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Would you? Blog your couples therapy or marriage counseling?
Because it's one thing to be a personal blogger and blog stories about your relationship - But once you're in therapy, seeking professional help... Well, it's *therapy*, right? Is it best to keep that door closed?
Of course, like anything a personal blogger writes about, the blogging of it makes for good reading and inevitably helps others. People want to read about it, so many not out of voyeurism, but because they're in the same boat, and they want to know what it's like for other people.
Penelope Trunk wrote multiple posts on Brazen Careerist about her marriage counseling, and they were great, honest posts. Here's a couple:
My first day of marriage counseling
We have been together for fifteen years and we have two kids. We have been in couples therapy enough different times for me to know that I hate being in couples therapy with him because he never changes. It's always been more productive for me to go to therapy alone, where at least I can get things done. But now we are desperate, so I've capitulated.
5 Communication lessons learned in marriage counseling
At this point we've been seeing the marriage counselor for a few months, and believe it or not, I've learned a thing or two about communicating. We all want to think that our communication problems at home are different from the communication problems we have at work. In fact, though, corporate training companies like VitalSmarts have shown that communication skills are the same at home and at work, just the stakes are higher at home, where getting fired is not just a new job hunt.
She got a lot of flak for those posts, to say the least, from people who frown on personal blogging. And I gotta tell you, finding posts where people talk about their personal therapy experiences is very challenging. If you've got one, please link it up in the comments!
I did find a handful of posts that mention counseling:
Partnership from Dooce
Learning to Fly from Lace on Outlaw Safehouse
And here's an older post from Immoral Matriarch where she talks a bit about a therapy session: I Will Crush You
And MomLogic has had some posts on marriage counseling:
Marriage Counseling is the New Black
It used to be the dirty little secret of married couples who manage to stay together despite the ups and downs of life. Well, not anymore. Nowadays it seems everyone's doing it -- and talking about it.
Well, at dinner parties anyway.
And from guest blogger Maria, a personal counseling tale: I Want to Give Our Therapist the "Little" Finger.
After months of begging my husband to go to a counselor so we could work on our relationship issues, he finally obliged. I went into the session armed and ready for victory. Then our sucky therapist blamed my "inner self" on our problems.
Here's a couple posts on therapy and choosing a therapist:
Couple Therapy for Lesbians and Gay Men from Patti Geier, LCSW on Self-Growth.com
How to Choose a Marital Therapist from Michele Weiner-Davis on Divorce-Busting
Finally, if you're looking for a place to discuss couples therapy or marriage counseling anonymously, may I suggest Experience Project or Answerology? Both feature online communicaties were you can post and share advice anonymously.
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Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess.
