The real meaning of beautiful

There are a few things I'm not looking forward to dealing with as a parent. Not because I don't want them to happen...because alll of them are going to happen...but mostly because I don't think I'll ever be ready to handle them as a parent.And let's just say most of those things revolve around puberty......more

Love Is More Than Skin Deep: What My Daughter Taught Me About My Skin Disorder

 I was thirty years old when I started to disappear, each day a little more― piece by piece. At first it didn’t bother me that much. Divorced with two small children, three tiny white spots were the least of my worries, but each day the spots grew bigger. Uneven white patches where pigment was disappearing overtook my chest, my neck, and my arms. The stark contrast between my healthy tanned skin and the white patches made it impossible to ignore. On the same schedule, my self-esteem and my pigment continued to fade....more

Calling someone skinny is Body Shaming!

Weight has been an issue for me literally since birth. I was a whopping three pounds when my mother delivered me, small enough to fit into the palm of her hand. When I was finally released from the NICU after almost three months, my father vowed that he would fatten me up and he succeeded. Tasty dishes like cassava leaf and jollof rice from his homeland of Liberia were often prepared in our home, attributing to most of the weight I had gained as a toddler. To this day my sister often recalls that she thought I would grow up to be on the chunkier side....more

5 Ways To Actually Become Body Positive

Let’s assume that if you’re reading this, you’ve got a general idea of what body positivity is. You’ve read the articles, probably seen a Buzzfeed video on your Facebook timeline, and you think it’s time you should be more body positive!I’m proud of you.Attempting to make any life change is difficult — especially when it’s about how you view yourself and the world around you....more

The One Thing Photoshop Can't Give You

There is no gap between my thighs. Growing up this didn’t bother me. I was much more concerned about the numbers on the scale than the particulars of my body, and besides, I was a figure skater, so big thighs came with the territory. It was only a few years ago that I learned that women and teens are desperate to recreate a look that is most often achieved by Photoshopping....more

What It's Like to Live in Eating Disorder Purgatory

I’d been scheduled for a doctor’s appointment that was meant to address the ongoing pain and lack of mobility in my left hip. The persistent injury was at its worst in last January, preventing me from even walking normally, much less going out for a run.  At the time, I substituted my running workouts entirely with low impact cardio and, when I was disciplined, some weight-training.  As the pain began to subside, I hesitantly resumed running, limiting myself to once per week....more
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Lets Talk About Diet- Are You a Calorie Counter?

Body issues are a rising feature in everyday life, and are we honestly surprised? Constantly being bombarded with images of tiny, photo-shopped people with perfect abs or tiny thighs is causing a lack of self-esteem to rocket up in females and males everywhere. ...more

I've Gained Weight. SO WHAT?

Real Talk: My body is going to keep changing for the rest of my life. So, I've gained weight. I know it. My partner knows it. My family knows it. My friends know it. The jerks who spend too much time on Reddit know it.And if you've followed me along my journey for the last couple years, I'm sure you know it too.This experience isn't unique. In fact, it is entirely possible you have gained weight at some point in your life — maybe even recently!...more
As I transition into the menopausal realm my body is changing in ways I have no control over. ...more