What He’s Trying To Say

Touching post. I adopted from foster care and have been fortunate to develop a relationship with ...more

Exclusionary Exclusions: Will Adoption Gain Me Access to the Moms' Club?

Well, it's official... of all the girls that I became friends with on Soul Cysters, I am now the ONLY ONE who has not become pregnant.The only one. The only one. The only one. Still empty. Still struggling. Still stuck in place -- treading water. Dr. S told me while we were going through fertility treatments that I had a "good chance" and that "90% of all women with PCOS do end up getting pregnant." 90%... at the time, I never imagined I'd be the exception and not the rule....more
I have biological children and have suffered from infertility and miscarriage as secondary ...more

They Refused

Tuesday, August 9, 2011They Refused Our agency refused to cooperate. They want our adoption extended another 3 months. They are requiring him home for a full, consecutive 3 months....more

Its never going to end, is it?

This morning was one of THOSE mornings.  I can tell the moment he steps out of bed how its going to be and today he just didn't give a fuck if I fought with him or not.  He was going to go THERE.  And he did. I hate days like this because it leaves me resentful of him. It started with dragging his feet getting dressed.  Progressed to claiming he didn't know how to do the math sheet in front of him (which he's done before).  And finally escalated to him throwing pencils at the back of my head.  When I drug him to the time out corner (which he's d...more

Black baby, White mommy....so what?

  GREAT SHOW!...more

Family by Design ~ Debunk the Myths of the Birth Mom

Debunk the Myths of the Birth Mom http://toginet.com/podcasts/familybydesign/FamilyByDesignLIVE_2011-08-02.mp3?type=showpage Karla Marie Williams President, Family by Design ~ All Things Adoption (www.familybydesignadoption.com) Host, Family by Design Radio (www.toginet.com/shows/familybydesign)...more

Family by Design~ Another FREE Gift to you from me!

 Another FREE Gift to you from Family by Design! A quick reference guide for your adoption journey....more

My FREE Gift to you from Family by Design!

My FREE Gift to you!...more

Family by Design ~ New Blog Site!

  Glad to be part of BlogHer! We have changed the location of our blog but we will still bring you the best information and inspiration on adoption, adoptive parenting and foster care! You will also get updates on all the great and inspiring guests that will appear on Family by Design Radio each month....more

Full glass of wine kind of night

If the adoption fairy had granted me a crystal ball and showed me an evening like today, I'm not sure I would have gone through with the adoption.  Don't get me wrong.  I love the "good" son.  The one that shares his snacks and offers to help around the house.  But the "bad" son I loathe like an ex-lover.  He can be just a rageing asshole for no reason at all.  Actually, he has his reasons.  They're just unacceptable in this house. I'm sorry if you don't want to do chores.  But we all have to do chores and just  because you don't want to ...more