The Protector

I was riding the ferry with my younger brother, on our way to see our Mom who lived on an island.  A boy, one with a reputation of being a tough-guy bully kept poking fun at my brother.I was a shy, little thing.  I never spoke to anyone unless they spoke to me first.  I was meek and anxious.  I sat there, pretending I didn’t hear the bully’s words....more

Ten Birthday Wishes

Yesterday was my birthday.It was a wonderful day being thoroughly surprised by my husband, cupcakes at work, and lots of hugs from my amazing boys....more

This is OUR Autism

If you meet one child with autism, you have met one child with autism.This is our autism.It’s the sweet morning cuddles every single morning- be it 7 AM or on a full moon- 4AM....more

Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God.

I sat here early this morning drinking my coffee and watching the news and this came on.  I nearly threw up.  Being the mother of a special needs child, I have had nightmares almost all of her life about her ending up in a place that would abuse her.  Is it likely?  Not if I have any say in it, but it happens so often to others.  There are other methods to control dangerous behaviors and I can’t even for a second imagine a situation where a child would have to be restrained face down for 7 hours and shocked 31 times....more

What I Learned At AAC Camp


It's Time for a Frank Discussion on Vaccinating: Don't Be a Jerk

At the same time that Jenny McCarthy is learning that people are attracted to people who vaccinate their children, Kristin Cavallari is being hailed as the next Jenny McCarthy for her public statements on how vaccines cause autism. Meanwhile, back here on planet Earth—where opinions never turn into facts, no matter how fervently we believe, no matter how personal the loss or the triumph—the growing number of parents who have chosen not to vaccinate their children is in part responsible for a resurgence in diseases long laid almost to rest. ...more I missed this comment because for the sake of my own personal mental health I ...more

Why Minority Voices Matter in the Autism Community

“What can the white special needs community do to help the brown special needs community?” I was asked this question at the BlogHer ’14 Special Needs Mini Con session in San Jose, CA. I had to pause when I heard it. I wasn't ready....more
misssalad Kpana Kpoto EmiliePeck Race comes into it because it's so closely tied into the ...more

Beyond Disneyland: California Destinations My Autistic Son Loves

"We love it when our guests are happy!" That's what the red-coated Monterey Bay Aquarium official told me, as she and I stood next to my son Leo, who was blissfully sprawled out on the the floor looking up at a tank full of sparkling anchovies. I had just explained to her that Leo was enraptured rather than upset or injured, and I hoped it was OK for him to be on the floor since his sisters and I were ringing him and he wasn't in anyone's way. Autism acceptance as guest relations policy. What a wonder. What a gift. ...more
Shannon Des Roches Rosa Laurend1985 Yes, but I really didn't want to say it here.  He's high ...more

Gozer has Autism

While I was home, my mother told me I didn’t need to worry about Gozer any longer. My BabyBro had told her the doctor had called him to tell him Gozer was Autism Free! Wasn’t that good news?I thought to myself, “Bullshit.”Thus, I called the doc when I got home. BabyBro has never rescinded permission to tell me things; he said she could tell me whatever as long as I never had it in print. The doc and I used that wide-open window to discuss Gozer.Does it surprise ANYONE to learn that the doc had actually called BabyBro to confirm Gozer had Asperger’s? ...more