How Losing My Temper Turned Into an Unforgettable Lesson in Forgiveness

I lost it today at lunch. Like, frickin' lost it. I knew it was happening too. I could feel my frustration reaching a boiling point. I kept thinking, "Kelly! DON'T DO IT!" But I yelled anyway. Then when my toddler started laughing at me, I yelled some more. Just to really show him who was boss. And I instantly wished I hadn't. As much as I would have preferred to handle the situation with calm and grace, I didn't. ...more
ohthesimplejoys It really is amazing how their hearts are naturally so open, loving and ...more

How To Recapture Parenting Bliss (Even if you think you live with selfish monsters)

If I wasn’t here, no one would pick up these clothes. Who would turn off these lights? Who would put down the toilet seat? Usually I laugh it off, accepting these as signs of job security. I calmly ask for help, and my kids respond favorably.However, today this has transformed into my battle cry!As I stomp up to enemy lines, I shoot my first round: “Am I the only one around here that does anything?”I fire another: “Doesn’t anyone around here think of anyone but themselves?”...more

What I Learned From Accidentally Crashing My Website

I don't know anything about making websites.This may come as a bit of a surprise, seeing as how you're all reading this post on a website I created. But the truth is, I've had a lot of help.  I've been using templates and software created for people like me with ZERO coding experience.  I have this nice little system that lets me type in my content and drag website elements around until I have everything where I want it.Now here comes the "but"......more

Getting Mad, Getting Over It

I woke up in a piss-poor mood this morning. Part of that had to do with the fact that the morning started around 2:30 (yeah, in the morning) because Brutus had placed his nose right next to mine. Who wouldn't wake up when a 65 pound American Bulldog puts his nose next to their's? He just stared at me and I knew that meant he wanted to go out. I tried to turn over and pretend that I hadn't noticed but then he whimpered. The temperature was around 25 degrees at 2:30 this morning....more

(Still) Uniting In Fury

Usually, when people get all amped up and fearful over things like Ebola and public breastfeeding, I’m just over here scared to death of sending a text to the wrong person, or accidentally hitting “like” on a Facebook post I hate.So while you’re searching for the perfect bumper sticker to properly illustrate your feelings about Hillary in 2016, I’m fighting a losing battle with Saran Wrap—and pretty ticked about it....more

Uniting In Fury

Things That Make Us Madder Than They Should:Hangers Misbehaving Disobedient hangers are instigators. You know when you’re swiping through shirts and an unchosen one slips off the hanger and falls to the ground? I always blame the hanger and become frustrated with its lack of commitment. I assume it hasn’t embraced its job or simply thinks it’s too good for the service industry....more

Bidding Farewell to Ms. Cranky-Pants (Or at Least Trying To)

In my family growing up, my parents were practically polar opposites in temperament. My mom was mostly easy-going, only showing temper on the rare occasion when she was truly pushed beyond the limits of her patience and stress level. My dad was mostly cranky, always quick to correct the error of our ways or sigh in exasperation at whatever noise we were making. The older I got, the more I swore I wouldn't be like that.Ha. ...more

Mothering Moments I Dread

I’m going to tell you something you already know: it’s easier to be angry than it is to feel sad. It is harder still to acknowledge the fear that lies behind both the sadness and the anger without becoming entangled in it and letting it take over. And the most challenging scenario I’ve yet encountered is when the fear and anger and sadness spring from incidents that involve my children. There is a certain intensity to the feeling, the difference between a freshly-honed butcher knife and the paring knife you’ve used for everything from slicing apples to cutting bread to peeling cucumbers. ...more

Letting Go of Anger, Guilt, and Regret -- Gaining The Inside Advantage

I recently talked about carrying around excess baggage—the stuff we don’t want or need—the negative thoughts and emotions in our heads and hearts. I mentioned one of the things you can do to help yourself is to examine the negative emotions that are in your life.  I hope that you found the list I prepared (taken from my book The Inside Advantage:  How Ordinary People Can Accomplish Extraordinary Things).If not, I invite you to take a look now at the last few Blogs on my website at

Closeted Openings: Unlocking an Existence Beyond the Physical

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