How parents (physically) change the shape of their child's brain

I heard (part of) this fascating segment on NPR this morning about orphans' brains and how parents physically shape their child's brain.You've probably heard the stories from the 1980 and 1990s about the Romanian orphanages and how there were so many children that the nurses barely had time to hold them all. In fact, some children were left in cribs for days. In this segment, they talked about how that lack of attention can actually damage a child's brain - specifically reduced gray and white matter. These children's brains were actually smaller from lack of attention....more
Its really important when it comes to nurturing a child in an early age. The child mind is most ...more

our adoption option: happy valentine's day to her

i meant to post this on actual valentines day, but we've had a super busy last 10 days or so with travel, family, and work so here it is now and we can all just accept it. :)...more

Let's Talk About Race, Baby; : Let's Talk About You & Me

Oh yeah, I'm still going there. I'm not done thinking yet. And it's still not going to be comfortable. Start here. NPR. Yes. You have to. Yes. It's listening. A whole 6.5 minutes of your life. And yes, you will have to listen actively and think. ...more

Black Girl, White Mom: Part 2

  So my last post, I stomped my mama bear paw and pointed my finger and wondered out loud. ...more

When We First Met

What a beautiful tribute to your son..thank you for posting.more

Holding Up Your Face

Have you noticed that it takes more effort these days to hold up your face?Maybe you are a lot younger than me, and haven’t discovered that yet. Maybe it’s just me. I look at myself in the mirror and I don’t look so bad, but when I see a photo of myself, I wonder what happened.Well, I discovered the truth. In the mirror I inadvertently hold up my face. A photograph catches me slack-jawed.I read one writer who asked the question “How does your writing look at its relaxed state? Do we let it drop like our faces? “...more

it's easy loving orphans

If you've read this blog for any amount of time, you know I care about orphans. I write about them often, and I'd love to dedicate more of my time and energy to loving them better, finding better solutions for them, and getting them in loving homes quickly.And I think I will....more
Kids are any day gift of the almighty and they are the ones that can make your whole world. An ...more

How the Woman Behind Ohio's New Adoption Law Helped Me Find My Family

In my baby book there is an empty page titled "About The Day You Were Born." And on the page where my birth certificate belongs, there is a handwritten note detailing my ethnic background with a picture of the day my parents brought me home, at eight-months-old, from the Catholic Adoption Agency in Cleveland, Ohio. 18 years ago, without the sealed records of my birth and adoption, I searched for and found my birth parents. Putting the pieces of my past together filled the empty spaces in my life. Finding my family moved my future forward. ...more
The story is really inspiring one. Birth mothers do have a large heart and they often tend to ...more

Parenting is Easy!

The heck you say! Parenting is hard, the kids need to eat 3 meals a day, have clean clothes, minds and bodies, be supervised so they aren't poking themselves or someone else with sharp objects and they need to be loved. Sound difficult? Imagine you have to do that for children that don't know what it's like to have a regular meal or whose clothes, minds and/or bodies are dirty, they have been hurt by others and they don't know what it's like to be loved and accepted by the people they trust the most....more
Lisa BunnageI agree! Loving someone or something doesn't seem like it should be temporary.more

Family Christmas