Moment of the Week - 12

Mom!  I'm on the phone, gosh!...more

The Way We Live

We live in the way in which we were born.  The experiences that we encounter while inutero have huge impacts concerning the ways in which we will live out our lives.  Imprints are created early on in our existence that will set the stage for our experiences in life.  As a prenate, our defense system is quite primitive and we are unable to defend ourselves from all that we experience inutero, as we manuever very difficult developmental agendas.  Core wounds occur during the time of our inutero experience and during the days around our birth.  These core wounds are ch...more

Jules Steffen, LMHC


Toddler Tricks - 12

Ways to trick your baby:Problem:  You need food.  This means you have to go to the grocery store.  This means going to a place with forbidden goodies hanging from every nook, cranny and crevice, with a strapped-in, mildly annoyed to threatening-to-blow toddler.  For an hour.  While you try to remember what's on your shopping list.Solution:  Find something boring that you're already going to buy that the baby can hold while you shop.  For us, it was a big cheese block - one for each baby.  I always hit the dairy section first and e...more

Conversation Stopper

"Hi!  Have I cut your hair before?""No.  This is my first time here.""Oh, okay.  So, where do you work?""I don't.  I'm a stay at home mom."...That's right.  It's a conversation stopper.  I can't imagine what effect it would have had on a woman whose dream in life was to become a stay at home mom.  I think it would be even more insulting than it was to me, a woman who questions her choice weekly.  I know, in my case, it caused worry and self-doubt.  I wondered, yet again, if I was doing the right thing ...more

On Choice, in Honor of Election Day

My older twin, Dulce, wants the brown hat.  No, now she wants the pink hat.  Now she wants no hat, but she definitely wants a coat - the green coat.  No, not the green coat, but the polka-dotted coat with buttons.  We make similar personal choices everyday as adults.  We don't think about them anymore because choosing is our right and our habit - so that when I matched my black top to my jeans and heels, the clothing choices didn't register in my mind.  When I ordered my Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks, the hundreds of other drink...more

Bubble, Bubble, Toil and Trouble: How Moms Create Their Own Tipping Point For Change, by Mary Clare Hunt

When you start asking moms to promote products that other moms and organizations find troubling and maybe even toxic, you can expect a backlash of conversation....more


Around a year of age, your child will probably choose what's known in parenting circles as a lovey.  My children chose theirs carefully at 14 months.  At first, Dulce tried to make a hot pink plastic watering can her lovey, but it just wasn't cuddly enough.  She settled on a pink blanket.  Natalina took to a bear with which the twins had shared their infancy. ...more

Those Who Don't Know

On Saturday, I was at a hair salon for the first time in a long time.  A little boy came in.  He must have been about three.  He walked in with his mom, a frazzled-looking woman holding a big soft drink cup - I assume a reward for the haircut.  He was cute.  He was smiling.  He was lovely. His mother sat him up on the high salon chair.  Immediate chaos."No, mommy.  No, mommy!  Down.  Please, down, mommy, please down!  Down!"My heart broke.  I was almost in tears for this little boy who was obv...more

I L-O-V-E this post. I totally have been that woman. In fact, my husband and I have gone ...more

Parents - Do You

It's 7 a.m.; your newborn is crying.  Time for a morning feed, then you may as well get up for the day.  Struggle to get the pot on the boil, rub your eyes, and start getting breakfast ready.It's 7 a.m.; your alarm goes off, blasting you out of bed.  It's just as well; you heard your baby stirring anyway.  Stumble into the nursery, change baby and get him milk, toss on your business wear, kiss baby goodbye, brush your hair in the car, and get to work 10 minutes late, anyway....more

Thank you, Patty.

You have no idea how much your comment means to me.more

Moment of the Week - 11

My babies know who to call, do you?  Rocking out to Ghostbusters Theme.  Why?  Because they are awesome. Cutest Halloween ever....more