To Tell or Not: When to Tell People Your Child Is Adopted

One of the typical challenges I find as an adoptive mother is when to tell people my son Jed is adopted and when not to. I’m not talking about family members or close friends here, and I’m certainly not talking about small talk at an office holiday party. No, I mean neighbors, teachers, bus drivers, doctors, babysitters; people you know and trust but maybe aren’t really in the "let’s share secrets" circle. Now, normally I wouldn’t really care to tell anyone Jed is adopted, mostly because it’s personal and really nobody’s business....more

Quotation

"A nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people."--Mohandas Gandhi"Behold, Be Still, Believe = Be Heard"...more

Do You Even Know What Love Is?

Once upon a time, the economy crashed. My husband was laid off, I worked more than an hour away for very little money, and he stayed home alone all day looking for work and taking care of infant twins.You know this. If not, here. Here it is.What you don't know is this....more

Looks Like Those Whacky Duggars May Be At It Again!

It appears that the Duggar family is not opposed to the idea of adoption. Because, apparently, they don't have nearly enough children. I just read this article on People.com which states that old Jim Bob and Michelle, who currently have 19 little Duggars running around the house, aren't opposed to adoption. And yes, it does NOT say "We're adopting!" I'm sure that nugget of info will be saved for the premier of the next season of 153 Kids and Counting next year....more

Who Are All These Women and Why Are They Standing in My Dining Room?

It could get crowded in my dining room with those three other women, the mothers of my adopted children. It made things tight bringing food out and clearing the table, struggling to inch past them, the skinny and stout, all with black hair and brown eyes, and the wide cheekbones that are the national trademark of Nicaragua. It used to bother me a lot -- their silent clucking at what was for dinner, the suspicious eyes cast on the siblings. The slight head shakes wondering why I went all the way to another country to find children for my family. It bothered me. They just wouldn’t quit....more
@SunbonnetSmart.com  Thanks Robin.more

My Birth Son Probably Doesn't Know He's Adopted

I recently found out my birth son was likely never told he was adopted, and has been publicly speaking out about an ancestral heritage that, genetically, isn't entirely true. And I'm worried -- nay, freaked out -- about how he might feel, if he discovers his adoptive cultural background and biological background don't match....more
nikonMom Congratulations to your relatives. And for the record, things on my side have evolved ...more

Who Does Your Son's Hair?

An investment in knowledge pays the best interest. ~ Benjamin FranklinLike most mothers who are expecting, adoptive parents spend a lot of time preparing themselves for their new son or daughter. They read books, blogs, magazines, take classes, talk to other adoptive parents, you name it. Some adoptive parents try to cover not only the basics of child care, but also a whole range of posibilities; a child with special needs, a child of a different race, a child with trauma. ...more

Adoption and Loss

Anne KimballLife on the Funny Farm...more

Adopted in New Jersey

Having been adopted in New Jersey, I was never able to obtain my original birth certificate. Growing up I begged my adoptive mother over and over for any possible information she might have about my birth mother until one day, shooting her foot through the kitchen wall she screamed, “Don’t ever ask me that again.” I guess that was the end of the story. For years I would go on believing I must have been the product of rape, incest or my birth mother just wanted to get rid of me....more

Our Adoption Story, and What I Wish I Had Known

Adoption is a difficult road to navigate. When we chose to pursue adoption, we didn’t know many people who’d been down this road before and who could provide us with the basics on what to expect along this new phase of our journey. ...more
Thank you so much for sharing!  My husband and I have just finished our home study and are now ...more