Once upon a time, the economy crashed. My husband was laid off, I worked more than an hour away for very little money, and he stayed home alone all day looking for work and taking care of infant twins.You know this. If not, here. Here it is.What you don't know is this....more
It appears that the Duggar family is not opposed to the idea of adoption. Because, apparently, they don't have nearly enough children. I just read this article on People.com which states that old Jim Bob and Michelle, who currently have 19 little Duggars running around the house, aren't opposed to adoption. And yes, it does NOT say "We're adopting!" I'm sure that nugget of info will be saved for the premier of the next season of 153 Kids and Counting next year....more
It could get crowded in my dining room with those three other women, the mothers of my adopted children. It made things tight bringing food out and clearing the table, struggling to inch past them, the skinny and stout, all with black hair and brown eyes, and the wide cheekbones that are the national trademark of Nicaragua.
It used to bother me a lot -- their silent clucking at what was for dinner, the suspicious eyes cast on the siblings. The slight head shakes wondering why I went all the way to another country to find children for my family. It bothered me. They just wouldn’t quit....more
I recently found out my birth son was likely never told he was adopted, and has been publicly speaking out about an ancestral heritage that, genetically, isn't entirely true. And I'm worried -- nay, freaked out -- about how he might feel, if he discovers his adoptive cultural background and biological background don't match....more
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest. ~ Benjamin FranklinLike most mothers who are expecting, adoptive parents spend a lot of time preparing themselves for their new son or daughter. They read books, blogs, magazines, take classes, talk to other adoptive parents, you name it. Some adoptive parents try to cover not only the basics of child care, but also a whole range of posibilities; a child with special needs, a child of a different race, a child with trauma. ...more
Having been adopted in New Jersey, I was never able to obtain my original birth certificate. Growing up I begged my adoptive mother over and over for any possible information she might have about my birth mother until one day, shooting her foot through the kitchen wall she screamed, “Don’t ever ask me that again.” I guess that was the end of the story. For years I would go on believing I must have been the product of rape, incest or my birth mother just wanted to get rid of me....more
Adoption is a difficult road to navigate. When we chose to pursue adoption, we didn’t know many people who’d been down this road before and who could provide us with the basics on what to expect along this new phase of our journey.
So you've either just started the adoption process or you're already a new adoptive parent. Whether you're navigating domestic, international, or a foster-to-adopt program, all forms of adoption have elements in common and this crib sheet aims to get you ready or help you along as you become a parent. You've probably already studied the mechanics of parenting such as feeding, changing, bathing and transporting, but what about all the unique parenting moments that come up through adoption?
While vacationing during the holidays in December, I was on my way for an early morning walk when my luck seemed to run out. Starting from the sixth floor of my hotel, I planned to take the stairs for my “warm-up”. As I approached the elevators on my way to the stairway, I saw a couple who were on the tennis court near us the day before shortly before we were all rained out. They were off to the courts to play again and we got to chatting about the weather, and other matters, when the elevator arrived....more