"Re-homing" children: Most parents who disrupt adoptions aren't villains

Reuters recently released a series of articles on parents who take it upon themselves to “re-home” their adopted children.  The media is calling these children “unwanted” and implying that they are being thrown away without thought or care.Children being passed on to a new family with less effort than someone re-homing the class hamster is certainly a disgusting practice that needs our attention. ...more

Have You Lost a Child? The Pain Never Goes Away

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Quietly Dismissed

I was dismissed from morning drop-off this week. I mean, not entirely - I still have to drive the car - but as we approached the school on Tuesday morning, my daughter said to me:"Last time, Mama just dropped me off."...more

Before You Adopt

My husband and I have three children by birth, a large house, three acres of land, and a love for children.  We wanted to adopt a child.  We became foster parents first.  Our first and only foster child was a two year/two month old boy named Aaron.  He came to us sick with an ear infection, and a prescription for an antibiotic that was three weeks old.  He had just been in a foster home for three months.  He lived with his birth Mom for 20 months.  He was taken out of the home because of neglect, they lived in a motel, no job, no parenting skills.  Sh...more

Birthday Redo: Why We Repeated Our Daughter's First 9 Birthdays

She was sobbing that she wished she was only six one morning and an idea popped into my head. We missed out on her first nine birthdays. Her tenth birthday was the first one we were part of and it was the first birthday party she’d ever had. I decided to redo all of the others. ...more
What an awesome idea!!! I wish I had thought of that when our kids came to us. Ironically our ...more

Babies with Scabies and Other Complaints

Adopting children from a foreign country is so glamorous, so heroic, attention-getting, show-stopping. If you adopt a child from another country, your friends will admire you and strangers will call you a saint. You, on the other hand, know the truth. You're going to another country to adopt a child because you will go to any lengths required to have a child. Let's be frank.Still, of the adjectives above, one rings true. Heroic....more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
I have a story of unjust adoption. My niece was sold away by a family friend and neighbor that ...more

Hang in There: A Blog about Waiting to Adopt

I never thought of myself as an incredibly impatient person, but I am becoming one.  Everyone keeps telling me “hang in there…it will happen.”  When…when will it happen?...more

I Wish I Had a Picture

  I posted a picture of my mother and my sister Jan the month Jan arrived from Korea and flew into my mother's arms, but I cannot for some reason post it here....more

Saving Lives Two at a Time

Are you a dog lover? Do you think you might become one, if you give it a chance? Has your child been begging for a dog? If you do decide to get a new dog, you could be "saving lives two at a time"! Adding a canine member to your family might be just what the doctor ordered! Owning a dog can be a therapeutic experience. See this excellent article The Therapeutic Benefits of Pets to learn how caring for a pet can make you happier and healthier. ...more