Before You Adopt

My husband and I have three children by birth, a large house, three acres of land, and a love for children.  We wanted to adopt a child.  We became foster parents first.  Our first and only foster child was a two year/two month old boy named Aaron.  He came to us sick with an ear infection, and a prescription for an antibiotic that was three weeks old.  He had just been in a foster home for three months.  He lived with his birth Mom for 20 months.  He was taken out of the home because of neglect, they lived in a motel, no job, no parenting skills.  Sh...more

Birthday Redo: Why We Repeated Our Daughter's First 9 Birthdays

She was sobbing that she wished she was only six one morning and an idea popped into my head. We missed out on her first nine birthdays. Her tenth birthday was the first one we were part of and it was the first birthday party she’d ever had. I decided to redo all of the others. ...more
What an awesome idea!!! I wish I had thought of that when our kids came to us. Ironically our ...more

Babies with Scabies and Other Complaints

Adopting children from a foreign country is so glamorous, so heroic, attention-getting, show-stopping. If you adopt a child from another country, your friends will admire you and strangers will call you a saint. You, on the other hand, know the truth. You're going to another country to adopt a child because you will go to any lengths required to have a child. Let's be frank.Still, of the adjectives above, one rings true. Heroic....more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
I have a story of unjust adoption. My niece was sold away by a family friend and neighbor that ...more

Hang in There: A Blog about Waiting to Adopt

I never thought of myself as an incredibly impatient person, but I am becoming one.  Everyone keeps telling me “hang in there…it will happen.”  When…when will it happen?...more

I Wish I Had a Picture

  I posted a picture of my mother and my sister Jan the month Jan arrived from Korea and flew into my mother's arms, but I cannot for some reason post it here....more

Saving Lives Two at a Time

Are you a dog lover? Do you think you might become one, if you give it a chance? Has your child been begging for a dog? If you do decide to get a new dog, you could be "saving lives two at a time"! Adding a canine member to your family might be just what the doctor ordered! Owning a dog can be a therapeutic experience. See this excellent article The Therapeutic Benefits of Pets to learn how caring for a pet can make you happier and healthier. ...more

Are You His Mother?

My son had gotten to the dentist first. He was leaning back in a waiting room chair, wearing a white beater and black basketball shorts, black ankle socks and his prized black Adidas. He had on a white baseball cap, too big for his head, with a flat brim with a shiny manufacturer's sticker on it. I wanted to take the cap off his head, bend the brim so it looked like a real baseball cap, so it looked like a cap that my son, the athlete, would wear. Today, he didn't look like an athlete....more

That Other Supreme Court Ruling Affecting Families

This week the Supreme Court has made some pretty big decisions. Many are looking at the repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and the refusal to hear the case against California's Prop 8 as wins for families of all types. But that wasn't the only win for families this week to come out of the Court....more
Ah, I had lost track of where this was in the courts. Thanks for sharing it!more

In Praise of Aunts

First of all, let me start by saying that this post is not intended as a slight to uncles, who can be pretty awesome, too. I just happen to have aunts on my mind today because one of mine is approaching a milestone birthday. I'll tell you about her later in this post. First I want to highlight my great aunt Georgie. Though I never met this aunt of my mother's (she died before I was born), I am connected to her by an almost-naming. Let me explain....more
@ThankfulPeach Thanks! I totally get that ... the gratitude for knowing these people we weren't ...more