So this is going to sound strange, but just bear with me.
I think I have reverse body image issues.
I'm one of the billions of women who "used to be skinny." But in the past couple of years, I've noticed that I look at my body in a different way than most of the other "used to be skinny" women.
Let me explain.
Last week, I went out to lunch with a friend of mine that struggles with her weight. I know that weight is something that she gets upset about so I didn’t breach the topic until she did. I have known her at her lowest weight as well as her highest and have loved her always. She is honestly one of the most amazing people I have ever known, yet for some reason she labels herself as overweight. She is compassionate, stunningly beautiful, kind, intelligent, hilarious, brave, creative, quirky, and inspirational....more
I’ve thought about writing this blog post so many times over the past three years.I’ve sorted carefully through the words in my head, trying to figure a way to properly express the multitude of feelings that come with a psoriasis diagnosis. Even now that I’ve committed to finally talking about it, I can’t quite figure out a way to describe the shame and despair caused by a flare up.I’ve been living with plaque psoriasis for over a decade, but it has taken me so many years to even say the words out loud to my closest friends....more
At family gatherings, we have one who rushes around and acts busy, hoping nobody will notice she's not eating. (Pssst, we all notice.) We have another who won't touch a carbohydrate. We can't get through a photo album without hearing, "I was so fat then."
On more than one occasion, I was assured that my baby daughter would "grow into herself." Soon after she started walking, I started to hear, "oh good, she's trimming down."
Um, I wasn't worried.
When it comes to shaping my kids' attitudes toward food, I have my work cut out for me.
You know what? We are what we are, and no manner of changing our bodies will change who and what we are, whether that change be purely cosmetic, radically identity-altering (which won't change the actual identity - just the vessel that contains it) or just sick. (cutting off limbs, undergoing extensive surgeries for no medical reason, etc, which sounds made up but which is something some people actually do!) (Think of Michael Jackson.) Plastic surgery has its legitimate purposes, but much of the time it's just somebody who wanted a better nose....more
I was at the gym recently doing my best to keep up with the other ladies in my zumba class when something caught my eye. I turned and saw a trainer kneeling down next to a woman, quietly speaking words of encouragement. The client was overweight and struggling through a set of pushups. I was riveted by what I saw in the woman's eyes---determination and hope. My own eyes clouded with tears; her struggles mirrored so many of my own....more
This is in a different vein to most ‘fakery’ and body image posts, I am not going to opine about surgery or make up or airbrushing (well maybe airburshing a bit) but comment on a new-ish trend that is dedicated to shaming people whose clothing choices give away the scandalous fact that they have a human body underneath and not some bizarre barbie action man plastic smooth areas. It’s body image ramped up a level to the point where the ideal seems to be to not have a body, at least not a living, breathing human one....more