Milk and Honey

This post originally posted at I plunge my hand down into the blue plastic bathtub and pull the plug.  Tepid water drains from the tub into the sink.  Down the hall, I can hear my husband teasing my baby son about his long legs as he slips his diaper on, then his pajamas.  I bend down to mop up the water from the floor, and my husband’s voice drifts into the kitchen....more

Olympic Moments

I am a sucker for the Olympics. I love the pomp and circumstance. I love the cheesy inspirational advertising. I love the opening ceremonies, the closing ceremonies and everything in between. In 2008 I watched many late night Olympic events live due to repeated trips to the hospital with preterm labor contractions that were actually Braxton-Hicks on steroids. Nurses monitored me and I watched Michael Phelps win his first, second, fifth gold medals....more

Why Doesn't the Black Community Value Marriage?

Take a good look at this newly happily married couple. Notice something? See the baby bump? Yep, it was a shotgun wedding, but no one was worried about being wounded. Full disclosure: I know the parents of the groom. No way they were co-signing their grandchild being brought into the world illegitimately, but the truth is, that young guy is deeply in love with his bride. Here is another cultural difference that we just can’t ignore: while the out-of-wedlock rate is rising across the races, every other race EXCEPT for the black race values making babies within wedlock....more
Just found out that a 28 yo friend is pregnant w/her bf of the last 9 mos. She is smart, funny ...more

I am Going To Be A Mother! ... But, I have never even HELD a BABY!

  The Joy of Mothering ...more
To everyone who commented I Never really felt that my story was a love storybut after reading ...more

Turning In My Crunchy Card

So, you know how you're at work, and you're talking to a coworker, and they're all, "Yeah, I know I said I'd do that for you, but I'm just so busy!" and you're like, "I know, me too.  It's just that..." and they say, "No, I'm really BUSY!"  and you're thinking, "YEAH I KNOW MAN WE'RE ALL BUSY, WE'RE AT WORK," because apparently this bitch thinks she's some sort of special kind of busy that you can't possibly understand?Yeah.  Get ready for a whole lot of that in this post....more
This totally cracked me up! Don't shoot, but I do successfully cloth diaper (have with 2 kids ...more

How My Children Make Me Pay Attention More During Prayer and Worship

Unfortunately though this is compelling, and I think, very true and necessary -- the imperative to embrace the darkness and quiet because of its being conducive to God's's just not feasible anymore. One of four things happen when I close my eyes, particularly for prayer: 1) I start snoring. 2) I start daydreaming. 3) I start writing lists. 4) The babies run away and/or fall off a pew (namely, in church on Sundays). So I stopped closing my eyes. Actually, I stopped a while ago....more
I am a mother of 7 - 5 Boys and two girl, I would not say that I have forced Christianity on to ...more

Weak head & neck control at 6 months = red flag for autism and other delays

Something as simple as a "pull-to-sit" task appears to be a good screening for early detection of autism spectrum disorders, language delays and/or social developmental delays. In a study of toddlers, 90% of those with ASD exhibited head lag (lack of head control when being pulled by the arms from lying flat to a sitting position) when they were babies; 54% meeting the criteria for social/communication delay exhibited head lag....more

No Regrets

 There was a time, not long before I met my husband, when I had developed a sort of acceptance that having a child might not be a part of my reality.  I was 37 years old, single, and quite enjoying where I was in my life....more

When you're sick, you need your Mamma

It’s amazing how a call from your child’s day care can change everything. So can one little word from your toddler....more

Our First Visit to the Dentist

I know that some pediatricians say 3 years old. I know some dentists do, too. But even more of both are now recommending that the first dentist visit happen at the first tooth, and no later than the first birthday. But more and more I read that starting good dental habits early pays off handsomely, and can even help catch things early that might impede speech.So with our pediatrician’s blessing, a few months ago I set off to find a dentist for Tiny. I found a promising practice and made an appointment for the week after his birthday. Although I had heard good things about John’s dentist, I still wasn’t prepared for the amazing amount of friendliness and helpfulness the staff exhibited upon our arrival.And the visit with the hygienist and with the dentist was helpful, too. It was nice to know that we’ve mostly been doing things right, and also nice to get some pointers on some things we should add to our repertoire....more