The Joy and the Pain of Children's Bedroom Decor

By: Rita Arens Topics: Hobbies, Crafts & DIY Mommy & Family

My daughter's bedroom is a source of wry laughter for most visitors to our home. When we moved into Chateau Travolta last summer, we knew we had to pull up the carpet and repaint. Why? Mostly because it was a bank foreclosure that had been unoccupied for eight months, and we found both a dead bird and a dead bat in the house before we moved in. Every surface had to be touched.

Talking Race with Kelly Wickham of "Mocha Momma"

Kelly Wickham of Mocha Momma recently commented on BlogHer that she'd like to see more people asking questions about the black experience so we could gain the same kind of learning we gained from discussing Dana Tuske's post on Israel. This was her comment:

I always want to yell at people, "GO GET SOME BLACK FRIENDS IF YOU HAVE ALL THESE QUESTIONS. DAMN." but I don't. If they didn't surround themselves in their hygenic-hermetically sealed bubbles and hope that everyone else can please explain themselves. I try to educate instead and sometimes, yes, I do so with a lot of sighing and a mild amount of disgust, but I know they really do want to learn.

I e-mailed Kelly, whom I've known and respected for a while now, to open a dialogue. Here are some excerpts from our conversation about the black and white of today's America.

Trademarks and Mommybloggers: More Serious Than You'd Think

When I started blogging at Surrender, Dorothy, I knew trying to trademark my site name would be impossible. I stole the phrase from the sky, for one thing (although mine, with a comma, insists Dorothy surrender rather than be surrendered, which I think is an important point, ahem). For another thing, there is already a Surrender, Dorothy band, a movie, a book, you name it. We can’t all be suing each other. So I never thought much about the other Surrender, Dorothy bloggers out there, and there are many – I see them in my Google alerts. No big deal, I think. As long as I differentiate my writing style and include my photo, people will always know who I am. However, that said, I totally respect the right of anyone to trademark an idea. Trademarking is totally different than copyrighting.

Catching Kids Doing the Right Thing for the Environment

By: Rita Arens Topics: Mommy & Family Green & Eco-conscious Environment

What with the Earth Day and the organic food and the hormone-free milk and the biodegradable condoms (okay, maybe I made that one up), I’ve been thinking about how kids remind us to be our best people. Especially when they catch us not practicing what we preach when it comes to the environment.

The Pink Patch: Does Your Daughter Think She Looks Bad in Her Body?

When I first heard about the Pink Patch, I thought it was stupid but probably harmless. That speaks volumes to my current state of mental health, though – I was transported back to my less-healthy days as I started poking around for more facts. The fact that I found a reference to the Pink Patch on a pro-ana (for the uneducated, that’s pro-anorexia) message board is enough to make my blood run cold.