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BlogHers Remember Elizabeth Edwards

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It was hard news for a lot of BlogHers to learn that Elizabeth Edwards died today of cancer at 61, just one day after announcing on Facebook that she was discontinuing medical treatment after a long battle with the illness.

An accomplished lawyer, author, and the wife of presidential candidate John Edwards, Elizabeth Edwards spoke at BlogHer '07 in Chicago, where she answered bloggers' questions, and a lot of us got to meet her.

Like Jen Lemen, who blogged so passionately about talking to Edwards about her cancer at BlogHer 2007 that it made a lot of us in the office tear up this morning:

She turned to me with so much fire in her blue eyes, so much strength, so much grace. “You know John and I lost a child?” I nod, remembering that story and how that grief must have fueled their resolve to have more children, so many years later. “We know how important it is to not live our lives with regret.” She put her hands on my shoulders, the way your mother does when you need to hear her clearly, when she needs to speak directly to your heart. She tells me about how they keep the children close to them, the way she’s homeschooling them with the help of another teacher, how this is so much the life they are choosing, eyes wide open.

She brushed away my unexpected tears (how can you not cry about things like this?) and tells me, blue eyes on fire, “This is what I want, what we want. ” And I know in my soul it is a thousand percent true. “Now do you feel better?” she said, smiling.

And ClizBiz, who remembers Edwards' speech:

I loved Lisa's first question after all the greetings, pleasantries and thanks-for-comings: "So, um, why are you here?" EE was taken aback and when she began to speak, it quickly became clear that -- GASP! -- she was one of us.

Evidently, EE knew her tech stuff and had been an early adapter in the mid-90s. She discussed how the online community helped her deal with her grief after the sudden death of her son, Wade. She developed online relationships that continue to this day, most with people she has never met. She blogs, when time permits, on her husband's campaign site and keeps her RSS feeds fully stocked. Oh yeah, then there's the whole raising-three-children-while-fighting-cancer thing.

Today, people are tweeting their memories of Elizabeth Edwards at BlogHer:

So sad -- Elizabeth Edwards just died. Was struck by her real-ness at BlogHer Chicago in '07.less than a minute ago via web

So sad to hear about Elizabeth Edwards passing away. I met her at @BlogHer in Chicago. She was very sweet and friendly to everyone.less than a minute ago via web

Elizabeth Edwards. Wow. I'm heartbroken. I saw her speak at #blogher and really loved her. She was a great woman.less than a minute ago via TweetDeck

Like any public figure, Edwards saw some criticism of her choices, especially about how she reacted publicly when her husband's extramarital affair came to light in 2008. But after a long-standing conversation with women who blog, Edwards WAS one of us. Even when we disagreed with her, we phrased it like Morra Aarons Mele: "I love Elizabeth Edwards, and I'm mad at her."


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Marly 5 pts

I didn't realize Elizabeth Edwards spoke at the 2007 BlogHer conference. I didn't even have a blog then, but obviously she did. She was an amazing person and a role model for so many of us. My condolences to her family.

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Womens Voices 5 pts

At WVFC ( http://womensvoicesforchange.org/we-all-mourn-eliz... ), we've long empathized with her through her struggles with cancer and the political chaos created by her husband's behavior, and today, we grieve with the rest of the nation. She's certainly one of us in more ways than one.

Women's Voices for Change ( http://www.womensvoicesforchange.org/ ) | @WomensVoices ( http://www.twitter.com/womensvoices ) | WVFC Facebook ( http://www.facebook.com/Womens.Voices.For.Change )

Virginia DeBolt 5 pts

impressed me as well. She was brilliant and open and honest about herself and her hopes for the country. A woman to respect and admire in every way.

Virginia DeBolt
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LawyerMama 5 pts

I know that's silly because I've never even really met her. But I felt like I knew her. Because she was one of us.

Kim Pearson 5 pts

That conversation with Elizabeth Edwards at Blogher was a very special one. She was a class act. I pray for her children and family.

Kim Pearson
BlogHer Contributing Editor ( http://blogher.org/blog/kim-pearson )|KimPearson.net ( http://kimpearson.net )|

Erin Kotecki Vest 5 pts

I wore a tube top to the party that night. I remember thinking I could take off my hoodie (with skulls on it) for the party because it was a party! And all I know is I turned around and bumped right into her, and a group of other bloggers. And I was mortified.

I had a martini in one hand, my husband was playing the drums in the kid's section with a beer in his hand, and I bumped RIGHT into her.

Of course she was gracious. And wonderful. And it didn't matter what I was wearing, only that she told me she had read some of my work, was impressed, and hoped I would change my mind about who I was backing (I was either going Hillary or Obama at that point). And I left feeling like I met a new friend.

That was true. She continued to read BlogHer and Momocrats for many, many years after and as far as I have been told, up until the end.

We lost a member of our community today. It's just that simple. And we're all hurting.

Politics & News Contributing Editor Erin Kotecki Vest ( http://queenofspainblog.com/ )

Gena Haskett 6 pts

It is to be lived as best you can. I have been supportive, angry, sad and now most respectful of her journey.

I remember being in the room in Chicago. I'm in my living room remembering all that has occurred and the only thing that is important to remember is that she wanted to make a difference.

I truly hope her transition was a peaceful one.

Gena Haskett is a BlogHer Contributing Editor. My Blogs: Out On The Stoop ( http://outonthestoop.blogspot.com ) and Create Video Notebook ( http://createvideonotebook.blogspot.com )

Julie Ross Godar 5 pts

I was really moved by the tributes to her today, and her '07 speech.

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Managing Editor, BlogHer

lauriewrites 5 pts

A really good remembrance of a woman who walked through her last few years with a lot of grace regardless of what was happening. I appreciated that she showed up to talk to us and found her genuine, I have to say.

I think most warmly of her children and hope for them good and happy lives.

Laurie
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