The Eating Disorder Brain Tries to Strike Again

The pool opened last weekend. I thought I was ready to go with my new halter swimdress (shut up) and my sunscreen and my baseball hat. Sure, it had been a long, cold winter accompanied by many, many seasoned wedge fries, but last summer I even bared midriff a few times and felt fine about it. ...more
It's interesting. I just blogged today about being a victim of my own thoughts and how I wanted ...more

Back Story

It is true that we are bombarded on every side by images of tiny, fit, muscular people....more

The Vote is In

It's been over a week, and it is time to unveil the results of the voting. It was close between two pictures. The close up and the glamor move. But all the pictures received multiple votes except for the one where I'm sitting in the chair. There were even a few votes for this one:...more

An Open Letter to Those Who Judge the Morality of Health

Arwyn from Raising My Boychick has a post up now about whether or not people have a moral obligation to strive for health. It got me thinking. I am the child and sister of addicts and the only really fat person in my large family.  I've found myself sometimes in the strange situation of being talked to about my health for my own good by people who are thinner, but obviously less physically healthy than I am....more

There are not so many fat persons that fill good in their bodies. Even more I no few people that ...more

12 Reasons Why Motherhood Is Good for Your Looks

Remember how you used to get naked and stand there critiquing your body in the mirror? HA! Who has the time to even think about cellulite? ...more

Pulled the bed head this morning...but to add to the list....not wearing so much makeup cause ...more

Love the camera, love me

I have to admit that I have been a bit camera shy the past year and a half or so. Well, maybe I've always been a little camera shy (except when I was living in Russia and going through Europe, then I wanted all the pictures of me the camera could handle). But here on this blog I'm embarrassed that most of the pictures I use are old. Including all the profile pictures I have up....more


Dear readers, Are any of you still out there? Anyone still interested in this blog? Well, actually I know there are at least a couple. Thank you to those who let me know that you love this blog, even when I wasn't updating. I appreciate your love and support. ...more

Keep Your Sense of Self (and Humor) When Looking in the Mirror

When I was 12 years old, I realized that my body was "growing" in new ways. I remember standing sideways, staring at my side-profile in the mirror, aware that my chest and my belly were competing with each other. Which would stand out more? Which would be the center of attention? ...more

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From Chastity to Chaz

I was born in 1963, which makes me 45 years old (for just a few more months.) This is important because it means that I grew up watching The Sonny & Cher show. I LOVED The Sonny & Cher show. I mean you didn't see women like Cher walking through the Piggly Wiggly and you certainly didn't see women talk to their husbands the way Cher talked to hers. And then there was Chastity. The best shows were the ones where Chastity appeared, usually singing "I Got You Babe" along with her parents. I loved that. ...more

shows up each time the subject of transfolk is broached. I get that for most, it is a figure of ...more