Piercing My Nose. Or Not.

This was going to be a story of feminism and self-ownership: The search for my nose began as a child. Mine was round and very unlike my mother's regal Roman nose. My birth father was long gone, but old photographs bore evidence of a nose bent and flattened from repeated breaking, a hazard of soccer and Spanish blood run hot. My nose did not have the narrow British look of my grandmother's nor the prominent Italian bulge of my grandfather's. It had no match, no ancestry, no belonging. ...more
Tamara, I saw on Facebook you did get it after all. Originally a small dot, and now a beautiful ...more

Carpe Diem on a Bicycle

Two friends gave me an unexpected gift this Christmas: A Schwinn. A lovely, retro-inspired cruiser, replete with a basket and bell, in a sassy champagne color with white trim. The handles and saddle are black, and it reminds me of the Schwinn I had as a girl. My first "grown-up" bike. This was a sweet surprise of a treat. ...more

Happy upcoming birthday, Jenna! I hope you enjoy your cruiser as much as I do mine. Ride it ...more

Daphne Zuniga: A letter to my niece and all girls and young women

A guest blog entry by Daphne Zuniga, Activist & Actor, Melrose Place, One Tree Hill  Dearest_____, I want you to know this very important thing and remember it always. Know that it is true, and that it's not only encouragement because I love you. ...more

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! How I wish I could've read a letter like this as a young girl. No one ...more

After His Infidelity: I Changed Me Back to Myself

Back in November I decided I needed to change myself. I dyed my hair. I changed my clothes. I changed my attitude. I changed me. It wasn't for worse, it wasn't for better, it just was. I was happy with the "new" me, happy with how I looked (aside from the weight I am still struggling to lose) and happy with finally feeling, well, happy. I needed it. I needed the change. ...more
Nine kids Deb!...wow...must be an interesting household but I see what you went through and its ...more

Showing myself some love

I've been focusing a lot on eating disorders this week. Having experienced one first hand I feel like it is important for me to try to help others. So when I heard about NEDAwareness week I had to jump in. ...more

When head & heart collide.

Every morning, I lay in the dark with my face buried in my pillow, begging for just 5 more minutes of sleep while I plan out what I”m going to wear in my head.  What’s the weather like?  What fits?  Will I be on my feet today or behind the desk?  Grey slacks.  Camisole.  Purple argyle sweater.  Black flats.  Okay, let’s do this....more

NEDAwareness Week: My own saga

The theme for this year's Eating Disorder's Awareness week is, "It's time to talk about it." If you've been reading for a while you probably remember me telling about my own experience with an eating...more

You Can't Teach an Old Dog New Tricks, But You Can Buy Her New Snow Pants

We broke with tradition this holiday season and spent the week in Utah with family and friends.  It was a little unsettling leaving a week earlier than I had planned.  I didn't get neighbor gifts delivered, or presents wrapped.  We didn't have Christmas Eve clam chowder or decorate gingerbread houses.  It was all out of whack.    ...more