridors to find me.  </p>
<p>I am so<br />
touched by what he did. I wish that there had been something I could<br />
have done (I could have insisted on giving him money but I felt like it<br />
would embarass him). His name is Eduardo and he is a lovely man.   </p>
<p>The<br />
next time I have the chance to something nice for a stranger, I will<br />
think of Eduardo. I encourage all of you to do the same</p>
<p>And yes, I really did behave myself for the rest of the conference.</p>
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