Changing the World: Self Love as a Revolutionary Act

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And the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad hair

I do not have "good hair." Good hair is defined as "A popular term in the African-American community, used to describe a black person's hair that closely resembles the hair of a typical white person(i.e. soft, manageable, long as opposed to "nappy" or "bad" hair. The closer you hair is to a white person's the "better" your hair is." Thank you, Urban Dictionary. ...more

When Did I Lose the Confidence That My 4 Year Old Exudes?

As I prepared for our class discussion on Healthy Images, I watched my 4 year old daughter dance around the living room. She moved with confidence, her head held high. In that moment, I realized she could conquer the world.  If she understood what that meant, she would have most likely agreed. Why couldn't I have that same level of confidence and strong sense of self? When did I lose it? What can I do to make sure that my daughter doesn't? Is it possible for me to regain it or have I missed that window of opportunity?...more

Piercing My Nose. Or Not.

This was going to be a story of feminism and self-ownership: The search for my nose began as a child. Mine was round and very unlike my mother's regal Roman nose. My birth father was long gone, but old photographs bore evidence of a nose bent and flattened from repeated breaking, a hazard of soccer and Spanish blood run hot. My nose did not have the narrow British look of my grandmother's nor the prominent Italian bulge of my grandfather's. It had no match, no ancestry, no belonging. ...more
Tamara, I saw on Facebook you did get it after all. Originally a small dot, and now a beautiful ...more

Carpe Diem on a Bicycle

Two friends gave me an unexpected gift this Christmas: A Schwinn. A lovely, retro-inspired cruiser, replete with a basket and bell, in a sassy champagne color with white trim. The handles and saddle are black, and it reminds me of the Schwinn I had as a girl. My first "grown-up" bike. This was a sweet surprise of a treat. ...more

Happy upcoming birthday, Jenna! I hope you enjoy your cruiser as much as I do mine. Ride it ...more

Daphne Zuniga: A letter to my niece and all girls and young women

A guest blog entry by Daphne Zuniga, Activist & Actor, Melrose Place, One Tree Hill  Dearest_____, I want you to know this very important thing and remember it always. Know that it is true, and that it's not only encouragement because I love you. ...more

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! How I wish I could've read a letter like this as a young girl. No one ...more

After His Infidelity: I Changed Me Back to Myself

Back in November I decided I needed to change myself. I dyed my hair. I changed my clothes. I changed my attitude. I changed me. It wasn't for worse, it wasn't for better, it just was. I was happy with the "new" me, happy with how I looked (aside from the weight I am still struggling to lose) and happy with finally feeling, well, happy. I needed it. I needed the change. ...more
Nine kids Deb! be an interesting household but I see what you went through and its ...more

Showing myself some love

I've been focusing a lot on eating disorders this week. Having experienced one first hand I feel like it is important for me to try to help others. So when I heard about NEDAwareness week I had to jump in. ...more