Helping my Sensory Seeker During Mealtimes

The second best thing about having a cool physical therapist for my preemie Brady is that she keeps her eye on his older brother Tsega for me. Tsega didn't qualify for Early Intervention when we had him tested, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have areas of development that I check mark in the back of my mind (like with all my kids.) Brady's PT interacts with Tsega each week and has great insight and ideas for me to help him reach his potential. ...more

"Mommy, Why Does Baby G. Have to Go to Jail?"

"Mommy, why does Baby G. have to go to jail?" That was the question my 9 year old daughter Betty asked when she saw me crying. The news had just come that my friends unbelievably and incomprehensibly lost their adoption case. I struggled to explain the unexplainable to Betty....more
Sadly when I counseled pregnant teens, I know a lot of girls who had an abortion for just this ...more

Blog Hop: Dollars and $ense of Family Building

This project started with a debate that I facilitated for the Open Adoption Examiner about potential adoptive parents using billboards to connect with expectant parents considering adoption....more

Knowing the way you talk to and teach your sons, I am betting that the question won't come out ...more

Meditations on an Afro

I got a hair cut from my hair guru, Ahmed this week.  This man has been instrumental in sanity retention on more than one occasion, like the time I was on bed rest during hideous Pregnancy Numero Tres and he came to my house to remove the vast majority of my unwashed hair. He is good. ...more

What a kind comment MiChelle! Thanks for the support and understanding. And let me tell you, I ...more

A Candid Confession: I'm "That" Adoptee


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A True Calling   by Lianne Castelino It just so happens that lately --- pure coincidence - that I've met, been introduced to, bumped into people from all walks of life who had a longing to become parents or in some cases have another child after many years. Every single one of these encounters has been absolutely powerful. ...more

When Unmarried = Unfit: the Effects of Past Adoption Practices

It was the experience of many mothers to be deemed as "unfit" simply because they were not married both in the U.S. and countries around the globe.  Western Australia has recently issued an official apology to the mothers who lost children to adoption through past unethical adoption practices that not only denied mothers the available services but pressured and forced unmarried mothers to place their babies for adoption....more

That the records are sealed to adoptees is disgusting and wrong. I hope this changes. Thank you ...more

Adoption, Loss and Reunion: An Interview with the Author of Jessica Lost

At the beginning of the year, I was picking out books to read for the Adoption Reading Challenge I started. As I hopped around adoption-related books on Amazon, I came across one that would be released in May 2011: "Jessica Lost: A Story of Birth, Adoption & The Meaning of Motherhood." As a birth mother, I was exceptionally interested in this book as it is written by a birth mother, Bunny (Faith) Crumpacker, and an adult adoptee, Jil Picariello. I was thrilled to be able to interview Jil for BlogHer....more

I am an adoptive mother of identical twin girls, age 46. We have located the birth mother, but ...more

A Selfless Act of Love

Yesterday was Mother’s Day, a day filled with homemade cards, a bouquet of pink and yellow flowers, and beef brisket. It was a beautiful and unseasonably warm day spent with my family and my mother....more

Parenthood, Actually: This Day Is For You

Happy Mother's Day! I hope that you are reading this as you relax on a sunny porch while your children bring you lemonade and paint your toenails. Even if that's not quite the case, I hope you are able to find some relaxation, some joy and some peace on this day. ...more

A few years ago, I wrote a blog post for Mother's Day and it reaches out to a lot of people in ...more