“Do Angelina Jolie’s Adopted Kids Have Hurt Parts?”

My daughter can list all of the Kardashians, but somehow never noticed Angelina Jolie until Maleficent. She’d heard of Brad Pitt. She didn’t really know who he was, but knew he was very famous. She was very impressed when I told her he was Angelina’s partner. "Wow! She’s with him? I’ve heard of him!” She was even more interested in the story when she heard about Brad and Angelina Jolie’s adopted kids. ...more
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My Adopted Son Needs Help...and the State Doesn't Care

The news media is full of stories of parents abusing and neglecting  their  adopted children and stories of mentally ill indivials harming others. As  parent, I think to myself, how many of these parents have sought help for their children and not recieved it?  Why aren't we hearing about that? Please, read my story. People need to know that there is very little in way of support and help for these children....more
You are completely right. There are cries for help on both sides (foster/adopted kids as well as ...more

The Rudeness of People-Infertility Edition

I guess I should say, I don't know if I am actually infertile....as I have unexplained infertility...this is actually a medical term, if you can believe....more
People really can be ridiculous, can't they? I actually had to write a whole post all about what ...more

A Love Story

In May, I participated in Panache DeSai’s 33 day program online with his new book - “Discovering Your Soul Signature.”  One thing about doing spiritual work, anything that needs to be released comes up.  In my case, deep childhood emotional wounds of rejection and abandonment came to the surface once again. Those feelings started with being adopted at 2 1/2. My new Mother told me over and over again as I was growing up that I wasn't wanted, that my birth mother had rejected me from the day I was born, and was always trying to find a way to get rid...more

The Amateur Mother

One of my favorite novels is The Amateur Marriage by Anne Tyler. The story follows Michael and Pauline, two starry eyed lovers who marry during the Second World War. I’ve read the book several times, fascinated by the characters as they navigate through the complexities of marriage, all while having no idea how to find their way. As much as they try to grow as a couple, they remain amateurs, never really moving forward....more

Golds and Silvers

I’ve just crawled into bed and tucked the covers under my arms when there is a soft, hesitant rapping at my bedroom door.“Yes?” I call out, knowing full well who the teeny tiny rapping hands belong to.“I need to give you something,” comes the calm reply.It is nine-thirty at night, and I have just finished refereeing Sunny’s hour long tamtrum. I am exhausted, puffy eyed, and my arm is already sporting the telltale ache of a bruise forming in the spot that her heel made contact with me – several times....more
I have had those nights with my oldest.  Too many of them.  He seems ruled by emotions he cannot ...more

Mother's Day from an Adoptee's Perspective

When a person is born blind, they know no other way. They don't know the pain of having sight torn from them, they don't miss the sense. They may have a longing, they may wonder and wish. It's much the same for me, as an adoptee. I know nothing else, and my parents are just that: my parents. They are my everything, just as your parents are your parents, period....more
xo_strawberry Thanks. Naturally we all feel differently, but that's my 2 cents. :)more

Two Weeks

It's the night before my first (legal and official) Mother's Day, and I am overwhelmed with two feelings: love and guilt.  ...more

The Waves

My fight comes and goes. I claw and spit and yell and shake my fists at the injustice of it all until I completely run out of steam and crawl back into my hole for a few months. I back down when I realize that, yes, it’s bigger than me. The whole Family Law System is bigger than me. I back down when I realize that I need my energy to work my day job with children with Autism. And I need my energy to finish my BCBA classes to be a Board Certified Behavior Analyst....more

How parents (physically) change the shape of their child's brain

I heard (part of) this fascating segment on NPR this morning about orphans' brains and how parents physically shape their child's brain.You've probably heard the stories from the 1980 and 1990s about the Romanian orphanages and how there were so many children that the nurses barely had time to hold them all. In fact, some children were left in cribs for days. In this segment, they talked about how that lack of attention can actually damage a child's brain - specifically reduced gray and white matter. These children's brains were actually smaller from lack of attention....more
Its really important when it comes to nurturing a child in an early age. The child mind is most ...more