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We are just about smack-dab in the middle of Lent, the period of time leading up to Easter (measured either from Ash Wednesday to Palm Sunday or the six weeks prior to Easter, depending on your particular flavor of Christianity). For many Christians, Lent is a time to deprive oneself to attempt to better understand the sacrifices Jesus made.

Ask any parent how life is going, and I guarantee the number one word you'll hear is "busy." We're all racing around, tending to our jobs, our kids' homework and activities, trying to squeeze in "quality time" as best we can. It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day and feel like there's never any time for more meaningful connections. I get it. I also know that even ten minutes can be enough time to reconnect with your kids.

I am the daughter of a woman who was on a diet my entire childhood. She was fat. Well; in truth I don't remember her ever actually being fat, but she was convinced she was fat, and didn't hesitate to say so. She also never hesitated to point out how skinny I was, and how lucky I was to be naturally thin. I didn't think much of it, as it required no special action on my part. It just was. And worrying about it---as my mother did---seemed somehow vain and frivolous, to me.

My 10-year-old son chatters endlessly and laughs loudly and often and wrestles with his friends and snuggles with the dog and makes great eye contact and technically, yes, he is also autistic.

It's happened to the best of us: You get home (or, if you work at home like me, emerge from your office bleary-eyed in the afternoon) and are delighted to pick up the phone and hear from a pal who's wondering if she can stop by for a little bit. You're thrilled and tell her to come on over, and she says she'll see you in ten. Then you hang up the phone... and panic.

I have a not-quite-12-year-old daughter, and as anyone who's ever known a not-quite-12-year-old girl or been a not-quite-12-year-old girl knows, that means I have endless drama. I love my daughter to pieces, truly. She's a remarkable creature who is by turns insightful and childish, compassionate and passionate. And she is also Filled With The Drama: Everything is Very Tragic and Very Important and Life Or Death. All the time.

For the first time in my life, with the start of 2010, I actually made a resolution to make fitness a priority. I realize I'm a little late to the party, but what can I say? I'm a late bloomer. And really, really lazy. Nonetheless, with the support and ridicule of four like-minded friends, I'm now firmly ensconced in a challenge to lose ten pounds in ten weeks. (Shameless plug: If you care to follow our journey, all five of us are blogging it over at Five Full Plates.)

One of the things I traditionally do at the start of a new year is clean out the inside of my car. It's just as glamorous as it sounds, particularly because I gave birth to a couple of trash factories a few years back. Sometimes the things I find on this annual excursion are best left undisclosed.

It's such a cliched scenario that it makes me cringe a little to even bring it up, but it happens even to the best of us from time to time -- we find ourselves with a scant ten minutes to get dinner on the table for the family, and panic is setting in. Modern family life tends to run at a frenetic pace. On any given day my modest family is navigating through both adults' full-time employment, two sets of homework, after-school activities, and doctors' appointments, and I would be lying if I told you dinner was always on the table without a fuss.

The Mind of a Tween Girl

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[A guess of what my 11-year-old daughter's journal would surely look like, if she had one.] Friday, December 18th 2009 Dear Journal, I let Mom come to school with me this morning to carry my stuff. There was a lot of stuff AND it was raining and I got wet and I hate that. She was pretty much okay except when Ms. Science told her I was missing part of my project. Then I'm pretty sure she would've gone into full lecture mode if we hadn't run into the next teacher who needed cookies. Ugh!!

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