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  <updated>2009-11-07T10:57:22-06:00</updated>
  <entry>
    <title>How to Wear a Cardigan</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T19:15:32-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T19:15:32-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Susan Wagner</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Cardigans are big for fall 2009, but what's the strategy for making a cardi work for you? The key is to choose a shape that works with your figure, and then style it in a way that flatters your wardrobe.</p><p><a href="http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=51747&amp;vid=1&amp;pid=696848&amp;scid=696848012" target="_blank" title="Old Navy belted cardigan"><img style="margin: 5px; float: left;" src="http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa195/FridayPlaydate/on696848-01vliv01.jpg" alt="Old Navy belted cardigan" height="320" width="240" /></a></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Cardigans are big for fall 2009, but what's the strategy for making a cardi work for you? The key is to choose a shape that works with your figure, and then style it in a way that flatters your wardrobe.</p><p><a href="http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=51747&amp;vid=1&amp;pid=696848&amp;scid=696848012" target="_blank" title="Old Navy belted cardigan"><img style="margin: 5px; float: left;" src="http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa195/FridayPlaydate/on696848-01vliv01.jpg" alt="Old Navy belted cardigan" height="320" width="240" /></a></p><p>Cardigans never really go out of style, and in a season where they're trending, your options are almost limitless; you can find great cardigan options in all shapes and sizes, at every price point. But how do you know what cardi is best for you?</p><p>A long belted cardigan is super versatile; wear it with jeans for a casual Saturday or with a pencil skirt for the office. A belted cardi will define your waist and give even the most casual look a pulled-together edge. If you're curvy or have short legs, look for a cardi that hits just at the widest part of your hips, not below; if you're slim or have long legs, opt for a longer cardi.</p><p>Pair your belted cardi with jeans or a slim skirt, or -- if you're comfortable -- with leggings. But remember: Leggings are a yoga pants alternative, not work wear. Save that look for the weekend.</p><p>A belted cardigan is a nice way to define your waist, no matter what your size or shape. Tie the belt at your natural waist, even if that is slightly higher than the waistband of your pants; For a little extra pop of color or texture, change out the belt that came with the cardi; just be sure to choose a belt that is proportionally appropriate for the sweater (a chunky sweater needs a fairly substantial belt, for example).</p><p>Pictured:<a href="http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=51747&amp;vid=1&amp;pid=696848&amp;scid=696848012" target="_blank" title="Old Navy belted cardigan">Old Navy cable-knit tie-front cardigan</a>, $36.50. Available in four colors in sizes XS to XXL.</p><p><a href="http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=21850&amp;N=1200006&amp;pCategoryId=3939&amp;categoryId=181&amp;Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_181&amp;loc=TN&amp;No=0&amp;gridSize=sm&amp;defaultColor=Rhubarb&amp;defaultSizeType=Regular" target="_blank" title="Ann Taylor merino wool cardigan"><img style="margin: 5px; float: right;" src="http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa195/FridayPlaydate/Screenshot2009-11-07at63702PM.png" alt="Ann Taylor merino cardigan" height="320" width="255" /></a>For a sleeker, more classic look, opt for a slim cardigan in a lightweight wool or cotton. Look for one with really beautiful buttons for an easy upgrade -- but don't save the fancy cardi for work; pair it with jeans or cords for the weekend, too.</p><p>Layer your slim cardi over a blouse with a ruffled front; belt it over a dress or skirt. A slim cardi should hit at the high hip for the most flattering fit.</p><p><a href="http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=21850&amp;N=1200006&amp;pCategoryId=3939&amp;categoryId=181&amp;Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_181&amp;loc=TN&amp;No=0&amp;gridSize=sm&amp;defaultColor=Rhubarb&amp;defaultSizeType=Regular" target="_blank" title="Ann Taylor merino wool cardigan">Ann Taylor merino crew neck cardigan</a>, $80. Available in seven colors in sizes XXS to XXL.</p><p>The cardigan is a great staple for your closet; it's easy to dress up and can take other pieces from office to weekend and from day to night. Layer a cardigan over a strapless dress for cool weather, or for the office; replace your suit jacket with a belted cardigan for an updated work look. Pair an embellished cardi with boyfriend jeans for a night out. Embellish an existing cardigan by changing the buttons or adding a pin (or three).</p><p><a href="http://www.collegefashion.net/fashion-tips/holiday-outfit-ideas-3-ways-to-wear-one-fabulous-party-dress/" target="_blank" title="College Fashion">Michelle at College Fashion</a> dresses a fancy party frock down for dinner with the family -- by adding a cardigan!</p><p>Corporette reminds us that a patterned cardi is a nice alternative to a jacket -- what's your take on <a href="http://corporette.com/2009/11/03/tuesdays-tps-report-clothes-real-plaid-print-cardigan/" target="_blank" title="Corporette">this plaid cardi</a>? I love it.</p><p>And <a href="http://stylemanship.wordpress.com/2009/11/03/how-to-wear-a-cardigan-5-looks-to-get-you-started/" target="_blank" title="Stylemanship">Stylemanship</a> has cardigan suggestions for the guys (complete with visuals).</p><p><em>Susan Wagner writes about pragmatic fashion at <a href="http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/workingcloset/" target="_blank" title="The Working Closet">The Working Closet</a> and chic suburban living at <a href="http://fridayplaydate.com/" target="_blank" title="Friday Playdate">Friday Playdate</a>.</em></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>What do romance novels and business guides have in common?</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T19:03:55-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T19:03:55-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>AbiGrace</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Business &amp; Career" />
    <category term="City Life" />
    <category term="Music" />
    <category term="Networking" />
    <category term="Personal Development" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I have two particularly embarrassing addictions.  The first is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">witchy</span> chick-lit. The second, very bad but dance-able pop music. It's not that I have anything against others that love cheesy romantic literature and cruddy pop music, it's the shock that registers on people's faces when it's ME that is holding the latest Candace Havens novel and dancing around to Robyn's "You Can't Handle Me" as it blasts at high volume through the ear buds of my i-pod. I don't know.<br /></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I have two particularly embarrassing addictions.  The first is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">witchy</span> chick-lit. The second, very bad but dance-able pop music. It's not that I have anything against others that love cheesy romantic literature and cruddy pop music, it's the shock that registers on people's faces when it's ME that is holding the latest Candace Havens novel and dancing around to Robyn's "You Can't Handle Me" as it blasts at high volume through the ear buds of my i-pod. I don't know.<br /><br />I suppose there is a large contrast between <span style="font-style: italic;">The </span><span style="font-style: italic;">Indie Band Survival Guide </span>or <span style="font-style: italic;">I Will Teach You To Be Rich, </span>and <span style="font-style: italic;">The Demon King and I. </span>However, both serve parallel purposes that might not seem immediately apparent. Of course I read business and money managing books because that is the main focus of my life right now. I want success. No, I want more then success, I want independence. I want it so bad that I stay up late reading about web 2.0 and social networking strategies. I want it so bad that I just sent an e-mail to a multi-millionaire reminding him of an appointment that we had agreed upon but had not gotten to make good on due to conflicting schedules. I want it so bad that despite the Scandinavian social anxiety and the fact that I live in the mecca of the socially inept, I GO OUT AND TALK TO PEOPLE IN AN EFFORT TO GET THEM TO GO TO MY SHOWS.<br /><br />Similarly, I read my <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">witchy</span> romance novels because the women in them are almost always intelligent, successful, independent, and interesting and that inspires me to be all of the above.  I point out the "<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">witchy</span>" part because this is certainly not true in much of the romantic genera. I don't read bodice ripper novels. About the last thing that appeals to me is some over muscled viking named Vlad sweeping me off my feet and taking me to his kingdom, no matter how well endowed. Actually particularly if he is well endowed. OUCH. Unless, of course, his kingdom is a music festival in Iceland where I will be paid very well and get to hang out with <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">Bjork</span>.  Oops.  Sorry, got distracted there.<br /><br />Anyway, those particular stories are like <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">fertilizer</span> to my positive inner dialog. Offering a good blend between humor and don't take shit attitude, they offer a nice enough escape ( because thankfully they do not talk about 401ks and website optimization) while continuing to nurture that ever present urge to grab life by the sensitive bits and see what I can make of it.<br /><br />I think the cruddy pop music has a similar effect.  I have a mix in my i-tunes I have entitled <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">pep talk</span>, and it starts off with some Robyn, Britney Spears, I'm <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">embarrassed</span> to admit a bit of Pussycat Dolls...  While I am not fond of these artists in particular( well, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-error">ok</span>, I like Robyn but she also self released her last album on her own record label which means she is seriously bad ass) I do like the person that is projected in certain songs. For example: Womanizer. Don't particularly like Britney Spears. I don't think she deserves the media <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">scrutiny</span> she has gotten in the past (the tabloids do seem to love a fallen women, no?) I just don't think she is that talented. period. The only reason she sounds good at all is that she gets to work with some amazingly talented producers. The persona projected in Womanizer, however, is all about not getting pulled in by some masculine ruse. <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-error">Thou</span> shall not get victimized by the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-error">creepazoid</span> no matter how pretty the face he wears.  That, I can dig.<br /><br />Do you have any slightly embarressing habits that contribute in mysterious or not so mysterious ways to your happiness? If you do, please do tell!</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>I have a hard time following</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T18:30:27-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T18:30:27-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>les4more</name>
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    <category term="Balance" />
    <category term="Woman on Top" />
    <category term="Bedroom" />
    <category term="Gender" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>So I have been taking Salsa lessons and I am really loving it. It is strange for me to have to dance with a partner--I am so used to dancing by myself at the club or anywhere in my house but I have become more comfortable with sharing that space with people in a social setting if that makes sense.&nbsp; I don't have to see it as a sexual advance but rather a fun activity of sharing.&nbsp; We had like 5 or 6 weeks of beginner lessons and now I'm in the intermediate class.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>So I have been taking Salsa lessons and I am really loving it. It is strange for me to have to dance with a partner--I am so used to dancing by myself at the club or anywhere in my house but I have become more comfortable with sharing that space with people in a social setting if that makes sense.&nbsp; I don't have to see it as a sexual advance but rather a fun activity of sharing.&nbsp; We had like 5 or 6 weeks of beginner lessons and now I'm in the intermediate class. In the beginning class, every week the girls would out number the guys -- so I would end practicing the lead part more than the follower. The other girls that I danced with would apologize because they didn't know the lead part and I'd say - it's ok - i have to learn cause i will want to teach my ma :) So needless to say -- i learned both parts unsatisfactory but now that I'm in the intermediate class - i can pay attention to both parts easier and I end up anticipating my partners moves and occasionally leading him into the lead part - WHICH CAN CAUSE SOME CONFLICT - and when I dance with my instructor - he ends up telling a lot to let him lead which makes me laugh and after a night of dancing at the club - i confessed</p><p>I have a hard time following.</p><p>to which he agreed as only a man could</p><p>Which leads me to a movie I watched last night, that addressed this very issue called "Woman on Top" an Alan Poul Production starring the gorgeous Penelope Cruz . One of the main premises of the story was that she had a severe case of motion sickness and it affected she did other than the things she had control of. She could only ride in a car if she drove, or dance if she was the lead, and have sex only if she was on top. Her husband cheats on her because he said he needed to be on top and feel like a man. She leaves him and goes to San Fransisco to be with her friend and be a chef.&nbsp;</p><p>We had discussed a little bit of this kind of thing in my theory class when we were reading Pornography v Erotica.&nbsp; That in heterosexual porn and even in male homosexual porn there is a big emphasis on being the giver or penetrator and very much about having dominance or power over the other person.&nbsp;</p><p>Does it always have to be this way?&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Don't think so</p><p>I thought it was kind of amusing and sad at the same time that there was a movie that was "about" a woman being ok only when she has a medical condition that makes it acceptable in a heterosexual relationship.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Credibility Is More Than Just a Word</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T18:04:13-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T18:04:13-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>reneehendricks</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Blogging &amp; Social Media" />
    <category term="Green" />
    <category term="Internet" />
    <category term="Media &amp; Journalism" />
    <category term="Networking" />
    <category term="Green" />
    <category term="Internet" />
    <category term="Media &amp; Journalism" />
    <category term="Networking" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Recently, I wrote an article on the <a href="http://factoidz.com/the-importance-of-personal-branding-for-online-journalists/" target="_blank">importance of personal branding when dealing with online journalism</a>.&nbsp; One topic I broached but didn't go into detail was on being authentic.&nbsp; Part of this is being truthful.&nbsp; Readers can smell a liar and a fake a mile away.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Recently, I wrote an article on the <a href="http://factoidz.com/the-importance-of-personal-branding-for-online-journalists/" target="_blank">importance of personal branding when dealing with online journalism</a>.&nbsp; One topic I broached but didn't go into detail was on being authentic.&nbsp; Part of this is being truthful.&nbsp; Readers can smell a liar and a fake a mile away.</p><p>A perfect example of this is touting oneself as a green technologist and shunning all things that could potentially end up in a landfill.&nbsp; If you truly follow this type of lifestyle, it may be pertinent to think about all the things you have posted, personally and professionally, that may point otherwise.&nbsp; Nothing assures a good stomping of your credibility like someone discovering that you own several pieces of the very same technology you're speaking out against.</p><p>For every ten people who read what you put out to the public, remember that there will be at least one who doubts what you say.&nbsp; It doesn't take much to search what has been written by you in the past for that one person to call you out.</p><p>It's all part of your personal branding.&nbsp; Be yourself, be honest and be authentic.</p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Ahh. (Duh.)</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T15:43:52-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T15:43:52-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Bitches on a Budget</name>
    </author>
    <category term="DIY" />
    <category term="Crafts" />
    <category term="DIY" />
    <category term="Frugal Living" />
    <category term="Economy" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span style="color: #333333;">No more nasty aerosols or overpriced faux- scented potpourri for us! A thrifty bitch brews up her own home scents. Mix herbs and spices with a cup or two of &nbsp;water. Bring to a boil , turn to a slow simmer and release the delicious fragrance. We love a mixture of &nbsp;cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon. &nbsp;Make your own combinations using rosemary, lavender, peppercorns, juniper berries, &nbsp;star anise, orange peels… Spa for free.</span></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span style="color: #333333;">No more nasty aerosols or overpriced faux- scented potpourri for us! A thrifty bitch brews up her own home scents. Mix herbs and spices with a cup or two of &nbsp;water. Bring to a boil , turn to a slow simmer and release the delicious fragrance. We love a mixture of &nbsp;cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon. &nbsp;Make your own combinations using rosemary, lavender, peppercorns, juniper berries, &nbsp;star anise, orange peels… Spa for free.</span></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Poverty, Race, and Early Childhood Education Pt. I: Public Schools</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/poverty-race-and-early-childhood-education-pt-i-public-schools</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T15:41:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T15:41:00-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>mm I said that</name>
    </author>
    <category term="early childhood education" />
    <category term="education" />
    <category term="equity" />
    <category term="Latin@s" />
    <category term="mestiz@s" />
    <category term="Mexican@s" />
    <category term="parents with disabilities" />
    <category term="Pennsylvania" />
    <category term="Political Awareness" />
    <category term="poverty" />
    <category term="public schools" />
    <category term="race" />
    <category term="single parents" />
    <category term="social justice" />
    <category term="Children 5-7" />
    <category term="Education" />
    <category term="Feminism" />
    <category term="Frugal Living" />
    <category term="Gender" />
    <category term="K-12" />
    <category term="Mommy wars" />
    <category term="Safety" />
    <category term="Single parenting" />
    <category term="Preschoolers" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000000; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #585858;">Let’s ponder what $1.4 billion will do to “drive education reform” and save jobs in Pennsylvania—from the perspective of a povertized, disabled, overeducated, Latina mestiza single mother of four.</span></span></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000000; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #585858;">Let’s ponder what $1.4 billion will do to “drive education reform” and save jobs in Pennsylvania—from the perspective of a povertized, disabled, overeducated, Latina mestiza single mother of four.</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">This one’s personal, for me, so I’ll admit my biases, without hesitation: I’ve been waging what amounts to a small war, with the gatekeepers in my area, over what should&nbsp;<em>not</em>&nbsp;have been a&nbsp;<em>complicated</em>&nbsp;attempt to enroll my five-year-old in kindergarten.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">Part of my bias is attendant to the fact that I am a native of the West, where education is an entirely different, more liberal, process; I have never lived in an area that is&nbsp;<em>not</em>&nbsp;also a university town . . . until now—and the effect on academic matters is straining; my previous home states were California and Colorado, which rank top and well, in national scores for public schooling, so this area’s lack of focus on the matter is more than a little appalling, to me; I am Spanish-speaking Mexicana, and we are not a demographic largely represented in the Poconos of Pennsylvania, where racism, ethnocentrism, and white privilege can be virulent.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">When I move to a new state, I always read pertinent law regarding anything that might affect the rights of my family, including education law. Call me crazy, but I want to know the facts, before I start listening to what amounts to the opinions of district employees. In truth, I recommend this as an early strategy to every parent: be armed with the facts, and know your state’s education law is likely to be available for perusal online.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">Pennsylvania statute provides that kindergarten is established for children ages 4-6. I breathed a sigh of relief at that, because my youngest is a “late child”: one whose fifth birthday is in October. What the statute doesn’t immediately disclose is that, in recent years, local districts have been given the right to elect “age cutoffs,” and to choose the date for which children must gain the required age for kindergarten enrollment.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">My local district elected age 5, for kindergarten, and made the “cutoff” date 1 September. My little one had missed the “cutoff” by a matter of weeks.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">I wasn’t particularly concerned by this news: I felt certain my child’s&nbsp;<em>readiness</em>&nbsp;would be the matter of most consequence to the local educators. I am, after all, a trained educator, myself. This is my fourth child and, as I often say, this is not my first rodeo: my first-born has an early December birthday, and there was no problem enrolling him in school—he was admitted on the basis of his readiness.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">After speaking with the nice woman who had informed me of district policy, I phoned the superintendent’s office, to make an appointment. The obvious next move would be for my child to be tested for readiness, so she could begin school, right?</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">The superintendent’s secretary returned my call, and asked what I would like to discuss with her boss. I told her. She then said she would discuss the matter with the superintendent, and call me later. “No,” I told her. “I didn’t call to have you brief the man on&nbsp;<em>why</em>&nbsp;I want to see him; I called to&nbsp;<em>make an appointment</em>.” She fumbled briefly, then told me the superintendent handled those matters himself. “Well, may I&nbsp;<em>speak</em>&nbsp;to him?” I insisted. She put me on hold, for a very long time, while she clearly briefed the man.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">He came on the line, disgruntled, and already of the opinion he meant to deny me. Yes, I can get all that from the way someone attempt to say the six syllables comprising “Dr. Jaramillo.”</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">We entered a long and contentious conversation about whether he could, in his capacity as superintendent, test my daughter for readiness. He stated he could not, that this was a district rule, implemented by the board of education, and the matter was thus “out of his hands.” Picture that going on for about twenty minutes.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">I put down the phone, and called the State Board of Education. A kind man there spoke with me for a long while, in one of the most rewarding, yet depressing, discussions of late: the state rep agreed with me that the quality of education here is abysmal and told me, in the end, that, if he were me, he would not bother enrolling my child in a public school in Pennsylvania. I slid my eyes sideways, while laughing. “That’s irony-rich,” I told him, “but do you understand how deeply saddening it is for me to hear that, coming from a representative of the&nbsp;<em>State Board of Education</em>?” He said, in a verbal shrug, “I’ve worked here thirty years. I’m just being realistic.”</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">The facts of the matter, according to the State rep, are that the superintendent did, actually, have the authority to test my daughter for readiness, and approve her to enter kindergarten. That being said, the politics of local districts are such, it’s unlikely I could get the man to do so, without a court order.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">Further, I learned that kindergarten is not&nbsp;<em>required</em>, in the state of Pennsylvania. So, even had I achieved the honor of having my child enter kindergarten at age 4, she would not be legally grandfathered into the first grade, because kindergarten has no bearing on the required grades. I’d be back to the whole fight again, the next year, when my child would still be a year younger than the majority of her classmates. And, the state rep wanted me to know, don’t try to matriculate credits from a public kindergarten to any private school: none will be transferrable.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">All good arguments for not sending my child to a public school in Pennsylvania. When the state rep suggested I run for local school board, though, I just laughed, and nicely said, “Fuck you. Honey.” He laughed, too.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">On 2 November, U.S. Secretary of Education Arne Duncan announced that the $1.4 billion given to Pennsylvania “is part of the single largest boost in education funding in recent history.” To be eligible, Pennsylvania leadership provided assurances that education reform will come in the form of annual student improvements; college readiness; the effectiveness of state standards and assessments; progress on removing charter caps; and interventions in turning around underperforming schools.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">Mm hmm.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.1em; margin-left: 0px; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;">Next up: finding a private school to forward the education of my brilliant little girl. Crazy? As it turns out, worse than I’d imagined. Hey, but I’m from the West, where dreams come true, and these things are not so insane. Just don’t try it in Pennsylvania . . .</p><div style="outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; padding: 0px; margin: 0px; border: 0px initial initial;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Trebuchet MS;">C/S,</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Trebuchet MS; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Trebuchet MS;"><em>Canela A. Jaramillo</em></p></span></span></div><p>&nbsp;</p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>You&#039;ve heard of Double Dipping? What about Double Paying?  </title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/youve-heard-double-dipping-what-about-double-paying" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/youve-heard-double-dipping-what-about-double-paying</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T15:39:01-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T15:39:01-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Bitches on a Budget</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Budgets" />
    <category term="DIY" />
    <category term="Frugal" />
    <category term="Budgets" />
    <category term="Stress" />
    <category term="Economy" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #333333;"></span></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #333333;"></span></p><p>We had a flat tire recently. A real blow-out. Alone, stranded on the side of the road, sun setting, no spare in the trunk, we counted our blessings for the AAA card tucked inside our wallet. Saved us an arm and a leg on towing charges. Yes, our hearts melted with gratitude when the tow-driver descended from his vehicle. Speaking of arms and legs… his were the perfect blend of sinew and sculptedness. Picture a cross between Marlon Brando in Streetcar and Michelangelo’s David. We’re talking&nbsp;<em>epic</em>. The nametag on his shirt said DAVE, as if to confirm the resemblance to that 16<sup>th</sup>-century sculpture. Dark eyes, square jaw, amazing butt…</p><p>The tire. This is about the tire.</p><p>Got us thinking about AAA. Saves big bucks in the long term, and assures a gal’s safety out on the open road. (And we’re&nbsp;<em>all</em>&nbsp;about the open road, as you’ll see in our upcoming book.) That said, we’ve discovered it’s not uncommon for people to pay twice for the same service. Yes, you absolutely need a roadside assistance plan. But it’s often the case that your car’s warranty, or your auto insurance policy, include this feature. Double check! We’re all for 2-for-1, but not when you’re&nbsp;<em>paying</em>&nbsp;twice.</p><p>So make two quick calls today: your insurance company and car dealer. Drop AAA if you find you’re already covered.</p><p>Oh, and it’s worth noting that a true modern woman knows how to change a tire herself (and&nbsp;<em>always</em>&nbsp;has a spare in the trunk—we’ve learned our lesson). Since we do love our rescue fantasies, &nbsp;when on a major highway we stick to the pro’s &nbsp;(it’s dangerous out in the fast lane)– &nbsp;besides how else we would get to ogle that sexy driver?</p><div></div><p></p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>My Friend Penelope</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/my-friend-penelope" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/my-friend-penelope</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T14:16:00-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T14:16:00-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>marymarzano</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Networking" />
    <category term="Career" />
    <category term="Friendship" />
    <category term="Job Hunting" />
    <category term="Networking" />
    <category term="Stress" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">My friend Penelope....</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I sent my friend Penelope my website link the other night.  I told her about being surprised at seeing web books and job search articles mentioning getting a website and creating a 'web presence'.  I told her how I felt about it.  I told her how it so surprised me to hear “get a Facebook account”....and “if you don't have a website, why not?” and on and on about how awkward it feels to be writing websites about yourself.</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">My friend Penelope....</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I sent my friend Penelope my website link the other night.  I told her about being surprised at seeing web books and job search articles mentioning getting a website and creating a 'web presence'.  I told her how I felt about it.  I told her how it so surprised me to hear “get a Facebook account”....and “if you don't have a website, why not?” and on and on about how awkward it feels to be writing websites about yourself.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">“All I want is a job!” I whined.  “It used to be you find a job you think you might like, you send your resume with a nice little cover letter, and that's it!”  Alas, the internet has changed things according to the pundits.  I spend my time while my current contract winds down searching for my next opportunity, knowing that my “days are numbered” and writing web pages.  Feeling self conscious.  Pompous.  Egotistical - wondering why folks would want to read anything about ME.  I don't even want to read anything about me.  Not even secretly.  I go on and on to my friend Penelope about how hard this all is, how I hate that I'm doing it because it's <strong>SO</strong> far out of my comfort zone.  I told her I'd read one blurb that said “The wave of the future!  Video Resumes!” and groaned in despair! &nbsp;I told Penelope how the 'theory' one of the folks said, was if you are looking for a job, be up front about it. Sell yourself! &nbsp;Sell yourself <strong>EVERYWHERE</strong>. &nbsp;Eesh. &nbsp;I said I was thinking I should contact Heidi Fleiss for my career counselor according to this fellow.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">She listened.  She nodded along as though she was right there with me (and she is actually, she's job searching as well).  I didn't have the courage to ask her if she'd <strong>BEEN</strong> to the website but I wanted to.  I wanted feedback, assurance.  Support.  As I was sitting with her in her den while job searching on the computer.  There was one of those comfortable pauses in the conversation as happens often between friends who've known each other for sometime.  She got up to walk to her kitchen for another beverage and I figured I'd just go to my website quickly to see if there were any comments on it's blog page (just one still) and to see if there were any 'nibbles' on my job applications.  None.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">She appears behind me.  “Oh is that your website? Yah, I haven't been there.  It's all about YOU, is it?”&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Friends.  I love them.  I need them.  Even when I wonder why.....</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">---mmm</p><p></p>    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>We Reach Out</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/we-reach-out" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/we-reach-out</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T13:52:51-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T13:53:55-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>BTaggard</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Blogging &amp; Social Media" />
    <category term="quotes" />
    <category term="Blogging &amp; Social Media" />
    <category term="Friendship" />
    <category term="World" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I’ve written about those moments where you connect, just for a moment, with a person you don’t know. I refer to that heady phenomenon as <a href="http://livingaquotablelife.blogspot.com/2008/07/synchronized-strangers.html">Synchronized Strangers</a>. I love those moments but, in truth, what makes those instances magical is the fact that we usually never see those individuals again. That moment lingers in memory alone.</p>
    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I’ve written about those moments where you connect, just for a moment, with a person you don’t know. I refer to that heady phenomenon as <a href="http://livingaquotablelife.blogspot.com/2008/07/synchronized-strangers.html">Synchronized Strangers</a>. I love those moments but, in truth, what makes those instances magical is the fact that we usually never see those individuals again. That moment lingers in memory alone.</p><br />
<P>What happens, however, when a 'Synchronized Strangers' moment happens online? No, I’m not talking about eHarmony or Match.com or any other dating site. I’m referring to those moments when someone stumbles across one of your blog entries and something you say, or the way you say it, grabs their attention… and they comment. And, in their response, you realize that this person understands… they “get you” and they “get it” and synchronicity takes place. The same can be said for the reverse. How many times have you been that person following a chain of comments, links on a blogger friends page, or even guided by the great Google gods… when you land on someone’s page and you read their blog or their poetry or their fiction and you are immediately drawn to that person like a moth to flame?</p><br />
<P>There is still a choice that exists. You can keep on walking… leaving nothing but an IP address behind to mark that you were once there. Perhaps you bookmark the blog and read it secretly. Me? I’m a commenter. If you touch my heart or my soul or my mind in something you have voiced… I’m apt to tell you about it. Guess what I’ve discovered in this process:</p><br />
<P><b>“It is quite possible for people who have never met us and who have spent only twenty minutes thinking about us to come to a better understanding of who we are than people who have known us for years.” ~Malcolm Gladwell</b></p><br />
<P>It’s true. I have online friends that do “get me” more than some of the people I have known my entire life. And, in some instances, that understanding has been instantaneous. I get the eye roll on a regular basis; that “yeah right” look from people who don’t understand… who will never understand. I learned long ago to ignore them. We are human and we instinctively reach out to each other. Is it weird? Is it strange? Perhaps. But, it is also very real.</p><br />
<P><b>“Right now, you and me here… put together entirely from Adam sitting on this round rock with a core of liquid iron held down by this force that so troubles you called gravity … all the while spinning around the sun at sixty-seven thousand miles an hour and whizzing through the Milky Way at six-hundred thousand miles an hour in a universe that very well may be chasing it’s own tale at the speed of light. And, amidst all this frantic activity, fully cognizant of our own imminent demise (which is a very pretty way of saying we all know we are going to die), we reach out to one another. Sometimes for the sake of vanity. Sometimes for reasons you are not old enough to understand yet. But, a lot of the time we just reach out … and expect nothing in return. Isn’t that strange? Isn’t that weird? Isn’t that weird enough?” ~The Martian Child, Film (2007)</b></p>
    ]]></content>
  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Ideas for a Great Thanksgiving Centerpiece</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/ideas-great-thanksgiving-centerpiece" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/ideas-great-thanksgiving-centerpiece</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T13:12:06-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T13:12:06-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>debra roby</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Crafts" />
    <category term="Home &amp; Garden" />
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="centerpiece" />
    <category term="crafts" />
    <category term="Crafts" />
    <category term="creativity" />
    <category term="design" />
    <category term="Holiday Survival Guide 09" />
    <category term="kids" />
    <category term="thanksgiving" />
    <category term="Blended Family" />
    <category term="Caregiving" />
    <category term="Crafts" />
    <category term="Paper Crafts" />
    <category term="Sewing" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>The holiday season is only a couple weeks away, so many of us are starting to make details To-Do lists for all the parties, festivities and family gatherings being planned.  Count our dinner plates, check the good silver (then consider locking it away?), getting out the serving pieces and table cloths.  We're making sure all the basics will be ready to go at a moment's notice.</p>
<p>For the FIRST big holiday of the season -Thanksgiving- let even consider using a centerpiece to dress the table. Most of us put off doing a centerpiece for good reasons:</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>The holiday season is only a couple weeks away, so many of us are starting to make details To-Do lists for all the parties, festivities and family gatherings being planned.  Count our dinner plates, check the good silver (then consider locking it away?), getting out the serving pieces and table cloths.  We're making sure all the basics will be ready to go at a moment's notice.</p>
<p>For the FIRST big holiday of the season -Thanksgiving- let even consider using a centerpiece to dress the table. Most of us put off doing a centerpiece for good reasons:</p>
<ul>
<li>they are too much work,</li>
<li>they block the view of people on the other side of the table,</li>
<li>they take up precious table space</li>
<li>they seem pretentious</li>
<li>they seem so expensive.</li>
</ul>
<p>What I think we're really thinking when we say this: I don't know how to do it simply and easily.&nbsp; </p>
<p>First, let's address the idea that centerpieces take up precious table space.&nbsp; One purpose of a centerpiece is to add some height to the BARE table-when it has been completely set but before it's surrounded by people, and laden with food.&nbsp; Minus a centerpiece, those tables look a bit flat and sad.&nbsp; Add a centerpiece and suddenly the table has height, a theme, extra color and looks -<i>festive!</i>&nbsp; When the table begins to fill with humans and plates of food - the need for the centerpiece has been removed.&nbsp; And, so the centerpiece, itself can be shifted to a side table.</p>
<p>So now that we see that centerpieces have a great purpose -to set the tone of the table beforehand- what kind of great centerpieces can we plan?</p>
<p>Are the kids over energetic and running wild underfoot?&nbsp; Send them out into your yard -or a local park- to scavenge some fall botanical treasures you can use for your centerpiece.&nbsp; About.com shows a nice low, <a target="_blank" href="http://entertaining.about.com/od/flowersandcenterpieces/ss/flowersgourds.htm">colorful platter designed with dried leaves, gourds and fall flowers. </a>Have a not of kids in your neighborhood -before hand organize the neighborhood so the kids can scavenge throughout -and then make and fresh centerpieces to all the houses where goodies were taken.&nbsp; Imaigne an entire neighborhood of decorated centerpieces!</p>
<p>The most traditional Thanksgiving Centerpiece is the Cornucopia (horn of plenty) - overflowing with freshly harvested fruits and vegetables, it signifies the bounty of the harvest just past -and the ability to survive the challenging winter days ahead.&nbsp;<a target="_blank" href="http://www.ehow.com/how_8607_make-cornucopia.html"> E-How has great directions for assembling one of these.</a></p>
<p>But how about something more creative?&nbsp; Or maybe something that adds some meaning to the day.&nbsp; (Ok, for me, the day is about turkey, pumpkin pie and football.&nbsp; But I can see applying the idea of being thankful to the occasion.&nbsp; I am always thankful for an additional piece of pecan pie on top of the pumpkin!)</p>
<p>RootsAndWings wrote a tutorial for a <a target="_blank" href="http://rootsandwingsco.blogspot.com/2009/10/thankful-turkey-keepsake.html">wallhanging thankful turkey.</a>&nbsp; While I like the idea, as it's written it doesn't help us with our centerpiece, does it.&nbsp; BUT.. what if we take her idea, construct those cute felted turkey feathers with the clear plastic sleeve, and slip them behind a smallish pumpkin on our table?&nbsp; Use lots of leaves and flowers to disguise things.&nbsp; After we move it to the side table, encourage people to write a small note of one thing they're thankful for (leave a piece or two of feather paper at their seat?) .&nbsp; Later in the day, open the messages and share them -anonymously-with the group.&nbsp; </p>
<p>Alternately, take this idea from Parents magazine and make<a target="_blank" href="http://www.parents.com/holiday/thanksgiving/crafts/turkey-day-table-centerpiece/"> a long simple Give Thanks centerpiece </a>from sticks, lentils or other dried beans, glasses, and construction paper.&nbsp; Again- keep the lettering at the front door and encourage each gues to take one and write one thing they are thankful for on the back.&nbsp; Gather them-hang them out right before dinner, and share some of these things as the meal goes along.</p>
<p><i>Debra Roby blogs her creative life at <a href="http://astitchintime.blogspot.com" target="_blank">A Stitch in Time</a> and her journey to fitness at <a href="http://weightfordeb.wordpress.com" target="_blank">Weight for Deb.</a></i></p>
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  </entry>
  <entry>
    <title>Project Runway Recap: The Top 5 in the most unshocking episode ever</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/project-runway-recap-top-5-most-unshocking-episode-ever" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/project-runway-recap-top-5-most-unshocking-episode-ever</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T11:59:50-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T11:59:50-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Elisa Camahort</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Entertainment &amp; Culture" />
    <category term="Fashion &amp; BeautyHacks" />
    <category term="Movies &amp; TV" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <category term="Fall Entertainment" />
    <category term="Project Runway" />
    <category term="Reality TV" />
    <category term="For grownups" />
    <category term="Fashion" />
    <category term="Movies &amp; TV" />
    <category term="Pop Culture" />
    <category term="Reality TV" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">In the most uninspiring season ever.</p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">&nbsp;</p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Featuring the least stylish designers ever.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">In the most uninspiring season ever.</p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">&nbsp;</p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Featuring the least stylish designers ever.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Well, here I am, bravely continuing my recaps, even as the ennui invades and threatens to completely over-take my soul. There's been no one to love...although Shirin had a shot at capturing my support...and there's not even anyone to really hate. Irina is catty...we've seen that a million times. But there's no Wendy, no Santino, no Jeffrey. People that give you shudders.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">And really, worst of all, there's no one with a clear and creative point of view. Actually, not true: Christopher might actually be the only one that has that recognizable POV, it's just that the judges don't like it.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Anyway, this challenge started at the Getty Museum, where the designers were joined by their models (to acts as "muses") and given 30 minutes to tour the museum and its grounds, looking for inspiration.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">They were inspired as follows:</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Gordana: By a Monet painting of the cathedral at St. Reims. She is very moved by the painting. I feel like telling her that it reads a bit drab and gray on my TV screen (sort of like her last design that was savaged by the judges) but she can't hear me.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Christopher: A rock fountain. With algae. Actually kind of promising, at least it can't be literal.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Irina: A painting featuring "fleshy" ladies in diaphanous gowns. Don't think her model could have been much of a muse on that one.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Althea: The architecture of the place itself.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Carol Hannah: An ornate, baroque, overdone canopy bed. I am not hopeful.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">They make their final trip to ErsatzMood, where they can spend 30 minutes and send $300. The most hilarious moment being when Irina is considering this large fur pelt and wonders if it's rabbit fur. Yes, Tim say, a giant, <strong><em>giant</em></strong> rabbit. (I think you had to be there: It was a big pelt, and Tim was so cute as he mocked her.)</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Thank you Ersatz-and-soon-to-be emptied-out-and-abandoned-Mood.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">With four women and only one guy left, we've got scenes featuring catty women and a lonely boy. I particularly liked when Gordana showed a little gumption and told Carol Hannah to back off when she was trying to stop Gordana and Irina from engaging in a little friendly bickering.&nbsp; "I'm not here to serve you." Oh, SNAP.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">In the workroom we have what looks like it's shaping up to be the worst runway show ever. Irina is creating some weird disco-Thunderdome concoction. Althea's dress is just a mess of puckering, and ti's hard to imagine she can fix it with a little steaming. Carol spent hours mesmerized by the ornate bed, and is creating a sleek gown. Go figure. Gordana is so inspired by her shapeless, drab sack, she doesn't notice it's a drab, shapeless sack. Christopher is into full-on martyred odd-man-out mode. Bo. Ring.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Let's just get on to the show.The judges are Cynthia Rowley. ninagarcia and Cindy Crawford.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">As always, click on the link under the designer's naem to see their look:</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #1700ff;"><span style="color: #000000;">1. <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/rate-the-runway/season-6-episode-12#id=1"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Althea</span></a>&nbsp;</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Appalling. A puckery gold skirt. Yet another tank top, this time in gold and pewter and somewhat diaphanous. Still no thought of having her busty model wear a bra. (Nice to see a busty model, though.) Strings hanging from the hem (check out the back view). And a bunch of criss-cross pleating does not emulate the architecture of the Getty. I'm pretty sure it emulates a whole bunch of other stuff we've already seen. Hated it. And have pretty much hated most of what Althea's done, even when the judges love it. Don't get the Althea-love.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #1700ff;"><span style="color: #000000;">2. <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/rate-the-runway/season-6-episode-12#id=2"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Carol Hannah</span></a>&nbsp;</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">OK. Nice enough, elegant gold Grecian-style gown. A bit of a Christopher bed-sheet effect coming out of the bottom, but undeniably better-proportioned than Christopher's similar efforts. My problems with this were two-fold. 1) Hello? Lots and lots of pulling and creasing. Not quite puckering, but I thought it made it look ill-fitting. 2) Double-Hello? What did this gown have to do with her inspiration piece, the ornate, baroque bed with feathers and brocade layers and layers of fabric? I'll answer my own question: Pretty much nothing. They regularly auf people for not "getting" the challenge. but not this time.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #1700ff;"><span style="color: #000000;">3. <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/rate-the-runway/season-6-episode-12#id=3"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Christopher</span></a>&nbsp;</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Christopher created a very familiar high-neck, sleeveless top in a shimmery green-ish fabric, paired with a stiff silvery long skirt, with a long-torso'ed silvery corset over both pieces. There were some odd green designs applied to the skirt (dye or applique?) which you can see best in the side view. Actually, I liked this. It was sleek and well-made and different. Best thing he has done in a few weeks. I get that the stiff skirt didn't flow well as she walked, but I liked it anyway.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #1700ff;"><span style="color: #000000;">4. <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/rate-the-runway/season-6-episode-12#id=4"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Gordana</span></a>&nbsp;</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Gordana created a simple, elegant, flowing strapless gown. She used delicately shaded fabrics to emulate the peak of the cathedral. It was quite lovely, although quite simple. But the nicest, most cohesive piece of the night iMHO.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #1700ff;"><span style="color: #000000;">5. <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/rate-the-runway/season-6-episode-12#id=5"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Irina</span></a>&nbsp;</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">Irina sent a shockingly hideous dress down the runway. This thing is a 70s disco dress, styled to be appropriate for the Golden Girls. She managed to make model Kalyn look both old and fat. That's quite a feat. All in a drab green color that was way too opaque. Basically a green sack tied with a gold rope. The back view is equally hideous, because the drop waist makes the model look freakishly long-waisted. And short-legged. Again, quite a feat. Totally appalling.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">So, let's cut to the chase, shall we. After lots of yammering and making each designer pick who should go to Fashion Week with them, we realize that the judges didn't love any of the looks and had problems with them all. I agree: Horrible final week.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">That being said, it was clear to me that Christopher and Gordana had the best looks of the night, their small problems aside...because the other three looks were bad, unoriginal, or not at all related to their inspirations.</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">So, naturally, Christopher and Gordana were cut, and the three little pipsqueaks, Althea, Carol Hannah and Irina, are in the finals. I'm guessing (form having peeked at the collections online) that Irina may win.&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; min-height: 14.0px;">&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica;">So, am I the only one limping to the finish line here?</p><p></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Memories of Christopher Pike</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/memories-christopher-pike</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T11:54:58-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T11:54:58-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>sassymonkey</name>
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    <category term="Entertainment &amp; Culture" />
    <category term="Books" />
    <category term="Christopher Pike" />
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    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I think we all have memories of books that we read when we were in our tweens. They were passed around from girl to girl, each one devouring it before passing it on to the next one in line. When I was about 11 or 12 years old the literary crack of choice was Christopher Pike. </p>
<p>I'm not sure why but it feels like my generation of readers have all gone nostalgic at the same time. Maybe it's the <em>Twilight</em> mania that is making us remember our own crackliture. It seems everywhere I turn these days I'm seeing remembrances and rereadings of Christopher Pike. </p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I think we all have memories of books that we read when we were in our tweens. They were passed around from girl to girl, each one devouring it before passing it on to the next one in line. When I was about 11 or 12 years old the literary crack of choice was Christopher Pike. </p>
<p>I'm not sure why but it feels like my generation of readers have all gone nostalgic at the same time. Maybe it's the <em>Twilight</em> mania that is making us remember our own crackliture. It seems everywhere I turn these days I'm seeing remembrances and rereadings of Christopher Pike. </p>
<p>Oh we read his contemporaries as well. There were plenty of R.L. Stine's that got passed under desks as well. But Chrisopher Pikes books were a bit longer and meatier. Christopher Pike introduced our tweenage selves to the murder, mayhem and supernatural episodes as can only happen among upper-middle class Americans. Drugs, murder, coming back from the dead, abortions, sex - yes he had it all. </p>
<p>Sadly, <a href="http://likepike.blogspot.com/">Like Pike</a> hasn't been updated since May but just looking at the list of books in the sidebar sets me back at my sixth grade cafeteria table. Nothing is held back in those reviews so if you want to reread (or read any of those books for the first time) maybe save it for later. Oh but how well I do remember <em>Remember Me</em>. Yes indeed, <a href="http://likepike.blogspot.com/2008/07/remember-me.html">Shari was cool</a>. </p>
<p>I don't think I ever read <em>Monster</em> but it was <a href="http://thekams.wordpress.com/2009/10/30/flashback-friday-monster-by-christopher-pike/">the first Pike book that Cait at Escape Through the Pages read</a>. </p>
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Monster was not only the first Christopher Pike book I read (starting a love of his books that continues today), but it was also my first thriller book. I have a fear of horror/thriller movies, but that fear somehow doesn’t continue over to literature (thankfully), which I discovered when I picked this book up in my grade seven classroom to read for independent reading.
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<p>Dannie took a look at one of the books I remember the most clearly - <em>Die Softly</em>. I love her take on Pike's writing style.  <a href="http://readingwatchingliving.blogspot.com/2009/11/book-review-die-softly-by-christopher.html" title="http://readingwatchingliving.blogspot.com/2009/11/book-review-die-softly-by-christopher.html">http://readingwatchingliving.blogspot.com/2009/11/book-review-die-softly...</a></p>
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Die Softly is a strange kind of mystery. It's kind of like you saw it coming, but you didn't see how is came. Possibly one of the strongest characteristic of Pike's writing, he's able to let you think you won, but then flips it on it's head and makes you feel like a moron. In a good way.
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<p>Jenn at Young Adult Revisited remembers <em>Whisper Of Death</em> vividly - it got her in trouble in sixth grade.<br />
<a href="http://yarevisited.blogspot.com/2009/10/whisper-of-death-christopher-pike.html" title="http://yarevisited.blogspot.com/2009/10/whisper-of-death-christopher-pike.html">http://yarevisited.blogspot.com/2009/10/whisper-of-death-christopher-pik...</a></p>
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Whisper of Death holds a fairly special place in my heart because it once got me in trouble. My little group of sixth grade friends and I chose the book for our reading group and made the mistake of discussing it in the classroom. A classmate (damn you Luke!) ran and told our teacher that we were reading a book about abortion, cussing and sex. The teacher took one look at the book and banned all Christopher Pike books from our classroom for the rest of the year. It’s kind of sad when you think about it…
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<p>For Halloween YA authors Diana Peterfreund and Carrie Ryan paid hommage to <a href="http://thebooksmugglers.com/2009/10/halloween-week-guest-post-diana-peterfreund-carrie-ryan-talk-christopher-pike.html">Christopher Pike on the Book Smugglers blog</a>. I loved how Peterfruend mentioned doing an bit of an internal squee when she saw her book on a shelf at a bookstore right beside Pike's books. And I loved the point that Ryan made about what she learned about writing from Pike. </p>
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Carrie: I think reading Pike then expanded my understanding of how far authors could go. It’s exactly what you said – no one’s safe, which I think added to the thriller aspect. I mean, there’s a comfort in reading a romance where you know things are going to work out, you just don’t know how. They’re still page turners because it’s the figuring out how that’s fascinating, but with Pike… all bets were off.
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<p>No one was safe and even when you thought that you knew what was going to happen, you never really could be sure. His explanations were always plausible...well plausible enough in Pike's world. And that was good enough for us. </p>
<p><em>Contributing Editor Sassymonkey was very disappointed she couldn't find any recent posts about "Witch." She also blogs at <a href="http://sassymonkey.ca">Sassymonkey</a> and <a href="http://sassymonkeyreads.ca">Sassymonkey Reads</a>. </em></p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Get organized before the holiday rush begins</title>
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    <id>http://www.blogher.com/get-organized-holiday-rush-begins</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T11:54:20-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T11:54:20-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>Org Junkie</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Balance" />
    <category term="DIY" />
    <category term="Holiday Survival Guide 09" />
    <category term="holidays" />
    <category term="organizing" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Many people don't start thinking about the holidays until its right under our nose and then panic sets in because of the amount we want to try and get down in a short period of time.&nbsp; Every year we say to ourselves, this year will be different and the good news is that with a little advance planning, it can be!&nbsp; There are 7 weeks until Christmas; the time to get organized is now before the holiday rush kicks in.</p><p><strong>Where to start</strong></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Many people don't start thinking about the holidays until its right under our nose and then panic sets in because of the amount we want to try and get down in a short period of time.&nbsp; Every year we say to ourselves, this year will be different and the good news is that with a little advance planning, it can be!&nbsp; There are 7 weeks until Christmas; the time to get organized is now before the holiday rush kicks in.</p><p><strong>Where to start</strong></p><p>So much to do, so many thoughts, plans, and ideas running through your brain.&nbsp; It's so easy to get overwhelmed with it all and in turn do nothing.&nbsp; At least that's what I do when I feel like I'm losing control.&nbsp; The best way to combat this and squash the rise of panic is to do what I like to affectionately call a brain dump.&nbsp; You need to quiet your brain and the only way to do this is to get all that clutter swirling around up there out.&nbsp;</p><p>Start a holiday notebook dedicated to your holiday planning and in the very first section make a list of all the stuff you are trying to remember and eliminate the mental clutter by writing it all down.&nbsp; Everything.&nbsp; To do's, parties, decorating, food, you name it, it's important to Get.It.Out.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>The 15 minute task list</strong></p><p>Of course the problem with lists these days are that they are too universal.&nbsp; Simply writing down "do Christmas cards" is not helpful because your brain will then still need to try and remember all the steps associated with that task.&nbsp; Take your brain dump from above and expand on it.&nbsp; Under the "Christmas Cards" title list all the steps necessary to get the job done.&nbsp; This could include, gather supplies, address envelopes, buy stamps, write Christmas letter, etc.&nbsp; Continue to do this with all your big to do items on your list.&nbsp; Break them down into manageable steps that work for you.&nbsp; I personally like to use a fifteen time minute frame as anything more than this and the overwhelmitis tends to kick in.</p><p><strong>Set your priorities</strong></p><p>How many of us consciously perform this task.&nbsp; Yet every year we get bombarded with activities, parties, plans and chores and run ourselves ragged trying to do them all.&nbsp; Then afterwards we wonder why we didn't enjoy the holidays.&nbsp; It doesn't have to be this way.&nbsp; You can set parameters now by choosing to sit down today with your family to discuss "the list" and determine what is most important, what traditions are held most dear, what can be let go of and what your ultimate goal for the season is.&nbsp;&nbsp; You may be surprised with the answers.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Get connected with your calendar</strong></p><p>Now that you've established the key seasonal activities for you and your family it's time to schedule them in.&nbsp; I find it's particularly helpful to blow up a big December calendar and hang it somewhere central so the whole family can see it.&nbsp; And when I say schedule it in, I mean schedule it in.&nbsp; Write everything down including when you are going to make the cookies, decorate, Christmas carol, whatever floats your boat and is important to you needs to find its way onto the calendar so there are no surprises.&nbsp; For instance I make almost my entire holiday meal in advance and freeze it so I schedule in time to prepare all of these dishes ahead of time.</p><p>Be reasonable with your expectations and time during this process.&nbsp; Be sure to leave some blank space on your calendar in order to catch your breath and relax and most importantly allow some room for flexibility.</p><p><strong>Involve your family</strong></p><p>There is no reason why mom has to do everything over the holidays.&nbsp; After your family discussion you'll know what's most important to each of the kids and you'll be able to assign tasks based on their interests.&nbsp; For example if middle daughter is excited about the cookie making tradition schedule an afternoon to do it together.&nbsp; It gives them something to look forward to especially if it's one on one time with mom.&nbsp; Remember, it doesn't have to be perfect!&nbsp;</p><p>Of course no one will be excited about cleaning the bathrooms which is why in your list writing process you break those chores down and assign everyone their tasks ahead of time.&nbsp; Scheduling in even the mundane chores and assigning them appropriately means there are no surprises and everyone is aware of their responsibilities well ahead of time.</p><p><strong>Enjoy</strong></p><p>Advance planning is key to a stress free, non-rushed and enjoyable holiday season.&nbsp; Don't be too busy "doing" that you neglect this step altogether and then get to the other side and wonder where did all the time go.&nbsp; Happy organized holidays my friends!</p><p>For more organized holiday posts see also:</p><p><a href="http://simplemom.net/7-weeks-till-christmas-organize-your-familys-holiday-calendar/">Organize Your Family's Holiday Calendar</a> @Simple Mom</p><p><a href="http://www.wearethatfamily.com/2009/11/wfmw-getting-most-from-holidays.html">Getting the Most from the Holidays</a> @We Are THAT Family</p><p><a href="http://organizerightnow.wordpress.com/2009/11/04/christmas-organizing-first-week-november-to-do-list/">Christmas Organizing</a> @Organize Right Now</p><p><a href="http://orgjunkie.com/2007/11/how-regis-kelly-help-me-get-my-christmas-cards-done-each-year.html">How Regis and Kelly help me get my Christmas cards done</a> @I'm an Organizing Junkie</p><p><em>About the Writer:</em></p><p><em>Laura is an addict of all things organizing especially containers.&nbsp; She is addicted to the high that comes with living a life of order and simplicity and is always looking for her next "fix".&nbsp; You can find her blogging regularly and sharing her passion over at <a href="http://orgjunkie.com/">I'm an Organizing Junkie</a>.</em></p>    ]]></content>
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  <entry>
    <title>Does Nancy Pelosi, Speaker of the House, Orgasm?</title>
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    <published>2009-11-07T11:28:24-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T14:01:24-06:00</updated>
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      <name>BMuff</name>
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    <category term="regular orgasms" />
    <category term="sex and politicians" />
    <category term="sex and politicians" />
    <category term="sex lives of politicians" />
    <category term="sex lives of politicians" />
    <category term="Speaker of the House" />
    <category term="Speaker of the House" />
    <category term="Love &amp; sex" />
    <category term="Politics" />
    <category term="Sex" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>When I look at our illustrious Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi, I find myself wondering ‘when was the last time she had an orgasm? Or even got laid?’</p>
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    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>When I look at our illustrious Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi, I find myself wondering ‘when was the last time she had an orgasm? Or even got laid?’</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Now this might seem simple, some might even describe it as juvenile, but I gave these questions serious consideration nevertheless. After all, Nancy Pelosi wealds a lot of power in the current and future state of our country, democracy and freedoms, and her physical, mental and emotional state is very important in such a position. <span>&nbsp;</span>Who wants an uptight, unkind and narrow minded asexual politician running our lives anyway?</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Now I can speak from firsthand experience the almost unexplainable benefits of regular orgasms and I’m not talking about a roll in the sheets only on major holidays, birthdays and anniversaries.<span>&nbsp; </span>My definition of regular orgasms is climactic, mind blowing kind of sex a few times a week, in different ways or places, even if that means using the washing machine during the spin cycle.<span>&nbsp; </span>Can you imagine?<span>&nbsp; </span>Nancy Pelosi playing 'Ride em' Cowboy' on a washing machine?</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">I know that every woman who has regular orgasms can quite easily describe the physical, mental and emotional benefits she experiences and how if affects her in the long term.<span>&nbsp; </span>I am much more relaxed when dealing with the day to day stresses of life, I have more patience and a deeper sense of contentment, I smile more and sometimes even hum and my desire for conflict, argument or confrontation is gone.<span>&nbsp; </span>I feel refreshed and renewed and most of all, happy! <span>&nbsp;</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">If I could just convince Nancy Pelosi, and others like her, to join in these private calisthenics and have a few dozen orgasms, then their job performance might improve and her ‘I haven’t been laid in decades’ demeanor would disappear!!<span>&nbsp; </span>They might patiently listen to other points of view! They might smile or tell the truth! They might remember who gave them their job!! They might even stop partaking in the corruption on the Hill!!<span>&nbsp; </span>Imagine that!!! Regular orgasms = honest, transparent and hard working politicians!!!<span>&nbsp; </span>Oh my goodness….Someone slap me….I must be dreaming!!!</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">BMuff</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">www.BMuff.com</p>
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  <entry>
    <title>Sadie Sadie Single Mom Married Lady</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogher.com/sadie-sadie-single-mom-married-lady" />
    <id>http://www.blogher.com/sadie-sadie-single-mom-married-lady</id>
    <published>2009-11-07T10:56:37-06:00</published>
    <updated>2009-11-07T10:57:22-06:00</updated>
    <author>
      <name>lblock</name>
    </author>
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Family Dynamics" />
    <category term="Mommy &amp; Family" />
    <category term="Sex &amp; Relationships" />
    <category term="Blended Family" />
    <category term="Children 5-7" />
    <category term="Co-parenting" />
    <category term="Couples" />
    <category term="Custody" />
    <category term="Family Dynamics" />
    <category term="Grownups" />
    <category term="Living Together" />
    <category term="Love" />
    <category term="Marriage" />
    <category term="Single parenting" />
    <category term="Step parenting" />
    <category term="The Ex" />
    <summary type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I am on hubby #3. I don't have any shame about it. It is what it is. I was too young the first time, the second is the father of my kids and the third is the love of my life.<br /><br />All that being said, I still view myself as a single mom. My hubby is bi-coastal. He has kids in the East and his company is in the East, so he is there for about 2 weeks every month...sometimes more and sometimes less.<br /></p>    ]]></summary>
    <content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I am on hubby #3. I don't have any shame about it. It is what it is. I was too young the first time, the second is the father of my kids and the third is the love of my life.<br /><br />All that being said, I still view myself as a single mom. My hubby is bi-coastal. He has kids in the East and his company is in the East, so he is there for about 2 weeks every month...sometimes more and sometimes less.<br /><br />The traveling works for us. Many friends and family ask me how I can stand it, but the truth is, if he were here all the time, we would probably kill each other. We have been together for 3 years and married for 3 months. <br /><br />I have been a single parent for almost 4 years. My ex is not what I would call involved. He does take his visitation, but he is absent the rest of the time. It is me and them and them and me and has been that way for a very long time.<br /><br />Whether hubby is home or not, I feel single when it comes to my kids. Hubby loves them and they love him, but I am Mommy. Mommy is who they go to when they want something, need something, have something, get something and say something. Mommy is who takes them to camp, play dates, parks, zoos, movies, swimming, dinner, shopping.<br /><br />I can ask hubby to stay with the kids or take them to Birthday parties and take up slack for me, he does it willingly and with a smile, but it's the hard stuff. The discipline, the fighting, the whining that makes me feel like I am doing it alone.<br /><br />I know that I am not the only married parent out there that feels this way, and I also know that some of you that feel this way are married to your kids fathers, but I still sometimes wonder about that dichotomy of married and single.<br /><br />Just another curve ball that I have to figure out and just another outlet to let it out. Thank you all for allowing me this outlet to vent, complain, digress and talk.&nbsp; If you would like to see the humorous side of my life, please visit me at <a href="http://www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com" target="_blank">Headaches, Hormones &amp; Hot Flashes</a>.</p>    ]]></content>
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