Stop Skinny Bashing

I was at work the other day when a work colleague began talking about Cher. She picked up some magazine, and expressed relief that Cher had finally put on weight. “Finally she’s gained weight! She was way too skinny. It’s unhealthy to be skinny. I feel so much better now that I have more weight,” she explained to a colleague. “I used to be thin like that and it’s not healthy, I’m much stronger now. It’s not good to be skinny.” ...more

Dieting, overeating, binging and food blogging

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Does your make-up make you?

I wore make-up every day as a teenager, everywhere I went - a lot of make-up. In hindsight, I wish I had skipped the big southern bangs and mauve lip liner, and embraced what I now know was a sun-kissed, wrinkle-free, dewy, fresh face that I'll never see again. Sorry, no picture to prove it. Remember? ...more

I See Myself as Skinny When I'm Not

So this is going to sound strange, but just bear with me. I think I have reverse body image issues. I'm one of the billions of women who "used to be skinny." But in the past couple of years, I've noticed that I look at my body in a different way than most of the other "used to be skinny" women. Let me explain. ...more
writingislove  So well put! You are exactly right! Our view changes depending on who we are ...more

Two Beings, One Body

Show the world the real you

Last week, I went out to lunch with a friend of mine that struggles with her weight. I know that weight is something that she gets upset about so I didn’t breach the topic until she did. I have known her at her lowest weight as well as her highest and have loved her always. She is honestly one of the most amazing people I have ever known, yet for some reason she labels herself as overweight. She is compassionate, stunningly beautiful, kind, intelligent, hilarious, brave, creative, quirky, and inspirational....more

Confession: I have an Autoimmune Disease

I’ve thought about writing this blog post so many times over the past three years.I’ve sorted carefully through the words in my head, trying to figure a way to properly express the multitude of feelings that come with a psoriasis diagnosis. Even now that I’ve committed to finally talking about it, I can’t quite figure out a way to describe the shame and despair caused by a flare up.I’ve been living with plaque psoriasis for over a decade, but it has taken me so many years to even say the words out loud to my closest friends....more

Keeping it Real

I struggle with body image.  I've written about it a little on this blog and even though it occupies about 90 70 percent of my thinking, you wouldn't know it from how little I post on the topic....more

How to Teach Your Child to Love Healthy Food

At family gatherings, we have one who rushes around and acts busy, hoping nobody will notice she's not eating. (Pssst, we all notice.) We have another who won't touch a carbohydrate. We can't get through a photo album without hearing, "I was so fat then." On more than one occasion, I was assured that my baby daughter would "grow into herself." Soon after she started walking, I started to hear, "oh good, she's trimming down." Um, I wasn't worried. When it comes to shaping my kids' attitudes toward food, I have my work cut out for me. ...more
This is so awesome. I wish more parents would take the time with their children to teach them ...more

We Are What We Are. Aren't We?

You know what?  We are what we are, and no manner of changing our bodies will change who and what we are, whether that change be purely cosmetic, radically identity-altering (which won't change the actual identity - just the vessel that contains it) or just sick. (cutting off limbs,  undergoing extensive surgeries for no medical reason, etc, which sounds made up but which is something some people actually do!)  (Think of Michael Jackson.) Plastic surgery has its legitimate purposes, but much of the time it's just somebody who wanted a better nose....more