My Son Was Adopted...Now What?

After a baby is adopted, a birth mother doesn’t just go home and pick up where she left off. Everything is different then. Nothing is “normal” anymore. The bed where you slept so comfortably is now the place where you spent your first few minutes of labor. The porch where you like to sit on summer days is now the place where you took all of your maternity pictures. All of your Facebook friends with babies seem like they’re rubbing your face in their motherhood. The sun streaming in through the kitchen windows doesn’t make you smile anymore. Everything feels…off....more
From an adoptive mom's perspective, this may be one of the most touching and inspiring things ...more

The Last "F-Word"

As you may have noticed, I get very nostalgic when you hit major milestones: your first laugh, your first words, your first steps, your first birthday, yoursecond birthday, your first big boy bed…the list goes on. ...more

Why I've Been Avoiding My Spiritual Community

For the past 10 years, I've been a part of a spiritual community that both nurtures and inspires me. I have been an active volunteer in this congregation. I have felt strong connections to the people there. I married my husband in the sanctuary. A few years ago when asked in a meditation workshop to close my eyes and think of a place where I belonged, it was the building where this congregation gathers that came into my mind.So why haven't I been there in several months? ...more
@j9nkidz Thanks for your comment. A couple of things were going on. 1) As I mentioned, I have ...more

A Letter to Our Child: You Were Not Our Second Choice

You were always part of our family plan. And as life has probably already taught you, life takes our “plans” and laughs at them. We are thrown challenges, changes, and so many curve-balls. Our well thought out plans become nothing but memories. Things that we believe to be true are not. Things that seem easy can become so very hard. Life is like that....more

Getting a Puppy for Christmas?

DON'T DO IT. Look away from the kitty too!...more

What It Feels Like to Become a Mother Before Becoming a Mom

Nine years ago today, I pushed my daughter into this world with one last mighty push. Nine years ago today, I became a mother. Nine years ago today, a brand new resident doctor stitched me up while my daughter's mom held her for the first time, my arms empty. The pain of the inexperienced stitching didn't compare to the burning hot pain in my heart as I lived through that first experience of almost but not quite, the life-long journey of birth motherhood....more
Wow, this is a very powerful blog. I haven't experienced it before and couldn't imagine it, but ...more

Fostering Familes

Anne KimballLife on the Funny FarmI have another essay published!Fostering Families Todaysaw fit to print a piece I wrote called "The Attachment Tree". If that sounds familiar, you might have seen it when I posted it on my old blog....more
Great to connect ... I love this share about becoming a Foster Parent.more

The Ultimate Sacrifice of Motherhood

I’ve worked with a lot of children in the past five years. I’ve worked with children who have been hurt, emotionally and physically by their biological parents. I’ve written statements that in the end will support a court or child welfare agency’s decision to terminate parental rights. Last night, as I sat in a family team meeting, a mother was asked to place her children with their father, because she was not following through with recommendations and the children were not safe with her....more
I work at an RTC, and just recently we had to get custody from my stepdaughter's mom due to drug ...more

Dear Mitt Romney, Here's My 47% Story

In 2003, I was unexpectedly pregnant. But, oh, I was in love with my child. I began working at a low-paying job, at all kinds of stupid hours, so I could provide for my child, for myself. I did sign up for Medical Assistance through state assistance because my employer did not offer (affordable) insurance, but I didn't sign up for Food Stamps or Cash Assistance through the state of Pennsylvania because certain groups of people made that a shameful action. I believed I was stronger and better than people who needed such things. I was going to Make It in the world, without help, without assistance. Ah, how pride cometh before the fall. At 18 weeks pregnant, I was at work when I started to feel a little woozy. My back hurt horribly, and not in an "I'm Pregnant and Achy All Over Way." I wasn't even showing yet, so it wasn't even an "I Gained Too Much Weight Already And My Back Hurts." I knew it was different. I felt whiny, but I left work early, ate a sandwich, and took a nap in my modest, self-funded apartment. I woke up with a fever of 104. After calling my doctor, I went straight to the Emergency Room. ...more
@GiGi7  @HeatherPegel This is absolutely not true. In my particular area, the free clinics are ...more

Hold That Baby Close - Even If She's in Middle School!

Research shows that babies sleep best on the chest of their mommy. The sounds (heartbeat, breath, etc.), warmth, feel and scent of Mommy helps them feel safe....more