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What the Heck is a Momspotter?

I saw a lot of tweets over the weekend asking "what the heck is this momspotting thing?" People, I'm here to help.
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Why Is Yelling a Parental Hot Button?

by Rita Arens at 3:00am Mon, 16 Nov 2009 under Mommy & Family, parenting, discipline, spanking, yelling, Family Dynamics, Parenting, shouting; 778 views
We've seen the harried mother in Wal-Mart, shrieking at her wayward toddler as she streaks through the aisles clutching candy. You've probably also been the exhausted mommy who, at the end of a long day, MUST YELL TO GET THE SELECTIVELY HEARING-IMPAIRED CHILD TO TAKE A BATH.I myself went along a parenting trajectory. It went like this:New mommy: Cooing and singing, even when my daughter popped me in the nose accidentally while reaching for a toy, hurting me so bad my eyes watered Toddler mommy: Redirection! These tantrums are developmentally appropriate! Ha!Preschooler mommy: I don't understand you when you use that whining voice.Kindergartner mommy: Yell 
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Our Daughters' Hair Length: Let the Armchair Psychoanalysis Begin

My daughter's hair is crazy long. Like past-her-waist long. People ask me all the time if I've ever cut it (she had a bob when she was two and gets it cut every few months) and if it's hard to take care of (heck, yes). You see, I don't make her cut until it fails the toilet test.You read that right.
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From Happy Days to Hoarders: What Do You Think of What Your Teens Watch?

BlogHer's Shannon wrote an insightful post looking into preschool television shows back in January. But what about television that tweens and teens watch? Television that you and I watch (or will watch someday) with our kids? I'm not talking about individual shows, I'm talking about television in general. With a gazillion channels to choose from and DVRs abounding, one can certain insulate against undesirable shows easily. But what about our kids?
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