A Letter to My Kids on National Adoption Day

This morning started off like most others. You two were up at the crack of dawn. You charmed Daddy into giving you each a brownie for breakfast while I was in the shower.  Kaden, you had us all laughing until our sides hurt when you pulled open you pajama shirt to reveal the "tattoo" of your own name you'd given yourself with a contraband pen across your chest. We knew you'd done it while looking in the mirror, painstakingly forming each letter, because they were all backwards....more

They Break, You Know

It was something about the phrasing that got to me. Something about the cadence of his words, the staccato of his speech.“Nobody loves me. Not even my mother who gave birth to me.”It is an odd turn of phrase, isn’t it?Not even my mother who gave birth to me....more

Seoul 2001 :A Life-space Odyssey

 On our way back from the Katy Perry concert, I was thinking about how many wonderful memories I have been making lately with Miss 14. It set me to recalling some of the memories I have of her that she doesn't share, stuff from when she was little. So this entry comes with a self-indulgence warning.  ...more
Edwina's Episodes  I'm the lucky one... of all the mums in the world, they got stuck with me!more

What makes a real family?

the definition of real From the Free Dictionary:re·al 1 (rē′əl, rēl)adj.a. Being or occurring in fact or actuality; having verifiable existence: real objects; a real illness.b. True and actual; not imaginary, alleged, or ideal: real people, not ghosts; a film based on real life....more

If This Then That: Reflections on Adoption

The theology of adoption has a thick ribbon of rescue running through it....more

Storytime Adoption

Each night when my youngest goes to bed we read a story as part of our bedtime routine.  We have plenty of stories of her favorite cartoon characters, princesses and talking animals to choose from, but it’s the adoption books she loves best....more

The Baby Wait/Weight

Yes it's been years since we were in the waiting stage to become parents on our journey to parenthood, and yes our girls are now 8 and 6 years old. But I am still struggling with the Baby Wait/Weight. The weight I gained while on hormones and then being home while waiting and having food at the ready.Excuse 1,000,000,000 now that our lives are in the fast lane with school for each girl, after school activities and more our dinners at times are whatever the quickest to throw together can be.  Not the best way to eat nutritious I agree....more

Can differences divide?

This summer our girls attended Girl Scout day camp.  This was their 3rd year there.  It is a great full-day camp that runs for 9 days in the hills of Berkeley in Tilden Park.  What was especially nice this summer, is at this camp our girls can reconnect with some of their friends from the town we used to live and moved from over a year ago.It's taken me a bit to digest the first week of this summer camp and why I'm sharing now in late September....more

Dear Birth Mother

Dear Birth Mother, Happy Birthday to our little girl who turns 5 today.  I can’t believe it’s been 5 years since little Sophia was born into this world. Firstly, I want you to know that our Sophia is a beautiful, spirited, loving little girl who is much loved by her family and friends.  Her favorite color is purple and her favorite food is noodles of any kind.  She loves to play with her older siblings who dote on her and adore her. ...more

Grateful For My Hysterectomy: Surrogacy & Adoption

Amidst the balloons, the flying wrapping paper, the half-eaten cupcakes and toys haphazardly strewn about the house, I’m reminded why today is special. It’s not just my eldest daughter’s 10th birthday, but it’s also the anniversary of my induction into the hyster-sisterhood....more